Decisions Beyond Belief
The Battle for Your Choices
PROLOGUE
You know that sick feeling when you realize you just agreed to something you don't want to do.
Again.
You know the exhaustion of living someone else's priorities. The suffocation of inherited expectations. The grinding fatigue of forced collaboration when what you crave is authentic connection.
You already know the difference between decisions that drain your life force and choices that ignite it.
What you don't know is how to stop the hijacking.
This book changes that. Using science, not sermons. Evidence, not ideology. A proven method, not another guru's opinion.
The Mereon Method shows you exactly how to connect your why, what, and when
—turning what you love into the way you live.
No belief required. No experts to follow. No doctrine to adopt.
Just you, reclaiming your fundamental right and power to choose to live your life. Starting in this moment.
Lynnclaire Dennis, Scribe
Dedication
It feels equally impossible and important to express my gratitude for those who’ve taken an active role in bringing this work to the world. Over the decades, many acquaintances, people I’ve yet to meet have encouraged me, even more ‘friendlies’ have helped in so many ways. You know who you are and so do I.
This dedication is to honor those I call true friends. Having one friend makes you ‘wellthy’; having more than one makes you rich beyond imagination. These are the ones who’ve answered a call in the middle of the night, and when tears were louder than my words, their first question wasn’t, “What’s wrong?” It was the question they needed answered in case they needed to get me help — “Where are you?”
Peter &Jytte McNair and
David &Elizabeth Rotman
My Dearest friends, for so many years you’ve kept my feet on the ground and a roof over my head. You’ve provided food, water, and wine, to make this elixir known. You’ve kept shoes on my feet and my soul barefoot. You’ve helped me find, gather, and put the pieces back together when my heart’s been shattered. You’ve helped me keep my sense of humor when black tar brought stress and things felt icky and sticky. Time and again, you’ve put wheels under me or wings around me to make sure I got from one here to another.
I am forever grateful. In this lifetime and every next.
The Power of Conscious Repetition 10
The Architecture of Accountability 20
First Principles As Rules of InGagement 28
Introducing The Mereon ArcTypes 30
A Complex Cluster of Intelligences 34
A Letter To My Readers
We're standing at a rare intersection where inexplicable insight meets scientific discovery,
coming at a critical moment when the choices we make are urgent.
My journey rebooted in 1987, when the first of four near-death experiences gave me what I'd lost —a reason to live. What I found over that threshold didn't match the stories I'd heard every Sunday from my permanently reserved seat in front of my father's pulpit. No angels. No pearly gates. No streets of gold.
Instead, I encountered complex geometry moving in harmony, producing a Song I've never forgotten. My grandmother was there. My father. Others who'd passed. But more importantly, I saw the Pattern —the Music spinning the strand of the tapestry I instinctively felt was weaving all creation. Sound. Light. Time. Matter. Love. The awareness that Love was all that mattered.
The experience opened the realization that the beliefs I thought were mine weren't. They were hand-me-downs, assumptions, control mechanisms dressed up as some man's version of 'truth'. Every day, someone profits from human confusion. Politicians force-feed us a diet of fear. Corporations bank on our insecurity. Institutions thrive on guilt. Algorithms amplify outrage. The manipulation is real, sophisticated, and everywhere.
Thirty-eight years of transdisciplinary scientific research has revealed something powerful: How a natural, living system flows, grows and evolves to endure. This describes all of us. We're meant to be natural, yet we're addicted to normal. We struggle to fit in, when we already belong and fit naturally. We crave approval yet yearn to be authentic.
There is a way forward. It's the long-missing path that leads you through chaos. Not another belief system, it's a universal pattern of how to grow with the Flow. It's more than information. It’s natural. There is physical, scientific evidence. It’s not about following. This is the natural, simple way to discover who you are, what matters to you so you can pave your path.
Scientists have validated the Pattern that connects, traces mystics have long followed. It allow you to integrate all the aspects of yourself using logic, to
connect your body, emotions and core values with your thinking, thoughts, and intuition. It lets you make space and time for yourself so your divine spirit can harness the wisdom that leads to clarity. Coherence. Your inside matching your outside. Your walk equaling your talk.
Unity demands diversity, not uniformity. Not conformity. While we're all made of stardust, what makes each of us irreplaceable is our unique harmonic signature.
When you hear your song and sing it —live it —you become a whole part of the solution and it's a symphony!
Ban Ki-Moon said it perfectly: "Saving our planet, lifting people out of poverty, advancing economic growth... these are one and the same fight." That transformation starts with you. It begins with individual who know who they are, what they stand for and understand that the time is now.
The world is struggling. Systems are shifting. The need for authentic, grounded people has never been greater. The Children need those who know themselves, understand their values, and are willing to intentionally Co=Operate in conscious co=creation.
Your highest purpose is healing your deepest wounds —and in doing so, you become a healer who helps mend the cracks in our world.
The HOW you need to connect your why and what is here. The science is solid. The method works if you decide to work it. It's High Play.
I'm grateful for your taking time with these words. Whether you dive deep or return the book to the shelf, know this —you are lovable, your life matters, and you belong.
With love and gratitude for the journey and the Path we share,
Lynnair
Prologue
What would you do if an experience was so powerful that not a single cell in your body, heart, brain, or spirit was willing to deny the encounter? What if you knew beyond a shadow of a doubt that this one single moment had changed your life forever?
Personally, my NDEs were more than a game changer. They ended all manner of emotional, mental and spiritual games, catalyzing what I've long called 'a soulular tsunami', something far more than a paradigm shift or a tipping point. For me it was a Turning Point that sent me to inner high Ground, shocked after discovering this same but 'otherworldly' landscape didn't have streets paved in gold, pearly gates, or a whiff of sulphur.
Did this new understanding of what was true for me mean the beliefs taught by the faith of my father were false? Brought up to believe one faith had the franchise on the front door to heaven, my experience made me realize it was time to examine what I'd been taught, and if necessary, to grow beyond those beliefs.
Knowing there was something different and greater than what I'd been indoctrinated to believe, realizing how destructive 'either/or' thinking is, it was time to honor my experience and end life in denial.
This book is an urgent invitation to examine worldviews you inherited or a system of beliefs you adopted. It's a coherent way to make decisions based on what's true for you. It offers a way to consider cognitive dissonance, or experiences you've chosen to deny, finding reasons you've done so. Knowing how to make a decision puts you at a crossroads, the space where what you identify as true for you no longer aligns with 'conventional' wisdom. When you choose you're unwilling to accommodate beliefs that don't support your experience, the quality of your life improves, sometimes dramatically.
Emotional and spiritual conflict far exceeds an intellectual disagreement —it resonates through your entire being, generating sensations, waves of feelings that
can threaten to overwhelm you. When this happens it's time to unlearn and relearn, remembering the learning is lifelong. When something seriously challenges a previously held belief it's important to dig deep to discover the reasons you considered it true for you in the first place. It isn't easy to intentionally investigate the multi-dimensional aspects of a belief or a life- changing moment. Making time to seriously ponder how it's possible that something that once seemed immutable can change in the blink of an eye is eye opening. Rather than ignoring or denying your discomfort, trying to avoid it, face it is as a natural expression of personal growth that opens understanding.
This book presents the natural logic that allows you to invite meaning to rise, leading the way to make decisions based on what you know is true for you. In this you may discover yourself growing beyond belief. The method is 100% natural and universal to all humans, an approach that 'enables' you to integrate a new understanding, embracing your core values and genuine self-identity so you're free to grow with the Flow.
The Flow? What is it? What moves us? What connects you with everything in the universe?
Time.
The Power of Conscious Repetition
You've likely heard the quote from Einstein that says, "Insanity is doing the same thing over and over again expecting a different result."
While this adage warns against mindless repetition, it misses a crucial distinction that lies at the heart of the Mereon Method.
True sanity —authentic wisdom —emerges from doing the same inquiry over and over again with every choice, every decision, to ensure that what you anticipate has a high probability of achieving its full potential. This isn't mindless repetition; it's conscious ‘ingagement’ with a proven process that adapts to infinite circumstances while maintaining internal consistency.
The difference is profound. Insanity repeats failed actions hoping for magical transformation. Wisdom repeats successful processes, allowing them to meet new situations with established effectiveness. When you use the same inquiry sequence
—engaging your ArcTypes in their natural order —you're not mechanically repeating identical responses. You're applying a reliable internal structure to unique external circumstances.
Research once suggested that establishing a new habit required repeating the same behavior seven times without fail. While the specific number varies, the principle holds: repetition builds neural pathways that transform conscious effort into natural response. The Mereon Method harnesses this knowledge by giving you a sequence worth repeating —one that strengthens your capacity for authentic decision-making with each use.
Throughout this book, you'll encounter the same inquiry pattern applied to different scenarios. This isn't accidental or lazy writing. It's intentional skill- building. Each repetition deepens your familiarity with your internal navigation system, making authentic choice-making more natural and reliable.
Where insanity expects external change from internal stagnation, the Mereon Method creates external transformation through internal consistency. You develop the habit of checking in with every aspect of yourself, honoring the wisdom each ArcType brings, and making decisions that align with your authentic nature.
This approach transforms decision-making from episodic struggle into fluid competence. Rather than starting from scratch with each choice, you build on established internal relationships and proven processes. The sequence becomes second nature, freeing your attention to focus on the unique aspects of each situation rather than questioning your decision-making method.
As you read, notice how the same inquiry framework applies to vastly different circumstances —from daily choices to life-altering decisions. This adaptability isn't a flaw in the system; it's evidence of its robust design. Like a master craftsman who uses the same foundational techniques to create countless unique works, you'll learn to apply consistent internal inquiry to generate authentic responses to life's infinite variety.
The repetition you'll encounter isn't asking you to become mechanical. It's inviting you to become masterful —to develop such fluency with your internal wisdom that accessing it becomes as natural as breathing. This is how conscious repetition builds the habit of authenticity, ensuring that your choices consistently reflect not just what you think you should do, but what genuinely aligns with who you are and who you're becoming.
"Strive to discover the mystery before life is taken from you. If while living you fail to find yourself, to know yourself, how will you be able to understand the secret of your existence when you die?"
— Farid ud Din Attar
"Action expresses priorities."
—Mahatma Gandhi
An Invitation
Like life itself, this book invites you to reclaim territory that's been occupied — your power to choose. Your first and most crucial expedition begins with anchoring your focus on personal wellbeing as your primary compass.
Consider the protective instinct you feel toward those you cherish. Yet when illness or injury claims you, genuine presence —let alone protection —becomes impossible. The wisdom in airline safety protocols illuminates this principle perfectly: first secure your own oxygen supply before trying to help others. The abundant flow of care you offer loved ones springs directly from the reservoir of self-nurturing you maintain.
This isn't a luxury or indulgence —it's a fundamental requirement for sustainable living. When you neglect your own wellbeing, you gradually deplete the very resources that enable you to show up meaningfully for others. What begins as generous self-sacrifice eventually transforms into resentment, exhaustion, or burnout that serves no one well.
Attending to your physical, emotional, cognitive and spiritual landscape creates the essential foundation from which authentic connection blossoms. This practice transcends both selfishness and self-centeredness —it embodies the art of self- centering. There's a profound difference between these approaches: selfishness takes from others to serve the ego, while self-centering generates resources that naturally overflow to benefit everyone in your sphere of influence.
This living wisdom enables your movement and growth. It allows you to show up in relationships with genuine vitality and depth, bringing your complete self forward with clear intention and wholehearted attention. When you approach life from this centered place, your presence becomes a gift rather than a demand, your love becomes nourishing rather than depleting, and your ‘ingagement’ becomes sustainable rather than temporary.
The journey ahead requires this foundation. As you discover the eight Mereon ArcTypes and learn to navigate the complexities of authentic living, you'll have access to your full spectrum of intelligences and awareness. This becomes possible only when you've committed to the ongoing practice of honoring your own wellbeing as the sacred ground from which all genuine service emerges.
With this foundation of self-centering established, you're ready to meet the eight distinct intelligences that will guide your decision-making.
Inspiration
When you move beyond beliefs about self-care as selfish or indulgent and embrace the understanding that personal wellbeing creates the foundation for authentic service, the power of self-centering opens pathways to sustainable relationships where your presence becomes a gift that naturally overflows to nourish everyone in your sphere of influence.
Consideration
Consider how distinguishing between selfishness that depletes others and self- centering that generates abundant resources might transform your relationship with personal wellbeing from guilt-ridden obligation to sacred practice that enables genuine connection and sustainable care for those you cherish.
InQuiry. Application. Implementation.
How might honoring your own wellbeing as the foundation for all authentic service transform your approach to relationships from unsustainable self-sacrifice to centered presence that naturally overflows with vitality and depth? In what ways could recognizing the difference between selfishness and self-centering help you move beyond beliefs about personal care as indulgent to understanding it as essential for meaningful engagement? What possibilities emerge when you consistently practice the art of self-centering, creating the reservoir of wellbeing that enables you to show up with genuine presence and wholehearted attention for the journey of discovering your eight intelligences?
Decision Factors
Stop and think about it and you quickly realize there's a belief or a believing behind every decision, those you make, take, as well as those you abdicate. All three have a powerful role in determining the quality of your life. Before going further, let me share my definition of the three operative words to help you better understand how this book supports you as you learn to make decisions that are best for you and let you live the life you long to live.
Make: To intentionally and thoroughly consider how any decision (forget large vs small —a decision is a decision is a decision) will impact every aspect of your life. Making a decision is knowing that if you say "Yes," you can keep it as a promise.
Take: Taking a decision is manipulation.
It's saying "Yes" (because that's what someone wants/needs to hear), knowing you're not going to show up, letting them do everything alone.
Abdicate: Refusing to make a decision, forcing what you have to eat or do to someone else, meaning if things go wrong someone else is at fault, and you're the first to throw out the verbal bombs of shame and blame.
The war for your choices is real. Every day, forces compete to make you take or abdicate rather than make authentic decisions. This book is your training ground for that battle.
Living coherently is how you make your life count. It's how you know you matter. It's how you know you belong. Applying this knowledge you call an end to wasting time —years, months, weeks, hours and minutes —spending your lifetime being a bit player, producer or director in someone else's drama. Life's an adventure and every next breath is ready and waiting for you to show up! As paradoxical as this may sound, this book is actually about relationship, the first and most important being your relationship with yourself, so you know how to show up with another.
What's presented is based on an understanding rooted in the scientific knowledge of how living systems —you and me —naturally grow, and how these same axioms relate to the life-like systems we build —relationships, families, and
communities. To make it simple, here's the perspective at the heart of this method: the Universal Law of relationship is Love and loving, receiving and returning love in kind without keeping score. With this as the Law, it's up to you to write your PlayBook, Living Your Life, and Playing by Your Rules.
If you're sick and tired of living a life of compromise, reading this book and writing yours puts you on your way to knowing how to make a promise and keep your agreements.
Inspiration
When you choose to make decisions intentionally rather than taking or abdicating them, you transform from a bit player in someone else's life, becoming the author of your own adventure. Learning how to make decisions and live coherently is how you make your life count, knowing you belong, and understanding that you do truly matter.
Consideration
Consider how distinguishing between making, taking, and abdicating decisions might reveal dimensions of personal agency that past patterns of compromise have obscured.
InQuiry. Application. Implementation
How might approaching love as the Universal Law while writing your own Rules transform your relationship with yourself and others? In what ways could intentional decision-making help you show up fully for each breath of your life's adventure? What possibilities emerge when you recognize that coherence begins with promises you make and keep to yourself, creating ripples that extend to your relationships, family, and community?
"We must not allow other people's limited perceptions to define us."
—Virginia Satir
Peace & The Pieces of Self
Living an authentic life is the opportunity of a lifetime. It is something one can learn but it isn’t something anyone can teach. While the ArcTypes you will discover are universal, it requires time to honor and apply the knowledge these pieces of self represent. Too many people think they can read a book and then teach what they read. Not in this case.
For more than thirty eight years I’ve invested every day of my life to understand and live this knowledge. While the dynamics forms that govern all growth are changeless, they change everything. Because we’re constantly changing, our self- awareness guides the questions we have to answer to reach a sound decision change as well!
“Beyond Belief” invites you to examine beliefs you believe are fixed, changeless and not subject to the Law of Time. Because it feels like responding to a cosmic double dare, it’s taken fifteen years to write this book. In the two and half decades the logic in this method hasn’t changed, but the list of questions I’ve had to ask myself when making a decision has. In 2004, I had more 5,000 questions under the 9 sections that describe the forms informing the questions you will find here. Many are rhetorical, most are not. Today my “InQuiry List” has over 10,000. (Don’t worry, only a fraction of them are here.) All are universal but required a specific and deeply personal response.
Daring to write them down has made it clear that this system is changeless but it connects and changes everything. I’ve grown to realize how if one part of my life changes, every part of my life changes. Even though the System —the heart, soul and Source of this method, its fundamental trinity, two forms and the Flow, and the forms it defines — is changeless, unless something happens that slows it down, breaks it, or stops it. Even then, the laws of physics make it clear that while the ‘thing’ that was is no longer, the energy of the system remains.
The challenge in writing is quite different from yours in reading. Every day new questions arise, inquiries that every piece of me has to honor, understand, and accept to make as best a decision possible with the limited self knowledge I can access. What I can say is this; every day of the 13,871 days since my ‘incounter’ with this living rainbow, I’ve done my best to identify and live what’s true for me by applying this sequence of knowledge —asking myself questions and finding
my truest answer —before making a decision. I’ve screwed up more than once, but no one can be or do perfect. I’m quite happy with my humanity, knowing that living what’s true for me even 79% of the time is an accomplishment worthy of celebration.
Reading this book is not going to make you an expert. Understanding the method doesn’t mean you’re qualified to explain it let alone teach it. Beginning to build that competence takes a year of intentional training, being responsible, given the authority, and held accountable for choices made during that program. This book is going to be one of two things: something to hold the door of your life open so you’re free to explore the pieces of self that are responsible for the decisions you make take or abdicate; or it’s going to sit on the floor, a draft dodger blocking the healing winds of change, keeping that door shut.
Each piece of self longs to open the door to your soul, opening untold adventures that take courage —and the rest of your lifetime —to explore.
For some it will mean finding, reclaiming, or uncovering parts of you that were lost, stolen or ignored. Honoring their presence is essential to living your life. If your body is no longer willing to jump, roll over, or play dead when someone tells you what you’re supposed to do, this book is for you.
Your soul sings an a cappella solo, harmonizing with a Universal Song. Your body wants to dance free, not perform in a chorus line.
When you're known for an open heart, attitudes, and hands, others seek your embrace.
Peak experiences are the ‘mountains’ you climb alone.
Your light is meant to shine! Someone asserting its their job to protect you is hiding your light or trying to turn it off.
Like every one of us, you arrived on this planet with a gift to be shared. Your gift is ready to be unwrapped, and this might mean cutting ribbons and burning some wrap. When facing the diversity of existential challenges, remember, JOY — Jetpowered Orbital Yinyang — is the essence of Love, loving your neighbor as you love yourself.
Despite life's inevitable pain, the elixir of joy flows beneath every imaginable layer of anger, sadness, fear, and doubt. To reopen the Flow, dancing in the stillness that quickens the Remembrance of Love, feeling it vibrate every cell of your being.
Inspiration
To move beyond confusion and chaos, enter the stillness. What you need and what you want is waiting for you there, unlimited grace permeating this space.
Consideration
Consider how honoring all pieces of yourself —including those parts that refuse to jump, roll over, or play dead —might reveal dimensions of joy that past experiences of hiding in others' shadows have obscured.
InQuiry. Application. Implementation
How might recognizing your unique gift transform your approach to unwrapping the existential challenges that come with it? In what ways could standing up and leaving situations that insult your spirit create space for authentic expression?
What possibilities emerge when you dance in the presence of whatever quickens the indigenous resonance of love in your cells?
When something calls forth laughter, laugh out loud. When something sends fear to the surface, ask for help.
When something calls forth anger, be still, seek resolution, and heal.
When something calls forth sadness let your tears flow Knowing they are the breaking birth waters of wisdom, And their salty brine melts icy illusions and
They open your heart to the warmth of love.
The Architecture of Accountability
This distinction illuminates a crucial understanding about how responsibility flows through your internal ecosystem. You have six inner ArcTypes that bear the weight of conscious choice and thus accumulate karmic consequence. They evaluate, make assessments, prioritize, protect, and guide, choices that shape your reality and pave your path, determining the quality of you life.
Two more are external, existing in protected states of service —one gathering possibilities without judgment, the other expressing only what has been consciously approved by the inner six. Neither one of the two external pieces of self possess the autonomous authority that generates karmic responsibility.
Understanding these ArcType, and their architectural logic helps you recognize where true accountability lies within yourself. When you feel overwhelmed by possibilities, remember the piece of self that runs free in your local environment, is simply doing its job —bringing options to your attention without bias. When you’re questioned about how you're showing up in the world, its critical to look inside and what piece of self is running your youniverse, controlling the aspects of self that you’re revealing publicly.
Practical Implications
This new understanding transforms how you relate to both exploration and expression. The piece of self that has the freedom to roam, is able to do so, reporting what is discovered without fear that its curiosity is going to create karma, unwanted consequences. Similarly, you can trust the piece of self responsible to implement a decision to represent you faithfully, recognizing that the responsibility for what it shares lies with your internal decision-makers.
When conflicts arise —chances are something slipped in the door that’s creating tension, contradicting the core values you say you hold, and keeping you from expresses what’s true for you. When you feel external pushback, it’s time for resolution. The responsibility isn’t with the external world—it’s with your inner ArcTypes that have the authority and are accountable for outcomes. Resolving conflict begins with forgiveness. Yourself first, and then asking it of others.
More on this soon enough.
Inspiration
When you recognize that innocence and protection exist within your ‘invironment’, your internal ecosystem, you discover that not every aspect of yourself bears the weight of karmic consequence. Curiosity, meant to run wild, doesn’t mean you get or do what it wants. There’s an adult in the room, an ArcType that say’s “No, thank you." And the piece of you that shows up in the world —this piece of self is a faithful representative that operates at the will of your spirit. If it turns out to be a poor decision, this part of you is responsible for restitution. Fulfill this responsibly and any karmic debt is wiped of the books.
Consideration
Consider how understanding these ArcTypes, especially the six that bear karmic responsibility, might transform your life, allowing innocent curiosity and protected sharing to flourish while placing accountability where it truly belongs.
InQuiry. Application. Implementation.
How might recognizing the nature of your innocence transform your willingness to explore possibilities without fear of unwanted consequences? In what ways could understanding how you show up in the world as a representative of your youniverse help you trust your public expression, while taking responsibility for the internal choices that shape what you reveal? What possibilities emerge when you distinguish between your innocent functionaries and the accountable decision-makers that make up your internal council? How can you imagine creating space for both protected exploration and conscious choice?
Time: A Shared Journey
I’m well aware that the title of this book is going to attract some, intrigue a few, and challenge many.
"Beyond Belief: The Power of Presence & Intentional Believings" matters to all of us, and I'd like to share the reasoning behind choosing this title.
My journey toward writing this book began in the most unexpected way. Through four separate encounters with what I've long called 'the arcing angles of death', near-death experiences that cracked open my perception of reality, revealing striking contradictions between what I'd unquestioningly considered true and what I directly experienced. While floating at the threshold between living and dying, I discovered something that decades of unexamined religious conditioning hadn't prepared me for: a profound, unconditional love that asked nothing of me except to remember and communicate what I was hearing and experiencing.
Returning to life, I found myself faced with an unavoidable choice: continue living according to unexamined beliefs that no longer matched my experience, or honor what I now knew to be true for me —even without understanding the personal cost. In my 2nd NDE, I was given the choice and chose to stay, admittedly without fully comprehending the price I'd pay to set this initial cornerstone on my newly paved life path. In time, family members who couldn't reconcile my evolving understanding with their fixed, unquestioned beliefs gradually withdrew. Communities that had once embraced me now viewed me with suspicion. The rejection and eventual abandonment by those I loved most deeply created wounds that remain tender spots today.
Yet despite this pain —or perhaps because of it —I discovered something remarkable: the will to live authentically became stronger than the comfort of unexamined conformity. What began as a disorienting series of brushes with death gradually transformed into a compelling reason to live fully awake, to reclaim my power, even when that meant walking alone.
For decades since, I've witnessed countless others struggling with a similar kind of suffering —one that comes from living according to beliefs they've never examined rather than consciously chosen. These unexamined beliefs might come from family, education, religion, culture, or media, but they share one critical feature: they weren't born from direct experience or conscious choice. They were
absorbed, often without invitation or permission, and considered without checking whether they actually fit who you really are.
This matters more than you might realize. When you live according to beliefs you've never examined, you experience a subtle but persistent dissonance —like wearing shoes that someone else chose but didn't let you try on, not caring that they constantly pinch your toes. When it comes to a belief or system of beliefs, this misalignment eventually manifests as anxiety or depression, tangled relationships, and leading to conflict due to a vague feeling that something fundamental is missing from your life. Every unquestioned belief is a barrier to you reclaiming your power, living a life where you exist but don't truly live because it's based on an existential lie put in place that lets someone else control you. Much more on this in the coming pages.
What makes this particularly challenging is that most of us weren't taught how to go —much less, grow — beyond belief. Many of us were told not to question, let alone taught how to examine our assumptions. As a child I long sensed something was off, but I was told to obey, and lacked the self awareness needed to identify if a belief was truly aligned with my spirit. An experience turned me inside out when I was eleven, but I had no idea how to deal with it. Survival meant silently absorbing what I was told, and what I saw.
This book is rare. It doesn't have a single answer. If that's what you're looking for, put the book on the shelf or if you’ve bought it, use it as a door stop.
These pages contain a logic that offers you the 'how' to implement and live your why. It fuses logic and meaning with the mortar of love that lets you examine and release or transform beliefs that don't serve you. It's a method for you to explore and identify meaning, discovering what genuinely resonates with your unique nature.
This book is intended to be a practical guide —not a theoretical exploration — of authenticity. It's far more than a collection of inspirational platitudes or one person's point of view. Each chapter offers First Principles, rules of a living system, specific exercises, questions, reflections, and tools designed to help you distinguish between what you've unquestioningly considered and what's genuinely yours. These tools emerged through years of investigation following Near Death Experiences that turned me inside out and my world upside down. They've been
refined through decades of working with others as we've shared a remarkable journey.
The title, 'Beyond Belief', speaks to the journey of caring enough to dare to examine beliefs and assumptions that have shaped your life without your conscious participation. The subtitle, "The Power of Presence & Intentional Believings" acknowledges that this isn't about rejecting all beliefs but about transforming your relationship with what you know and consider true for you. "Intentional Believings" are dynamic, understanding that grows and evolves with you, rather than static positions you defend that someone else carved in stone and asked you to carry.
As you read these pages, remember the focus of this book is on you. Once you understand the sequence that leads to progress, you can use it in what my friend Lou calls, "taroting the book", holding an intention, and then just opening to a 'random' page to see what's there that resonates with you.
You —all of us —are the result of a connection. Unless you're a conjoined twin, you came into this world alone and are continuing the journey of your lifetime as an individual. This book is all about reestablishing a genuine connection with yourself, essential before you can co=create healthy relationships or communities.
Again, your inner connection means there comes a point when you must choose to intentionally consider how many of your beliefs or assumptions about yourself and the world have gone unquestioned. It's never too late to do so.
What's presented here is a natural path —not to some idealized version of who you "should" be, but to who you actually are beneath the layers of unexamined beliefs that too often cover your authentic self. It's far from 'normal'.
I'm living proof that the journey isn't always going to be comfortable. When I began to question long-held beliefs, the resistance —both from within myself and from those around me who felt threatened by my daring to question and actually change —was, and remains strong. I know firsthand the pain of watching beloved faces grow cold and distant when my evolving understanding of science challenged fixed certainties based in their religious beliefs. But this is true for me: the discomfort of growth is life-giving, and far exceeds the numbing false safety that comes with conformity. Growing the innate capacity to stand alone, laying the foundation for building an authentic life, makes one a magnet for others who are
doing the same. This is the heart and soul of a 'realationship', where two or more co=create something truly spectacular.
My deepest hope is that this book will serve as a practical companion on your journey beyond belief. Not to a place of no beliefs at all, but to a way of being where what you consider true arises from your authentic knowing —that inner wisdom that recognizes what resonates with your unique nature and what doesn't. This is the wisdom that my encounters with death awakened in me —a wisdom that gave me a reason to live even when reclaiming my power came at a higher price than I could have imagined.
Ready to begin? Turn the page, and let's take the first step beyond belief together. You're not alone.
Inspiration
Coherence begins with identifying your core values and expressing what you want, allowing the ArcTypes you're soon to meet to reveal if a possibility is a potential source to bring joy to the surface, opening the sense of wonder and the appreciation of beauty. They'll also inform you of the probability of a choice becoming a source of pain, leading to incoherence that breeds conflict —all before you make the decision.
Consideration
Consider how acknowledging all eight of your internal intelligences might reveal dimensions of wholeness that past patterns of favoring one intelligence over others have obscured.
InQuiry. Application. Implementation
Before even meeting the eight ArcTypes, think about what aspect of you habitually runs your life. How might consulting your full spectrum of intelligence transform your approach to decision-making? In what ways could balancing your internal council create more harmony in your external relationships? What possibilities emerge when you view yourself not as a single voice but as a symphony of intelligences, each contributing its unique wisdom to the masterpiece of your life?
Contemplation vs Conflict
There's a profound difference between the spacious awareness of contemplation and the contracted tension of conflict, yet many people confuse internal resistance with external opposition. When a deeply held belief encounters a contradictory experience, you're not necessarily facing a battle to be won or lost —you may be standing at the threshold of a more expansive understanding that requires neither the abandonment of past wisdom nor the rejection of new insights.
True contemplation creates space for multiple perspectives to coexist temporarily while deeper patterns reveal themselves. It allows you to hold both your established understanding and emerging information without immediately forcing them into alignment or choosing sides. This capacity to maintain what could be called "creative tension" often leads to insights that transcend the apparent contradiction entirely.
Conflict, by contrast, operates from the assumption that opposing viewpoints can't coexist —that one must dominate, dismiss, or destroy the other. When you approach internal dissonance from a conflict mentality, you often find yourself defending positions rather than exploring possibilities, seeking to be right rather than to understand more deeply.
When you're in the middle of an intersection where a long held belief and an experience meet, you cross multiple dimensions simultaneously. Your body registers the tension through changes in breathing, muscle tension, or energy levels. Your emotional landscape experiences turbulence when a long held security structure feels destabilized. When your brain struggles to reconcile contradictory information, it's important to consider whether or not you may be dealing with a conflict related to legacy programming someone left you.
This comprehensive disruption signals not breakdown but breakthrough — inviting you to expand beyond limiting frameworks toward a deeper understanding of inclusivity. The discomfort serves as birth pangs of your expanding consciousness, indicating growth beyond previous constraints. Don't confuse this as evidence of error or weakness.
Inspiration
When you recognize a conflict between a long held belief and a new experience, you discover that moving beyond beliefs can be uncomfortable. It isn't dangerous but it puts all things stuck in the status quo in danger. Integrated wisdom honors prior understanding and lived experiences.
Consideration
Consider how embracing multidimensional dissonance might reveal dimensions of authentic growth that past patterns of seeking comfort have limited.
InQuiry. Application. Implementation.
How might considering conflicts transform your approach to understanding growth? In what ways might you honor dissonance, letting it help you move beyond unexamined beliefs about growth as natural? What possibilities might emerge if you recognized that the wisdom you develop through examining beliefs contributes to the authentic awareness you want to express?
First Principles As Rules of InGagement
Every chapter in "Beyond Belief" opens with First Principles, the rules of natural growth in a living system. Each is connected to one of the 'internal realities' you're about to discover. In addition, you'll be introduced to the fundamental forms that inform the functions that shape your life. All are axioms determined by scientific method. Self-observation and answering questions that only you have the right to answer let you determine what's meaningful in ways that are personally measurable and generate benefits based on how you relate to others.
The reason for presenting this architecture isn't to give you a geometry lesson, but to make it clear why these forms define the 8 Mereon ArcTypes you'll soon meet and understand. Keeping the geometry simple, I’ve chosen to share some of my art in these pages, each piece reflecting the form and beauty that guides us on this journey we call a ‘lifetime’.
As a living system, you'll soon have an understanding about how these seven fundamental forms are connected to how you formed. You’ll have a glimmer about why they're important to how you function as a healthy human.
The first principles are shared to help you understand that there is a scientific foundation devoid of gaps in this knowledge. The habit you're learning here is not complicated. It’s a simple guide that let’s you understand why it’s important to make decisions that are best for you. While you're likely to ‘incounter; some inner ‘process’ — pain similar to the way a blender pulverizes a carrot or turns it into juice, it's still a carrot! In the end you’re still you, hot the you you choose to be!
There's an elegant logic that guides the progress you make when you choose to open and unfold inner layers, discovering self-understanding that leads to meaningful experiences where joy becomes obvious, equally meaningful and measurable.
Inspiration
When you move beyond beliefs about growth as random or chaotic and embrace the understanding that natural development follows precise geometric principles, the power of First Principles opens pathways to recognize how fundamental forms inform the functions that create authentic transformation and measurable joy in your lived experience.
Consideration
Consider how recognizing the geometric foundation underlying your formation and function might reveal the elegant logic that connects your inner architecture to the natural laws governing all living systems.
InQuiry. Application. Implementation.
How might understanding that your personal development follows the same fundamental patterns found throughout nature transform your relationship with growth from random effort to aligned unfolding? In what ways could recognizing the connection between geometric forms and psychological functions help you move beyond beliefs about change as difficult or unpredictable? What possibilities emerge when you consistently apply First Principles as rules of ‘ingagement’, trusting that the same forces that create spheres within spheres also guide your journey toward authentic self-understanding and measurable transformation?
Introducing The Mereon ArcTypes
Healthy and sustainable organisms — both living and lifelike — breathe and birth. The energy they take in is used and transformed as it moves through, producing output. Side by side with what it generates, progeny or product, that which is harmful or of no benefit is also released.
Our 2018 book, "The Mereon Matrix: Everything Connected through (K)nothing," shows how geometry is key to overall structure of an organism. It has an influence on the behavior of cells, and is responsible for establishing stability, ensuring efficient resource allocation, minimizing the energy used by shaping internal structures. Geometry is found in cell migration, division and multiplication, and in how a cell's interaction with other cells.
In the Mereon Matrix, two previously unknown dynamic geometric forms define this process. The relationship between these two forms is found in how their interaction generates the Pattern—actually eleven distinct yet identical Patterns, 2/3 trefoil knots. All define a torus, the flow defined by forms in motion, a complex array of a dynamic first described by R. Buckminster Fuller, the Jitterbug. Six Mereon torus knots are generated in the Core, the geometry energizing and sustaining the Context; where five 2/3 torus knots are regenerated as the system 'breathes and births' replicating itself to expand space.
This dynamic whole system produces infinite systems within systems, every one a whole part of a grander whole. All the fundamental geometry —the Platonic and Kepler solids —appear in a sequence that leads to coherence. Learning how the Platonic solids represented life in ancient wisdom traditions, and realizing these forms informed unique functions, the ArcTypes arose! The challenge was finding a connection in ancient wisdom traditions to the Kepler solids. Were they unknown? Interestingly enough, modern scientific theories hypothesize the Dodecahedron may be related to the shape of the Universe. What's curious is that historical records make clear that if an initiate —a student —in Plato's Academy
—said "dodecahedron" out loud, the penalty was swift and implemented immediately. The punishment was death.
Why? I don't know, and if someone out there does they aren't talking.
But let me share a suspicion. One of the two Kepler solids is actually visible in nature —in a garden. This initially made me wonder why Plato and others didn't speak of it, but learning they died if they named the 5th Platonic solid out loud suddenly made sense. They didn't 'miss' it, it was part of a secret. This form is found in nature in how bees build the cells in their honeycomb, and actually their hive if bees aren't forced to do their thing in a box. This and today's scientific understanding of these forms and their role in physics —how the universe works
—led to what was an obvious connection —at least for me.
In 2004, the team met in Switzerland to explore how these unique forms appeared as singles and clusters in the Mereon Matrix. Understanding their sequence and number led to a deep awareness of their independent, interconnected functions which prompted keywords that were then translated as descriptors, of roles and responsibilities that helped us function as a team.
The Belonging Project (https://belonging.life) began later that year, and these roles and responsibilities were rechristened for TeamPlayGround, the classroom management program where learners age 3-10 take full responsibility for the social dimension of their learning environment.
Understanding that 'Beyond Belief' is filled with both knowledge and challenges, to keep things light and remind you of the distinction between actions and attitudes that are 'childlike' as opposed to 'childish', I've intentionally presented the ArcType names we used in Belonging.
The Bringer
The form defining the Bringer is the tetrahedron, the simplest 3D form, meaning it has an inside and an outside. It has six edges of equal length that form to present four triangular faces with four vertices. Because it defines the only form this system can take in from the local environment, I called this role 'The Bringer'.
The Gate Keeper
The second form is the Cube, and it defines the ArcType we call the Gate Keeper in the educational application. This 3D form has 6 square faces, 8 vertices and 12 edges. Also known as the hexahedron, this is the first form established inside the system.
The Wave Tamer
The third form is the Icosahedron, and as it's literally the structure of water. Because the context is a bubble in its contraction to a kind of ocean, Wave Tamer was perfect given that this form has long been used to represent water and the realm of the emotions.
The Light Lifter
The fourth form is the Octahedron, a Platonic solid long used to represent air. The pyramids on the Giza plateau are octahedral, four sides rising up from a square base, with a real or imaginary space below.
The Space Bender
The fifth Platonic solid is the Dodecahedron, that was used to represent aether. In this context it's defines the deepest space in your Youniverse, where you're in touch with the Universe, and thoughts spark intuition and remembrance lift and light up your youniverse.
Time Shifter
The first Kepler semi-regular solid, also known as a Catalan solid, is the Rhombic Dodecahedron. While the edge length of the Platonic solids are all the same length, its faces are longer than they are wide. It’s found in nature in the structure of a garnet, the arrangement of the seeds in a pomegranate, and revealed in how bees build the cells in their honeycomb.
The Guardian
The seventh form is the 2nd Kepler semi-regular solid, the Rhombic Triacontahedron. It’s another Catalan solid, and has 30 rhombic faces, 60 edges, and 32 vertices of 2 types. Because there's only one defined by this matrix, and it its form is anchored in the Golden ratio, also known as the Sacred Proportion, its beauty is seen to represent the spirit of protection, the ArcType known as the Guardian.
The Ambassador
When the Mereon Matrix breathes, new potential is birthed —dodecahedral ‘daughters’ — the core, the Flow, and all dynamic processes are hidden inside a single scaled icosahedron. This structure is invisible to the human eye. The Ambassador is the piece of self representing the whole of all you are in the world at large.
A Complex Cluster of Intelligences
The Mereon Method makes it clear that you have a constellation of eight distinct intelligences —two external and six internal —and collectively they illuminate your path to coherence.
These eight are known as the Mereon ArcTypes. No, this isn't a typographical error, nor does it reference the familiar noun 'archetype'. In both the architecture and this method, ArcType functions as a verb —a dynamic process describing your unique internal domains and intelligences. Each is characterized by a specific form that defines a particular function. Thinking about how a decision impacts every piece of self before saying 'Yes' or 'No', this method lets you make a thought experiment by tracing how that choice might flow through your being.
These eight intelligences form your wholeness in a beautiful paradox: they're simultaneously interdependent yet each is distinctly sovereign. Consulting this full spectrum of selfhood keeps you anchored while enabling you to make a thoroughly rational assessment about whether a choice is likely to generate harmony or chaos —both internally and externally.
The Mereon framework invites exploration into dimensions of intelligence you may not have recognized within yourself or even thought of. As you come to know each ArcType, you'll uncover profound insights into how each piece of self shapes or reshapes your perceptions. One shifts your perspective while another rearranges your priorities. As you renovate your relationship with yourself, this expanded understanding creates pathways toward unprecedented alignment.
When you approach decisions with awareness of all eight intelligences, you create an internal ecosystem where each aspect of your being has a voice. Rather than allowing one dominant intelligence to override the others —such as when cognitive reasoning dismisses intuitive knowing, or emotional reactivity clouds cognitive discernment —you cultivate a council of wisdom within yourself where each intelligence contributes its unique perspective.
This integration doesn't happen overnight. It requires practice, patience, and a willingness to listen to aspects of yourself that may have been long silenced or dismissed. The reward, however, is a profound coherence that manifests as clarity in decision-making, authenticity in self-expression, and harmony in relationships
—both with yourself and with others.
Inspiration
When you move beyond beliefs about intelligence as singular or fixed and embrace the understanding that you possess eight distinct yet interconnected intelligences, the power of your full spectrum awareness opens pathways to decisions that honor every aspect of your being, creating unprecedented coherence between your inner wisdom and outer expression.
Consideration
Consider how consulting all eight intelligences before making significant choices might transform your relationship with decision-making from reactive responses based on limited perspectives to conscious choices that generate harmony across your entire internal ecosystem.
InQuiry. Application. Implementation.
How might developing awareness of your eight distinct intelligences transform your approach to choices from allowing one dominant aspect to override others to creating an internal council where each intelligence contributes its unique wisdom? In what ways could recognizing the interdependent yet sovereign nature of your ArcTypes help you move beyond beliefs about intelligence as purely cognitive or emotional?
CHAPTER ZERO: RECOGNIZING UNEXAMINED BELIEFS
Cosmic Origins. Personal Authorship.
Fact: Everything is made of stardust, embers released from remarkable cosmic sparklers.
Fact: All life—you, me, the tadpoles and toads swimming in my pond and the algae they swim through, a dirt-rimmed rock and a flawless diamond—emerged from this starstuff.
Fact: The only difference between anything is how its stardust is arranged.
Fact: Despite our uniqueness and individuality, we're interconnected.
Fact: No thing and no one on this planet arrived with an instruction manual. Yet forces compete daily to write that manual for you—to script your choices, direct your decisions, and author your story.
This book has one focus: you, the only author authorized to write your life story. In the war for your choices, you are both the battlefield and the victor-in-waiting. You alone have the right and the responsibility for how you respond to life, your most important task asking and answering the questions that lead to your best decisions. You do so understanding that they determine the quality of your life, making what you find meaningful measurable.
It's possible—perhaps even likely—that others have been ghostwriters for many chapters of your life, their beliefs and agendas shaping your decisions without your conscious consent. There's also a chance that you've believed it was your destiny to play a supporting role in someone else's narrative, surrendering your power to choose.
The reality that you're reading these words means you're facing a pivotal point, needing to decide if you're ready to reclaim authorship, and life—write—the remaining chapters of your life?
Doing so makes your life a living legacy.
Inspiration
Though there are times when we all choose to wear a mask or hide behind a symbol, possibly to protect vulnerable parts of ourselves, remember: the key to authenticity doesn't mean breaking yourself—it means opening up to reveal the beauty within you to those who've earned your regard.
Consideration
Consider how approaching your personal code of ethics with compassionate curiosity might reveal authentic expressions that past behaviors you thought protected you have actually obscured.
Inquiry, Application, Implementation
What might happen if examining a belief you've given lip service to—something you've inherited or developed believing it protected you—revealed it was actually protecting others' power to choose for you? In what ways could walking tall in the present moment with your heart and attitude open reveal a new path forward?
What possibilities might emerge if you recognized that the universal questions actually require and honor diverse answers?
Silence as A Survival Strategy
The strategy of going along to get along is one I understand intimately—not from some theoretical study but as lived experience. Let me share an experience, retold to me by my mother after my first NDE all but wiped this memory from my brain.
I was only eleven years old when bacterial meningitis catapulted me into an out- of-body experience that I reported, permanently altering my relationship with many things, most notably, the beliefs I was taught in church about heaven and hell. Though I was able to describe precise details of the events before, during and leading up to my waking up—conversations I heard while unconscious, details no one could refute—my innocent question "What happened?" was met with an uncomfortable silence that my parents held for decades.
Before she died, my mom and I talked about this experience many times as it turned out this illness was the taproot of the traumatic brain injury I suffered in my NDE. She told me the look on my dad's face that day was one of fear, shadows crossing his eyes when I described my experience. His instruction came swift and clear: "Never speak of this again."
It would be years before I understood the deep primal fear beneath his command. The terror he experienced and expressed was due to my experience shaking the foundation of the life he'd built and lived for 50 years. Days before he died he admitted he'd taken them on as a way to cover what was never hidden, layer upon layer of guilt and pain.
For years I publicly parroted the faith of my father, all the while privately holding space for my own experiences. It only took that first event to know that questioning a single belief led to painful consequences. So deeply was this embedded in my psyche that conformity became my survival architecture, living in the box my dad built to constrain me, while also insisting it was a podium to stand on.
The box was blown up in 1987 when the first of four Near-Death Experiences detonated the confining structure I'd long confused as created for my safety.
Suddenly, it was revealed as a house of cards, blown down in an instant, as every borrowed belief shattered and scattered on the wind. In those extraordinary moments, illumination replaced limitation, eventually leading to the understanding about how my desperate craving for approval and my paralyzing terror of rejection was implanted so others could control me. I'd love to say that understanding and acceptance dissolved these patterns instantly, but it's not true. I've had to deal with the residue of these lies for decades. The desert of self- silencing is an inner space I continue to navigate with compassionate attention, my intention to clear it evidenced in the willingness to finally write this book. And two others.
These threshold crossings between worlds gave me three precious gifts: a clarity of purpose, a sense of mission, and a compelling reason to fully live my life. The passage of years has only deepened my astonishment about my role in the life- affirming knowledge we know today as the Mereon Matrix. That it's accessible, understandable, and fully applicable to our lives is a miracle in more ways than I can count. Again, that I have anything to do with bringing this knowledge into remembrance is utterly bewildering. For almost four decades, no person has been able to exert a force that's come close to extinguishing my passion and purpose. Every time someone has tried I've walked away without looking back, harnessing the courage they didn't think was possible. Remembrance continues to unfold, deepening my gratitude that expands and fills the space once occupied by fear. A quote that's long stayed with me, spoken by astronaut Neil Armstrong after he walked on the moon: "We all have a limited number of heartbeats and wasting even one is foolish."
Amen.
Inspiration
When you honor your direct experience—even when it contradicts widely held beliefs that are taken 'by faith'—you transform silent submission into authentic expression, discovering that your unique perspective isn't a threat to be suppressed but a gift to be considered into the collective understanding.
Consideration
Consider how acknowledging experiences that challenge conventional narratives might reveal dimensions of reality that past patterns of self-silencing have obscured.
Inquiry, Application, Implementation
How might recognizing the value of your unique perception transform your relationship with experiences that others find threatening or impossible? In what ways could honoring your inner knowing while maintaining compassion for others' limitations change how you navigate relationships? What possibilities emerge when you approach your limited heartbeats not with fear of their finitude but with fierce commitment to their authentic expression?
Decoding Unexamined Beliefs
History is littered with codes and ciphers, and most of us have developed creative ways to keep our secrets or aspects of ourselves hidden. Too often, in order to survive, we maintain unexamined beliefs to conceal what others demand we deny. We wear masks to cover fears and insecurities we don't want to acknowledge. We readily adopt symbols to signal to others who we are or what we believe. How often do you invest in emblems of success? A luxury car? Designer clothing?
Expensive shoes? Living in houses that aren't homes, in neighborhoods closed to those we deem as not belonging?
What do these decisions reveal about our values? About our authentic selves? Are they genuine expressions, or merely sophisticated disguises built upon unquestioned assumptions we refuse to question or disclose?
Transforming unexamined beliefs into intentional believings—self-awareness that's subject to change at any time—doesn't require breaking anything, especially yourself. Consider this transformation like gently opening an egg housed in a hard shell, accessing what's inside to create something nourishing. And if you're a gardener, you also understand the value of that shell after opening—crushing it to enrich the soil in your garden! Even what protected your inherited perspectives can serve your growth once transformed.
This process of charting your course serves you in two ways: it helps you understand why you initially considered beliefs without examination, and being able to recognize these patterns illuminates when and why you continue to live by unquestioned assumptions.
Standing in the present moment with an open heart, examining your attitudes and memories, willingly reassessing what is—this process reclaims your power.
Finding your personal "Rosetta Stone" allows you to decode your unexamined beliefs and transform them into intentional believings. This isn't about lamenting what was or is, or shaming and blaming anyone, including yourself—it's about reclaiming your authority to forge your path forward.
This journey is about discovering how to stand firmly while Time carries you forward into each new present moment. It's about learning and remembering that what enables you to unlearn outgrown beliefs and relearn through intentional believings is crucial to authentically stepping into the ever-pending "next"—the Grand Unknown. Each examined belief becomes a consciously placed stone in the path you're creating.
This book contains insights, inspiration, concepts, ideas, aspirational thoughts, and questions that are appropriate for one who is ready to transform their unexamined beliefs into intentional believings. If we’re to change, and be catalysts for change in a world that must change, it’s a progress we must engage in as individuals before we can come together. Only then can we form realationships and communities, realizing that while the questions are universal, our answers are seldom—if ever—the same. Only by honoring the diversity that is our unity can we come together, approaching our shared mission as High Play. This work allows you to demystify your existential question, paving your authentic path, reclaiming your power to sustain healthy, joyous relationships.
Inspiration
Though we maintain unexamined beliefs to protect our vulnerable aspects and wear sophisticated masks to signal belonging, the journey of transformation isn't about breaking yourself but gently opening to the nourishment within—forging your authentic path by reclaiming the power to choose what serves your growth.
Consideration
Consider how approaching your unexamined beliefs with curiosity instead of judging them as right or wrong might reveal new dimensions of choice and power that past patterns of unconscious compliance have obscured.
Inquiry, Application, Implementation
How might standing in the present moment with an open heart transform your relationship with unquestioned assumptions as you create your path forward? In what ways could examining your unrecognized beliefs illuminate both why you initially considered them and when they still serve you? What possibilities emerge when you reclaim your power to intentionally engage with a 'believing,' consciously recognizing that unity is created through the diversity inherent in authenticity?
A Complex Cluster Of Intelligences
The conversation about emotional intelligence has dominated the wellbeing discourse for decades. Yet this only represents one facet of a much more profound spectrum. The Mereon Method makes it clear that you have a constellation of eight distinct intelligences—two external and six internal—and collectively they illuminate your path to coherence.
These eight are known as the Mereon ArcTypes. No, this isn't a typographical error, nor does it reference the familiar noun 'archetype.' In both the architecture and this method, ArcType functions as a verb—a dynamic process describing your unique internal domains and intelligences. Each is characterized by a specific form that defines a particular function. When considering how a decision impacts every piece of self before saying 'Yes' or 'No,' this method lets you create a thought experiment by tracing how that choice might flow through your being.
Does it create a block? Does it clog things up? Does it interfere with your priorities? Does it create a situation where you're going to break a promise? Is it going to consume more time than you planned?
These eight intelligences form your wholeness in a beautiful paradox: they're simultaneously interdependent yet each is distinctly sovereign. Consulting this full spectrum of selfhood keeps you anchored while enabling you to make a thoroughly rational assessment about whether a decision is likely to generate harmony or chaos—both internally and externally.
The Mereon framework invites exploration into dimensions of intelligence you may not have recognized within yourself or even considered. As you come to know each ArcType, you'll uncover profound insights into how each piece of self shapes or reshapes your perceptions. One ArcType shifts your perspective while another rearranges your priorities. As you renovate your relationship with yourself, this expanded understanding creates pathways toward unprecedented alignment.
When you approach decisions with awareness of all eight intelligences, you create an internal ecosystem where each aspect of your being has a voice. Rather than allowing one dominant intelligence to override the others—such as when cognitive reasoning dismisses intuitive knowing, or emotional reactivity clouds cognitive discernment—you cultivate a council of wisdom within yourself where each intelligence contributes its unique perspective.
This integration doesn't happen overnight. It requires practice, patience, and a willingness to listen to aspects of yourself that may have been long silenced or dismissed. The reward, however, is a profound coherence that manifests as clarity in decision-making, authenticity in self-expression, and harmony in relationships
—both with yourself and with others.
Inspiration
When you move beyond beliefs about intelligence as singular or fixed and embrace the understanding that you possess eight distinct yet interconnected intelligences, the power of your full spectrum awareness opens pathways to decisions that honor every aspect of your being, creating unprecedented coherence between your inner wisdom and outer expression.
Consideration
Consider how consulting all eight intelligences before making significant decisions might transform your relationship with decision-making from reactive responses based on limited perspectives to conscious choices that generate harmony across your entire internal ecosystem.
Inquiry, Application, Implementation
How might developing awareness of your eight distinct intelligences transform your approach to decisions from allowing one dominant aspect to override others to creating an internal council where each intelligence contributes its unique wisdom? In what ways could recognizing the interdependent yet sovereign nature of your ArcTypes help you move beyond beliefs about intelligence as purely cognitive or emotional? What possibilities emerge when you consistently trace how decisions flow through your entire being, honoring both the individual sovereignty and collective wisdom of all eight intelligences in service of authentic alignment?
Learning to Trust. Earning Respect.
One of the most important attitudes we all need to grow into is the realization that vulnerability isn't a weakness. In a culture that often equates emotional openness with fragility, this understanding represents a fundamental shift in how we perceive strength and resilience. Authentic vulnerability requires courage—the willingness to be seen in our fullness, including the parts of ourselves we might prefer to keep hidden.
When we freely, willingly, and appropriately share our pain, sorrow, anger, or joy with someone who's earned our respect and regard—be they an advocate, family member, or friend—we discover that timely openness is an existential superpower. This sharing isn't about dumping our emotions indiscriminately, but about the conscious choice to let someone witness our authentic experience. The key lies in discernment: selecting the right person, the right moment, and the right level of disclosure.
It can feel miraculous when a weight is lifted from our shoulders, placed before us, and considered with someone who's earned our respect and regard. There's something transformative about externalizing our internal struggles, making them visible and tangible in the space between us and another human being. When we see a situation from multiple perspectives, we realize that while we may have been the catalyst for the situation, and must deal with the consequences, whatever is happening to us isn't who we are. This distinction—between what we experience and who we fundamentally are—becomes clearer through the lens of valued relationship.
When we're open and vulnerable and another hears us, providing what we've asked for—without judgment—we realize that life is wholly and fully lived in the context of relationship. These moments of genuine connection remind us that our struggles don't define us, nor do we have to carry them alone. The simple act of being genuinely heard can shift our entire relationship with difficulty, transforming isolation into connection and confusion into clarity.
No one is an island. We're inherently relational beings, intended to share our burdens and multiply our joy. This is the consequence of restoring self-awareness that lets us open our natural connection with others to co=create what we need to mend and heal our deepest wounds.
Inspiration
When we share our authentic experiences—whether painful or joyful—with those who've genuinely earned our respect and regard, we discover that vulnerability isn't weakness but an existential superpower that transforms isolation into connection.
Consideration
Consider how distinguishing between what happens to you and who you are might reveal dimensions of resilience that past experiences of judgment have obscured.
Inquiry, Application, Implementation
How might approaching vulnerability as a strength rather than weakness transform your most important relationships? In what ways could sharing your authentic self with valued others help you see situations from multiple perspectives? What possibilities emerge when you recognize that no one is an island, and that life is fully lived only in the context of meaningful connection?
The Authenticity Imperative
This piece is a brief exploration of how authenticity is the foundation for a meaningful existence, first individually and then collectively. It presents how to create the path from self-discovery to intentional co=creation, emphasizing the importance of natural alignment with your nature.
Growing beyond beliefs, living and growing in the Flow lets you revise, rearrange, and renew your life, living daily from authenticity. Learning to let go, embracing that you're loveable is what lets you embody what it is to rewrite the ontological rules of being. Growing as a 'human becoming' is you calling an end to the existential games too many humans tend to play. Let's face it: not one of those games is fun.
Renewal begins with self-understanding, setting aside old rules and regulations set by someone else, identifying your core values, naming and celebrating what you love. These tasks pour the foundation and let you place your cornerstones so you can build a healthy life. When you do so, you're free to live a life where differences are honored, respected, and treasured, where loving is genuine and obvious.
The first step is identifying what's true and natural for you—actually saying what you love. Giving voice to your intent ends the ultimate guessing game, and you no longer waste a minute trying to figure out what on earth 'normal' is, and begin refusing to try to be or do what someone else thinks you should do!
On this journey toward living coherently, you'll discover the natural rules of growth and evolution, deciding how you want to forge your path. Both your life and path are like a garden, meaning it's up to you to decide what you want to plant based on how you want to grow. The key to agency is self-understanding, self- acceptance, and self-appreciation, with this trifecta of character issuing an invitation to the Universe to co=operate in the High Play of regeneration.
Embracing body and spirit, declaring the end of self-induced suffering (the consequence of decisions made without clear and critical thinking) is how you begin mending, healing that allows you to make amends and chart your path of renewal. One of the most important items in the authenticity toolkit is the soap of self-forgiveness. Within this Learn-Earn-Action cycle, self-forgiveness allows you to transform what you've likely viewed as mistakes into valuable lessons, fertilizer for growth rather than barriers on your path. Self-forgiveness washes away the residue of fear that eclipses joy—use it and your light comes on, causing the boogie men and monsters hiding in the darkness to flee.
Your coherence journey begins with recognizing possibilities in your environment, assessing what's available to you. From there, you evaluate inner probabilities—finding clarity on what's physically possible, emotionally sustainable, cognitively sound, instinctively right, temporally feasible, and authentically aligned with your spirit. Learning to make this assessment with every decision establishes the solid foundation necessary to actualize your potential.
The practice of coherence is an ongoing reflection, regularly asking yourself: does this decision create ripples of coherence beyond what I can see? What becomes possible when you abandon the exhausting pursuit of "normal" and instead cultivate what's naturally aligned with your essence? As you practice this authenticity-based approach to life, notice how it manifests as a form of practical spirituality—free from ideological constraints yet deeply connected to something greater than yourself. These reflections are more than philosophical exercises— they're practical tools and actions you can implement to intentionally reinforce your journey to coherence, helping you continuously align your actions with your authentic core.
Inspiration
When you abandon the exhausting pursuit of 'normal' and embrace what's natural for you, self-forgiveness becomes your most powerful tool—transforming perceived mistakes into valuable lessons and washing away the residue of fear that eclipses joy, causing the shadows of self-doubt to flee in the light of your authentic being.
Consideration
Consider how recognizing the difference between what others expect and what aligns with your nature might reveal dimensions of personal power that past conformity to external standards has obscured.
Inquiry, Application, Implementation
How might approaching life as a garden where you decide what to plant transform your relationship with personal agency? In what ways could your authenticity- based decisions create ripples of coherence beyond what you can immediately see? What possibilities emerge when you view your path as a continuous journey of learning, earning regard, and taking aligned action rather than a destination to be reached?
The Passed
Fear of abandonment... sadness... grief... doubt... confusion... fear of rejection... Starving for approval... loss of control... loss of physical health...
Do any of these resonate with you or feel familiar?
Healing presents significant challenges, especially when we discover existential fears have sent deep taproots into how we think and how we feel about ourselves and others. Dealing with the traumatic brain injury caused by severe oxygen deprivation was terrifying, especially hearing the medical team declare that life as I'd lived it—full tilt—was over. Hearing their prognosis, that I would likely die from a stroke within two years, caused every one of these emotional viruses to attack my body, heart, brain, and spirit. Once again, I had to admit that a flawed decision had led to unimaginable consequences, and being human, it wouldn't be the last time I'd replicate some aspect rooted in my dysfunctional pattern of origin...
Our decisions and those others make without consulting us can deliver circumstances that flip our realities upside down. Learning to live from inside out radically changes how you respond, allowing your life to unfold, sometimes with elegant ease. Think about how adopting another's values, or conforming to someone else's expectations—whether for a day, months, or years—requires you to surrender a piece of self.
Living is a breath-by-breath journey, with growth cycles and seasons continuously transforming everything. Learning to free ourselves from survival mode, resigning our memberships in all versions of the "Go along to get along" club. It may mean exiting groups and saying farewell to people we once thought of as friends. Such departures rarely come easy, but with the refined perspective that comes with 20/20 hindsight, we realize we never actually belonged. This is what eventually let me withdraw from the protocols my husband had established with my medical team. Relinquishing the notion that M.D. stood for "Medical Deity" changed everything.
As years went by and the understanding grew as to the nature of this dynamic framework and how it was universally applicable, my life transformed in ways I could never dare to dream. And yes, I've had my share of nightmares and dark nights of the soul. However, some of these times led to remarkable insights, with art my way of painting myself out of a corner or escaping a box. Color has long been the transition from darkness to light, fingerprinting my way of expressing its development across decades.
Inspiration
Living is a breath-by-breath adventure, and as you grow through the seasons and cycles of life, remember that Time changes everything all the time!
Consideration
Consider how viewing your connection with yourself through the lens of a dynamic pattern might reveal aspects of your resilience that conventional medical or social paradigms have obscured.
Inquiry toward Implementation
How might recognizing universal fears as 'emotional viruses' rather than personal failings shift your approach to healing? In what ways could reclaiming your authority from external 'experts' transform your relationship with the challenges that come your way?
Chapter 1: Core. Context. Flow
First Principle
First Principle Zero
“The Mereon Matrix is dynamic, perceived as a spatial-temporal nexus: its coherent Pattern is structurally independent of the external environment yet inseparable from it.”
Translated as to how it applies to living and lifelike systems:
“Connected to everything, independent yet inseparable, you are a dynamic system living. When your core values and vision are coherent, you\re able to grow with the Flow.”
First Principle One
“A whole system embodies all forms, and the diversity of form and perspectives are seen in its unity.”
Translated as to how it applies to your life and making a decision:
“You have eight ArcTypes—two external, six are internal—each with a distinctive yet interconnected intelligence.”
First Principle Two
“A system has a context with the capacity to set orientation, determine polarity and direct functions; at its centre is a logical core that's responsible for continuously maintaining sustainability and ordering functionality.”
Translated as to how it applies to your life and making a decision:
“Your core values are the nucleus of your life, they are ‘quality control central’ for your existence, and must be aligned with every decision you make about what you take into your life.”
If you change the way you look at things, the things you look at change.
—Wayne Dyer
The Alchemy of Vulnerability
Recognizing what genuinely resonates in your heart and how it integrates into your life creates profound self-empowerment. This awareness often reveals an unexpected paradox: characteristics you've dismissed as weaknesses frequently conceal your most potent gifts. In the war for your choices, those who seek to control your decisions often exploit these perceived vulnerabilities—yet these same qualities hold the key to your liberation. Consider this transformative possibility: what you perceive as vulnerability actually connects you to your humanity and opens doorways to authentic connection through the courage to request assistance.
The journey beyond borrowed beliefs involves developing a refined skill set that honors both your strengths and vulnerabilities with equal respect. When you embrace vulnerability as strength, you reclaim territory in the battle for authentic choice—no longer surrendering your power to those who would weaponize your humanity against you. This integration eliminates the perceived need for defensive barriers—whether rigid as ice or flimsy as paper. Imagine the liberation of no longer exhausting yourself by repeatedly colliding with invisible limitations, those glass ceilings that restrict without revealing their presence. When you acknowledge your vulnerable places—your metaphorical Achilles heel—you transform potential fragility into conscious strength.
Embracing both your inherent qualities and those shaped by social conditioning enhances your capacity to recognize and honor your constellation of inner voices. This acknowledgment creates sovereignty over your choices—when all aspects of self are welcomed, external forces lose their power to manipulate through shame or fear. This acknowledgment creates the conditions for these distinct aspects of self to harmonize and collaborate effectively. The resulting coherence generates tangible benefits, transforming abstract values into concrete experiences that make personally meaningful outcomes measurable in ways you can witness and celebrate.
Inspiration
When you welcome aspects of yourself previously judged as weaknesses, you transform perceived limitations into distinctive strengths—discovering that what makes you most uniquely human isn't perfect capability but authentic
vulnerability shared in connection with others. In this transformation, you become immune to those who would use your humanity as a weapon against your power to choose.
Consideration
Consider how reframing a characteristic you've labeled as weakness might reveal dimensions of potential that past patterns of self-criticism —often internalized from those seeking to control your choices— have obscured.
InQuiry. Application. Implementation.
How might identifying one trait you've historically viewed as a weakness transform your relationship with your whole self when seen through a lens of potential strength? In what ways could acknowledging your vulnerabilities reclaim your power from those who taught you to hide them? What possibilities emerge when you recognize that authentic power doesn't come from perfect independence but from conscious interdependence grounded in self-knowledge — and that this truth liberates you from those who profit from your isolation?
Core Values, Wellth & Wellbeing
You’re unique because your starstuff came from two special stars, your parents. Your biological blending began in what Sir Fred Hoyle called the Big Bang, energy taking form to shape, inform, reform and renew you to this day. While your family and culture contributed to your values, attitudes and beliefs, you may find you need to rearrange them if your foundation feels ungrounded, unstable, or sometimes feels like quicksand. Embedded values are hard to change, but they can readily be rearranged.
Core values differ from fleeting preferences or situational ethics. They are the bedrock principles that remain constant regardless of external circumstances or social pressures. Think of them as the non-negotiable aspects of how you choose to exist in the world.
The process of identifying your core values requires both reflection and honesty. Consider the moments when you've felt most alive, most proud, or most at peace. What principles were you honoring in those moments? Conversely, recall times when you've felt internal conflict or regret. Were you acting in ways that contradicted what truly matters to you?
Identifying your core values is up to you. Serving as your North Star, they guide your decisions and actions at all times, even in the most challenging circumstances. When your choices are in alignment with your core values, you increase the quality of your life, living with a profound sense of coherence where your words and actions reflect authenticity.
Knowing how people often struggle with naming their core values, consider the following to help jump start your naming: health, family, friendship, learning, integrity, compassion, creativity, freedom, justice, growth, connection, service, and authenticity—but your unique constellation of values is a reflection your essence and personal journey. The key is selecting values that genuinely resonate with your deepest self, not those you believe you "should" hold.
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Remember that naming your values is only the beginning. The journey to coherence involves increasingly aligning your daily choices, relationships, and life direction with these fundamental principles. When your actions consistently honor your core values, you build an unshakable foundation that can weather any storm.
Inspiration
Though your values may have been shaped by family, culture, and experience, the power to recognize, rearrange, and realign them belongs solely to you—granting you the authority to transform quicksand into bedrock upon which you can build a life of meaning and purpose.
Consideration
Consider how identifying and honoring your core values might reveal dimensions of authenticity that past patterns of living by others' expectations have obscured.
InQuiry. Application. Implementation.
How might recognizing your unique constellation of values transform your approach to decision-making in challenging situations? In what ways could consciously arranging your values create a more coherent foundation for your
life? What possibilities emerge when you view your daily choices through the lens of what you are truly willing to live for rather than merely what you've been taught to accept?
Self Knowledge. Self KnowING.
Self-knowledge frees you from the need to blindly follow someone else. Unshackled from external authority figures represents a fundamental shift in human development. When you understand your own nature, values, and purpose, you develop an accurate knowledge of your choices far more reliably than imposed doctrines or societal expectations.
Self-awareness—being free to connect your conscience and be consciously aware in the moment—allows you to live your life obeying the Universal Law of Love, while playing by your rules. This dynamic balance between universal principles and personal expression creates a pathway for authentic living that transcends cultural boundaries. By remaining present and connected to your deepest values, you navigate life's complexities with both compassion for others and fidelity to your unique perspective.
This integration of universal love with individual expression reflects a maturity of consciousness that moves beyond both rigid conformity and self-centered rebellion. Instead, it represents a third way—one where your actions naturally align with broader principles of compassion while expressing your distinctive gifts and perspective.
Moving beyond belief requires this journey toward authentic self-knowledge. Many of us have absorbed the unexamined belief that external authorities— whether religious institutions, political leaders, cultural norms, or even charismatic individuals—possess greater wisdom about our lives than we do. This assumption creates a dependency that stunts our development and distances us from our innate capacity for discernment.
At the heart of this liberation process is the discovery of your core values—those fundamental principles that consistently guide your decisions when you're at your best. Unlike imposed beliefs, authentic core values emerge from within as you observe what consistently matters most to you across various contexts and challenges. They represent your unique expression of universal principles, filtered through your distinctive perspective and experiences.
Identifying these core values provides a reliable foundation for evaluating beliefs you've inherited or absorbed. When a belief contradicts one of your core values, this dissonance signals the need for examination. For example, if you discover
that authenticity is a core value for you, yet hold beliefs that encourage pretense to please others, this contradiction invites deeper inquiry. Similarly, if connection emerges as central to your nature, beliefs that promote isolation or division warrant reconsideration.
The path to intentional believings begins with questioning the assumption of external authority while simultaneously clarifying your core values. Rather than rejecting all guidance (which merely creates another form of reactivity), you develop the capacity to evaluate wisdom from any source against these deepening values. This represents a shift from accepting beliefs because of who presents them to embracing understandings because they align with what genuinely matters to you.
Self-knowledge becomes the foundation for reclaiming your power. As you become increasingly familiar with your unique constellation of values, talents, and purpose, you naturally release beliefs that contradict your genuine nature. This isn't rejection for its own sake, but rather the natural consequence of growing alignment with your authentic self.
Inspiration
When you clarify your core values through genuine self-knowledge, you transform inherited beliefs into intentional choices—discovering that moving beyond external authority opens the path to a life where your actions naturally express what matters most to you.
Consideration
Consider how identifying your authentic core values might reveal dimensions of wisdom that past patterns of accepting imposed principles have obscured.
InQuiry. Application. Implementation.
How might articulating your core values transform your ability to evaluate inherited beliefs? In what ways could recognizing the difference between imposed principles and authentic values help you move beyond unexamined assumptions about how to live? What possibilities emerge when you build your life around what genuinely matters to you rather than what others have insisted should matter?
IN. THRU. OUT.
Stop and think about what you choose to bring into your life, what you say ‘Yes’ to. Consider the importance you give—or don't—to what you eat. Clearly, you know if you eat something that's obviously gone bad or has been contaminated, you're going to get sick. All you have to do is think about a time when you opened a package and something made you realize you had to bring it up to your nose for a serious sniff test.
The same law is true for anything you choose to allow into your life. If you take a decision or let someone else make it for you, chances are you've failed to consider your core values, meaning, your health and well being is at risk. Everything you decide to take in, must go through, sustaining and energizing your life before you're able to optimize or realize its potential.
If what you take in turns out to be toxic, your ability to grow with the flow is compromised. What you take in must contribute to the growth and vitality of your entire body. By consulting all your inner senses, you InPower and InLighten your life, this making a positive impact in every aspect of your world.
This cycle of conscious filtering extends far beyond physical nourishment to include the information you consume, the relationships you cultivate, and the thoughts you entertain. Each input creates a ripple through your being, transforming as it moves through you before emerging as your unique contribution. By becoming attentive to what crosses your boundaries, you exercise profound self-care that honors your deepest values. This awareness allows you to recognize when something doesn't align with your authentic self, giving you the clarity to release what diminishes your vitality and welcome what enhances it.
Through this intentional process, you become both guardian and gardener of your inner landscape.
Inspiration
When you develop discernment about what crosses your boundaries—from food to information to relationships—you transform casual consumption into conscious creation—becoming both guardian and gardener of your inner landscape rather than a passive recipient of whatever enters your field.
Consideration
Consider how applying the "sniff test" to all aspects of life might reveal dimensions of vitality that past patterns of unconscious acceptance have obscured.
InQuiry. Application. Implementation
How might recognizing the unified law of input-throughput-output reshape your relationship with what you allow into your life? In what ways could consulting all your inner senses before saying "yes" change how you maintain your energetic boundaries? What emerges when you view yourself not as separate from what you consume but as the living transformation process through which everything must pass before contributing to your world?
Your Quality of Life List (QLL)
Living authentically means knowing what evokes genuine joy and nurtures your authentic expression. In the section below make a list that includes: individuals, activities, nourishment, and pursuits that generate meaningful purpose in measurable ways. It might include learning, travel, cooking, painting, art, a sport and much more. Compile this inventory without hesitation, apology, or greediness, staying practical, knowing that there is a point of knowing when ‘enough is enough’. Remember not to confuse a genuine quality of life with what others determine are the high water mark of a lifestyle. Quality of life it not about money or material possessions.
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This powerful catalog becomes your personal compass, directing you toward what holds authentic significance in your journey. As you ‘drink’ from these wellsprings of joy, notice how they typically require minimal effort and resources yet yield immeasurable returns in deepening your sense of wellbeing. I discover a profound sense of joy in the water, fulfillment emerges through connection, creative expression, or natural immersion rather than acquisition or consumption.
The guidance to document "without apology, neediness or greediness" frees you from external judgments about what should generate fulfillment. Your authentic sources of joy may contrast dramatically with cultural expectations or others'
preferences—standing at your threshold like a curious Bringer scanning for novel possibilities. This contrast doesn't diminish their value; it confirms their authenticity as genuinely yours.
Approach this inventory as recognition of what already exists rather than an aspiration toward improvement. Allow yourself to be surprised by what emerges when honestly assessing what awakens your spirit. Each item you acknowledge becomes another thread weaving into the tapestry of your authentic existence.
Inspiration
When you honor what genuinely brings you joy without filtering through others' expectations, you transform disconnection into authentic alignment—creating a personal compass that guides your choices toward what truly nourishes rather than what merely impresses or temporarily satisfies.
Consideration
Consider how identifying your authentic sources of fulfillment might reveal dimensions of yourself that past patterns of conforming to external standards of success or happiness have obscured.
InQuiry. Application. Implementation
How might consulting your Quality of Life List transform your approach to everyday decisions about how you spend your time and energy? In what ways could recognizing the difference between what society values and what truly enlivens you change your relationship with "success" and "failure"? What possibilities emerge when you allow your Bringer self to scan for and welcome experiences that align with your authentic nature rather than pursuing what others have determined should bring satisfaction?
The Pattern That Connects
In 1996, I wrote “The Pattern”, sharing how two near death experiences changed my life, happening at a point where I wasn't sure life was worth living. As paradoxical as it seems, these dances with the arcing angles of death actually gave me a reason to live.
The first step was healing myself, physically and emotionally. Every belief I’d ever entertained and those I’d been force fed were gone. While I could remember minute details of the dying experience, the Pattern itself—what I knew was most essential—remained just beyond my conscious grasp. What was frustrating was the unshakable knowing that I’d seen the strand of the tapestry weaving all creation; Music was generated by light moving inside a bubble, a rainbow that spiralled left and right, forming all matter with Love the heart of all matter.
Longing to remember, and with nothing tangible to hold onto, I set out on a quest that was littered with gauntlets. Running them at my peril, my greatest desire to heal myself, remember, and understand relationships. My knowing was unshakable—somehow in dying I saw how to reclaim and reconnect all the pieces of self. My journey was to heal the traumatic brain injury so I could remember, eventually finding the pieces of self that had been ignored, misplaced, lost, or stolen.
Inspiration
This journey of remembering and reconnecting is now in its 38th year, and has led to what you now hold in your hands. This book is only the key, a kind of Rosetta Stone you need to “Crack the Coherence Code” and live your life with authenticity.
Consideration
Consider how pursuing remembrance of what seems just beyond conscious grasp might reveal aspects of your wholeness that conventional narratives of healing and recovery have obscured.
InQuiry. Application. Implementation
How might viewing near-death experiences as portals to deeper understanding rather than traumatic endpoints transform your relationship with life's most
challenging moments? In what ways could your own "dances with the arcing angles of death" reveal patterns of connection previously invisible in ordinary consciousness? What forgotten or dismissed pieces of yourself might be waiting for recognition and reintegration into your complete being? As you engage with this "Rosetta Stone" for cracking the coherence code, what seemingly separate dimensions of your existence might reveal themselves as intimately connected through the Pattern's unifying framework?
The Directional Flow of Influence
Having identified your core values and clarified your vision, it’s time to examine the direction that you allow influence to enter your life. Consider the following approaches:
External → Internal
Absorbing information at face value without personal verification
Rejecting perspectives or individuals that challenge your accepted narrative
Superficially resisting pressure while ultimately surrendering to demands for conformity
Internalizing others’ limiting assessments of your character as permanent
Internal → External
Engaging with life through a lens of open curiosity and independent verification
Expanding beyond comfortable boundaries with courage, naturally reforming as you grow
Consciously directing your evolution through intentional rebuilding of thought patterns
Embracing transformation as evidence of authentic development
These contrasting pathways reveal more than just attitudes—they illuminate how power flows through your relationships and decisions. When external voices consistently override your internal knowing, you gradually disconnect from your authentic center. Conversely, when your actions emerge from internal clarity, your relationships become expressions of genuine connection rather than obligation.
To experience this distinction directly, try this practice: When someone requests your assistance with something “that will only take a minute”—even for tasks you'd typically agree to without hesitation—pause before automatically agreeing. Instead, reply with calm confidence: “Thanks for thinking of me. I’d love to help
but I’m not available for the next ten minutes. If you still need help after that, please check back.”
Then use those ten minutes exclusively for yourself.
This simple boundary exercise often reveals deeply ingrained patterns. You might notice surprising emotional responses—guilt, anxiety, relief, or empowerment.
These reactions provide valuable information about which directional flow currently dominates your relationships.
Inspiration
When you shift from absorbing external pressures to expressing internal clarity, you transform automated reactions into conscious choices—creating relationships grounded in authentic connection rather than habitual compliance or fear of disapproval.
Consideration
Consider how distinguishing between these two directional flows might reveal patterns of influence that past habits of automatic agreement have obscured.
InQuiry. Application. Implementation.
How might establishing a ten-minute buffer before responding to requests transform your awareness of unconscious relationship patterns? In what ways could your newly-clarified values serve as internal guidance when external pressures arise? What possibilities emerge when you recognize that authentic boundaries aren't walls that separate but filters that ensure what enters your life aligns with who you truly are?
The Power of Consciously Declining
Making a decision that’s best for you prevents self-condemnation, internal shaming, and blaming others—even though it doesn't shield you from people's judgment. Their judgment is criticism that has nothing to do with your critical thinking. Their opinion is about them, not you.
Being willing to ask and answer six simple questions is critical before committing your time to something or someone. Discovering wholeness, authenticity, means learning to pay attention the minute one of your inner voices says “No.” The first piece of self to say “No.” Protects the rest.
Learning when to decline an opportunity is a life-affirming skill. Follow this practice and you will end the turmoil and anguish that follows ignoring what any part of you knows is true for you. When you honor your inner wisdom, each “No” becomes a powerful “Yes” to living from authenticity.
Inspiration
When you make a decision that's aligned with your values and vision you grow personal wisdom, transforming a well-considered “No thank you” into a profound “Yes” to your authentic self. Doing so creates space and time for you to engage in becoming, attending to that which genuinely resonates and liberates you from the turmoil of betraying what you know to be true for you.
Consideration
Consider how honoring the subtle signals from the inner voices you will meet in this journey might reveal dimensions of clarity that past patterns of external validation and people-pleasing have obscured.
InQuiry. Application. Implementation
How might making time to ask and answer no more than six simple questions before making a commitment transform your relationship with time? In what ways might distinguishing between others' judgment and self-criticism change how you evaluate an opportunity? What possibilities might appear when you recognize that declining something that isn’t aligned with your values and vision create more space for what does?
Defining Your Existence
The archetypal inquiries that once shaped human consciousness—“Who am I?’ and ‘Why am I here?”—have undergone a disturbing transformation in our contemporary landscape. These timeless wonderings have gradually been supplanted by shadowy counterparts: “What's in it for me?’ and ‘Why should I care?”.
This shift reflects more than linguistic evolution—it reveals a fundamental reorientation of selfhood from outward expansion to inward contraction.
Examine the energetic signature of these modern questions. Both pulse with an undercurrent of scarcity and acquisition, their roots deeply embedded in perceived lack rather than potential abundance. They position you as passive recipient rather than active creator, waiting for external justification rather than internal calling.
Yet the questions we ignore and the questions we answer actually determine the quality of the lives we live and the relationships we co=create. Your existential inquiries and the decisions they lead to function as both compass and foundation
— establishing the parameters through which you filter experience, extract meaning and determine value. Like every aspect of your authentic self, the inquiry at the heart of what your life is about questions aren't static monuments. They are inner entities, aspects of you that evolve with you on your journey through Time and this lifetime.
Creating space to formulate questions that genuinely reflect your current position on life’s spiralling path yields surprising insights. The questions and issues that seem huge in your twenties may seem shallow, hollow or utterly irrelevant in your thirties. Similarly, the question that burn as you strive for educational or professional achievement are likely to transform entirely when you’re growing through a period of loss following a significant life transition. These shifts aren't evidence of inconsistency but rather confirmation of your continuous evolution.
Think about your current existential questions and compare them with those from earlier chapters of your story, and you’re likely to discover some illuminating patterns.What you’ll find is likely that how you’ve prioritized your core values have been rearranged; others are likely to highlight dramatic or subtle adjustments in how you envision your sense of purpose. All offer valuable information about
your authentic trajectory when approached with curious awareness rather than rigid judgment.
Inspiration
When you consciously craft authentic existential questions rather than adopting cultural defaults, you transform passive consumption into active creation— discovering that meaningful inquiry doesn't emerge from external expectations but from the unique intersection of your lived experience and evolving awareness.
Consideration
Consider how examining your current existential questions might reveal dimensions of your authentic development that past patterns of unquestioned assumptions have obscured.
InQuiry. Application. Implementation.
How might formulating questions that genuinely reflect your present position transform your relationship with purpose and meaning? In what ways could recognizing the evolution of your fundamental inquiries change how you navigate transitions and challenges in measurable ways? What possibilities emerge when you approach your existential questions not as fixed problems requiring permanent solutions but as dynamic companions reflecting your continuous growth?
Cosmic Resonance. Karmic Evidence.
Every whispered word, each passing thought you say out loud, and subtle gesture you make reverberates through the invisible architecture of existence. The universe—that vast yet intricate intelligence—receives and records each nuance of your presence with perfect fidelity. This isn't metaphorical poetry. It's true, defined in the tangible physics of the interconnection between everything.
Consider the implications of your cosmic signature. You aren't merely passing through an indifferent world but actively participating in the reality that unfolds around and within you. Each choice—whether seemingly small or visibly consequential—contributes distinctive patterns to the universal tapestry. Your speech, your expressed intentions, your physical movements—all leave impressions in the field that connects all manifestation.
Being conscious of this fact transforms ordinary moments. It lets you bring them to the threshold of a decision, awaiting an invitation into the investigative realm of probabilities. There, inside, you unfold and consider the impact this opportunity is likely to have on your body, heart, and spirit—these just part of the story—as you contemplate the reality of its potential. Every action can be a conscious selection
—a choice you bring in to consider how it might move through and out of your life. Think about it—every possibility you take on shows up as a manifestation of your unique signature in every relationship and the world.
Your physical presence alters material reality in observable ways. The carbon dioxide from your exhale nourishes plants, transforming your breath into growth. Your body's warmth affects the air currents around you. Your cells continually regenerate, leaving traces of your DNA in your environment.
When you choose to express emotions, you contribute to the collective atmosphere. The feelings you articulate and embody—whether anger, grief, joy, or compassion—influence the emotional climate you and others experience. This resonance emerges through your expressed emotions and actions, contributing to our shared human experience in ways that extend beyond immediate physical proximity.
The ideas you deliberately articulate and consistently embody through action can develop meaningful longevity. A concept you thoughtfully express and demonstrate today might inspire others tomorrow, potentially evolving into
innovations or new understandings long after you've moved on. This continuation of influence happens not through unexpressed thoughts but through the conscious choices you make about which ideas to voice and embody.
Your presence speaks in ways beyond words. Others sense the alignment between what you say and what you do—between your claims and your embodiment. This recognition responds to genuine congruence rather than performance. In this domain, only what you've consciously considered and chosen to express creates lasting impact.
Inspiration
When you recognize yourself as an active participant making conscious choices, you transform routine activities into meaningful expressions—creating your legacy through moment-by-moment alignment between your core values and your deliberate actions.
Consideration
Consider how acknowledging the impact of your considered choices might reveal possibilities for contribution that past patterns of automatic reaction or resignation have obscured.
InQuiry. Application. Implementation.
How might understanding the relationship between threshold consideration and expressed action change your approach to everyday decisions? In what ways could recognizing the difference between unexpressed thoughts and embodied choices influence how you communicate your emotions and ideas? What options become available when you view each moment as an opportunity to bring possibilities to your threshold for careful consideration before deciding which to invite into full expression through your actions?
The Power of ING
One of the intents of this book is to open the realization of the transformation that occurs when 'ing' is added to a word. Self-awareness enables your life to function in a highly engaging and dynamic manner. Knowing that you're growing, evolving and moving forward, consider the distinction between "balance" and "balancing."
The addition of these three simple letters transforms static concepts into living processes. While "balance" suggests a fixed state or destination, "balancing" acknowledges the continuous, moment-by-moment adjustments required for harmony. This subtle shift invites you to embrace the fluid nature of existence rather than grasping for permanent stability. As you recognize yourself as a being- in-process—always becoming, always unfolding—you release the pressure of perfection and discover the joy of conscious participation in your own development. This dynamic perspective honors the natural rhythms of growth that pulse through every aspect of your authentic journey.
Think of the profound difference between "stand" and "standing." To stand implies a static position, a fixed posture that resists movement. To be standing recognizes the countless micro-adjustments your body makes every second— muscles contracting and releasing, weight shifting almost imperceptibly, your entire system dynamically engaged in maintaining what appears motionless. Standing on one foot reveals this fact immediately; what seems like stillness is actually a complex dance of continuous response and adaptation.
The same transformation occurs throughout every domain of experience. "Think" suggests a completed mental event, while "thinking" acknowledges the flowing stream of consciousness that's always moving, always processing, always making new connections. "Feel" implies an emotional state, while "feeling" honors the fluid nature of your emotional landscape—the way feelings arise, shift, intensify, and transform in response to your ongoing experience.
Perhaps most significantly, consider "know" versus "knowing." To know something implies fixed certainty, a closed system of understanding that resists new information. To be knowing acknowledges that understanding is an ongoing process, always open to refinement, always ready to evolve as new experiences provide fresh perspectives. Knowing keeps you curious rather than certain, engaged rather than concluded.
This isn't merely a linguistic preference—it's a fundamental orientation toward existence itself. When you embrace the "ing" perspective, you align yourself with the actual nature of reality, which is always in motion, always becoming, always creating new possibilities through the interplay of countless dynamic forces.
"Believing" rather than "belief" acknowledges that your relationship with ideas is alive and responsive. "Learning" rather than "learned" keeps you open to discovery. "Loving" rather than "love" recognizes that authentic connection requires ongoing attention and choice. "Creating" rather than "creation" honors your role as an active participant in bringing forth what's possible.
The power of "ing" extends to your relationship with challenges as well. "Problem" feels heavy and fixed, while "problem-solving" emphasizes your capacity to engage creatively with difficulties. "Healing" acknowledges that wellness isn't a destination but an ongoing process of alignment and care. "Growing" celebrates the continuous expansion that defines authentic development.
This dynamic orientation transforms how you experience time itself. Instead of living toward some future moment when you'll finally "arrive," you recognize that you're always arriving, always in the process of becoming who you're meant to be. This perspective eliminates the chronic sense of being "not there yet" and replaces it with appreciation for the journey itself.
The transformation from static to dynamic thinking doesn't mean rejecting stability—it means understanding that true stability comes from fluid responsiveness rather than rigid resistance. Like a tree that bends with the wind rather than breaking against it, you develop the kind of strength that comes from flexibility, the kind of security that emerges from trust in your ability to respond wisely to whatever emerges.
Living in the realm of "ing" requires a different kind of courage—the willingness to remain open when certainty feels safer, to keep growing when stopping feels easier, to continue loving when protecting feels smarter. This courage isn't reckless; it's grounded in the recognition that the alternative—trying to freeze life into static categories—creates the very suffering you're attempting to avoid.
When you fully embrace the power of "ing," you discover that you're not trying to solve your life like a puzzle with fixed pieces. Instead, you're painting your
existence with colors that shift and blend, creating beauty through the very process of creation itself. You're not seeking to know yourself completely but to enjoy the ongoing adventure of self-discovery. You're not trying to love perfectly but delighting in the endless nuances of loving.
Inspiration
When you embrace the transformative power of "ing," you shift from grasping for static certainty to dancing with dynamic possibility—discovering that true security comes not from having arrived but from trusting your capacity to keep growing, learning, and creating in response to life's ever-changing invitation.
Consideration
Consider how transforming static concepts into dynamic processes might reveal dimensions of aliveness and possibility that past attachment to fixed outcomes has obscured.
InQuiry. Application. Implementation.
How might shifting from "balance" to "balancing" change your approach to navigating life's complexities? In what ways could embracing "knowing" rather than "know" transform your relationship with learning and discovery? What possibilities emerge when you recognize yourself not as someone seeking to arrive somewhere but as someone always arriving, always becoming, always participating in the ongoing creation of your experience?
The Power of the Pause
Think about the last time you encountered a challenging situation. Your initial impulse urged immediate reaction, yet somehow you suspended that automatic response. In that suspended moment, you created space for reflection before acting. Did this interval enable you to engage without triggering conflict, casting shame, or assigning blame?
The gap between impulse and action contains transformative power few other spaces hold. Within this momentary sanctuary, you transition from reactive automaticity to the realm of conscious choice—where authentic response becomes possible. This subtle yet profound distinction marks the boundary between being carried by circumstance and charting your own course through experience.
When you cultivate this brief haven of reflection, you tap into wisdom that transcends emotional triggers and thought patterns that typically narrow your vision. Remember, each decision—those consciously made, those hastily taken, or those abdicated entirely—shapes your life's trajectory. Every crossroads offers a chance to align your actions with your deepest values, weighing the probability that a choice might disrupt your path or squander precious time. The practice of pausing dismantles compulsive patterns fueled by outdated attitudes and others' expectations, revealing the pathway to wholeness.
As this practice of pausing becomes integrated, you develop an inner sovereignty essential for meeting life's complexities with clarity, compassion, and genuine presence.
Inspiration
When you honor the space between stimulus and response, you transform reactive patterns into conscious choice—creating a sanctuary where deeper wisdom emerges and authentic alignment becomes possible rather than remaining trapped in automatic behaviors that betray your values.
Consideration
Consider how cultivating this momentary pause might reveal dimensions of freedom that past patterns of immediate reaction and emotional triggering have obscured.
InQuiry. Application. Implementation
How might distinguishing between reaction and response reshape your approach to challenging situations? In what ways could examining the probability of a choice sending your life "sideways" change how you navigate important decisions? What emerges when you recognize that this brief sanctuary of reflection connects you with an inner sovereignty beyond the reach of external circumstances or others' expectations?
Normal?
The relentless chase to align with someone else's definition of 'normal' drains your vital energy and dims your unique light. Consider this revelation: what science and society label as 'normal' actually represents statistical abstractions derived from studies of 'abnormal' conditions.
This understanding liberates you from pursuing phantoms. Statistical averages merely capture mathematical midpoints—not aspirational ideals or some supposed ‘truths’. By shedding these arbitrary constraints, you uncover rhythms and expressions uniquely your own. Throughout this journey toward wholeness, you'll recognize that your distinctive qualities aren't flaws awaiting correction but essential threads in humanity's diverse tapestry.
Questioning these artificial constructs allows you to reclaim precious energy previously sacrificed at conformity's altar. This recaptured vitality fuels authentic growth and self-expression. Through this perspective shift, 'normality' transforms from a confining boundary into an expansive celebration of life's magnificent diversity.
The absurdity of the 'normal' pursuit becomes clear when you examine its origins. Medical and psychological research typically begins with populations experiencing difficulties, disorders, or diseases. Researchers then work backward to establish what they call 'baseline normal'—essentially defining health as the absence of pathology rather than the presence of vitality. This approach is like defining light by studying darkness, or trying to understand music by analyzing silence.
Think about how this backwards methodology has shaped entire industries. Educational systems teach to imaginary 'average' students who don't actually exist. Healthcare defines wellness by the absence of symptoms rather than the presence of thriving. Mental health professionals often focus on eliminating problems rather than cultivating resilience and authentic expression. Even our economic systems are built around mythical 'normal' consumers making 'rational' choices that real humans rarely make.
The pressure to conform to these statistical ghosts creates what we might call 'normal anxiety'—the persistent worry that you're somehow deficient because you don't match an artificial standard that was never meant to be a goal in the first
place. This anxiety wastes enormous amounts of psychological energy that could be directed toward discovering and developing your authentic capacities.
Consider the revolutionary implications of releasing this chase. When you stop trying to fit into someone else's measurements, you can finally discover your own dimensions. Your sleep patterns might not match the recommended eight hours, but they might perfectly serve your unique circadian rhythms. Your learning style might not align with conventional educational approaches, but it might be precisely what allows you to absorb and integrate information in ways that feel natural and effective for you.
Your emotional responses might seem 'too sensitive' or 'not sensitive enough' compared to some imagined norm, but they might be exactly the level of sensitivity that allows you to navigate your particular life circumstances with wisdom and grace. Your career path might look unconventional on paper, but it might weave together your diverse interests and abilities in ways that create unprecedented value and fulfillment.
The liberation from 'normal' extends to your relationships as well. Instead of trying to love, communicate, or connect according to standardized relationship models, you can discover the unique rhythms and expressions that emerge naturally between you and the specific people in your life. Some relationships thrive on daily contact; others flourish with space between connections. Some people express care through words; others through actions, presence, or shared silence.
This shift from conformity to authenticity doesn't mean rejecting all social agreements or ignoring practical considerations. It means distinguishing between useful conventions that serve collective coordination and arbitrary standards that serve no one's actual wellbeing. Traffic rules help people navigate roads safely; fashion rules often exist primarily to sell products and maintain artificial hierarchies.
The energy you reclaim from abandoning the 'normal' chase becomes available for what truly matters: developing your unique gifts, building meaningful relationships, contributing to causes that resonate with your values, and creating expressions that reflect your authentic perspective. This isn't selfish—it's how you offer your genuine contribution to the collective human experience.
When you embrace your distinctive qualities as features rather than bugs, you discover that what makes you different often makes you valuable. Your particular combination of sensitivities, interests, abilities, and perspectives hasn't appeared in exactly this configuration before, nor will it again. This uniqueness isn't accidental—it's how consciousness explores its infinite possibilities through individual expression.
The courage to be yourself in a world that's constantly trying to make you like everyone else becomes easier when you realize that 'everyone else' is also struggling with the same impossible standard. The 'normal' that seems so effortless for others is actually just as much of a performance for them as it would be for you. Beneath the surface conformity, everyone is navigating their own complex inner landscape of needs, desires, fears, and dreams.
As you release the exhausting effort to be normal, you might discover that your authentic expression actually gives others permission to be more genuine as well. Your willingness to show up as yourself creates space for others to do the same, contributing to environments where diversity is celebrated rather than merely tolerated.
Inspiration
When you abandon the exhausting pursuit of 'normal' and embrace what's naturally true for you, you discover that your distinctive qualities aren't flaws to be corrected but essential contributions to humanity's magnificent diversity— transforming the energy once wasted on conformity into fuel for authentic growth and genuine self-expression.
Consideration
Consider how releasing attachment to statistical averages and social expectations might reveal dimensions of your authentic nature that past efforts to fit in have obscured.
InQuiry. Application. Implementation.
How might recognizing 'normal' as a statistical abstraction rather than an aspirational ideal change your relationship with your unique characteristics? In what ways could reclaiming energy previously spent on conformity transform your capacity for authentic expression and meaningful contribution? What
possibilities emerge when you view your distinctive qualities as essential threads in humanity's diverse tapestry rather than deviations from an imaginary standard?
Natural!
When your Youniverse begins to assert its authentic shape, pay attention to the quiet reluctance that surfaces within. This hesitation is cosmic wisdom whispering, not obstinance. It's a part of you saying, "This form no longer fits who I'm becoming."
The transition from pursuing 'normal' to embracing 'natural' marks one of the most significant shifts in human development. 'Natural' invites you to discover and express your inherent design, while 'normal' asks you to squeeze yourself into predetermined shapes. This is about uncovering what's always been true beneath the layers of conditioning and expectation.
Living naturally means honoring your inherent design rather than conforming to external moulds. Think of how a seed contains within itself everything necessary for its full expression. It needs only the right conditions to unfold according to its internal blueprint. Similarly, you carry within yourself a unique pattern of authentic expression that knows how to emerge when given space and attention.
The reluctance you feel when old forms no longer fit is intelligence recognizing misalignment. Your system naturally supports what serves your evolution, just as your body naturally absorbs nutrients or your immune system strengthens through appropriate challenges. This inner wisdom operates below the threshold of conscious thought, continuously evaluating whether your current circumstances support your authentic development.
As you reclaim your sovereign right to self-creation, reflective practices like journaling let you clearly see the landscape of your interior world. This mapping process reveals nurturing pathways as well as issues that are going to cause problems, 'boulders' littering your path. Writing becomes a conversation with yourself, allowing different aspects of your being to communicate and collaborate.
Through regular reflection, patterns emerge that might otherwise remain invisible. You begin to notice which activities energize you. You recognize which relationships support your growth. You identify which environments allow your authentic nature to flourish and which demand constant performance or pretense.
Look for patterns that will allow you to consciously cultivate what truly serves your life and facilitate positive changes, evolution. These patterns are rhythms discovered from within rather than rules imposed from outside. Perhaps you notice that you're most creative in the early morning, most social in the evening, most reflective during solitary walks. These observations become the foundation for designing a life that works with your natural rhythms.
The journey toward authenticity requires attentive—active—hearing. This means developing the capacity to listen to subtle internal signals. Your body, emotions, and intuition are constantly providing feedback about alignment, and this guidance often speaks in whispers.
When resistance emerges, recognize it as your inner compass calibrating to move you closer toward a decision that's based on what's true for you. The feeling of excitement before certain opportunities might be your authentic self guiding you toward environments that enhance your vitality. The hesitation before saying yes to opportunities that look good on paper might be protection preserving your energy for what truly matters.
Pay attention when you sense the need to strengthen or establish boundaries. Boundaries are the structures that allow your authentic nature to take shape. Just as a riverbank gives the water direction and power, personal boundaries channel your energy toward what matters most while protecting you from what depletes or distracts.
In decision making, such momentary pauses are realignment with your deepest values—a sacred redirection. Natural timing honors the wisdom of gestation, recognizing that some decisions ripen quickly while others require extended consideration. Learning to distinguish between procrastination and natural timing becomes a crucial skill in authentic living.
These pauses allow space for your various intelligences to contribute their perspectives. Your analytical mind might evaluate practical considerations while your emotional intelligence assesses the feeling-tone of different options. Your intuitive knowing might offer insights that logic alone couldn't reach, while your body wisdom provides information about which choices feel energizing at a cellular level.
By attuning to these internal signals, you craft an existence shaped by genuine choice. This means integrating practical considerations and social responsibilities with your authentic preferences.
Each pattern you willingly examine creates momentum for profound transformation and renewed alignment. The process compounds over time—each decision you make based on what’s true for you makes the next one easier to recognize, passing or implementing. As you build trust in your inner guidance, confidence in your ability to course-correct as needed replaces the fear of making 'wrong' decisions.
The natural approach recognizes that authenticity is a continuous process of alignment. Like a river that naturally flows around obstacles while maintaining its essential direction toward the sea, you learn to navigate life's complexities while staying true to your fundamental nature.
Scan your daily landscape for the distinction between expansive and constraining behaviors. Expansive choices tend to increase your energy, creativity, and sense of possibility. They feel like opening doors, breathing deeper, or stepping into larger versions of yourself.
This scanning becomes second nature with practice. You begin to notice immediately when conversations energize you, when activities feel aligned, when environments support your natural expression. This real-time feedback allows for continuous micro-adjustments that keep you aligned with your authentic path.
Trust the authority of your spirit's guidance as you compose each chapter of your unfolding narrative with deliberate intention. Your spirit—that essential aspect of yourself that remains constant through all changes—knows your deepest purpose and highest potential. Learning to distinguish this voice from the chatter of conditioning, expectation, and fear becomes one of the most valuable skills you can develop.
The natural path offers the satisfaction of living in integrity with what is true for you at any moment. When opportunities appear, you can evaluate them based on genuine alignment. When challenges arise, you meet them from a place of authentic strength.
This approach transforms your relationship with time itself. You begin to appreciate the perfection of your current developmental stage while remaining
open to continued growth. You're allowing yourself to unfold naturally, like a flower opening to the warmth of the sun.
Inspiration
When you honor your inherent design, you discover that living naturally is about allowing who you've always been to emerge with clarity and confidence— transforming resistance into compass and boundaries into sacred structures that support your authentic expression.
Consideration
Consider how attuning to your internal signals and natural rhythms might reveal dimensions of authentic choice that past compliance with external expectations has obscured.
InQuiry. Application. Implementation.
How might recognizing resistance as recalibration change your relationship with internal reluctance and hesitation? In what ways could scanning for expansive behaviors transform your daily decision-making process? What possibilities emerge when you trust your spirit's authority to guide the composition of your life narrative with deliberate intention?
The Harmony of Opposites
Your existence unfolds within a cosmos born of magnificent contradiction! The Mereon Knot itself reveals this fundamental principle—unified wholeness emerging from apparent opposition. As you navigate between polarities— structure and spontaneity, connection and independence, certainty and wonder— you discover these are complementary energies seeking integration rather than competing forces demanding resolution. Growing beyond beliefs is delicate dance of learning, unlearning, and relearning, it's you charting and travelling your unique path while learning how to find paradise in paradox!
When you courageously open previously sealed chambers of awareness, illumination floods in, awakening dormant wisdom that has always resided within you. Your essential practice becomes consulting all dimensions of your being before each decision—ensuring that what you welcome into your experience nourishes your physical vitality, resonates with your emotional landscape, aligns with your cognitive understanding, honors your intuitive knowing, respects your temporal boundaries, and expands your spiritual horizon.
Begin observing how paradoxical patterns appear throughout your daily existence. By embracing both elements of these seeming contradictions rather than choosing sides, you create a field where more comprehensive understanding naturally emerges. Each time you pause to consult your constellation of inner intelligences, you strengthen your capacity to find coherence within complexity. This attentiveness to what genuinely supports your wholeness becomes the foundation for authentic living.
The wisdom of paradox reveals itself everywhere once you develop eyes to see it. Your greatest strength often emerges from what you once considered weakness.
Your deepest vulnerability becomes the gateway to profound connection. Your most challenging relationships teach you about unconditional love. These reversals demonstrate that wholeness includes everything.
Consider how breath itself embodies this principle. Inhaling brings in fresh oxygen; exhaling releases what no longer serves. Both movements are essential— the rhythm between expansion and contraction creates the foundation for all biological existence. Your emotional life follows similar patterns, with joy
becoming more vivid when contrasted with quiet reflection, gratitude deepening through genuine challenge.
In relationships, this manifests as the delicate balance between autonomy and intimacy. Healthy connections require both the capacity to merge deeply with another and the ability to maintain your individual identity. The dance between coming together and moving apart creates the dynamic tension that keeps relationships alive and growing.
Your decision-making process becomes an opportunity to practice this integration. When facing choices, you can consult multiple intelligences simultaneously. Your logical mind evaluates practical considerations while your emotional intelligence assesses how options feel. Your body wisdom provides information about energy while your intuitive knowing offers insights that transcend rational analysis.
This multidimensional approach honors the complexity of your authentic nature. You're simultaneously a thinking being and a feeling being, an individual and a member of community, a physical body and a spiritual essence. Integrating these aspects allows for choices that serve your entire being.
The practice of finding paradise in paradox transforms your relationship with uncertainty and change. You discover that stability emerges from flexibility, security from adaptability, peace from embracing the constant flow of transformation. This orientation prepares you for navigating contemporary complexity with grace.
The harmony of opposites ultimately reveals that wholeness encompasses everything—light and shadow, strength and vulnerability, knowing and wonder. Your authentic path involves learning to dance with all these elements rather than trying to eliminate uncomfortable ones. This integration creates a life of richness, depth, and dynamic balance that honors the full spectrum of human experience.
Inspiration
When you embrace the harmony of opposites and find paradise in paradox, you discover that your greatest strength emerges from integrating all aspects of your being—transforming apparent contradictions into complementary energies that create the dynamic foundation for authentic living and conscious choice.
Consideration
Consider how consulting all dimensions of your being before making decisions might reveal pathways to wholeness that exclusive reliance on single perspectives has obscured.
InQuiry. Application. Implementation.
How might recognizing polarities as complementary rather than competing energies transform your approach to navigating life's complexities? In what ways could consulting your constellation of inner intelligences before each decision enhance your capacity for authentic choice? What possibilities emerge when you embrace paradox as a pathway to more comprehensive understanding rather than a problem requiring resolution?
Chapter 2: Bring It On!
First Principle
First Principle Three
“A system requires the local environment to provide adequate resources, ‘possibilities’ that are simplest and stable.”
Translated as to how it applies to your life and making a decision:
“Possibilities that you decide to take into your life must be sourced locally. Small and simple is best as it’s going to get complex fast. Remember, the only way to eat an elephant is one bite at a time.”
The First ArcType: The Bringer
The first of your eight ArcTypes is the Bringer—that vibrant facet of your being that pulses with curiosity and delights in discovering fresh opportunities in your local environment. In the war for your choices, this piece of you serves as a scout, yet this very openness makes you vulnerable to manipulation by those who package their agendas in attractive wrapping. This elemental aspect of self perpetually wonders "What if?" and challenges "Why not?" It's the simplest yet most receptive dimension of self, finding wonder in the previously unnoticed—a subtle fragrance, an unusual resonance, or an unexpected texture. This is the piece of you that loves novelty, gravitates toward connection, and is easily captivated by anyone or anything that sparkles with potential you want to taste or touch.
The essential wisdom for your Bringer nature lies in giving yourself permission to appreciate from afar, allowing time to let a situation fully unfold. It's essential to investigate any gleaming new prospect, relationship, or opportunity before handing it off to the 2nd ArcType you'll meet soon enough. Pausing for examination is crucial given how many battles for your choices are won or lost at the entry to your life, especially when seductive offerings disguise hidden obligations. Before beginning the 'baton race' inherent in a decision, you need to consider what's beneath the surface allure, determining if it's going to help or hinder your life.
The Bringer stands at the gateway of your existence, continuously monitoring your immediate surroundings for experiences that might enrich or InLighten your journey. Yet this guardian of possibilities must learn discernment—not everything that glitters serves your authentic path, and those seeking to control your choices often exploit the Bringer's natural enthusiasm. Your Bringer energy is 'hooked' on maintaining vitality, and can sometimes get stuck in an established pattern of what it brings to the 'door' of your life. Notice how this dynamic manifests in your daily existence— perhaps as an impulse to collect a beautiful stone, resisting or willingly trying a different food, incorporating a new idea, or welcoming an unfamiliar perspective into your awareness.
While there will be days your Bringer brings something mundane to the door, it also seeks out exhilarating and promising ideas. The 'what' can be people, food, drink,
toys, or tools, but remember, the Bringer doesn't decide because when its energy is unfocused and you instantly say 'Yes!", that decision can burn the house down, bloat your body, break your bank account, or ground your spirit! This is why external forces often target your Bringer first—overwhelming it with shiny distractions intentionally designed to bypass your protective wisdom. Enthusiasm may or may not be natural to you, but what your Bringer brings requires the rest of you to ensure balancing and thorough examination to determine if it's best for you. Without sufficient investigation, what this piece of you wants to believe is transformative may later reveal complexities hidden by glitter, 'smoke', or 'flames'.
Today, witness your Bringer at work—or better yet, "At play!" Notice what draws your attention and awakens your curiosity. Pay special attention to what's being marketed to your Bringer—who benefits when you bring certain things into your life? Remember that this dimension of yourself, when honored appropriately, prevents stagnation while bringing fresh elements into your inner landscape that can nourish and expand your understanding of both yourself and your world.
Inspiration
When you honor your Bringer's natural curiosity while tempering it with thoughtful examination, you transform impulsive collection into discerning selection—creating a gateway that welcomes aligned possibilities rather than indiscriminately accumulating whatever glitters momentarily.
Consideration
Consider how balancing your Bringer's enthusiasm with careful investigation might reveal dimensions of opportunity that past patterns of hasty acceptance or reflexive rejection have obscured.
InQuiry, Application, Implementation
How might giving yourself permission to fully examine new possibilities before bringing them inside transform your relationship with external attractions? In what ways could recognizing your Bringer's essential role as both scout and potential vulnerability change how you filter what crosses your threshold? What possibilities emerge when you allow this aspect of your nature appropriate expression without surrendering all decision-making to its excitable energy?
From Self-Inquisition to Self-Appreciation
The next time you self-administer an inquisition, choose to lovingly express gratitude for the gift of a lifetime, rather than hammering your spirit with self- doubt and beating your heart black and blue with self-criticism. This gentle redirection transforms moments of harsh self-judgment into opportunities for profound healing.
When you catch yourself slipping into that familiar pattern of internal criticism, pause and recognize this awareness itself as a sign of growing self-compassion. This shift from interrogation to appreciation doesn't deny the value of honest self- reflection, but rather changes its quality—moving from punishment to nurturance.
By treating yourself with the same kindness you would offer a dear friend, you create an inner sanctuary where authentic growth becomes possible. This practice of grateful self-acknowledgment gradually rewires deeply ingrained habits of self- criticism, allowing your natural wisdom and gifts to emerge more fully. In this space of gentle acceptance, you discover that true transformation flows from honoring the precious journey that is uniquely yours, not from self-rejection.
Your lifetime is a gift, and you’re the first one who gets to unwrap it.
Inspiration
When you redirect self-interrogation toward self-appreciation, you transform moments of harsh judgment into pathways for healing—creating an inner sanctuary where genuine growth flourishes rather than a battleground where your spirit endures continuous assault.
Consideration
Consider how offering yourself the same compassion you would extend to a dear friend might reveal dimensions of wisdom that past patterns of self-criticism have obscured.
InQuiry. Application. Implementation
How might viewing your lifetime as a precious gift reshape your internal dialogue during moments of perceived failure or disappointment? In what ways could recognizing awareness of self-criticism as itself a sign of growth change your relationship with your evolving self? What emerges when you discover that authentic transformation flows not from self-rejection but from honoring the unique journey that belongs solely to you?
Cutting Your Key to Coherence
Reflect back to your core values… when they are truly known, honored and lived they unlock the door to making decisions that serve your highest good.
Recognizing these values initiates the healing of your deepest wounds. Clarity emerges every time you connect a possibility with what resonates at your core. Think of your values as your soul's compass, pointing toward home especially when life's storms disorient you. They allow you to navigate your life, both the mundane and existential challenges with steadiness, knowing what’s authentic for you.
This journey of self-discovery isn't merely about making better decisions—it's actually a profound alchemical process that leads to genuine progress. Your capacity to reclaim what is essential to you holds the promise of remarkable healing that's already waiting within you. As you live your guiding principles, old wounds transform into deep wells of wisdom.
Inspiration
When you align with your core values, what once felt like fragmentation begins to coalesce into wholeness—transforming wounds into wisdom and creating a soul's compass that guides you even through life's most disorienting storms.
Consideration
Consider how connecting each possibility with what genuinely resonates at your core might reveal dimensions of clarity that past patterns of external validation and compromise have obscured.
InQuiry. Application. Implementation
How might recognizing your values as a soul's compass transform your approach to life's challenges, both mundane and existential? In what ways could honoring what's essential to you initiate healing of your deepest wounds? What possibilities emerge when you view self-discovery not merely as a path to better decisions but
as an alchemical process that transmutes suffering into wisdom?
Paving Your Path
While this journey is yours alone, and you may at times find yourself feeling lonely, you are not alone.
The intention at the heart of this book is to remind you how you can pave and walk your unique path. Living your most vibrant life means consciously aligning your inner realities, making decision based on what is true for you.
Two particularly harmful habits need to be recognized and amended to live coherently:
The exhausting pursuit of external validation, and
Surrendering your discernment and decision to conform to what someone else wants
Freedom unfolds when you shed the weight of seeking others' approval and instead honor your inner wisdom. These pages offer reminders about the importance of continuously reclaiming your inherent power and speaking with a genuine voice. As old patterns fall away, you'll experience the profound joy that comes from making choices that truly resonate with who you know you are— rather than crafting a choice to satisfy others or mindlessly follow collective thinking than too often stinks.
This metamorphosis is no doubt a challenge, yet the rewards run soul-deep. Your willingness to explore these questions and begin living from your center rather than from the expectations imposed upon you reveals remarkable courage.
Remember, the journey to coherence isn’t about adding something new—it’s about removing the layers that have concealed your authentic essence. As you progress through these pages, remember that you aren’t becoming someone different; you’re finally allowing yourself to be who you've always been beneath the expectations, masks, and compromises. This revelation is liberating, shoring up the foundation upon which a life of genuine joy and connection is built.
Inspiration
Extraordinary possibilities await as you step onto your authentic path—the one that's been yours all along.
Consideration
How would your existence transform if these patterns dissolved?
InQuiry. Application. Implementation
How might honoring your inner wisdom transform your relationship with decision-making? In what ways could speaking with your genuine voice change your connections with others? What possibilities emerge when you view your life as a canvas for authentic expression rather than a performance for others’ approval?
The Living Rainbow
At the heart of your existence lies a nucleus—your core values burning bright like a star at the center of your personal universe. These essential principles form the foundation from which all authentic living springs forth, generating energy that radiates outward through every dimension of your being.
Surrounding this luminous core, yet connected in profound ways, is your context— the geospherical bubble that encompasses your life circumstances, relationships, environment, and the broader world in which you participate. This translucent sphere both contains and reflects your lived experience, creating boundaries that are permeable yet defined.
Between these two realms—the intimate nucleus of your values and the expansive sphere of your context—emerges the Path, the Mereon Knot, manifesting as a
living rainbow bridge that connects inner realities with outer reality you share with others. This dynamic pathway is neither static nor rigid but flows in continuous motion, creating patterns of extraordinary complexity and breathtaking beauty.
Like a rainbow appearing when precise conditions align, the Mereon Knot emerges when your core values interact harmoniously with your context. This spectacular phenomenon isn't merely visual—it's functional, forming the essential channels through which energy, information, and intention travel between your innermost self and your external reality.
Each color band in this rainbow represents a distinct ArcType, your unique intelligences moving in synchronized flow. When aligned, these streams create a coherent whole that illuminates your path forward with stunning clarity. Just as a rainbow requires both sunlight and raindrops, your Path requires both inner alignment and external engagement, both personal principle and contextual awareness.
The Mereon Knot reveals that connection itself is what many call ‘sacred’— reflecting the way your values inform your actions, the way your experiences refine your values, and the continuous dance between what you hold dear and how you move through the world. This rainbow bridge doesn't eliminate the distance between inner and outer realms, it transforms it into a journey of integration and wholeness.
As you navigate your life's path, remember that you are simultaneously traveling along this rainbow and generating it through your very movement. Your choices, aligned with your core values, create the conditions for coherence to manifest visibly in your life, reflecting how Love—the ultimate unifying force—gives rise to all that truly matters.
Inspiration
The inspiration I’d like to share here comes from an email dialogue with a new Sister of the Heart, Hiromi. These excerpts, reported in full, came after she and her husband Toshio read the initial draft of the opening pages of Decisions Beyond Beyond Belief.
“Lynnclaire,
We are deeply touched by how much you care for us, and for Japan. Your worldview, your wisdom, your way of expressing life—we believe these are exactly what many of us here, including ourselves, truly need.
At the same time, we are realizing how delicate and challenging it is to carry such depth into the Japanese heart. Language, culture, and even symbolism—like “the Rainbow Path”—sometimes feel distant to our own ways of sensing the world. But this only makes us more committed to exploring how we can gently bridge these beautiful differences.”
Instantly realizing that this needed more of an explanation, I responded:
“Hiromi and Toshio, I understand the challenge in translating the term ‘the Rainbow bridge’ to Japanese. But I know rainbows fill your sky as well as mine, so realizing this is a natural phenomenon makes it easy to translate. It comes from science! “The Pattern”, the title of my first book, is a spherical knot that appears when light and water interact! The Pattern we have been investigating for 38 years, connects the arc we see in the heavens with its 12 arcs. It connects everything, including every cell of our being. I know it’s complex, but there will be a simple solution to making the connection! Show the Pattern to a child and they will tell you amazing things! It would be fun to show it to a 4 or 5 year old Japanese child and hear their response!!! They a full of wisdom that often we often lose in our attempt to be smart!”
Hiromi's response led to tears:
“When I first heard my computer read the phrase “Rainbow Path,” the very first image that came to my mind was Tokyo’s famous Rainbow Bridge—a large, flashy, illuminated bridge stretching over Tokyo Bay! It’s a symbol of modern infrastructure, often featured in TV dramas and cityscapes.
And then, I remembered another image— a television commercial from years ago, set in a hot spring resort town. The hotel had built a bridge they named “Rainbow Bridge,” and in the commercial, a woman danced across it in a flowing dress,
colorful and elegant.It was charming, but very theatrical!
So for me—and perhaps for many Japanese people—the word “rainbow” tends to
bring up images that are more commercial, playful, or decorative, rather than actual, spiritual or sacred.
At first, I felt confused. I sensed you were speaking of something much deeper, but my cultural reference points didn’t match your intention.
That “disconnect” created a kind of gentle fog—what we call “moya-moya” in Japanese.
But now, thanks to your words, I understand what you truly mean by “Rainbow Path.” Not something flashy or colorful, but a quiet, universal, living connection
— a pattern in light and spirit.
I still smile when I remember the hot spring commercial and that dancing lady in the dress… but now I can smile with your rainbow, too.”
When your core values align with the context you set for your life, energy moves and forms a magnificent rainbow knot, light illuminating your path—not your face— as your full spectrum of intelligences flow in harmony. North spins clockwise to connect with South as she pirouettes counterclockwise, axis keeping you stable as East and West meet and greet as one passes through the other.
Everything Flows in one direction, every beginning is an ending is a beginning is an ending is a beginning.…
Consideration
Consider how viewing yourself as both the creator and traveler of your rainbow path might reveal dimensions of agency that past perceptions of separation between inner and outer worlds have obscured.
InQuiry. Application. Implementation
How might recognizing the Mereon Knot as a living connection between your values and your context, the Path your walk, transform your understanding of coherent living? In what ways could honoring all spectrums of your intelligence create more beautiful patterns in your life journey? What possibilities emerge
when you perceive yourself not as fragmented between what is true for you, you inner reality, and your external expression, but as the rainbow bridge that unites them in perfect, flowing continuity?
The Art & Soul of Authenticity
Wholeness transcends the over simplified notion of joy as merely wearing a happy face. It's you authoring your own definition of authenticity—honoring what emerges as you unlock your inherent power, liberating your body, heart, and spirit to manifest your deepest aspirations while embracing full responsibility for your journey.
The inquiries presented throughout this book may challenge you, perhaps even discomfort you. Yet the inward expedition to discover your truths remains profoundly noble. As you learn to recognize, understand, and embrace desires that are genuinely attainable, you'll find many are far closer than those seemingly distant stars—dreams you've been viewing through the distorting lens of emotional telescopes.
While the book establishes these foundations, this course creates the sacred space where transformation happens in real-time. Here, you'll experience the liberation that comes from stepping away from the perpetual judgment of others—a position you've unknowingly placed yourself in. When you reclaim your decision-making power, external validation becomes unnecessary to authenticate your aspirations or choices.
This immersive experience guides you toward what resonates at your core. Through active exploration of these vital questions, you'll unveil layers of wisdom that have always dwelled within. The courage to express what is genuinely true for you constructs the foundation for living with unshakable integrity and purpose.
We witness and honor your willingness to traverse these depths, celebrating each revelation that brings you closer to wholeness. Your singular perspective and insights aren't simply valid—they're essential to your fulfillment as you weave your unique thread into the magnificent tapestry of our collective existence.
The book provides the map; My Playbook: My life. My Rules: your journey; and the course, "Discovering Wholeness" is a deep understanding of the terrain where you can unfold your transformation.
Inspiration
When you author your own definition of authenticity—reclaiming your decision- making power from external validation—you discover that your deepest aspirations aren't distant stars but attainable realities that have been waiting for you to adjust your emotional telescope.
Consideration
Consider how expressing what is genuinely true for you might reveal dimensions of wisdom that past patterns of seeking validation from others have obscured.
InQuiry. Application. Implementation
How might viewing joy as more than wearing a happy face transform your relationship with wholeness? In what ways could reclaiming your inherent power liberate your body, heart, and spirit to manifest your deepest aspirations? What possibilities emerge when you recognize that your singular perspective isn't merely valid but essential to the magnificent tapestry of our collective existence?
The Transformative Power of Gratitude
Gratitude opens a timeless moment of magic imbued with the power to inspire visions and reignite forgotten dreams.
In the Mereon Method, gratitude serves as a powerful catalyst for activating your eight ArcTypes in harmonious concert. When you pause to appreciate what is present in your life—regardless of its magnitude—you create an energetic shift that reverberates through your entire being. This is more than a pleasant emotion, it’s a profound state that alters your neurochemistry, expanding your perception beyond limitations and opening doorways to possibilities previously unseen.
True gratitude transcends the superficial ‘thank you’ we often express out of social obligation. It emerges as a genuine recognition of value—an acknowledgment that touches your core values and awakens your authentic self. When practiced with intention, gratitude becomes a bridge between your inner nucleus and your outer context, creating the conditions for your personal rainbow, your Mereon Knot, to manifest with extraordinary clarity.
The practice of gratitude creates coherence within your constellation of intelligences. Your physical body relaxes, your emotional state elevates, your cognitive perspective broadens, your intuition sharpens, your relationship with time shifts from scarcity to abundance, and your spiritual connection deepens. This alignment doesn't require perfect circumstances—in fact, gratitude practiced during challenge often yields the most profound transformations.
As you journey through this book, writing your rules, and the course, “Discovering Wholeness” you’ll experience how gratitude functions as both gateway and guide. It opens doors to dimensions of yourself long forgotten or never fully explored, while simultaneously illuminating the path forward with remarkable precision. The visions it inspires are glimpses of authentic potential waiting to be realized. The dreams it reignites are expressions of your essence seeking manifestation.
The timeless moment that gratitude creates—this sacred pause in the otherwise relentless flow of life—becomes a field of infinite possibility where your deepest intentions can take root and flourish. Here, freed from the constraints of past
patterns and future anxieties, you access the creative power that has always resided within you.
Inspiration
When you enter the timeless moment that genuine gratitude creates, you discover that appreciation is a response to what you have, a magnetic force that attracts what resonates with your authentic self, transforming forgotten dreams into living possibilities.
Consideration
Consider how practicing gratitude is a soul recognition that helps reveal dimensions of what’s true for you, and possibilities that past patterns of taking life for granted have obscured.
InQuiry. Application. Implementation.
How might viewing gratitude as a catalyst for transform your relationship with challenging circumstances? In what ways could creating intentional pauses for appreciation reignite dreams you've set aside as impossible or impractical? What possibilities emerge when you recognize that the timeless moments gratitude opens aren't escapes from reality but gateways to your most authentic future?
Flowing Over The Threshold
I'd like to share some reflections on living a 'w-holy' lifetime, being present in every moment understanding that Death stands by, ready to greet any of us without notice.
This morning I remembered being with a dear friend as she prepared to leave her lifetime. Sitting at her side was an honor that defies words to this day. I remember every minute of that day, and when we all knew she was close to leaving, I heard a family member whisper, "It's okay. We're okay... Go into the Light..." Quickly leaning forward, I whispered, "Sweet friend, turn around, and go with the light. It will take you home." We all watched as a small smile crossed her face and she took her last breath.
When was the last time you looked directly at the sun? Unless you're blind due to fried retinas and damaged corneas, your answer is "Never." As children we gazed at the moon and stars in wonder, but we were taught—or instinctively knew—that looking at the sun was dangerous.
Telling someone to go into the light is precisely the same—it's going against the Flow.
The Illuminated Path
The portrait to the left is a depiction of Saint Francis of Assisi painted by the Italian artist Cimabue (1240–1302). Look at it carefully, and think about other images you've seen of an angel or someone whom others decided to declare a 'saint'. Notice where the light is. It's not a spotlight on their face. It's a ring or sphere of light—a halo
—behind their head indicating that the Light is illumining their way forward. This aligns perfectly with many religious texts similar to the biblical quote, "The Word is a lamp unto my feet, a light unto my path." The term 'Word' in this text comes from the Greek 'Logos', meaning "reason," either spoken or written.
Consider the following as a meditation on conscious presence and authentic living. Imagine calmly walking your path, picturing it as an ever-changing rainbow
responding to you—your breath, your movement, even in stillness. Imagining your life Path as a flowing rainbow illuminating the ground under your feet creates a beautiful image. Think about the times you've been laser-focused, talking intently with someone or doing something meaningful when suddenly, someone or something loud pulled your attention away—something or someone coming towards you with 'firecracker' energy.
When this happens, prepare yourself, because when they get close, you need to side-step right or left to make sure you don't get run over! They're blind to everyone and everything, fuelled by their need for attention. Bright lights, loud voices, big noise, and bright sparks might be warning signs of a cult of personality, be it narcissism or celebrity. Those who charge headlong into the spotlight need a light on their face.
Pay attention when you hear, feel, or see such displays, knowing these people aren't running towards you. They’re running against the Flow, and the way to stay safe is to step aside and let them pass. When they do, you’ll realise they didn’t see you or the beauty of the path you share.
Learning to grow with the Light is what Discovering Wholeness is all about. As Time carries all of us ever deeper into the unknown, make time to appreciate the beauty you encounter today. Do more than ‘smell the roses’. Go outside and take several conscious breaths, intentionally choosing to expand loving energy in every direction as you grow with the flow, growing your Youniverse in harmony with the Universe.
Inspiration
When you’re in burnout, it’s time to turn around and grow with the light, allowing your path to be illuminated from behind as you continue to grow forward into the great mystery.
Consideration
Consider how distinguishing between being spotlighted and being illuminated might reveal dimensions of authentic presence that past patterns of seeking
attention or following blinding lights have obscured.
InQuiry. Application. Implementation.
How might reframing death as a threshold rather than an endpoint transform your relationship with the present moment? In what ways could recognizing your path as a responsive rainbow change how you interact with those moving against the flow? What possibilities emerge when you grow with the light—expanding loving energy in every direction—allowing your Youniverse to harmonize with the greater Universe?
Remembering
The wisdom of side-stepping those with ‘firecracker energy’ extends beyond self- preservation—it becomes a practice in discernment and authentic alignment. By remaining steadfast on your illuminated path, you create space for others to find their way without becoming entangled in their disruptive patterns. This stance emerges not from judgment but from profound respect for both your journey and theirs.
The distinction between ‘going into’ and ‘going with’ the light holds transformative power for how we live each day. When we walk with light illuminating our path from behind, we move forward with clear vision, seeing what lies ahead rather than being blinded by false promises. This orientation allows us to navigate life's complexities with grace and wisdom, recognizing that authentic spirituality manifests as an inner radiance that gently guides rather than a blinding spotlight that disorients.
As you practice growing with the flow, your awareness expands beyond personal concerns to encompass the interconnected web of existence. Each conscious breath becomes an affirmation of your place in this greater tapestry, each moment of appreciation a thread strengthening your connection to all that is. This living meditation transforms ordinary experience into sacred encounter, revealing the extraordinary beauty hidden within what might otherwise pass unnoticed.
Inspiration
When you allow light to illuminate your path from behind rather than blinding you from ahead, you discover that authentic spirituality manifests as a gentle inner radiance guiding you forward with clear vision rather than a disorienting spotlight obscuring the way.
Consideration
Consider how stepping aside from disruptive energies with respect rather than judgment might reveal dimensions of discernment that past patterns of entanglement or resistance have obscured.
InQuiry. Application. Implementation
How might viewing each conscious breath as an affirmation of your place in the greater tapestry transform your relationship with ordinary moments? In what ways could allowing your path to be illuminated from behind change how you navigate life's complexities? What possibilities emerge when you recognize that creating space for others to find their way without becoming entangled in their patterns serves both your journey and theirs?
Deserving, Serving & Worthiness
Those who are called to serve must know that they deserve.
Let's take a moment to explore how transforming your unexamined beliefs creates meaningful change beyond yourself. By recognizing the connection between your values and your outer manifestation, you discover that the most effective way to change your world is to embody the change you long to see. This isn’t something new, but it’s something few truly invest in. Every word, every action that springs from your intentional believing creates a ripple that extends far beyond your immediate experience.
When you name the positive changes you want to see in your life, you’re exercising your imagination and vision, and sometimes this means confronting an unexamined belief about what’s possible for you.
The first step in your process is to acknowledge the difference between what you perceive as possibilities and actual realities in your environment. This examination lets you distinguish between your unquestioned assumptions and genuine actualities. Are you seeing what's truly there, or viewing your surroundings through the lens of your unexamined beliefs? Do you want something in your life to be different, better, or more harmonious? Do you imagine paving your path toward a personal environment that is healthy and sustainable? Do you want to reclaim your power to help create relationships where justice prevails and you cooperate and live in peace with others?
By examining old beliefs about what you deserve, and how you can serve you begin paving an authentic path toward a meaningful and measurable contribution.
Inspiration
When you transform your unexamined beliefs about worthiness into the intentional believing that you deserve and are called to serve, you reclaim your power to create genuine change. You discover that authentic service emerges not from obligation or self-sacrifice but from the alignment between your examined values and expressed actions.
Consideration
Consider how examining your beliefs about possibility and change might reveal dimensions of your personal agency that past patterns of accepting "the way things are" have obscured in your life.
InQuiry. Application. Implementation.
How might transforming your unexamined beliefs about worthiness change your approach to service and contribution in your personal sphere? In what ways could distinguishing between your assumed possibilities and actual realities help you pave a more effective path toward meaningful change in your life? What new possibilities emerge when you recognize that reclaiming your power includes both the courage to examine your beliefs about what's possible for you and the wisdom to ground your vision in your present realities?
Self Observation > Realization >Affirmation
Quantum physics has demonstrated that the act of observation changes what is being observed. When you implement changes in your attitudes and behaviors and then 'watch what happens', you're engaging this principle. Your attention actually amplifies the changes you've initiated, creating a feedback loop that strengthens their impact.
The terms 'InLightenment' and 'InPowerment' emphasize that transformation is an 'inside job’. Both states are neither earned nor bestowed from sources outside of you, rather they emerge from within as you align your inner voices with your core values and vision that generates your sense of purpose. Freedom is the natural result of this harmony and allows you to make healthy decisions, responding to the best of your ability regardless of the circumstances.
Inspiration
When you transform unexamined beliefs through conscious self-observation, you create powerful feedback loops of change—discovering that reclaiming your power begins with simply paying attention to how your intentional believings manifest in your daily life and relationships.
Consideration
Consider how shifting your attention from external validation to internal alignment might reveal dimensions of personal transformation that past patterns of seeking outside approval have obscured.
InQuiry. Application. Implementation.
How might transforming your unexamined beliefs about where change originates affect your approach to personal growth? In what ways could observing the effects of your intentional believings help you pave a more authentic path? What possibilities emerge when you recognize that reclaiming your power includes understanding that both 'InLightenment' and 'InPowerment' are inside jobs, waiting only for you to align your inner voices with your examined values?
Self-InQuiry vs Inquisitions
Reflecting on what calls forth joy from your life, and holding that in mind as you consider a decision, is an invaluable exercise. This reflection encompasses every aspect of your existence—your family, friendships, career, avocation, and play.
Unlike previous inquisitions you've survived, each question you thoughtfully answer in this process leads you toward a dramatic increase of joy.
This thorough self-inquiry is designed to be gentle, profoundly different from the harsh inquisitions you may have endured in the past—both from others and, more significantly, from yourself.
When you approach these questions with compassion rather than judgment, you create space for authentic insights to emerge. This process is fundamentally about learning to trust yourself, moving from a space where you are willing to explore all dimensions with honesty. This transformation reshapes your entire relationship with joy.
What brings you moments of joy transcends the rare 'blue bird of happiness,' powerfully and naturally shifting your choices toward experiences that bring you a deep sense of gratitude and fulfillment.
Remember, you possess the natural ability to recognize what truly nourishes your life. Every question you answer takes you one step further along the path of a joyful existence. Today, honor your lived experience while inviting your Bringer to present you with new possibilities that are aligned with your values.
Inspiration
Remember that approaching every decision with questions filled with compassion rather than judgment, creates space for authentic insight to emerge.
Consideration
Consider how treating yourself with the same compassion you would offer a dear friend might reveal aspects of your needs and desires that harsh self-judgment has
obscured.
InQuiry. Application. Implementation.
How might this self-inquiry help you distinguish between authentic inner guidance and internalized criticism? In what ways could transforming your relationship with questions open new pathways to answers that increase joy that old beliefs may have previously hidden?
Growing Beyond “No Pain. No Gain.”
That old saying about suffering being necessary for growth? It fundamentally misunderstands what pain actually represents. Pain—in any form—serves as a messenger, signaling that something requires your attention. When discomfort arises, it's an invitation to investigate what may be compromising your wellbeing. Genuine growth doesn't require enduring hardship that leaves you scarred and depleted. Quite the opposite.
When discomfort emerges, consider receiving it as valuable feedback rather than an obstacle requiring forceful overcome. Meet the signal with gentleness: "My body and spirit are communicating with me, guiding me toward more harmonious paths of development."
Authentic progress typically feels enlivening and expansive. When you notice your energy diminishing, place your hand over your heart and softly acknowledge, “I honor the wisdom in my discomfort as it guides me toward what genuinely nourishes me.”
Develop phrases that resonate personally such as "I flourish through joy and ease as naturally as plants respond to sunlight" or “My journey unfolds with kindness as I listen attentively to every aspect of myself.”
Your ability to care for yourself amid challenges strengthens with practice, fostering sustainable growth that respects your complete being. Next time you encounter discomfort—whether physical, emotional, or spiritual—pause before automatically pushing through. What specific message might this sensation be attempting to convey? How might responding with compassion rather than force create a more sustainable path forward?
Inspiration
“No aim. No gain.”
Consideration
Make time to think about how approaching challenges with self-compassion might reveal aspects of your needs and desires that harsh self-judgment has obscured.
InQuiry. Application. Implementation.
How might shifting from enduring pain to honoring its messages change your relationship with personal growth? In what ways could listening to discomfort with curiosity instead of resistance reveal more gentle pathways to development?
The Journey to InSanity
Remember a time you heard someone say they doubted their sanity... Think about a moment you doubted your own…
Sanity is the capacity to engage in critical thinking with yourself, this liberating you to respond appropriately to others. This involves being aware of your current state, recognizing that every response to a question or request— regardless of how small or grand it seems— deserves your most considered decision.
Learning to ask yourself six simple questions each time you face a decision, it’s critical to remember that your questions, your answers,—and the outcomes—will vary with each situation. Being fully present with your current state enables your optimal decision-making. Following this path leads to experiences of a profound, authentic sense of INNERsanity, allowing you to embody what it means to be INSane, regardless of others’ perceptions. More often than not such judgement is a projection of their confusion on to you.
When you find yourself questioning your clarity or judgment, pause and offer yourself this gentle acknowledgment: “My self-awareness, realising I am wholly present in this moment is a demonstration of presence. I am breathing and my heart is beating. I’m able to connect the dots and feel my spirit functioning as intended.” If you know this is not true for you, simply say, “No, thank you.” This powerful self-observation —whether you determine it to be true or not— signifies wellness, not disturbance. Developing inner stability through a brief ritual of asking questions before making decisions allows you time to access your inner wisdom in the moment.
In the following chapters you will discover the eight ArcTypes and the sequence of questions that will guide your decisions. They are sure to become valued companions, reliable allies available whenever uncertainty arises. During the inevitable moments of self-doubt, place a hand on your chest and whisper, “I trust my capacity to navigate this moment.” Honor each decision made from this deep space of self-centering awareness, respecting it as evidence of your developing InSane practice. Remember, inner stability isn't fixed, it’s dynamic. This means
that being willing to respond appropriately to changing circumstances is an embodiment of genuine lucidity. Your willingness to question, reflect, and adjust demonstrates your remarkable strength and adaptability.
Inspiration
Saying “No, thank you.” is one of the most valuable self-affirmations you will ever make.
Consideration
Consider how treating moments of self-doubt as opportunities for deeper awareness might reveal aspects of your needs and desires that habitual reactions have obscured.
InQuiry. Application. Implementation.
How might reframing your understanding of sanity as an inner compass rather than external validation transform your decision-making process? In what ways could embracing the dynamic nature of appropriate responses free you from rigid patterns that no longer serve you?
Conscience, Conscious & Consciousness
“Science is a perspective, the process that takes us from confusion to understanding in a manner that's precise, predictive and reliable, a transformation, for those lucky enough to experience it, that is empowering and emotional.” —Brian Greene
A vibrant conscience serves as the eternal flame sustaining your inner light. This wellspring generates what many recognize as Divine intervention, and when exploring its depths, logic offers a pathway to authentic living. As these resonant frequencies permeate your being, they awaken awareness, signalling moments to pause and attend.
Breathing while allowing intuitive guidance to elevate your perspective enables you to glimpse further along Time's curved trajectory and consciously consider diverse viewpoints and potential paths. During contemplation, connection, and action planning, relationships reveal whether a decision holds genuine potential. Envisioning its unfolding helps determine whether to proceed or reconsider.
Should you advance with decision-making, before engaging physically, determine if the choice merits priority and if you'll allocate time for essential actions while anticipating unexpected developments. This process illuminates shadowed spaces, allowing you to hear conscience's gentle whisper without fear—the subtle voice reminding you of your purpose and questioning alignment. When aligned, it becomes Time to invite Divine cooperation. This covenant leads to an encounter in Consciousness where powerful attractive forces mobilize, drawing others willing to participate in regenerative work.
No one escapes the parallel consequences of a compromised conscience—guilt toxifies, destroying love and diminishing life quality. You've likely experienced the distress arising when someone unconsciously reacts to your words or actions. Critically, absence of awareness prevents responsibility acceptance. Arrogant tones and behaviors reflect a misaligned moral compass, requiring recipients to resist intensifying the destructive cycle of shame proliferating through blame.
Today, a single individual disregarding conscience can, without momentary conscious reflection, trigger events potentially devastating life as we understand it. While Gaia will survive human failings and self-heal, we might achieve
evolutionary advancement through self-healing and collaborative effort to transform attitudes before cosmic recycling claims our elemental essence. Our primary task involves constructing a new foundation supporting, nurturing, and safeguarding all beings.
Though nothing can sever connection with the Divine—creation's Source—our destiny and that of every relationship rests in our hands. It’s Time to acknowledge that our shared existence can transform “in the twinkling of an eye.”
We have 89 cosmic seconds to reshape ourselves as individuals and members of a global community.
Inspiration
Remember that every breath is a promissory note that can not be confused with a guarantee.
Consideration
Consider how viewing each breath as a promissory note rather than a guarantee might reveal aspects of your priorities that habitual patterns of postponement have obscured.
InQuiry. Application. Implementation.
How might attuning to the subtle whispers of conscience transform your everyday interactions? In what ways could cultivating conscious pauses before reactions create space for more aligned decisions?
An Eternal Relationship with Time
In March 1992, my exploration of the Pattern, recognized today as the Mereon Trefoil, reached a point where a very difficult change was indicated. I either had to return to Chicago, choosing the security of my marriage, or begin a profound experience in radical trust to make an inward journey. In response to my intention, synchronicity came spinning through the Universe to deliver a remarkable invitation—to reside at His Holiness the Dalai Lama's monastery on the Big Island of Hawaii.
Friends presented me with Stephen Hawking's "A Brief History of Time" to contemplate during this adventure. It proved exhilarating when my interpretation of his logic revealed this treatise as a simple argument about Time as fundamentally about relationship. This understanding challenged unexamined beliefs about the nature of time and connection that I had unconsciously absorbed.
Even then, the emergence of social applications from this simple rainbow Pattern felt natural, intuitive and self-evident, despite continued insistence from many that it was—and would forever remain—confined to the realm of the 'abstract'. I remember the moment when I transformed my unexamined beliefs about time into the intentional believing that everything was about relationship. Incredibly, this fit my experiencing Time as the arcing movement of Space, geometry and the arcing knot an inseparable unity.
At that time I was a decade away from scientifically demonstrating the Pattern's relationship to the sequential 'belonging' of all geometric forms. Still, this rainbow knot served as cosmic glue, anchoring my spirit to my body during many hermetic moments when surrendering and making an exit was all too appealing.
A tiny part of me wishes I had time to share the magical moments that have continuously unfolded over the years, one involving a watch, a clock, and the calendar. Towards that wish, let me share a day I remember well. Scraping the white paint off a metal coat hanger, I worked to tie it into the knotted Pattern, making sure the weaving was correct. Only a non-alternating weave allowed it to fit on the surface of the small soccer ball I was using to make sure it was
spherical.
When I finally had the knot correct, I connected the ends, and spray painted it brilliant gold. After putting a J-hook in the ceiling in front of a window, I tied a string on the center arc of the Pattern and tied the string to the hook. Spinning it until it supercoiled, I watched it unwind in awe. The interaction with light was astonishing, but what blew my mind was seeing straight lines appear inside the Pattern as it spun! Geometry! I knew this had to be the MUSIC that had been echoing inside my entire being since my first NDE! Observing this model spin provided hours of meditation, continually daring me to question unexamined beliefs about the interconnection of space and time and my life. Something inside awakened the day I had the idea to spray the Pattern with a glycerin-soap-water solution as it spun, and rainbows filled the room.
Make time today to consider how this simple rainbow reveals your unexamined beliefs. How can you use its logic to address what's meaningful to you, transforming static assumptions into intentional believings that help resolve real- time challenges in ways that are authentic for you? Honor the diversity inherent in the colors and perspective of the rainbow, this singular path a way to reconnect to yourself when others espouse difference, division and adversity.
Inspiration
When you witness the Pattern's revelatory power, you transform obscurity into clarity—discovering that paving your authentic path involves seeing how geometric principles illuminate unexamined beliefs you've carried, bringing them into consciousness where they can be transformed.
Consideration
Consider how this knotted rainbow pattern might reveal dimensions of your unexamined beliefs that past patterns of separation between science and spirituality, intellect and intuition have kept hidden.
InQuiry. Application. Implementation.
How might engaging with this rainbow Pattern help you reveal unexamined beliefs that have shaped your life without you being aware? In what ways could recognizing the Pattern’s illuminating function help you reclaim your power to transform what has been unconscious into conscious awareness? What possibilities might emerge if you allowed this Love Knot to shed light on old beliefs that you were not allowed or never dared to question?
Inclusive
Unity is all-inclusive, this knowledge threading through ancient wisdom traditions and modern science. We see it unfolding in scientific discoveries, musical harmonies, mathematical elegance, artistic expression, philosophical inquiry, spiritual practices, and cultural legacies worldwide. Throughout my decades of exploration, this knowledge has illuminated the essential how—the practical path to manifesting our deepest purpose and vision, both personal and collective.
The journey to authentic connection with others begins with examining the beliefs that have created artificial boundaries within ourselves. When we question what we've accepted without examination, we discover shared values that nurture all life—creating common ground even amid diverse perspectives.
Unity flourishes without demanding uniformity, a fact that opens the understanding about how your authentic expression fosters connections, engage both heart and mind. Through the inner alignment, you’ll be learning here, intuition and instinct find their natural rhythm, and the flow of time transform into timely engagement so your spirit is embodied. It is here that personal morality connects with noble ethics—not imposed from outside but manifested through examined values. This is a clear conscience guiding actions that contribute to the world in a meaningful way,
What if your very existence—starstuff evolved into a conscious being—embodies the capacity to examine unquestioned assumptions and participate consciously in creation’s unfolding?
Inspiration
When you confront an unexamined belief about the nature of connection you realise there is no such thing as separation. The discovery of a fundamental unity honors diversity —creating multiple pathways for authentic engagement with yourself and others.
Consideration
Consider how questioning beliefs that promote separation and exclusivity might reveal dimensions of wholeness that have remained hidden beneath layers of unexamined assumptions, personal, and cultural.
InQuiry. Application. Implementation.
How might examining any belief you have about separation lead to the way you approach relationships with those whose perspectives are not the same as yours? What possibilities emerge when you make time to identify the shared values beneath surface disagreements? In what ways could transforming unexamined beliefs about unity and diversity help you contribute your unique gifts while honoring our fundamental interconnection?
Responding to a Personal Question
Living my life in the present means it’s my intention to seldom speak about my Near Death Experiences. Part of the reason is that when I do, one question inevitably arises: “Do you believe in God?”
My response is not a simple yes or no, and too often this puts up a barrier that’s hard to take down even when it’s a paper wall.
Seeing loved ones, being asked to remember and communicate what I heard and saw, was a total mismatch to what I'd been told. Decades of exploring the connection between body and spirit, the science and spirit connection followed. Since my NDE, I embrace Spinoza's concept, Deus sive Natura, God as Nature. This pantheistic view holds that the divine is not some separate, personal being, but the sum of the entire universe, and everything woven within this tapestry, understanding, wisdom and change infinite, inside and out, that includes you and me.
Usually the one asking the question is referring to the God defined by their particular religion. If it’s the same belief system I was immersed in for 30 years, my answer is, “No.” That ‘g-d’ is one I was taught to fear. It’s the same being they told me had a wonderful plan for my life, but his absence left me guessing as to what that plan might be. This seemed to be how they justified shuffling me to and fro, moving me based on the whim of some others this absentee god supposedly left 'in charge'. That thought compels me to share a true story. It is not meant to be disrespectful or irreverent, but it's likely to rile some while others will stick their head in the sand and howl, judging me as irreverent.
About a year after my first NDE, still bewildered by the experience and doing my best to remember the details, my partner arranged for us to meet with a Roman Catholic cardinal. At the top among of my questions was: why were my Dad and Grandma there but Jesus and the angels were nowhere to be found.
Ushered into his office, knowing I’d suffered a traumatic brain injury, he wore something of a sympathetic air, that would soon turn toward tolerance as I
struggled to get the questions from my brain to my mouth. Telling me to keep trying, I was surprised—and not— when he shifted his attention to my partner, and started talking about the loving goodness of the Father, Son and Holy Spirit, and how they would get him through my struggle.
Hearing this, words finally escaped, “Please, tell me about the nature of the Holy Ghost.”
Turning only his head to me, he softly assured me, “I can feel His presence. He is here.”
Suddenly it dawned on me that he was insisting that all three aspect of the trinity are male. Only then did words come unstuck: “I don't understand how this triune God created or connect everything.”
His reply? “You must have faith, my child.”
While I wanted to tell him I wasn’t his child, respect restrained me. “But life and all living things, us included, require a mother. The trinity you described is gay.”
Needless to say, he blanched, blessed us and has his assistant showing us the door.
From the first to the most recent dance with the arcing angles of death, I experienced joy, a sense that transcends emotions and requires me to reject any and all dogma that projects fear and judgement. Too often—at least in my experience— this is the underlying message about what most assert to be true about God, heaven and hell. What I continue to experience is an unconditional, nonjudgmental loving Energy that flows from a source that I am a whole part of. When I start feeling snarky, this knowledge is so deeply embedded that it quickly snaps me back to forgiveness, reminding me that I can and must embody the noble qualities most of us consider 'divine'. Yes, it calls up deep sadness to be rejected by those who reject me because I don't accept their branded beliefs. The disrespect and contempt they hold for my dynamic believing in a Love that is grounded both in deep personal experience and science is disheartening.
Loving without conditions comes naturally, yet surrendering those I love to Time
remains an exquisitely painful task. Wisdom emerges in refusing to disrespect them or their beliefs, and in not wasting a single breath asking them to respect mine when they've clearly demonstrated this will not happen.
This threshold experience revealed that the divine manifests not through doctrine but through connection—an all-encompassing presence that permeates every particle of existence. What matters isn't theological precision but authentic relationship with the living energy that flows through all things, including our imperfect attempts to name and understand it.
Perhaps our greatest challenge isn't defending particular beliefs but recognizing how the sacred reveals itself uniquely to each person, honoring these diverse encounters as facets of a whole beyond any single tradition's grasp. This perspective doesn't diminish spiritual experience but liberates it from confinement within any particular framework or interpretation.
Inspiration
When you allow your direct encounters with unconditional love to inform your understanding rather than conforming to prescribed doctrines, you discover that divinity reveals itself not through fear and judgment but as the vibrant, creative energy flowing through all existence—from the microscopic to the cosmic.
Consideration
Consider how honoring an authentic spiritual experience might reveal dimensions of connection that past patterns of accepting a belief on faith and conforming to religious traditions like it was an inheritance may have obscured.
InQuiry. Application. Implementation.
How might embracing Spinoza's concept of Deus sive Natura—God as Nature— transform your relationship with both the sacred and the material world? In what ways could recognizing the need for feminine principle in spiritual understanding balance your perspective on creation and nurturing? What possibilities emerge when you choose to embody the unconditional love you've experienced rather
than seeking approval from those who cannot respect your path?
Rethinking The Ineffable
“Time” is the most fitting descriptor I know for all that is Divine. This is anchored in the geometric architecture of space, it’s breathing generating the Knotted Flow Time. The relational nature of this spatial temporal is unbreakable; it’s fundamental structure is ‘gold’, anchored in the golden ratio found in every human form; it is changeless yet changes all things; it’s beauty echoes and reflects the extraordinary gift of diversity; omniscient, all-knowing, our memories belong to the Time; and omnipresent, not one of us is able to escape it’s embrace, something I face every day in the mirror, my laugh lines deeper as Time changes the contours of my face.
Whether we want to admit it or not, Time embodies omnipotence. While most conventional religious concepts of the Divine—known by countless names— presents personal challenges, for me the one that is particularly persistent is the insistence that humanity is a reflection of some divine person. To say we are made in the ‘image’ of God is anthropocentric non-sense. Observing what’s going on in the world today, my feeling is that if this were accurate, a noble deity responsible for generating love, compassion, and justice would likely proclaim that it’s time for a reboot. How often are the characteristics attributed to the ‘divine’ reflected in humans?
Too often humans are artificial in every respect, particularly in how they speak and act. Humanizing the ‘divine’, and branding anthropocentric images to represent a version of god is seldom is reflected in attitudes that echo ultimate goodness.
What interests me much more than dogma is identifying the connections between the subconscious, conscience, conscious awareness, and conscientious actions engaging us with what has traditionally been considered ineffable. My ongoing experience continues shifting my perspective—that Divine Mind, the universal Source, remains perpetually present internally and externally.
Inspiration
For me, ineffable means that which takes my breath away and gives it back. It means far more than unreal, untrue or unknowable. Consider that which is ineffable as “not matter but all that matters”.
If you dare to consider Time a manifestation of divinity—unbreakable, golden ratio-structured, containing the past, present and future, changeless yet changing all things—you discover a presence that transcends every anthropocentric image, love flowing through every dimension of existence while remaining untouched by a limited attempt to personify its ineffable nature.
Considering
Consider how allowing seemingly contradictory elements—structure and freedom, individual expression and collective harmony—to coexist might reveal aspects of your creative potential that conventional either/or thinking has obscured.
InQuiry. Application. Implementation.
How might thinking about Time as a divine arc rather than a linear progression transform your approach to present challenges? In what ways could being a role model for unity through diversity in your daily interactions create bridges where divisions currently exist?
Transformed By Nothingness
“The key to growth is the introduction of higher dimensions of consciousness into our awareness.” —Lao Tzu
For generations, scholars proposed that comprehending consciousness and its architecture could emerge only through subjective experience. The Mereon Matrix emerges from precisely such an encounter. This framework is a reflection the narrative behind the 1990 film "Flatliners"—researchers endeavoring to access knowledge/information potentially arising through profound meditation and near- death states. Following rigorous protocols, they induced both conditions by self- administering nitrous oxide (laughing gas). Using handheld apparatus, when consciousness faded, their grip released, halting gas flow.
In 1997, upon meeting one of these investigators and showing him an image and three-dimensional model of the Mereon Trefoil, he paused, then stated he “knew” this was what he came close to during one particular experience. Closing his eyes he recounted his observation of “white noise,” likening it to television static one used to get when “rabbit ears" antennae with aluminum foil attempting to enhance reception. His expression brightened as he described the moment when static began transforming into rainbow hues. His countenance completed the narrative when sharing that just as something materialized into focus, consciousness returned. Upon examining the Pattern, he alternated between exhilaration and genuine concern that it represented merely a fragment of the complete picture. As both scientist and inquisitive individual, he believed divine intervention would be necessary for someone to recall minute details from such an experience. We concurred that any comprehensive retrieval would constitute a miracle, with uncertainty remaining about whether I could access and convey a sufficiently precise representation of the Pattern's wholeness.
For these and numerous additional reasons, what we now recognize as the Mereon Matrix represents a multifaceted miracle. It offers directions to creation's core— the Fountain of You. By revealing how unity manifests through diversity, we observe and must acknowledge the compelling completeness residing within the
Mereon Matrix, resolving countless paradoxes. Personally, the following stand most profound: 1) Its sequence of dynamic forms remains unchanging; 2) yet it unifies and transforms everything it incorporates; however 3) what remains indeterminate is whether we—a conscious manifestation of this system—will endure sufficiently to evolve through Time and realize our potential.
Inspiration
The Fountain of You is present, breathing in every cell of your being.
Consideration
Consider how acknowledging both changeless sequences and continuous transformation might reveal aspects of your developmental journey that linear thinking has obscured.
InQuiry. Application. Implementation.
How might encountering frameworks beyond ordinary consciousness reshape your understanding of creation's underlying patterns? In what ways could recognizing unity through diversity transform your approach to seemingly irreconcilable differences?
AUniversal Symphony
Universe UniVerse One Verse One Song
You’re an instrument in a cosmic symphony
Its melody present in the vibration of your heart Its form moving the Patterns in your brain
As intuition harmonizes with the Universe The Music guides the Flow of your lifetime Calling out, it’s Time to let your spirit sing It’s time to awaken and ReMember.
Chapter 3: Your Physical Realities
First Principle
First Principle Four
“Contraction and specialization are essential for the acquisition, materialization, binding and initial stabilization of resources.”
Translated as to how it applies to your life and making a decision:
“A healthy choice matches your values and vision; your body must be flexible, ensuring that what you bring it fits with what is and nurtures your physical realities, body and home.”
Your 2nd ArcType: The Gate Keeper
Using the Mereon method to move beyond belief, transforming your unexamined beliefs while living every day knowing that your experiences will change what's true for you, lets you embrace the idea of intentional believings. Progress in making healthy decisions is a thoughtful relay—deliberately consulting one aspect of yourself, and possibly—if that piece of self says "yes"—to another.
Authenticity is High Play, not a gruelling gauntlet, a race and a test you put yourself through.
When your Bringer comes up with a possibility, it 'knocks' on the door or leans on the doorbell to get the attention of your 2nd ArcType, the Gate Keeper. In the war for your choices, the Gate Keeper serves as your first line of defense—yet many have had their Gate Keepers compromised by those who taught them to ignore their protective instincts. Hopefully this imagery helps you recognize that when an opportunity enters your awareness, it's time to pay attention. When paving your path and living authentically, your Gate Keeper's task is critical—to ensure that whatever your Bringer is presenting doesn't threaten your health, jeopardize your physical well-being, or bring danger into your home.
This protective function is your first assessment when making a decision, and is likely to reveal any unexamined beliefs you have about safety and security. Those seeking to control your choices often begin by dismantling your Gate Keeper— teaching you to distrust your gut feelings, override your body's warnings, or feel guilty for having boundaries. Think about the times when you've not adequately considered how a choice might bring physical harm. When such a realization dawns on you, you're making progress, transforming a static belief into a dynamic understanding.
In today's world of constant stimulation and endless choices, where manipulative forces have perfected the art of bypassing your protective instincts, the Gate Keeper's job is to figure out the questions you need to ask yourself when evaluating a new possibility, ensuring it secures your physical health and security.
Your Gate Keeper operates as a sophisticated screening system, much like the selective permeability of a cell membrane that allows beneficial nutrients to enter while filtering out toxins. Yet many have been programmed to see their Gate Keeper as an enemy—labeled as "too cautious," "paranoid," or "closed-minded"
by those who profit when you lower your defenses. This ArcType has evolved within you as nature's response to an increasingly complex world where threats to your well-being come disguised as opportunities, where what appears immediately attractive might carry hidden costs to your vitality, resources, or peace of mind.
The Gate Keeper's wisdom extends beyond obvious physical dangers to encompass the subtler threats that modern life presents. It evaluates whether accepting a new commitment will compromise your sleep patterns. It recognizes the warfare tactics of exhaustion—how those seeking control deliberately overwhelm your Gate Keeper with endless demands until it's too depleted to function effectively. This protective intelligence recognizes that authentic living requires sustainable choices rather than momentary thrills that deplete your reserves.
When functioning optimally, your Gate Keeper operates with both discernment and openness. It applies rigorous standards while remaining receptive to genuine opportunities for growth. This balance prevents both reckless impulsivity and paralyzing over-caution. Reclaiming this balance is an act of rebellion against those who prefer you either completely undefended or frozen in fear. Your Gate Keeper learns to distinguish between reasonable caution and fear-based resistance, between protective boundaries and limiting barriers.
The questions your Gate Keeper poses become increasingly sophisticated as you develop this capacity. Initially, it might ask basic safety questions: "Will this choice harm my body? Does this person respect my boundaries?" As your discernment matures, the inquiries deepen: "How will this choice affect my energy six months from now?" "Who benefits if I override my protective instincts?" "What hidden costs might this 'opportunity' carry?"
Your Gate Keeper serves to protect all the pieces of self, all the ArcTypes that make you whole. Intentionally developing your Gate Keeper requires healing old patterns where this protective function was either absent or hyperactive. This healing is revolutionary—it reclaims your right to say "No" from those who trained you to always say "Yes." Some people grew up with insufficient protection, learning to say "Yes" to everything and everyone, leaving them depleted and resentful. Others developed an overactive Gate Keeper that rejects
all possibilities, creating isolation and stagnation. Healing involves calibrating to provide appropriate protection while remaining open to beneficial opportunities.
Your Gate Keeper holds your body's wisdom, paying attention to physical sensations that signal alignment or warning. A tightening in your chest might indicate a relationship that violates your boundaries. A sense of expansion in your solar plexus could signal an opportunity that supports your growth. Yet how many have been taught to override these signals, to push through discomfort, to ignore their body's intelligence in service of someone else's agenda? Learning to interpret these somatic signals enhances your Gate Keeper's effectiveness in real-time decision-making.
This ArcType also monitors the energetic cost of choices. It considers whether accepting an invitation will leave you energized or depleted, whether a project will inspire creativity or generate stress, whether a living situation will support your well-being or compromise your peace. In the war for your choices, energy depletion is a primary weapon—exhaust the Gate Keeper, and the rest of your defenses fall. The Gate Keeper understands that energy is finite and seeks to invest it wisely rather than squander it on choices that appear attractive but ultimately drain your vitality.
The Gate Keeper's protective intelligence extends from your 'invironment' to your immediate home environment, recognizing that your surroundings profoundly influence your well-being. It evaluates whether physical spaces support your productivity and peace, whether media consumption enhances or degrades your mental clarity, whether daily routines align with your natural rhythms. This environmental awareness helps you recognize how your surroundings are often engineered to weaken your Gate Keeper through overstimulation, distraction, and disruption. This environmental awareness helps you create conditions that support your highest functioning. This is where applied knowledge like Feng Shui, Wabi- Sabi, Vastu Shastra is invaluable.
As your Gate Keeper matures, it develops the capacity to protect not just your immediate safety but your long-term potential. It begins to recognize choices that might seem safe in the short term but limit your growth over time. Conversely, it learns to distinguish between genuinely risky choices and opportunities that feel scary simply because they invite expansion beyond your comfort zone. This
maturation is your victory—transforming from reactive defense to strategic protection of your authentic path.
Your Gate Keeper also serves as the protector of your dreams and aspirations. It evaluates whether opportunities align with your authentic direction or represent attractive detours that might derail your deeper purposes. Those who seek to control often present their agendas wrapped in your dreams—your Gate Keeper learns to unwrap these packages and examine what's really inside. This protective function helps you maintain focus on what matters most while remaining open to unexpected pathways that serve your highest unfolding.
The integration of your Gate Keeper with other ArcTypes creates a dynamic system of conscious choice-making. When your Bringer presents possibilities, your Gate Keeper ensures they pass basic safety and alignment criteria before passing them along to other aspects of your decision-making process. This systematic approach prevents impulsive choices while maintaining openness to beneficial opportunities. In this way, you build an internal defense system that no external force can override—true sovereignty over your choices.
Inspiration
When your Gate Keeper operates with both discernment and openness, you discover that authentic protection enhances rather than limits your possibilities— creating a foundation of safety from which you can explore, grow, and express your authentic nature with confidence and wisdom. This reclaimed protection is your declaration of independence in the war for your choices.
Consideration
Consider how developing your Gate Keeper's sophisticated questioning might reveal unexamined beliefs about safety —often implanted by those who benefited from your vulnerability— while opening pathways to choices that truly support your physical, emotional, and spiritual well-being.
InQuiry. Application. Implementation.
How might strengthening your Gate Keeper's discernment between genuine protection and fear-based limitation transform your decision-making process? In what ways could your Gate Keeper's evaluation of energetic costs help you invest your time and attention more wisely? What emerges when your Gate Keeper
protects not just your immediate safety but your long-term potential and authentic expression? How can you recognize and heal the ways your Gate Keeper may have been compromised by those who sought to control your choices?
Gate Keeper & Karma Causality
Every chapter presents a unique perspective on this topic as applied to the piece of self making and reporting an assessment as regards considering a new possibility. If you've ever been smacked with a boomerang, you know the concept of ‘what goes around comes around’.
Energy boomerangs may not return immediately or in the way you expect. Sometimes consequences arrive in surprising forms or after considerable delay. But the pattern remains: what you actually bring on, take in and put into the world influences what returns to you. Those harsh words you spoke in anger, the kindness you showed to a stranger, the promises you broke, the trust you honored
—all send energy into your world that inevitably finds its way back.
Let me be clear that this isn't about cosmic punishment or reward, but rather the natural pattern of cause and effect based on decisions you make, take, or abdicate. The relationship you’re building with yourself becomes the reputation you establish in your relationships, your community and the world, habits kept or broken coming back in the how others respond to you.
Each ArcType—the pieces of self that govern how your life functions— contributes to the ripples or tsunamis you create. When your inner ArcTypes work in harmony—each one checking in and reporting honestly during the decision- making process that leads to progress even when you say “No, thank you” generates intentional consequences rather than painful surprises. Learning to listen and hear each piece of self creates smooth sailing, waves of energy you'll welcome when they eventually circle back to you. Understanding how your ArcTypes function gives you the power to make decisions that honor both your immediate needs and long-term wellbeing.
In all this, please remember that saying "No" doesn't mean "Never." "No, thank you" only means "Not at this moment." This sequence of questions and inner check-ins lets you find your authentic answers and helps reduce painful consequences while increasing joyful returns.
Karmic Laundry & The Gate Keeper—the piece of self governing your physical environment—contributes uniquely to the ripples or tsunamis you create through your surroundings. When your Gate Keeper reports honestly during decision- making about environmental impacts, saying "No, thank you" to chaos generates intentional physical consequences rather than painful spatial surprises. A cluttered, neglected environment often boomerangs back as stress and inefficiency, while a thoughtfully maintained space returns as clarity and productivity.
Learning to listen to your Gate Keeper creates smooth sailing through physical spaces, waves of ‘invironmental’ energy you'll welcome when they circle back to support your daily life.
Understanding how your Gate Keeper functions gives you the power to make decisions that honor both your immediate comfort and long-term wellbeing. By recognizing when your physical environment needs protection or enhancement, you create a nurturing flow of energy that’s supportive instead of chaotic.
In all this, please remember that saying "No" doesn't mean "Never." "No, thank you" only means "Not at this moment." This sequence of questions and inner check-ins lets you find your authentic answers about possible choices, helping reduce chaos while increasing supportive returns.
The Wisdom of Bodily Knowing
Your life transforms when you’re able to accurately translate physical signs and symptoms, and connect them to a cause. This connection between bodily awareness and understanding represents a fundamental form of wisdom recognized in healing traditions worldwide. Symptoms are often carriers of doubt
—physical manifestations of your inner uncertainty or resistance. They serve as your body's communication system, alerting you to misalignments between what you're considering and what truly serves your wellbeing.
When you recognize a seed of suspicion—that subtle internal hesitation or discomfort—don't hesitate to acknowledge it. This momentary pause is your integrated wisdom speaking. Open your mouth and say "No, thank you." This simple, respectful boundary-setting phrase honors both yourself and others, creating space for authentic choices rather than obligatory agreements that may lead to resentment or regret.
Moving beyond unexamined beliefs requires developing a sensitive awareness of these physical signals. Your body often recognizes incongruence between a possibility and your authentic needs before your conscious mind can articulate the conflict. These sensations aren't random or meaningless—they're sophisticated intelligence revealing unexamined beliefs that may be influencing your decisions below the threshold of awareness.
As you journey toward intentional believings, practice noticing what happens in your body when considering different options. Does your breathing change? Do certain muscles tighten? Does energy drain from particular areas? These physical responses provide valuable data about what's genuinely true for you beyond what you think you should want or accept.
Inspiration
When you honor your body's wisdom, you transform unconscious reaction into conscious choice—discovering that moving beyond unexamined beliefs begins with acknowledging the physical intelligence that already knows when something isn't aligned with your authentic self.
Consideration
Consider how attending to bodily sensations might reveal dimensions of knowing that past patterns of privileging intellectual analysis over physical wisdom have obscured.
InQuiry. Application. Implementation.
What physical sensations typically arise for you when something doesn't feel right? How might transforming your relationship with these bodily signals help you move beyond unexamined beliefs about what you "should" accept? What possibilities emerge when you recognize that your body's resistance isn't something to override but wisdom to be honored as you develop intentional believings?
Foundation of Physical Form
The Cube, also known as a hexahedron, has long symbolized Earth, matter and permanence in cultures and traditions the world over. In the context of your life and the sequence of how all fundamental forms fit into a dynamic unified system, it represents everything tangible— you, your home, and all that defines your physical realities.
When probing an unexamined belief and moving toward an intentional believing, understanding that the Cube's represents physical form provides crucial grounding. This geometric principle is a reminder that transformation manifests in your material existence, and is far more than conceptual. Your body, home and physical environment reflect and influence the beliefs you hold. As you work with the Gate Keeper ArcType, assessing the probability of a choice impinging on your physical safety and wellbeing, imagining the Cube as a symbolic framework opens an understanding about stability in material terms.
Knowing how you feel, and fit in your body makes it clear how your physical foundation must support dynamic growth and change. Understanding your tangible realities helps you examine beliefs you hold about your body—beliefs that may have limited how you inhabit it, how you care for your home, structure your environment, or engage with the material things.
Inspiration
When you recognize how your physical reality reflects unexamined beliefs, you transform abstract concepts into tangible understanding—discovering that moving beyond belief requires acknowledging how your material existence both shapes and is shaped by what you accept as true.
Consideration
Consider how examining beliefs about materiality and permanence might reveal dimensions of your relationship with the physical world that past patterns of disconnection from bodily wisdom have obscured.
InQuiry. Application. Implementation.
How might understanding the physical foundation of your life transform your appreciation for tangible stability? In what ways could recognizing the connection
between beliefs and material manifestation help you create environments that support your authentic growth? What possibilities emerge when you view your relationship with physical reality as an essential aspect of moving beyond your unexamined beliefs.
“You were born with wings, why prefer to crawl through life?” —Rumi
Tangible Wisdom
Full awareness requires every part of you to have unrestricted access to your memory archive. This integrated approach to consciousness allows your complete history to inform present decisions, drawing on wisdom accumulated through lived experience.
Your Gate Keeper rarely needs to scan deep to remember experiences similar to what you're considering. Past encounters with similar situations often reside close to the surface of awareness, readily available as reference points. Your body often bears bandaids or scars of events that left you physically exhausted or sick. These physical reminders serve as tangible evidence of previous choices, creating a somatic record that complements intellectual memory.
It requires true intelligence to refrain from speaking prematurely and carelessly, taking thoughtless decisions that may put your life, body, and health at risk. This restraint—valued across diverse cultural traditions—represents an evolved form of critical thinking, self-protection that prioritizes wellbeing over immediate gratification or social pressure.
Your Gate Keeper is tasked with informing you whenever a habit becomes an addiction that doesn't serve you. This vigilant monitoring function helps you identify when a pattern crosses the threshold into dependency. Your Gate Keeper provides your first early warning before a harmful cycle becomes entrenched.
After comparing a possibility to your core values, and scanning your body and physical realities, your Gate Keeper does one of two things:
If your Gate Keeper determines that an opportunity is unlikely to compromise the health of your body and home, it answers "Yes" and passes the talking stick to your next intelligence. This affirmation signals safe passage to continue considering the possibility.
If your Gate Keeper, your body, whispers "No way", or screams "Pass", the decision making, critical thinking session about a possibility is over. It's time to smile, open your mouth and say, "No, thank you."
Moving beyond belief requires honoring this Gate Keeper function rather than overriding it with unexamined beliefs about sacrifice, obligation, or proving
oneself. Many of us have absorbed beliefs suggesting we should ignore physical warning signals in service of higher purposes or others' needs. These unexamined beliefs often dismiss bodily wisdom as less important than intellectual, emotional, or spiritual concerns—creating artificial hierarchies that fragment our integrated intelligence.
The journey to intentional believings includes recognizing your Gate Keeper as a sophisticated intelligence system rather than an obstacle to be overcome. This physical wisdom operates through sensation, intuition, and pattern recognition— drawing on your complete embodied history to evaluate potential choices. When you honor this intelligence, you reclaim a fundamental aspect of your power that many belief systems have taught you to override or ignore.
Your Gate Keeper represents the wisdom of boundaries and limitations—not as restrictions on freedom but as essential conditions for genuine thriving. Just as a river flows more powerfully between well-defined banks than when flooding across a landscape, your life energy channels more effectively when guided by boundaries that protect your fundamental wellbeing.
Inspiration
When you honor your Gate Keeper's wisdom, you transform reckless sacrifice into grounded discernment—discovering that moving beyond unexamined beliefs about overriding physical signals creates a foundation of wellbeing from which authentic power naturally flows.
Consideration
Consider how respecting your physical wisdom might reveal dimensions of self- protection that past patterns of ignoring bodily signals have obscured.
InQuiry. Application. Implementation.
How might recognizing your Gate Keeper as sophisticated intelligence transform your relationship with physical warning signals? In what ways could honoring bodily wisdom help you move beyond unexamined beliefs about sacrifice and obligation? What possibilities emerge when you approach boundaries not as limitations but as conditions that channel your life energy most effectively?
Honoring Your “No”
Pause for a moment to think about your physical realities: what happens when you don't have a voice in a choice that comes with a responsibility that you have to take in or take on? What excuses do you give yourself for ignoring a shudder that rips up and down your spine?
Remember, when you say "No, thank you," you honor yourself by standing up firm for what's true for you. This moment of boundary-setting represents a powerful act of self-respect that resonates across diverse cultural contexts. Do not let anyone talk or manipulate you into changing your decision. Pressure to reverse your "No" can come in many forms—from guilt and shame to flattery and persistence—yet, as you maintain your boundary, you reinforce your right to make decisions that are aligned with your wellbeing.
Saying “No” doesn't mean never. It only means ‘Not at this moment in time’.
This distinction transforms refusal from an absolute rejection to a contextual choice, acknowledging that circumstances, priorities, and capacities may change. Understanding “No” as temporal rather than permanent helps release the unnecessary weight of finality, allowing you to respond authentically to present conditions without foreclosing future possibilities.
Inspiration
When you maintain your boundary and stick to your “No,” external pressure transforms into internal strength. In this you discover how moving beyond belief requires honoring your right to refuse without explanation or justification.
Consideration
Consider how understanding “No,” as temporal rather than permanent might reveal dimensions of authentic choice that past patterns of all-or- nothing thinking have obscured.
InQuiry. Application. Implementation.
How might recognizing the different forms of manipulation transform your ability to maintain boundaries? In what ways could viewing “No,” as 'not at this moment in time' help you move beyond unexamined beliefs about refusal as rejection?
What possibilities emerge when you reclaim your power to stand firm in your decisions regardless of others' attempts to change your mind?
Science: Romance & Passion
“Science is not only a disciple of reason but, also, one of romance and passion.”
—Stephen Hawking
One of the most treasured opportunities of my life was meeting Dr. Hawking at Cambridge in 1998. What was clear in the encounter was that everything about his world view was as hot as his cold, analytical pursuit. Invited into his presence, I experienced what it was to have a ‘captive audience’, sharing my passion and purpose was easy, my challenge relating to his rigorous reasoning, logic, and evidence-based thinking.
At the time of this writing, almost 40 years have passed since my first encounter with the Mereon Matrix, and I understand very well what he meant by romance in science. For me it emerged from a deep sense of wonder and awe after coming face to face with what was surely one of the mysteries of the universe. My connection to the breathtaking beauty of cosmic phenomena, and the elegant simplicity of geometry that describe her and all reality, was poetic due to the harmony it has in common with life and the systems we create. The ‘passion’ he referenced, is the fire, the driving force behind my commitment to scientific exploration—that burning curiosity and relentless dedication that propels me forward despite setbacks and skepticism.
The quote holds an even deeper significance considering the context in which Hawking expressed it—in response to a question about space exploration, where he said: “Humans are an adventurous species. We like to explore and are inspired by journeys to the unknown... Exploration by real people inspires us.”
Stephen Hawking was real and inspired me then and still. He understood the importance of finding paradise in paradox, embracing both the rational, emotional and spiritual dimensions of science. His lifetime is a legacy of grace, a reminder that progress of any kind depends on willingness, imagination, tenacity, chutzpah, and courage. All these traits are essential as you dare to venture into the unknown, be it your next breath or tomorrow.
Inspiration
When you integrate reason with romance and passion, you transform fragmented understanding into holistic wisdom—discovering that moving beyond unexamined beliefs requires both analytical rigor and heartfelt wonder at life's mysteries.
Consideration
Consider how embracing the paradox of rational analysis and emotional connection might reveal dimensions of understanding that past patterns of separating intellect from feeling have obscured.
InQuiry. Application. Implementation.
How might approaching your journey beyond belief with both reason and wonder transform your relationship with examining unexamined beliefs? In what ways could balancing analytical thinking with heartfelt passion help you develop more integrated intentional believings? What possibilities emerge when you recognize that authentic exploration—whether of outer space or your inner landscape— requires both the discipline of reason and the courage of passion?
The Harmony of Inner Voices
When your ArcTypes work together in sequence, passing the talking stick from one to the next, you create internal harmony that manifests as authentic external expression. This natural order allows each aspect of yourself to contribute its unique wisdom to your decisions.
In this journey beyond belief, you're discovering how your feelings and attitudes inform your words and actions, generating growth or inducing stagnancy. As you begin to grow with the Flow, you're going to start experiencing true synchronicity, a rich indication that you're in harmony with the Universe. As you proceed, remember that the world hears your words and witnesses your actions. So as you dare to live from authenticity, you help open closed minds, participating in the mending of hearts, minds, and spirits long broken.
When one piece of you thinks it's in charge and decides to attempt a coup, problems multiply exponentially, eroding your health and wellbeing. This disruption of natural order often stems from unexamined beliefs about which aspects of yourself deserve priority or authority.
In the presence of authenticity the potential for joy is true.
Inspiration
When you honor the natural sequence of your inner voices, you transform internal conflict into harmonious collaboration—discovering that moving beyond belief creates not only personal coherence but ripples of authentic possibility for everyone you encounter.
Consideration
Consider how allowing your ArcTypes to work in their natural order might reveal dimensions of synchronicity and flow that past patterns of inner power struggles have obscured.
InQuiry. Application. Implementation.
How might your experience of synchronicity increase as you transform unexamined beliefs about which parts of yourself deserve to be heard? In what ways could your authentic expression help others question their own unexamined
beliefs? What possibilities might emerge when you recognize that your journey beyond belief contributes to collective healing by demonstrating that the potential for joy is genuinely available to all?
The Wisdom of Touch
Touch is tangible, and its meaning—both positive and negative—is instantly measurable. Unlike more abstract sensory experiences, physical contact provides immediate feedback that registers throughout your nervous system. This directness makes touch a primal form of communication recognized across all human cultures as foundational to development and wellbeing.
Thinking about how a fragrance affects you, and how music can make your body want to move, appreciate that your skin is your most sensitive sensory organ. With millions of receptors detecting pressure, temperature, vibration, and pain, your skin creates a comprehensive interface between your internal world and external environment. When you get goosebumps, your body is sending a message, maybe asking you to pause, take it easy, or even run away. This involuntary physical response represents ancient wisdom encoded in your autonomic nervous system— a universal human experience that transcends cultural boundaries.
Your skin is your protector. It keeps you safe, letting you feel a loving touch, or moving fast when a vibration changes. This dual function of boundary and connection point illustrates how protection and receptivity work together rather than in opposition. The sense of smell and the lightest touch can make you excited or calm you down. These physiological responses to sensory input demonstrate your body's sophisticated ability to interpret and respond to your environment, often before conscious awareness catches up.
Moving beyond belief requires honoring this tangible wisdom of touch. Many of us have absorbed unexamined beliefs suggesting that physical sensations are less trustworthy than intellectual analysis, that "gut feelings" represent primitive reactions to be overcome rather than intelligence to be heeded. These perspectives create artificial hierarchies that privilege abstract reasoning over embodied knowing, often leading us to override crucial information available through our most extensive sensory organ.
The journey to intentional believings includes reclaiming this sophisticated tactile intelligence. Your skin doesn't merely detect physical contact—it interprets meaning, registers safety or threat, and communicates this information throughout your entire system. The goosebumps that arise during a significant encounter, the subtle contraction around certain individuals, or the sense of expansion in specific
environments—these sensations offer a constant stream of data about alignment and congruence.
Developing sensitivity to these tactile messages requires intentional attention. In a culture that predominantly values visual and auditory processing, the subtle language of touch often goes unnoticed or dismissed. Yet this primary sensory system—the first to develop in utero and the most extensively distributed throughout your body—continues to process critical information about your relationship with your environment, whether you consciously register it or not.
This embodied wisdom represents not primitive reactivity but sophisticated intelligence—an evolutionary gift that has protected and guided humans throughout our existence. When you honor the messages from your skin, you reconnect with this ancient knowing, allowing it to inform choices alongside intellectual analysis and emotional awareness.
Inspiration
When you honor the wisdom of touch, you transform abstract analysis into embodied knowing—discovering that moving beyond unexamined beliefs about hierarchies of intelligence opens the path to decisions guided by your complete sensory awareness.
Consideration
Consider how attending to tactile wisdom might reveal dimensions of discernment that past patterns of privileging abstract thinking have obscured.
InQuiry. Application. Implementation.
How might paying closer attention to your body's subtle responses through touch enhance your decision-making process? What messages might your skin be communicating that you typically overlook? In what ways could recognizing the intelligence of your largest sensory organ help you move beyond unexamined beliefs about what constitutes reliable guidance?
Existential Lies
Moving beyond belief means learning to recognize the existential lies you've told yourself and those you were taught to believe were true. This journey toward transforming unexamined beliefs requires the courage to question foundational assumptions that may have shaped your identity and choices for years or even decades. These narratives often operate below conscious awareness, influencing decisions without your recognition.
Have you had the experience of someone lying so convincingly that they dulled your brain and lulled you into false thinking?
Such deceptions might come from external sources—people in positions of authority, cultural messages, or social expectations—or from your own internal dialogue. Most of the time if you reflect on their origin you'll realize they were developed as protective mechanisms during challenging times. Recognizing these unexamined beliefs is the first step toward liberating yourself from their influence.
Authenticity emerges when you know who you are, live what is true for you, and accept responsibility for your life. Genuine self-knowledge goes beyond superficial traits, encompassing your core values, unique gifts and talents and your vision. It means stepping down from pedestals—both those you've been placed upon and those you've created for others—and no longer automatically doing what someone else says is best for you. This reclamation of personal authority marks a significant shift from external validation to intentional believing grounded in your own experience.
It means once you recognize those who habitually manipulate you, you have to back away and establish healthy boundaries. Doing so protects you from those who may consciously or worse, unconsciously, undermine your autonomy. It also means you stop trying to live up to others' expectations, attempting to fulfill their agenda for your life, all in the service of them getting what they want from you. In our interconnected world, knowing how to discern between genuine connection and an unhealthy influence is an essential skill. It moves you beyond unexamined beliefs toward intentionally living your life.
Inspiration
When you recognize the existential lies that have shaped your choices, you transform unconscious limitation into conscious liberation—discovering that moving beyond belief requires the courage to question even your most fundamental assumptions about who you are and how you should live.
Consideration
Consider how examining beliefs imposed by external authorities might reveal dimensions of your authentic self that past patterns of seeking validation and approval have obscured.
InQuiry. Application. Implementation.
How might identifying one unexamined belief you've accepted as true transform your sense of personal authority? In what ways could creating boundaries with those who undermine your autonomy help you discover what's genuinely true for you? What possibilities emerge when you view your life not as a fulfillment of others' expectations but as an expression of your intentional believings?
The Healing Power of A Hug
A hug can soothe your body, warm your heart, and give you a fresh perspective that has the power to change your attitude and priorities. This simple act of embrace triggers the release of oxytocin and other neurochemicals that reduce stress hormones and promote feelings of security and bonding. Everything that comes into contact with your skin leaves an impression—both physically and metaphorically. These impressions range from the momentary to the lasting, influencing your nervous system and emotional state. Learning to tell the difference between a healing touch and an invasive one is a life-affirming skill that develops through attentiveness to your body's signals and boundaries. This discernment capability varies across individuals based on personal history, cultural context, and neurological differences, yet remains essential for everyone's wellbeing and autonomy.
Moving beyond belief requires honoring this transformative potential of touch. Many of us have absorbed unexamined beliefs that diminish the importance of physical connection or create unnecessary barriers to nurturing contact. Some cultural or religious perspectives frame the body as primarily a source of temptation or distraction rather than wisdom and connection. Other beliefs might suggest that needing physical comfort indicates weakness or immaturity. These perspectives can create artificial separations between physical wellbeing and spiritual or intellectual development.
The journey to intentional believings includes recognizing touch as a fundamental human need rather than an optional luxury. From the moment of birth, touch communicates safety, belonging, and value in ways that transcend verbal or cognitive understanding. This need for nurturing physical connection doesn't diminish with age but rather evolves in its expression. When you consciously incorporate healthy touch into your life—whether through embracing loved ones, receiving therapeutic massage, engaging in movement practices, or simply feeling the texture of natural materials—you honor this core human requirement.
Developing discernment about touch requires practice in both giving and receiving. As you become more attentive to your body's responses, you naturally refine your ability to distinguish between contact that enlivens and contact that depletes. This discernment isn't merely about avoiding harmful touch but about actively cultivating connections that nurture. Your skin, with its millions of
receptors, registers the quality of every contact—whether the firm pressure of a supportive hand, the gentle brush of a compassionate caress, or the invasive push of a boundary violation.
This sophisticated tactile intelligence offers guidance not only about physical interactions but also about relationships and environments. The subtle contraction you might feel around certain individuals, the expansion you experience in nourishing spaces, the tension that arises in toxic situations—all provide valuable information about alignment with your authentic needs and values.
Inspiration
When you honor the healing power of touch, you transform isolation into connection—discovering that moving beyond unexamined beliefs about physical boundaries opens the path to relationships that nurture your complete wellbeing.
Consideration
Consider how cultivating nurturing touch might reveal dimensions of healing that past patterns of physical disconnection have obscured.
InQuiry. Application. Implementation.
How might you incorporate more intentional, nurturing touch into your daily life? What subtle messages from your skin might you begin recognizing as guidance for your boundaries and needs? In what ways could developing greater sensitivity to physical impressions help you move beyond unexamined beliefs about what constitutes necessary care for your holistic wellbeing?
"The goal of life is living in agreement with nature. —Zeno of Citium
Your body is your time machine required for this existential adventure.
Guarding your health and home is the first visible testament to authenticity. Understanding and living what’s true for you changes your physical presence.
Remember, whenever you’re stuck it’s time to move your body.
Memory Bias: Rose Colored Lens
While it might be great if you were able to recall every factual detail of an experience, be it one you remember as good or bad, this just isn't the way most people’s brain works. When you’re making a decision, it’s important to make time to feel and rethink the opportunity, especially if what you're entertaining bears any resemblance to a lesson you passed.
Our memories aren’t perfect recordings but rather reconstructions influenced by our emotions, unexamined beliefs, and subsequent experiences. This "memory bias" means we often remember events differently than they actually occurred. What we recall is colored by our current perspective, making our memories more subjective than objective accounts.
In your journey beyond belief, this bias has significant implications. When confronted with new possibilities, your recollection of similar past experiences may be skewed—either more positively or negatively than warranted. This distortion can lead you to either avoid valuable opportunities or repeat patterns that previously led to disappointment.
As you apply the Mereon Method to transform unexamined beliefs into intentional believings, take time to question your memories. Ask yourself: "Am I seeing this situation clearly, or is my memory bias influencing my perception?" By acknowledging the subjective nature of memory, you can approach decisions with greater awareness and make choices more aligned with your authentic self rather than reactions to imperfect recollections.
When you're InPowering yourself to make a decision, it's crucial to create space to feel and rethink the opportunity, especially if what you're considering bears any resemblance to a situation you've already navigated. This reflective practice helps reveal how unexamined beliefs about past experiences might be coloring your current perceptions.
Inspiration
When you recognize the subjective nature of memory, you transform unconscious reaction into conscious choice—discovering that moving beyond unexamined beliefs requires questioning not just what you remember, but how you remember it.
Consideration
Consider how examining your memory bias might reveal dimensions of possibility that past patterns of selective recall have obscured.
InQuiry. Application. Implementation.
How might acknowledging the reconstructive nature of memory transform your approach to similar situations that arise in your life? In what ways could questioning the accuracy of your recollections help you move beyond unexamined beliefs about your past experiences? What new possibilities might emerge when you view your memories not as perfect recordings but as stories colored by beliefs that can themselves be examined and transformed?
In The Eye of The Storm
While rummaging through my computer looking for a particular document, I saw a title that opened a memory. Reminded of an experience well known to closest friends and colleagues, I realized that the 'white paper' I'd originally intended to write had spiraled into the proverbial bin. Having just come through a significant health crisis, experiencing all the possible adverse complications of a simple and common medication, it was time to write my final book. Reminded of Simone, it was daunting to realize finding the many pieces needed for this book was going to require more courage than previously imagined.
December 1997, Monterey, California
Gratefully inhaling the strong briny air while walking the ribbon-like path that meanders along the Pacific shoreline in Monterey, I was enjoying doing nothing, having intentionally arrived in town several hours before a long-scheduled meeting. Overhead, the skies were a glorious blue, a rare winter gift brought by the gentle breeze that was keeping the seasonal fog well offshore. Even though this sandy beach was not the Hawaiian shoreline I often longed for, it was a hands-down, next-best place. An armada of seals and otters lolled on the craggy
rocks, basking in the sun, serenading the afternoon strollers with their raucous and seemingly endless chorus. Their baritone yowls were the perfect harmony to the melody resonating in my body, mind, and spirit, as gratitude permeated my being. A handmade sign posted on a telephone pole caught my eye, and seeing it was promoting a local holiday fair several blocks inland, I turned off the beaten path and went in search of the market.
Meandering through the myriad of stalls, one woman's creative work caught my eye. A lifelong sucker for whimsy, her ballerina bullfrogs made me laugh out loud. Their fat green bodies were stuffed into tutus, their long spindly legs wrapped in ribbons, and their little fat feet overflowing delicate ballet slippers. Chatting with the artist like we were old friends, a powerful sense of connection wrapped us in a cocoon. It felt like we were picking up where we left off, exchanging bits and pieces of our lives in a dialogue that was liberally laced with laughter.
In the middle of our banter, an overwhelming sense of discomfort descended, leading me to feel something was amiss. Coming out of nowhere, it catalyzed an alertness, but there was no sense of alarm as it didn't feel like a physical threat.
After conducting my compulsory reality check, I was horrified to realize my purse was missing. Scanning the immediate area, relief settled when it was spotted right where I'd left it, fifteen feet away, in a basket of stuffed teddy bears. It was then that we both saw the source of the energetic surge that had captured my awareness. When the artist gasped, realizing she knew her, I stopped her from making a serious reaction, and she whispered that Simone was her daughter's best friend and she was babysitting. Simone was hovering over the basket, her nose literally inches above my purse, the mini-suitcase my kids called 'No-man's-land'. And, as was too often the case, I'd left it wide open.
Clearly, she was transfixed. Her hands locked at her side, we watched as she bent over farther, peering deeper into its depths. Oblivious to everything and everyone, I was certain she knew whose purse it was. Even though we were close, it was clear she didn't care if I saw her or not.
Slowly approaching Simone, before we moved more than a few inches, an unimaginable moment unfolded. A magnet far stronger than the tug of child-like curiosity stunned us as we saw her relinquish a long-embedded sense of right and wrong, thrusting her hand into my purse. Something beyond astonishment rippled through my being when she pulled out her hand, and in her grasp was my ever- present, copper-wire model of the Pattern.
Holding the closed, slightly mangled model in both hands, without the slightest hesitation she opened it with ease. What happened next made her previous actions pale in comparison. With sheer delight, her eyes as wide open as saucers, she loudly proclaimed as if to the entire world, “The space-time continuum!”
Speechless, turning to look at her guardian, she shot me an equally dumbfounded look, the body language most know well if you spend any time around kids—it’s when your eyebrows hit your forehead, both shoulders lift to your ears, and your elbows rise of their own volition and your palms face up to the sky. I’ve come to think of it as the salute of surrender or an admission of guilt wrapped in denial.
Thunderstruck, gathering my wits, it was with a calm that betrayed my shock and honored my awe that I asked Simone the first question that came to my spinning brain, “Honey, how do you know about the space-time continuum?”
She turned to me with her eyes brimming with tears, looking at me in a way that made me wonder if anyone had ever really seen me before. Calmly, with a tone of
voice that made it clear this was the stupidest question ever asked, she announced,
“It told me. It's Love!”
As mind-blowing as her assertion was, neither Simone nor the Universe were done with me. Getting into my face, looking me in the eye, she pleaded, “Don't you remember me?”
The tone of her voice pierced my heart, her words twisting my already snarled brain. As my entire being tap danced on the edge of a razor, she repeated the question, urgency sandwiched between her frustration and happiness, “Don't you remember me?”
Without taking my eyes off her, after taking three deep breaths to blow out the mental cobwebs, I asked a question I wasn’t smart enough to think up. As it rose and fought it’s way to my lips, my brain snarled and tried to pick a fight with my intuition. Finally, the piece of me that embodies the soul of a reluctant mystic called for silence. As ludicrous as it sounds now, it felt preposterous when my spirit pushed the words out of my mouth, “Honey, when is your birthday?”
Simone shot me a look that suggested I might be dumber than a box of rocks. While her expression morphed in a way that led me to think my question wasn't as stupid as I originally thought, she delivered her response in the "give me a break" tone of voice usually reserved for teenagers. Dragging out every syllable like she was an Italian, she said, “Jan-u-ar-y fif-teenth-nineteen-eighty-seven.”
Gobsmacked, I was utterly speechless. Simone was born the same day I had my first NDE, the day I have celebrated for decades as my “true” birthday. Unwilling to invest in the notion of coincidence, I pondered what it might means that her debut on Earth was the same day I made my first journey over the threshold between living and dying.
Then she put her hands on my face, and asked the question for a third time, “Don't you remember me?” Speechless, when I didn't say anything, she continued. “You were our teacher. We left at the same time. I came first, and I told you I'd find you…”
The variables in the situation—geographical, emotional, mental, spatial, temporal, philosophical, and yes, spiritual—made this an extraordinary moment. The only
way I could understand it was that this was clearly a co=incident, an intersection in Time, even though part of me felt like calling it a cosmic joke.
Almost late for my meeting, the artist gave me her contact information Simone holding me in a hug so tight it was clear she didn't want to let go. Only when I promised to return as soon as possible did she let me go.
That night I spoke with Simon’s mom and the following week I returned to meet Simone and her Mom for brunch. Keeping my promise to hear the rest of her story’, let me advice you to buckle up, because what I’ve shared so far is one thing, but the rest of her story sent me for a few fast loops on the Love knot!
In Retrospect
Interestingly enough, included in the theories extrapolated and presented in our 2018 book, “The Mereon Matrix, Everything Connected through (K)nothing”, we actually suggest none of this is as bizarre as some might want to think. Back to the story which truly transcends conventional thinking.
At breakfast, I gave Simone the promised copy of my first book, “The Pattern”, which I'd elegantly wrapped as befitted the occasion. She surprised both her Mom and me when she didn’t want to immediately unwrap it, saying she'd wait until we were alone on the beach. This plan was prearranged, so part of me realized this wasn't something I could chalk up to a preadolescent whim. My sense was the 'waiting' was the prelude to a still unfolding mystery.
After saying goodbye to her mom, we headed for my car. The minute Simone had her seatbelt on, she shredded the expensive gift wrap and pulled out the book.
Anticipating a warm hug and expression of gratitude, what I got was an ice-cold shard of silence, followed by an emotional outburst just shy of rage. Somewhere in time there's a picture of my face the moment Simone demanded, “But Lynnclaire! Where's the bubble?”
Simone knew the image on the cover of the book wasn’t the whole picture and she was correct. While I didn’t agree, other people who had more sway than me decided it keeping one element of the story off the cover.
Walking the beach Simone told me her story. The following is from what I wrote that evening when I returned home. This is an abbreviated version of what she shared with while we walked the beach that afternoon.
Attending Universe-ity
The first thing Simone wanted me to remember was that she and many others attended a special school before they were born, and I was their ‘teacher’. While this was something of a shock to my brain, what she said next hit me as a blow to the gut.
“Graduation day was January 15, 1987. I was born that day, and you were reborn.”
Struggling to understand why I was shocked, she went on to explain that the first of my students were born in the next 90 days, and the rest would follow later that year. Squeezing my hand, she asked, “Why don't you remember? You had to die to come back—back to earth. It was the only way we'd get here at the same time.”
Asking her what I taught, she was clear and to the point. “Lots… The most important thing you taught us is how to hear; how to pay attention so that when we heard Love’s Song we would find each other! I heard Love calling me in the market, and it led me to your purse. That’s when we found each other!”
She gave my brain another spin when she said that even though she got to go first, she knew she wasn’t the first to meet me. “You've met others, right? Right?”
Simone had a knowing that months earlier I’d met two young men—a boy named Jet in Portland, Oregon, and a boy named Bryan in Iowa. She remembered both of them well.
Sadly, when I moved to Europe in 2000, I lost track of Simone.
Simone, should you hear the Love Song again, connect, knowing that on our shared birthday I send you waves of Love.
Jet
Six months earlier I had spoken at a conference in Portland, Oregon, held in a large community church. The only woman in a group of four doing a plenary session where the subject was 'Life and Death'. Earlier in the day we were all summoned to the auditorium for a microphone check, and seeing the high stage and the huge screens, it began to feel like a setup. This led to the decision to ask
for a wireless, lavaliere microphone. When the tech said they had them, I asked him to remove my chair and name plate from the stage.
One of the men then asked me, "What's your plan?"
“I'll be down there, on the floor. This way I can speak directly to the children.” Turning to the tech, I said, “Can you ask whoever is in charge to make sure they are seated in the front row.”
Assured that they could and would do this, another man on the forum, who was well-known and related to a man famous the world over, quizzed me. “Kids? This panel isn't for kids.”
“It should be. We're all kids.”
Another man, also part of the forum, didn't seem to get why I couldn't speak to the kids from the stage. My response was, “I want them to know they matter.
Speaking eye-to-eye, and heart-to-heart, they’ll feel I'm with them, not talking at them. And if they get what I'm saying so will the grown-up kids in the room.”
Moments later the stage was being dismantled, and all four of us were being fit with wireless microphones.
Only one young man, Jet, also age 10, showed up with his father, thrilled to have a front row seat! His story was as simple as it was amazing. Several weeks before this event he had gone with his mom to run an errand that included a trip to a local bookstore. There he saw a poster advertising this event. On it was a list of speakers and titles for sessions, but other than a picture of the venue and the minister, there was nothing that would have attracted his attention. Jet called out to his mom, wanting her to look at the poster, and pointing to my session said, "Mom, I need to be there."
When she asked “Why?”, he told her, “It's time to meet my teacher again.”
That evening I laughed, filled with joy to see Jet sitting with his Dad in the front row. Leaving my chair, I sat down on a curb at the bottom of the stage right in front of them, my presentation a one-on-one dialogue that was seen by all thanks to the lavaliere microphone and multiple cameras that projected our exchange onto large screens. Jet was on the edge of his chair as I shared the story of my NDE, and the meaning I saw the Pattern bringing to humanity. Jet talked about
how happy he was to see the “Rainbow Path” again, openly sharing his dreamtime walks and talks with a monk named Tom. Without hesitation he told how it was Tom who pointed him to the poster in the store that day. making sure that he tell his mom he needed to be there that evening.
Months later I was surprised to learn from a mutual friend about their circumstances. He shared that despite serious financial stress, her immediate response to Jet was, “Okay. Let me talk to your dad. We'll figure it out and make it work.”
Knowing he was ‘unique’, his short life giving them many reasons to trust his knowing, they found a way. Unable to afford the entrance fee at the time, and given that this was not a free event, they called the church to see if kids got a discount and were told Jet was invited to attend free as long as he was with an adult.
Unplugging the Automatic “Yes”
In exploring the landscape of unexamined beliefs, few patterns reveal more about your unconscious conditioning than your reflexive “Yes.” Moving beyond fixed beliefs requires examining this automatic response, one that has likely shaped countless interactions throughout your life.
Think about times you’ve automatically said “Yes” only to find out that they wanted you to do something they need done but weren’t willing to do themselves? Did they get what they want from you?
Reflecting on specific instances where this pattern has appeared in your relationships—personal, professional, or casual. What drives these automatic affirmations? Is it seeking approval, avoiding conflict, feeling obligated, or perhaps an unexamined belief that others' needs outweigh your own?Notice any physical sensations that arise as you consider this question. Did your chest tighten or your shoulders rise? These bodily responses often hold wisdom about what’s genuinely true for you in these situations and often signal unexamined beliefs before your brain has time to acknowledge them.
It’s true that many cultures celebrate self-sacrifice. However, this practice silently depletes those who habitually take care of others ignoring what’s going on for them. This exploration invites you to reconsider how you balance generosity and self-care. Your relationships are guaranteed to change when you no longer automatically agree before intentionally thinking the situation through.
As you recognize how unexamined beliefs —wherever they come from—drive your automatic responses, you give yourself time to intentionally choose rather than react from old conditioning. Know that this awareness doesn’t means you don’t help others—it just transforms the assistance you offer or invitations you extend, are a conscious choice— you have the energy, space, and time— rather than from unconscious pattern of self-neglect.
Inspiration
When you transform your automatic "Yes" into mindful consideration of what's genuinely true for you, you move beyond the unexamined belief that your needs come second—discovering that authentic giving flows not from depletion but from honoring your own boundaries first.
Consideration
Consider how examining your reflexive agreement patterns might reveal aspects of your authentic desires that past conditioning about selflessness and duty have hidden from view.
InQuiry. Application. Implementation.
How might transforming your automatic "Yes" affect your energy and sense of personal power? In what ways could requiring internal agreement before external commitment help you move beyond unexamined beliefs about your role in relationships? What possibilities might emerge when you view boundaries not as selfish barriers but as clear markers that define where genuine connection can begin?
A Vibrational Path to Presence
Your voice carries medicine you’ve probably never considered. Among the most accessible tools for shifting from anxiety to presence lies a practice so simple it might seem trivial—yet neuroscience confirms what traditional cultures have known for millennia. The gentle vibration of humming activates your vagus nerve, signalling your nervous system to release the grip of stress and return to equilibrium.
This discovery emerged during my own journey from scattered thinking to centered presence. Caught in the whirlwind of overwhelming circumstances, I learned about this ancient remedy hiding in plain sight. When rational thought failed to quiet my racing brain, when breathing exercises felt forced, when meditation was impossible—humming was a bridge that carried me back into a state of calm.
The beauty of this practice lies in its universality and accessibility. Whether you find yourself in a corporate boardroom, family gathering, or moments of solitude, the privacy of any restroom provides sanctuary for this two-minute reset. No special training, equipment, or explanation required—just the willingness to engage your most fundamental instrument: your own voice.
Notice the distinction between purposeful humming and aimless verbal wandering: when we “hem and haw” our way through conversations, we scatter our energy and amplify uncertainty. These verbal hesitations reveal internal chaos that no amount of talking can resolve. Intentional humming gathers our dispersed attention and grounds it in the present moment through intentional focus.
This practice is more than stress management—it actually embodies the power of your presence. Each conscious hum demonstrates your capacity to choose response over reaction, to access inner resources rather than remain dependent on external circumstances for emotional regulation. You discover that ‘presence’ isn’t something to achieve through complex techniques—it’s always available when you’re willing to engage with what Is.
The physiological shift that occurs when you make time to hum creates space for clearer perception that lets you make a conscious choice. As your nervous system relaxes, your capacity for wisdom naturally emerges, your decisions are less
reactive and more reflective. Try it! You will feel a sense of calm, dare I say peace, flow as you respond from centeredness rather than anxiety. Suddenly, challenges no longer feel overwhelming and obstacles become manageable situations you understand require thoughtful, intentional attention.
Inspiration
When you take the medicine found in your own voice, you transform scattered energy into focused presence—discovering that the path to calm requires nothing more complicated than willingly activating the vibrational wisdom that exists within you.
Consideration
Consider how honoring your voice as an instrument of presence might reveal dimensions of self-regulation that past patterns of seeking external solutions led you to overlook.
InQuiry. Application. Implementation.
Is there a melody that naturally emerges when you allow your voice to guide you toward calm? How might recognizing the therapeutic power of intentional sound help you develop presence as a living practice rather than an elusive goal? In what ways could embracing this simple vibrational tool transform your relationship with challenging moments from helplessness to empowered response?
Layers Without Limits
So far, you’ve been introduced to two of your ArcTypes, the Bringer and the Gate Keeper. As you grow and move beyond beliefs, you'll discover why passing your internal 'talking stick' from one ArcType to the next is essential before making a decision or responding to a request. This metaphor of the talking stick—found in various forms across many indigenous traditions worldwide—represents the importance of giving each aspect of yourself proper voice and attention in sequence.
Understanding the Gate Keeper’s vital function helps you recognize the potential chaos that would result if your Bringer operated without oversight, continuously introducing one possibility after another into your life or adding it to your ‘To Do’. Your ArcTypes are essential to critical thinking, a filtering strategy that is essential to uncovering bogus beliefs about who you are and what deserves your energy.
Everything changes as you transform static beliefs—that usually originate with someone other than you—into intentional believings, you discover why only when one piece of self says ‘Yes', does the investigation advance, and you check in with your next arcType.
This sequential progression reflects how genuine decision-making requires multiple levels of consideration to reveal and examine previously unquestioned assumptions. You also quickly learn why the moment any piece of self has the courage and wisdom to say “No, not now.”, it’s protecting your life. This means it’s time to honor this piece of you by saying "No, thank you,” to the the request.
In many cultures around the world saying “No, thank you.” is challenging, carrying different social consequences across various societies. Yet learning to set boundaries and respectfully keep them is universally essential to grow beyond the unexamined beliefs you hold about your responsibilities to others versus your responsibility for self-care.
Any time you say ‘No’ out loud you’ve made a fully embodied expression of authenticity, demonstrating that you’re no longer automatically conforming to other’s expectations, but have truly examined old beliefs about obligation and people-pleasing.
Inspiration
When you honor the sequential wisdom of your ArcTypes, you transform fragmented decision-making into an integrated process—discovering that moving beyond belief requires giving voice to every aspect of yourself rather than allowing unexamined patterns to dictate your choices.
Consideration
Consider how allowing each inner aspect to contribute to decisions might reveal dimensions of discernment that past patterns of letting one dominant voice decide have obscured.
InQuiry. Application. Implementation.
How might your relationships transform if you allowed each ArcType to examine old beliefs about what deserves your ‘Yes’? In what ways does honoring your inner ‘No’ help you move beyond unexamined beliefs, especially about your responsibilities to others? What possibilities might emerge when you view saying "No" not as rejection but as an authentic expression of having thoroughly examined what's genuinely true for you?
InPowering Your Life
Your life isn't anyone else’s to define or dictate. Making the most of your journey beyond belief means accepting yourself for who you are in the present, embracing every pending moment with awareness and intention. This acceptance isn't complacency but rather the solid foundation from which genuine transformation of unexamined beliefs becomes possible.
Living's a cooperative adventure that unfolds between your inner aspects and with the world around you. Authenticity emerges not as a static achievement but as a continually unfolding process—a noble characteristic that develops as you examine previously unquestioned assumptions and align your choices with what's genuinely true for you.
Daring to be the vibrant living system you are frees you to co=create healthy, loving relationships that mirror the dynamic nature of life itself. When you honor your complexity and wholeness by moving beyond unexamined beliefs, you'll naturally contribute to more harmonious connections. These relationships become dynamic ecosystems where all participants can flourish rather than rigid structures constrained by unexamined expectations.
Continue to question beliefs you've accepted without examination, allowing your understanding to evolve as you do. And please, do at least one thing you love today—something that nourishes your spirit and reminds you of your capacity for joy. In our achievement-oriented world, making space for delight's itself an act of courage and wisdom that challenges unexamined beliefs about productivity and purpose. What simple pleasure might you embrace today that would make this a truly wonderful day for you?
Inspiration
When you reclaim the authority to define your own life, you transform external conditioning into internal power—discovering that moving beyond unexamined beliefs opens pathways to authentic expression that no external definition could ever contain.
Consideration
Consider how accepting yourself exactly as you are in this moment might reveal dimensions of potential that past patterns of striving to be something other than your authentic self have obscured.
InQuiry. Application. Implementation.
How might treating your life as a cooperative adventure transform your relationship with both your inner aspects and others? In what ways could honoring your vibrant complexity help you move beyond unexamined beliefs about what constitutes a "proper" or "successful" life? What possibilities emerge when you recognize that authentic joy—not external achievement—is perhaps the truest measure of a life well-lived?
The Natural Flow of Strength
This knowledge guides you to face everything your decisions generate—from breathtaking beauty and awe to the turbulent storms your choices sometimes churn. You'll uncover how you're naturally 'inPowered' to welcome the illuminating light that reveals what genuinely matters for and to you. Watch as life transforms when love, logic, and meaning fuse, awakening a genuine understanding of what truly 'inPowers' responsive action.
This expedition invites you to embrace both the radiance and tempests of your existence with equal presence. As this balanced perspective develops, you'll discover yourself standing unshakeably in your inherent power, regardless of what swirls around you. When you authentically welcome what is genuinely real—both the magnificent and the formidable—you access a profound integration where heart and mind unite, guiding your decisions with remarkable clarity. Your capacity to navigate both light and shadow doesn't just change your relationship with yourself—it transforms how you move through the world, offering a powerful presence that ripples outward in ways beyond measure.
True strength emerges from your willingness to remain present with the full spectrum of experience rather than selectively engaging only with what feels comfortable. This capacity to stay centered amid both ecstasy and adversity develops through practice, like a tree that grows stronger by weathering varied seasons. Each challenge you meet with presence becomes a deposit in your bank of authentic power, each moment of beauty you fully receive becomes fuel for sustained vitality.
The integration of love, logic, and meaning creates a trinity of guidance that supersedes any single approach to decision-making. Love provides the warmth and connection that make choices personally meaningful. Logic offers the analytical framework that ensures practical viability. Meaning infuses your choices with purpose that transcends immediate gratification. When these three elements align, your decisions carry both wisdom and heart, creating outcomes that satisfy multiple dimensions of your being.
This natural flow operates like a river that adapts its course to the landscape while maintaining its essential direction toward the ocean. Your strength lies in your ability to respond fluidly to changing circumstances while remaining anchored in
your core values and authentic direction. You learn to bend without breaking, to yield when appropriate while maintaining your essential integrity.
Your inherent power manifests through presence rather than force. This grounded awareness allows you to respond rather than react, to choose rather than default to automatic patterns. When you're truly present, you access information from all your intelligences simultaneously—physical sensations, emotional resonance, mental analysis, and intuitive knowing. This multidimensional awareness provides a comprehensive foundation for responsive action.
The illuminating light that reveals what genuinely matters often appears during moments of challenge or transition. Difficulty has a way of stripping away nonessentials, revealing what you truly value beneath layers of social conditioning and unconscious habit. Crisis becomes clarification, pressure becomes purification, uncertainty becomes opportunity for conscious choice about what deserves your energy and attention.
Learning to welcome both magnificence and challenge with equal presence transforms your relationship with change itself. Instead of spending energy resisting difficult experiences or grasping at pleasant ones, you develop the capacity to dance with whatever emerges. This equanimity doesn't mean becoming passive or indifferent; rather, it means engaging fully while holding outcomes lightly.
Your responsive action emerges from this centered place of integrated awareness. Rather than acting from compulsion, obligation, or unconscious pattern, you begin to move from a place of conscious choice informed by your complete intelligence. These actions carry a different quality—they're aligned, sustainable, and effective because they emerge from wholeness rather than fragmentation.
The ripple effects of this integrated presence extend far beyond your immediate choices. When you embody authentic power—strength combined with presence— you give others permission to access their own centered awareness. Your willingness to remain present with difficulty models resilience for those around you. Your capacity to receive beauty fully demonstrates appreciation and gratitude. Your balanced approach to both light and shadow provides a living example of mature engagement with life's complexity.
This natural strength develops through consistent practice rather than dramatic breakthrough. Each time you choose presence over reactivity, integration over fragmentation, response over automatic reaction, you strengthen your capacity for authentic power. These micro-choices accumulate over time, creating a foundation of stability that supports increasingly conscious living.
The flow aspect of this strength recognizes that authentic power moves like water
—finding the most effective path while adapting to conditions. Sometimes this means advancing boldly, sometimes pausing for reflection, sometimes yielding strategically while maintaining your essential direction. This fluid intelligence prevents the rigidity that creates unnecessary conflict while avoiding the passivity that accomplishes nothing.
Your ability to stand unshakably in your inherent power while remaining responsive to changing conditions represents a mature form of stability. This isn't the rigid stance of someone afraid to move but the centered poise of someone confident in their ability to adapt while maintaining their core integrity. You become like a skilled dancer who can respond to the music while maintaining perfect balance.
The fusion of heart and mind that guides your decisions with remarkable clarity eliminates the exhausting internal conflict between what you think you should do and what you feel called to do. When these faculties work together rather than against each other, decision-making becomes more efficient and outcomes more satisfying. You access both the warmth of emotional intelligence and the precision of analytical thinking.
This integrated approach to strength acknowledges that genuine power includes vulnerability, real courage includes moments of fear, and authentic confidence includes honest uncertainty. By embracing the full spectrum of human experience rather than trying to maintain a perfect image, you access a more complete and sustainable form of personal power.
Your journey toward this natural flow of strength transforms not just your individual experience but your capacity to contribute meaningfully to the world around you. When you're no longer exhausted by internal conflict or depleted by resistance to what is, you have more energy available for creative expression, meaningful relationships, and purposeful action.
Inspiration
When you discover your natural flow of strength through integrating love, logic, and meaning, you access an unshakeable presence that welcomes both radiance and tempests with equal grace—transforming not only your relationship with yourself but creating ripples of authentic power that inspire conscious living in everyone you encounter.
Consideration
Consider how embracing both the magnificent and formidable aspects of your experience might reveal dimensions of authentic power that selective engagement with only comfortable experiences has obscured.
InQuiry. Application. Implementation.
How might integrating love, logic, and meaning in your decision-making process transform the quality and sustainability of your choices? In what ways could developing equal presence with both beauty and challenge enhance your capacity for responsive rather than reactive living? What possibilities emerge when you access your inherent power through presence and integration rather than force and fragmentation?
Soul-Deep. Soul Steep.
It’s often a steep climb to a peak experience, defining a soul-deep understanding of your values and vision. This profound self-knowledge illuminates your essential requirements with remarkable clarity. It also makes obvious what needs to change—which patterns, relationships, and circumstances no longer align with your authentic self.
Living authentically requires a genuine commitment to what you love and what loves you back— people, activities, and environments that reciprocate your energy and attention. Mutual nourishment, co=creative, innovative interaction, produces a remarkable and sustainable vitality. This demands constant self- nurturing, the intent of your journey beyond belief to guide you in developing critical feeling/thinking/doing practices that replenish rather than deplete your essential being.
My desire is to equip you with knowledge that lets you harness self- understanding, so you can embrace change that fosters wisdom. This is activating what already lies within you, not about acquiring external information. You've got a natural ability to do exactly this, and activating this capacity ignites transformation. Learning to use the Mereon Method, a comprehensive decision- making tool, InPowers you to transform your unexamined beliefs into intentional believings that serve your best and highest good in the moment. The tools and simple rules are universal—principles that apply across cultures, contexts, and circumstances—and using them will help you grow intentionally rather than haphazardly.
And yes, while reading this book might take just days or weeks, it's up to you to make time for contemplation, learning to thoroughly consider the probable impact a choice may have on your life. In our rushed world of instant decisions and quick fixes, this deliberate consideration represents a revolutionary approach to living. The Mereon framework provides structure, but the quality of your engagement determines the depth of your transformation.
Inspiration
When you cultivate a soul-deep understanding of your core values, you transform confusion into clarity—discovering how moving beyond your unexamined beliefs naturally reveals what truly nourishes your authentic self.
Consideration
Consider how developing practices of self-nurturing might reveal dimensions of vitality that past patterns of self-neglect have obscured.
InQuiry. Application. Implementation.
How might committing to what you love and what loves you back transform your relationship with energy and attention? In what ways could deliberate contemplation help you move beyond unexamined beliefs about decision-making? What possibilities emerge when you recognize that the wisdom you seek isn't found in external sources but in activating what already lies within you?
Deconstructing The Box
When you escape a ‘box’ someone built to contain or restrain you, immediately deconstruct it to ensure you never again mistake it as a safe place to hide. This metaphorical box represents any limiting situation, relationship, or belief system imposed on you by others to restrict your authentic expression or growth.
Remember that the act of deconstruction involves making time to examine how and who made this confinement system. This understanding is going to help prevent your imprisoning yourself again.
The urge to return to familiar limitations can be surprisingly strong, as restrictive environments often masquerade as security or protection. Your unique culture, be it familial, societal or even professional hierarchies can produce ‘boxes’ in many forms that impact relationship dynamics. By deliberately dismantling these structures in your consciousness, you develop immunity to their false promises, especially of safety. Recognize them for what they truly are: barriers to authenticity and developing your full potential.
Moving beyond belief requires this vigilant deconstruction of comfortable confinements. These boxes are usually built by someone else and often represent unexamined beliefs about your capabilities, worthiness, or place in the world.
Again, most have been imposed by external ‘authorities’ who judge you, and you internalized these opinions as true about you or for you. Judgements passed on might appear as stinking thinking that mutters things like; ‘It’s just how things are’ or ‘People like me don’t do that’ or ‘I should be grateful for what I have rather’, ‘I don’t deserve more.”
The process of dismantling these structures isn’t about rebellion for its own sake, but rather creating space for intentional believings to emerge. As you examine each component of these confining boxes—the expectations, limitations, and rules
—you reclaim your power to choose which elements truly serve your authentic development and which were designed primarily to make you manageable for others.
This deconstruction reveals how many of your perceived limitations exist only in your mind, having been placed there by those who benefited from your containment. Whether these restraints were created with malicious intent or
misguided protection matters less than your current choice to recognize and dismantle them.
Whole Parts of a WHOLE
Thirty-seven trillion cells of cosmic light animate your existence as a complete fractal of the Universe itself. This fundamental wholeness exists regardless of cultural definitions of completeness or personal perceptions of limitation.
According to an international study, scientists estimate that you're made up of 37,200,000,000,000 (that’s trillion) cells. This astounding number illustrates the remarkable complexity existing within every human being, regardless of external differences.
Each cell is a brilliant spark of light, energy that’s been riding the spatial-temporal nexus since whatever cosmic reboot led to the temporal Knot we’re spinning on. Think about how your physical existence is connected to the cosmic origins of matter and energy, how all the elements composing your body were forged in stellar processes billions of years ago.
The atoms of every cell in your body have existed since the early universe, reconfigured time and again until they produced the unique arrangement known as you.
This scientific understanding of your physical composition offers a profound basis for recognizing your inherent value—not as something earned or achieved, but as an intrinsic quality of your existence as part of the universal whole.
Moving beyond belief requires acknowledging the fundamental completeness that exists beneath layers of unexamined beliefs about your inadequacy or brokenness. Too many of us have absorbed messages suggesting we’re incomplete, flawed, not good enough, or insufficient as we are. Such beliefs are lies and contradict the magnificent reality of our physical existence. Beliefs we fail to investigate often originate from cultural, religious, or familial sources that benefit from our sense of incompleteness. Why? Because these thoughts are what keeps us seeking external validation and solutions.
When you recognize your inherent wholeness, you begin to question beliefs that have kept you feeling perpetually insufficient. The notion that you need to be fixed, improved, or completed by something outside yourself becomes suspect when viewed against the backdrop of your trillion-celled magnificence. This
doesn't mean rejecting growth or evolution—rather, it means understanding that growth emerges from wholeness expanding, not from brokenness being fixed.
This perspective transforms how you engage with personal development. Instead of approaching growth as a desperate attempt to become adequate, you recognize it as the natural expression of your inherent completeness exploring its potential. The difference may seem subtle, but its impact on your relationship with yourself is profound.
Inspiration
When you recognize your fundamental wholeness as a complete fractal of the Universe, you transform inadequacy into abundance—discovering that moving beyond belief begins with acknowledging the intrinsic value that has always existed within your trillions of cells regardless of external messages to the contrary.
Consideration
Consider how embracing your inherent completeness might reveal dimensions of self-acceptance that past patterns of seeking validation from external sources have obscured.
InQuiry. Application. Implementation.
How might recognizing yourself as 37.2 trillion cells of cosmic light transform your relationship with feelings of inadequacy? In what ways could understanding your physical connection to the universe's origins help you move beyond unexamined beliefs about your fundamental worth? What possibilities emerge when you approach personal growth not as fixing what's broken but as expanding what's already magnificently whole?
When Beliefs Create Barriers
Some time ago, I was spending the day with a new acquaintance, someone I truly felt and hoped would become a friend. We were deeply engaged in a project, working with a rainbow of colors on an art project when I said I loved the beauty, strength, and power of the unity that arises because of diversity.
Suddenly, the atmosphere in the room shifted dramatically. Without seeking further explanation, she stood up and exclaimed, "You mean in art, right?"
"Not just art! Everything! People, how they think, and life itself…" Her reply stunned me.
"I don't understand... I thought we shared the same beliefs... You're such a kind person... but... but…. what you just said goes against everything I believe in... Lynnclaire, what you just said is heretical…."
This poignant encounter illustrates how deeply held belief systems can suddenly create barriers between people. It can happen anywhere perspectives differ— especially around fundamental values. It is painful how seemingly innocent statements can trigger profound reactions. The experience of having your intentions misinterpreted is universally challenging, yet contains valuable lessons about the assumptions we make about worldviews.
Knowing she'd applied my words to her religious beliefs, doctrine she'd mistakenly assumed we shared, her reaction hurt, and led me into silence. Pausing, I had to dig deep for an authentic and compassionate response.
It's tragic and disheartening when religious beliefs—originally intended to connect and heal—shatter bonds of body, heart, and spirit. Systems created to foster community and communion are too often scenes of division. So many times I've experienced rejection, someone telling me I don't belong there as they close the door.
Too often, when a gathering is called as an open space where everyone is welcome to explore something meaningful, the intent transforms into something else entirely. What begins as open dialogue frequently devolves into mere conversation—or worse, someone attempting to convert others to their particular
viewpoint, insisting others see things only their way. This rigidity closes the space and fills it with dogma. Usually one person dominates while only a few truly belong, leaving others feeling sidelined or excluded because their experiences fall outside the boundaries of what someone has determined to be 'right'.
Moving beyond belief requires recognizing how unexamined beliefs can suddenly emerge as barriers to connection. In my encounter with this potential friend, both of us were operating from unexamined assumptions—she that we shared identical religious views, and perhaps I that appreciation for diversity was a universally held value. The collision of these assumptions created a painful rupture that might have been avoided through more conscious awareness of our distinct believings.
This experience highlights how moving beyond rigid beliefs doesn't mean abandoning values, but rather holding them with an awareness of their personal nature. When we transform static beliefs into intentional believings, we create space for authentic connection across differences. We recognize that what's true for us need not be universally imposed for us to maintain its personal significance.
The pain of rejection based on beliefs—particularly religious ones—often stems from the unexamined assumption that uniformity is necessary for unity. This assumption creates systems where belonging depends on conformity, where diverse experiences must be denied rather than embraced as enriching perspectives. Moving beyond this belief opens possibilities for communities united by shared values while honoring unique expressions and experiences.
Inspiration
When you recognize how unexamined beliefs create sudden barriers, you transform misunderstanding into opportunity—discovering that moving beyond rigid positions allows for connection across differences without requiring either person to abandon what's genuinely true for them.
Consideration
Consider how examining your assumptions about shared beliefs might reveal dimensions of connection that past patterns of expecting uniformity have obscured.
InQuiry. Application. Implementation.
How might acknowledging the personal nature of your beliefs transform your approach to potential misunderstandings? In what ways could recognizing the difference between uniformity and unity help you move beyond unexamined expectations in relationships? What possibilities emerge when you view diversity of perspective not as threat to connection but as the very foundation for meaningful communion?
Chapter 4: Emotions & Communication
First Principle
First Principle Four
“Contraction and specialization are essential for the acquisition, materialization, binding and initial stabilization of resources.”
Translated as to how it applies to your life and making a decision:
“Every choice must match your values and vision, fitting with what is, while being flexible enough to ensure your physical realities are stable and sustainable.”
First Principle Five
“Compression establishes the connection critical for directed communication among resources.”
Translated as to how it applies to your life and making a decision:
“Living your values means they echo and are reflected in your communication with yourself and others.”
Feelings of worth can flourish only in an atmosphere where individual differences are appreciated, mistakes are tolerated, communication is open, and rules are flexible.
—Virginia Satir
Reclaiming Your ResponseAbility
Wishing, regretting, shaming, and blaming all offer incontrovertible evidence that you've abdicated a decision. In the war for your choices, these are the white flags of surrender—signals that you've ceded territory to forces that profit from your passivity. The reason is anchored in a belief that you have to figure out. Did you do something to go along to get along? Did you decide that someone had a better idea than you?
Growing beyond belief is learning to accept responsibility, making decisions that 'let you grow'. Those who seek to control your choices prefer you trapped in cycles of wishing and blaming—it keeps you powerless and them in control.
Trying to avoid personal responsibility is a waste of your time and minimizes joy. Face it, a lifetime is too short — and too long — to squander a single precious breath.
Pay attention to patterns that signal you've relinquished power. When you wish rather than act, regret without learning, shame yourself, or blame others, you've abdicated control, handing off to someone or something outside yourself. This abdication is exactly what external forces count on—every moment you spend in regret or blame is a moment you're not reclaiming your power. Avoiding responsibility extracts a heavy price—depleted energy, diminished vitality, and reduced joy. Each moment of avoidance sacrifices presence for illusory comfort. Your lifetime paradoxically exists as both fleeting and extensive—too brief to waste in diminishing patterns, yet too long to endure the quiet suffering of inauthenticity. Accepting responsibility reclaims your authority, acknowledging that while circumstances may not be of your making, your response always remains yours. This is your declaration of sovereignty in the war for your choices
—the moment you stop being a casualty and become a conscious participant. Such acceptance liberates you from victimhood and transforms challenges into catalysts for growth.
Moving beyond belief requires recognizing how certain unexamined beliefs facilitate this abdication of responsibility. These beliefs were often deliberately implanted by those who benefit when you remain passive. Many of us have absorbed beliefs suggesting that circumstances determine our experience, that power resides outside ourselves, or that safety comes through compliance. These
are the weapons of mass distraction in the war for consciousness—beliefs designed to keep you looking everywhere but at your own power. These beliefs create permission to remain passive in our own lives—wishing instead of choosing, regretting instead of learning, blaming instead of creating.
The journey to intentional believings includes identifying these abdication patterns and the beliefs that sustain them. When you catch yourself in cycles of wishing, regretting, shaming, or blaming, pause to examine what belief might be operating beneath the surface. Ask yourself: "Who taught me this belief? Who benefits when I believe this? What would change if I chose differently?" Perhaps you'll discover the unexamined belief that you don't deserve better, that changing is too difficult, or that speaking up isn't safe. These discoveries become gateways to reclaiming your power.
As you move beyond these limiting beliefs, you develop the capacity to respond rather than react to life's circumstances. This response-ability is your most powerful weapon in the war for your choices—it cannot be taken, only surrendered. This response-ability represents true power—not control over external events, but sovereignty over your relationship with them. You choose your perspective, your meaning-making, and your next steps, regardless of what unfolds around you.
This shift from abdication to responsibility transforms your relationship with life itself. Rather than being buffeted by circumstances or defined by others' expectations, you become the author of your experience. You move from being a character in someone else's script to writing your own story. This authorship doesn't guarantee comfortable outcomes, but it ensures authentic ones—aligned with your values and expressive of your unique nature.
Inspiration
When you recognize patterns of abdication, you transform passivity into agency— discovering that moving beyond unexamined beliefs about powerlessness opens the path to a life where challenges become catalysts rather than obstacles. In this transformation, you become ungovernable by those who depend on your surrender.
Consideration
Consider how accepting responsibility might reveal dimensions of personal power that past patterns of abdication —often encouraged by those who feared your sovereignty— have obscured.
InQuiry. Application. Implementation.
How might your relationship with yourself transform if you replaced harsh self- judgment with compassionate inquiry? Who benefits when you judge yourself harshly rather than learn from your patterns? This shift from internal prosecutor to wise witness allows examination of patterns with kindness rather than condemnation. What qualities might emerge from consistently honoring your wellbeing? Perhaps courage, clarity, resilience, and integrity—qualities that benefit not only you but everyone your life touches. How can reclaiming
response-ability become your act of rebellion in the war for your choices?
"Very little is needed to make a happy life; it is all within yourself, in your way of thinking.” —Marcus Aurelius
The 3rd ArcType: Your Wave Tamer
Within your consciousness lives a piece of self whose existence is invested in mastering the art of navigation in your inner ocean. The Wave Tamer is the part of you that has a good idea about how to read the emotional currents hiding inside or underneath a situation, and has the inherent talent to chart a course that is aligned with what is true for you in that moment. This inner guide operates beyond the noise of social expectations or cultural pressures, consistently orienting you toward what matters most for you to live the life you define.
Your Wave Tamer represents the aspect of consciousness that refuses to be overwhelmed by emotional storms. Like a sailor learning to read wind patterns and water conditions to navigate safely through turbulent seas, this part of you is going to be learning how to work with the natural forces that come with feelings rather than fighting against them. When chaos threatens to destabilize your sense of peace, your Wave Tamer draws upon an inner wellspring of centered energy, preparing to lift you above the immediate tumult so you can do what's next—gain perspective.
The capacity for emotional navigation develops through practice and trust. Each time you choose to pause in the midst of strong feelings—rather than react impulsively—you strengthen this inner ArcType. Each moment you remember and reconnect with your core values before making an important decision, you deepen your ability to find solid ground even when everything around you feels uncertain.
The Wave Tamer's essential function involves connecting possibilities with your fundamental values—principles you're genuinely willing to live by rather than those you think you should embrace. This connection creates the foundation for assessing the probability of a choice leading you toward coherence or twisting your values and churning confusion that leads to communication breakdowns and chaos. When you can quickly and accurately align your emotional responses with your core values, decision-making grows into an expression of self-awareness rather than a source of anxiety.
The capacity and natural sequence for probabilistic assessment you're discovering here represents one of conscious awareness's most sophisticated functions. Your Wave Tamer doesn't simply evaluate whether something feels good or bad in the moment, it actually calculates the likelihood that making a decision or pursuing a particular path will maintain alignment evolving with you as what's true for you changes over time. This involves weighing multiple variables—emotional resonance, particularly the communication challenges that arise when you choose to live from authenticity.
Consider how a skilled surfer approaches a massive wave. When they realize there's no way to catch it, rather than fighting the water's power, they dive beneath into it at precisely the right moment, using the wave's energy to emerge safely on the high side. Your Wave Tamer operates with similar intelligence, recognizing that strong emotions often contain exactly the energy needed for transformation— if they are approached with skill rather than resistance.
Just a reminder about the geometric logic underlying the intelligence of your Wave Tamer. It reflects the structure of an icosahedron—one of the five Platonic solids known for its remarkable stability and boundary-forming capacity. This is the architecture of many viruses, the shape of their protein shells because it maximizes how much a virus can steal, pack, and multiply. Your Wave Tamer embodies this same principle, maintaining clear boundaries that preserve your core values while remaining receptive to genuine influence and unlimited growth.
This discerning capacity allows you to recognize the difference between influences that genuinely serve your highest good and those that seek to use your energy for their own agenda. Just as the icosahedron structure forms the protective capsid of viruses—operating like trojan horses that infiltrate and hijack cellular machinery—certain ideas, attitudes, and emotional patterns attempt to infiltrate your consciousness and redirect your authentic responses.
Your Wave Tamer’s essential talent resides in its ability to quickly assess whether a possibility aligns with your genuine values or carries hidden agendas that would compromise your authenticity. This state of protection enables you to engage openly with life while maintaining sovereignty over your choices and responses. When functioning optimally, your Wave Tamer prevents you from unknowingly becoming a carrier of toxic patterns that would spread through your relationships and communications.
The Wave Tamer stands guard against two patterns that prove lethal to authentic relationship: the compulsion to control a situation or an individual, and the need to be or prove you're right. These patterns masquerade as strength or even wisdom but they actually destroy the very connections they claim to protect. Your ability to recognize these as emotional viruses that kill authenticity and prohibit you from co-creating genuine connections, helping you choose what is genuinely true for you rather than succumbing to or passing on ego-driven manipulation.
This inner capacity transforms your inner relationship with yourself, letting you face difficult emotions, engaging with them rather than avoiding them. This piece of self understands that anger, fear, sadness, or confusion are not problems to solve—they are opportunities that, when recognized, provide you with information, possibly about a choice being aligned or misaligned with your core values and your purpose. We have all experienced strong emotions, and more often than not they signal that something important requires attention. More often than not, your intention needs to focus on a boundary that needs reinforcing or a value that requires honoring.
When your Wave Tamer is well-developed, you will find yourself experiencing what mystics call "the peace that surpasses understanding"—a deep calm that persists even amid external turbulence. This isn't the peace and quiet that comes with abdication, avoidance or denial. It's the deep awareness that comes from self- centering, balancing, knowing your emotional responses serve a larger wisdom.
Inspiration
When you honor your inner Wave Tamer, you transform emotional reactivity into conscious navigation—discovering that your feelings become reliable guides rather than chaotic disruptions when approached with skill and understanding.
Consideration
Consider how developing your capacity to navigate strong emotional currents might reveal dimensions of inner wisdom that previous patterns of avoiding or fighting difficult feelings have obscured.
InQuiry. Application. Implementation.
How might strengthening the connection between your emotions and your core values transform your approach to challenging decisions? In what ways could learning to dive beneath emotional turbulence—rather than being overwhelmed by it—help you discover the energy needed for positive change? What might become possible if you trusted your inner Wave Tamer to guide you through the storms that come into your life, leading you forward toward authentic alignment?
“The best answer to anger is silence.” —Marcus Aurelius
Whyning & Why’ners
The capacity for meaningful questioning represents one of humanity's most powerful tools for growth and understanding. Yet somewhere between childhood curiosity and adult sophistication, many people develop a distorted form of inquiry that serves manipulation rather than genuine learning. This pattern—what I’ve long called “whyning”—masquerades as innocent questioning while actually expressing frustration, entitlement, or attempts to control outcomes.
While the persistent “why” questions of a two-year-old serve essential developmental purposes— helping them understand cause and effect in their expanding world, adult whyning operates from an entirely different motivation. Rather than seeking genuine understanding, whyning typically emerges when someone feels frustrated that circumstances aren't conforming to their desires or expectations.
An adult why’ner is recognized by their mastery of transactional thinking—the ‘tit-for-tat’ mentality where one views every interaction as an opportunity to extract something without offering anything of value in return. Their questions carry an underlying demand: “Why me? Why you? Why not? Why isn't this working the way I want? Why aren’t you giving me what I need? Why doesn’t life line up with my timeline?”
This pattern reveals a fundamental misunderstanding about how we fulfill ourselves and our purpose as we walk the path living from authenticity. More often than not, whyning assumes that satisfaction comes from external sources— that someone else is responsible for delivering what you want, whether that someone is a person, institution, or even divine force. This perspective keeps you dependent on circumstances that are utterly beyond your control.
Moving beyond belief and whyning requires recognizing the difference between genuine curiosity and disguised demands. An authentic inquiry seeks to understand what truly is, including the different roles you play in creating your experiences. On the other hand, whyning questions reality from a position of resistance, essentially asking why the world isn’t reorganizing itself on demand, showing up at your convenience.
The antidote to whyning lies in reclaiming personal agency. How? Through hearing and honouring your ArcTypes, and reclaiming self-sovereignty. This started with identifying your core values, which may be different from those claimed by your family; it advanced when you stated what you genuinely love and are willing to work toward; and you took a huge step the encounter with your emotional ArcType, the Wave Tamer. Learning to make decisions that best serve you and your purpose. Again, understand that this is neither selfish or self centered. It’s learning to develop the skills and resources necessary to manifest your vision, aspirations, and dreams through your own efforts rather than waiting for external validation or permission. This is how to continue taking steps toward what matters to you. Doing this dissolves the illusions that keep whyners trapped in cycles of complaint and unfulfilled expectation. When you accept responsibility for creating the life you want—rather than demanding that others provide it—you discover something amazing— you have capabilities you may not have known you possessed, and suddenly the energy previously spent in whyning becomes available for productive action.
Authentic fulfillment emerges through what many ancient traditions call ‘right relationship’—the understanding that genuine satisfaction comes from aligning your actions with your deepest values rather than manipulating external circumstances to match your preferences. This doesn’t mean abandoning desires or aspirations or that you stop dreaming, it means approaching them from a position of creative InPowerment rather than entitled expectation.
When you move beyond beliefs that led to whyning, you discover that most of what you seek can be cultivated through conscious choices and persistent efforts. It is then that walking in the ever pending present your path forward clears, not through endless questioning about why things aren't different, but through committed engagement with what you can actually influence and create.
Inspiration
When you transform whyning into authentic inquiry, you reclaim the energy of genuine curiosity—discovering that real answers come through engagement with reality rather than resistance to circumstances that don't match your preferences.
Consideration
Consider how distinguishing between genuine curiosity and disguised demands might reveal dimensions of personal empowerment that past patterns of transactional thinking have obscured.
InQuiry. Application. Implementation.
How might recognizing your own whyning patterns help you redirect that energy toward productive action? In what ways could accepting responsibility for creating what you want—rather than demanding it from others—transform your relationship with unfulfilled desires? What becomes possible when you approach your aspirations from a position of creative empowerment rather than entitled expectation?
Honoring Emotional Intelligence
Understanding your emotional realities is crucial, realizing that they are connected to your core values. If you want a more compassionate world, cultivate compassion within yourself. If you desire less conflict, examine how you manage your own anger and frustration. Our emotional patterns create vibrational frequencies that affect everyone we encounter.
Our thought patterns matter. If you wish for more understanding in the world, practice open-mindedness. Challenge your assumptions and biases. The shift from judgment to curiosity in your thinking creates neural pathways that support the very changes you wish to see in collective consciousness.
Trust what you know is true for you, understanding that the changes you want to experience often resonate because they align with universal principles. When you honor your feelings and know they reflect your core values, you are tapping into a well of ancient wisdom that has long guided authentic transformation.
Remember, change requires patience. The transformation you implement today may not bear visible fruit immediately, but it alters the trajectory of the future. Each moment you choose to align a decision with your values and vision, you invite the Universe to Co-Operate in the creation of a new stream of possibilities.
Moving beyond belief requires this deeper engagement with emotional intelligence. Many of us have absorbed unexamined beliefs suggesting emotions are obstacles to clear thinking, signs of weakness, or distractions from spiritual growth. These perspectives create an artificial division between feeling and wisdom, emotional awareness and spiritual development, personal experience and universal knowledge knowledge.
The journey to intentional believings includes recognizing emotions as sophisticated messengers rather than distractions to overcome. Your emotional responses offer valuable information about alignment—both with your core values and with broader principles of harmony. When you feel genuine peace, joy, or compassion, these emotions signal congruence between your choices and deeper wisdom. Similarly, persistent feelings of frustration, resentment, or emptiness often indicate misalignment that warrants attention.
Developing emotional consistency requires practice in both awareness and expression. First, you must cultivate the capacity to recognize and name your emotional experiences without judgment. This self-awareness creates space between stimulus and response—allowing conscious choice rather than reactivity. Then, you develop nuanced skills for expressing these emotions in ways others can receive, using tones, words, and attitudes that foster connection rather than division.
This emotional fluency becomes the foundation for trustworthy relationships— with yourself, others, and life itself. When your emotional expression consistently matches your internal experience, you develop the capacity for authentic connection. Others sense this congruence, even if unconsciously, and naturally extend trust in response to your transparency.
Inspiration
When you honor your emotional intelligence, you transform division into integration—discovering that moving beyond unexamined beliefs about emotions opens the path to a life where feelings become reliable guides rather than inconvenient disruptions.
Consideration
Consider how embracing emotional wisdom might reveal dimensions of knowledge that past patterns of emotional dismissal have obscured.
InQuiry. Application. Implementation.
How might developing emotional consistency transform your relationship with inner guidance? In what ways could expressing what is true for you in emotionally accessible ways help you move beyond unexamined beliefs about separation between feeling and knowing? What possibilities emerge when you recognize that the emotional changes you cultivate within yourself contribute directly to the collective transformation you wish to see in the world?
Integrating Self-Awareness
Self-awareness necessitates that every aspect of your being maintains unimpeded access to your memory archives. Your Wave Tamer—that searching consciousness within—scans for comparable situations, particularly those that triggered reactions leaving you emotionally depleted, physically exhausted and disconnected.
This piece of you is responsible to maintain transparent communication, keeping channels open, and allowing your heart to celebrate when you break destructive patterns or courageously face addictions. Since emotional experiences interweave with your deepest values, when this voice urgently demands you stop—pay attention and stop.
The fatigue following emotional drainage is a sure sign signalling misalignment with your core values. The deep sense of wellness emerges when you honor your inner voices, this confirming that you're moving toward genuine freedom. These tangible responses offer more reliable direction than mental analysis alone.
Developing this integrated awareness requires recognizing that your Wave Tamer operates beyond conscious thought, having near instant access to memories, inherited patterns, and collective wisdom that’s stored inside you. When this part of you is given time, it will identify situations from your past where there’s resonance, offering insight to be considered relative to the trajectory of a current decision based on historical evidence.
The transparency this process demands may challenge your familial or cultural conditioning, especially if it’s of the ilk where the mind is separate from body, emotions are not spiritual, and personal experiences are removed from what is universally true. Moving beyond all artificial divisions allows your ArcTypes to function as a unified guidance system where each one participates in decision- making that takes you to a “Yes”.
Pay attention because this whole-istic awareness becomes particularly crucial when confronting addictive patterns—whether to thought processes, substances or relationships. Your Wave Tamer recognizes these patterns before your brain wants to admit their presence, generates a strong insistence that something needs to
change. Remembering that honoring this inner sense prevents the emotional drainage that follows when another part of you overrides your deeper knowing.
Inspiration
When you honor your integrated awareness, you transform fragmentation into wholeness—discovering that moving beyond beliefs about separated aspects of self opens the path to authentic spiritual guidance emerging from your complete being.
Consideration
Consider how trusting your Wave Tamer's pattern recognition might reveal wisdom that past habits of overriding inner signals have obscured.
InQuiry. Application. Implementation.
How might developing transparent access to your memory archives transform your relationship with decision-making? In what ways could honoring your body's wisdom help you move beyond unexamined beliefs about spirituality requiring disconnection from physical experience? What possibilities emerge when you recognize that the integrated awareness you cultivate within yourself contributes directly to the collective healing you wish to see in the world?
Attuning To Your Present Moment Needs
Your capacity for wellbeing flourishes when you honor the fluid nature of what nourishes you. Rather than rigidly following predetermined wellness routines, authentic self-care requires developing sensitivity to your ever-changing internal landscape. What energizes you on Tuesday might drain you on Thursday. What brought comfort last month might feel empty today.
The invitation to regularly reassess your needs acknowledges a fundamental principle often overlooked in wellness culture: that genuine nourishment varies significantly based on your current physical vitality, emotional state, and available resources. This dynamic approach to self-care represents a return to the wisdom your body and psyche naturally possess when given permission to communicate their actual requirements.
Learning to check in with yourself before automatically defaulting to familiar activities develops what mystics call ‘present moment awareness’—the capacity to respond to what is rather than what you think should be. This practice involves pausing long enough to genuinely feel into your current energy, emotional tenor, and practical circumstances before choosing how to spend your time.
Such attunement requires releasing the cultural pressure to maintain consistency in your wellness practices. The idea that effective self-care must look the same every day contradicts the natural rhythms of being human. Your nervous system, hormonal cycles, seasonal sensitivities, and life circumstances all influence what will genuinely serve your wellbeing in any given moment.
This flexibility doesn't represent indecision or lack of discipline—it embodies sophisticated self-knowledge. When you can accurately assess whether you need gentle movement or vigorous exercise, social connection or solitude, creative expression or practical accomplishment, you demonstrate mastery over automatic patterns that might no longer serve your evolving needs.
The practice becomes particularly valuable during transitions, challenges, or periods of change when your usual approaches to wellbeing may no longer fit your circumstances. Rather than forcing yourself through activities that feel misaligned, you learn to trust your internal guidance system to navigate toward what will genuinely restore and energize you.
This approach honors both your commitment to wellbeing and the reality that authentic self-care requires ongoing responsiveness rather than rigid adherence to external prescriptions. You discover that consistency lies not in repeating the same activities but in consistently choosing what serves your highest good in each moment.
Inspiration
When you attune to your present moment needs, you transform rigid self-care routines into responsive self-wisdom—discovering that authentic nourishment emerges through honoring what is true for you right now rather than what you think should work.
Consideration
Consider how developing greater sensitivity to your changing needs might reveal dimensions of wellbeing that past patterns of following fixed routines have obscured.
InQuiry. Application. Implementation.
How might regularly checking in with your current physical and emotional state transform your approach to daily self-care? In what ways could honoring your fluid needs help you develop more authentic relationship with your own rhythms? What becomes possible when you trust your internal guidance to select activities that genuinely serve your wellbeing rather than defaulting to predetermined plans?
More Powerful Than Love
During interactions with individuals and groups, I often ask them to share a word that best encapsulates their most powerful emotion and their deepest longing.
Almost without fail, the resounding response to both questions is “Love.”
When appropriately expressed, love holds an undeniable power. This near- universal identification of love, perhaps our most profound emotional force, appears consistently across diverse cultures and backgrounds, suggesting a shared human experience that transcends geographical, cultural and social boundaries.
However, while navigating one of the most agonizing phases of my life, I grew to understand that one feeling, both an emotion and an attitude, surpasses love. This realization challenged conventional wisdom, familial or religiously induced hierarchies, and offered me an intriguing perspective on what ultimately sustains me through my darkest moments. This word was my salvation during emotional storms when I was subjected to another’s anger, verbal abuse churning tidal waves of despair. For three years, I spent too much time alone in the chaos, feeling like a detached observer. I knew it was time to leave when I was told my work was never going to be published because I wasn't smart enough to keep the promise I’d made when I was on the ‘other side’. Beneath that abuse led was a sense of unworthiness until the day, when in the depths of the darkness, an inner fuse was replaced, and suddenly all my inner lights came back on. That was the day I harnessed the courage and said, “Enough. Basta. No more.”, and left.
Moving beyond belief requires examining your unquestioned assumptions about emotional hierarchies. Many of us have absorbed the belief that love represents the pinnacle of human emotion—the most powerful force for healing, connection, and transformation. This perspective permeates spiritual traditions, cultural narratives, and psychological frameworks, creating what for me is an unexamined consensus that can obscure other emotional realities.
The journey to intentional believings means recognizing that different emotional forces may emerge as primary depending on our background, current circumstances, needs and wants. During periods after our boundaries have been violated, our sense of worth may feel diminished, or our agency undermined. The feeling that ultimately restores us may is more powerful than Love.
What is it? It’s gratitude.
Why is it more powerful than love?
Because when we find and express gratitude it instantly returns us to love, reminding us of the power in loving.
Inspiration
When you honor gratitude as foundational, you transform victimhood into InPowerment—discovering that moving beyond unexamined beliefs about emotional hierarchies opens the path to relationships where love flows from appreciation rather than need.
Consideration
Consider how recognizing gratitude’s power might reveal dimensions of resilience that past patterns of prioritizing pleasure over meaning have obscured.
InQuiry. Application. Implementation.
How might acknowledging gratitude as potentially more powerful than love transform your approach to life's challenges? In what ways could cultivating appreciation even for difficult experiences help you move beyond unexamined beliefs about what constitutes favorable circumstances? What possibilities emerge when you require gratitude as the foundation for all forms of connection in your life?
Emotional Sherpas
A Personal Perspective
When people I love or care for want to conscript me as their guide while growing through a tough spot, my response is consistent, a refusal clearly coming from and with love. I make it clear that the only way I can help is to remind them of the questions only they have the ability, right, and responsability to answer. Willing to hear someone’s story once, I don’t want to hear the latest version of the same story line. Taking on anyone else’s load prevents both of us from cultivating the resilience required to discover when and who planted the seeds of doubt and fear in our psyche. Mutual respect is far more important than engaging in rescue drama that’s traumatic at best.
For decades my focus has been to open the scientific knowledge inherent in the Mereon Matrix, clearly understanding that this logic is that deleted my fear of dying and continues to give me a reason to live. My life story is a sequence of remarkable stories, and as entertaining as they may be, they don’t give me the right to advise anyone else. Why? Because the answer that worked for me yesterday, may well not work today. So why is it worth my energy telling you about something that once worked.
The logical, natural sequence of questions on how to find your answers is another story. Living your lifetime is a full time job. Becoming human and knowing how to walk the bridge that brings our heavenly minded ideas down to Earth for earthly good is what this knowledge is all about. Lean into this understanding and make it a habit lets you navigate your psychological, emotional, and yes, spiritual landscapes. It’s not your job to carrying others personal burdens.
Refusing to be a mental sherpa for someone else is going to weigh you down. Establishing parameters is a necessity, and is essential to preserve health and wellbeing. Doing so is what frees you to co-create and foster relationships where each person assumes responsibility for their growth and development.
Inspiration
When you decline requests to manage others' emotional journeys, you transform rescue patterns into empowering boundaries—discovering that moving beyond
beliefs about love requiring emotional sacrifice opens pathways to relationships honoring both individual sovereignty and genuine mutual support.
Consideration
Consider how refusing emotional caretaking roles might reveal dimensions of authentic love that past patterns of psychological rescue have obscured.
InQuiry. Application. Implementation.
How might declining to serve as others’ emotional or mental sherpa transform your understanding of care and healthy relationship dynamics? In what ways could honoring individual emotional responsibility help you move beyond unexamined beliefs about love requiring self-sacrifice? What possibilities emerge when you recognize that the clear boundaries you maintain contribute directly to the mature relationships you wish to see flourishing?
Emotional Embrace
Authenticity requires abandoning the lie that says your purpose in life is to fulfill someone else’s expectations.
Discovering your youniverse is learning to recognize the existential lies that have led to faulty or false thinking. Knowing and owning your life makes it clear to the world that you're ready to do what you're here to be, yourself. Authenticity means doing what's correct for you, not automatically defaulting to what someone else thinks is best for you.
Moving beyond belief requires this courageous journey into your Youniverse—the unique constellation of gifts, values, and purpose that defines and let you express your authenticity. Many of us have absorbed the unexamined belief that our primary value lies in meeting external expectations or fulfilling roles others have designed. This fundamental misunderstanding creates lives shaped more by adaptation than authenticity, more by accommodation than genuine purpose.
The existential lies that distort our thinking and prevent us from critical thinking often arrive early and embed deeply. Perhaps you absorbed the message that worthiness comes through achievement, that love is conditional, dependent upon your compliance, or that your inherent nature is somehow flawed and needs correction. These distortions create a foundation of false premises upon which faulty thinking inevitably builds. Like a house constructed on shifting sand, a life built on existential lies eventually reveals its instability—through dissatisfaction, internal conflict, or the quiet desperation of unfulfilled potential.
The journey to intentional believings includes identifying these existential lies and consciously releasing their hold on your choices. This release doesn't happen through intellectual understanding alone, but through the embodied experience of making different choices—choices aligned with your authentic nature rather than external expectations. Each time you honor your genuine preferences, values, or wisdom over imposed directives, you strengthen your connection to your Youniverse.
Owning your life means recognizing that while others may offer guidance, feedback, or even wisdom, the final authority on your choices remains yours alone. This ownership doesn't imply isolation or disregard for others, but rather a
healthy differentiation between responsible consideration of others' perspectives and surrendering your sovereignty to them. True authenticity always respects legitimate boundaries and consequences, yet refuses to compromise essential expression for the mere comfort of conformity.
Inspiration
When you discover your Youniverse, you transform conformity into authentic expression—finding that moving beyond unexamined beliefs about external expectations opens the path to a life where your actions naturally align with your genuine purpose.
Consideration
Consider how embracing your authentic nature might reveal dimensions of purpose that past patterns of adapting to others' expectations have obscured.
InQuiry. Application. Implementation.
How might identifying existential lies transform your relationship with authenticity? In what ways could recognizing the difference between considering others' perspectives and surrendering to their expectations help you move beyond unexamined beliefs about your purpose? What possibilities emerge when you approach choices from the foundation of your Youniverse rather than from the shifting sand of external validation?
InPowering
ArcTypes as Cornerstones
I love finding paradise in paradox, and arcs and corners is a fun one!
Authenticity emerges through self-discovery and integration, a process personal growth and progress that has been recognized across cultures and wisdom traditions throughout history. I’ve long call this InPowering, you discovering what genuine wholeness is for you as you coordinate your six inner aspects of consciousness.
It’s funny thinking about cornerstones in a geospherical context, but it’s true that your core values, vision and inner ArcTypes actually are actually the cornerstones you set your foundation. Your Bringer is the piece of self who loves wandering in your environment looking for opportunities and energy that provides a genuine reflection of who you are. Think about it as the Bringer bringing you what you want and need to pave your path! This isn’t about surface preferences or socially acceptable aspirations, but rather the deep recognition of what calls forth who your truly are! Your Bringer carries your compass, looking for opportunities and choices thatby which all other life decisions can be navigated, providing the essential reference point that prevents you from losing your way amid external pressures and expectations.
This foundational self-knowledge represents what mystics and philosophers have long recognized as a universal milestone in human development. While the specific expression of these core values varies widely across individuals and cultures, the necessity of discovering what genuinely matters to you remains constant. Without this inner clarity, you remain vulnerable to living according to others' visions rather than your own authentic path.
While your Bringer brings what you need for the foundation, your Gate Keeper— the aspect of consciousness devoted to loving and caring for your physical body and immediate environment—lays it. This piece of self acknowledges that living beyond belief requires a healthy vessel through which to express your values and purpose. Your Gate Keeper understands that embodiment represents a fundamental requirement for human experience, not an optional consideration or afterthought.
Your physical wellbeing and the condition of your immediate surroundings form the tangible foundation from which all other aspects of life emerge. When your body lacks vitality or your environment feels chaotic, your capacity for authentic expression becomes compromised regardless of how clear your values might be. The Gate Keeper ensures that your ideals can be grounded in practical reality.
The third layer operates through your Wave Tamer—the sophisticated aspect of self that ensures alignment between what your body communicates as beneficial and what your core values and your heart recognize as true. This piece of consciousness serves as the integration point, preventing the fragmentation that occurs when different parts of yourself work at cross-purposes.
Your Wave Tamer’s essential function involves creating coherence between what you think, feel, say, and do. This harmonization prevents the internal conflicts that arise when your mind pursues one direction while your emotions pull toward another, or when your words express values that your actions contradict. Such fragmentation not only depletes your energy but also undermines your capacity for authentic relationship with yourself and others.
Together with your core values, vision and willingness to live in and grow with the Flow, these three ArcType establish the beginning of an “integrated wholeness”—a state of being where body and heart begin a partnership, coordinating rather than competing. This initial internal integration is the beginning of the protective system of believing that prevents any single aspect of yourself or another from overriding your core values or hijacking your vision through conscious or unconscious reactivity.
InPowering progress is believing that authentic living is far more than a destination. It’s understanding that it’s an ‘ongrowing’ practice of maintaining alignment between the essential aspects of self. Each day offers opportunities to strengthen this integration through choices that honor your deepest values, care for your physical vessel, and maintain coherence between your inner guidance and outer expression.
Inspiration
When you engage in InPowering progress, the scattered aspects of self transform into an integrated whole. In this you learn that t authentic living emerges naturally
when your ArcTypes, initially your Bringer, Gate Keeper, and Wave Tamer, function as a coordinated team with different competencies, harmony ending false competition.
Consideration
Consider how strengthening the cooperation between your values, physical wellbeing, and emotional alignment might reveal dimensions of authentic power that past patterns of internal fragmentation have obscured.
InQuiry. Application. Implementation.
How will developing an intentional relationship with your Bringer, Gate Keeper, and Wave Tamer transform your approach to daily decision-making? In what ways will doing this help ensure alignment between what you love, how you care for your body, and what feels emotionally coherent? How will this support a more authentic self-expression? What might become possible when you allow these three aspects of self work together rather than pulling you in different directions?
Values Moving Emotions
Your core values serve as the compass for authentic living, yet many decisions are made without consulting this internal guidance system. When an opportunity genuinely aligns with what matters most deeply to you, it naturally generates the energy needed for meaningful progress. This alignment creates what you might call ‘effortless effort’—action that flows from a guide inner motivation rather than forced willpower (usually not yours).
The challenge emerges when emotions surge, and you emote before your core values have been consulted. Strong feelings—whether excitement, fear, anger, or desire—can temporarily override your connection to what is true for you, leading to choices that feel compelling in the moment but create disconnection from your authentic path over time. This doesn’t mean an emotion is wrong or inherently dangerous, but rather that some require the grounding influence of clear values to ensure that a possibility will serve your highest good.
Consider the difference between reactive decision-making and values-guided choice. When you react primarily to emotional intensity, you risk making commitments that drain your energy because they lack genuine alignment with your core values and your vision. The initial emotional charge may provide temporary motivation, but it’s just that—temporary. Without the sustainable fuel of authentic values, knee jerk decisions can lead to exhaustion, resentment, or the eventual abandonment of your path and purpose.
Values-aligned decisions, however, generate their own momentum, your choices reflecting what genuinely matters to you—rather than what you think should matter or what others expect. This is when you tap into a renewable source of motivation, alignment that doesn't guarantee that challenges won’t arise, but ensures that you meet those challenges from a place of authentic commitment devoid of obligation or fear.
The practice involves learning to pause when strong emotions arise around a decision, using that emotional intensity as a signal to reconnect with your fundamental values before proceeding. This pause doesn’t deny or suppress the emotions but rather creates space for them to inform rather than control your choices. Emotions become valuable data about what you care about, while values provide the framework for wise action.
This approach transforms decision-making from a source of anxiety into an expression of self-knowledge. Each choice becomes an opportunity to deepen your understanding of what is true for you and to align your external actions with your internal compass. Over time, this practice builds what might be called ‘values confidence’—the ability to trust your own guidance system even when external pressures suggest alternative paths.
When your decisions consistently honor your authentic values, you discover that life begins to feel more coherent and energizing. Instead of fragmenting your energy across conflicting commitments, you channel your resources toward endeavors that genuinely reflect who you are and who you’re becoming.
Inspiration
When you align opportunities with your core values, you transform scattered energy into focused power—discovering that authentic choices generate their own momentum rather than requiring constant willpower to sustain.
Consideration
Consider how consulting your values before making decisions when you’re feeling strong emotions might reveal hidden dimensions of what’s motivating you that past patterns of emotional reactivity have obscured.
InQuiry. Application. Implementation.
How might pausing to connect with your core values before responding to opportunities transform your relationship with decision-making? In what ways might distinguishing between emotional intensity and values alignment help you make choices that powerfully energize rather than quickly—or even eventually— drain you? What becomes possible when you trust your values to guide your path rather than defaulting to what feels urgent or exciting in the moment?
The Art of Self-Pattern Recognition
Your experiences contain a hidden curriculum about who you are and how you move through the world. By learning to recognize the common elements that appear across seemingly unrelated situations, you develop insight into the deeper architecture of your psyche—the underlying beliefs and values that consistently shape your choices and reactions.
This capacity for self-pattern recognition reveals how your Wave Tamer—your emotional intelligence and wellbeing—operates as part of an integrated system connecting your core values, vision or sense of purpose with your physical realities. Rather than viewing the ArcTypes as separate aspects of yourself, you will soon begin to see how they function as interconnected elements of a larger whole, each influencing, supporting and protecting the others.
The practice involves stepping back from individual incidents to observe the threads that weave through your various experiences. You might notice that certain types of situations consistently trigger similar responses, even when the surface details appear completely different. A conflict with yourself, discord with a colleague at work, and a disagreement with a family member might generate identical feelings—not because the circumstances are alike, but because all touch on the same fundamental value.
This recognition illuminates the pivotal role your core values play in shaping both your growth and your ability to adapt to eternally changing circumstances. When you understand which values are being irritated or activated in a given situation, clarity arises about why some experiences feel so charged while others seem neutral. As your emotional responses become less mysterious and more informative, they offer reliable guidance about what matters most deeply to you.
Honing the skill of intentionally aligning your emotional responses with your core values and vision represents a crucial step toward living with coherence. Learning to interpret and honour your emotions through the lens of your values is does this mean suppressing or changing your feelings,. When you can quickly identify which value is being honored or challenged in any situation, you gain the information needed to respond with wisdom rather than react from confusion.
This alignment creates what might be called ‘integrated resilience’—the ability to maintain physical and emotional flexibility during challenging times. Instead of being overwhelmed by circumstances that seem to demand responses that contradict your authentic nature, you develop the capacity to bend without breaking. Your foundation of integrity deepens, becoming strong enough to support adaptation without compromising your essential identity.
Recognizing your patterns and growing beyond belief also reveals how seemingly unrelated areas of your life actually reflect consistent themes. The way you handle internal stress is likely to be reflected in how you deal with a personal project that goes sideways, when there is pressure or stress at work, or challenges that arise in friendships and intimate relationships. All these patterns point toward core beliefs you hold about yourself, others, and life itself—beliefs that may be serving your growth or limiting your potential.
Through this practice, you discover that coherence is about maintaining alignment between your inner compass and your outer choices across the full spectrum of life's situations. In this you discover that you are perfect, but no one, including you, can do perfect, nor will you ever be a perfect ‘other’. You will discover something a friend used to say, “We’re all Bozo’s on the same Bus of life.”
Inspiration
When you develop the art of self-pattern recognition, you transform scattered experiences into coherent wisdom—discovering that your reactions contain reliable information about what matters most deeply to you and how to live in greater alignment with your authentic nature.
Consideration
Consider how observing the common threads in your various experiences might reveal dimensions of your value system that past patterns of reacting to individual incidents have obscured.
InQuiry. Application. Implementation.
How might developing greater awareness of your response patterns help you understand the deeper values driving your choices? In what ways could recognizing the connections between your emotional reactions and core beliefs
support more coherent decision-making? What becomes possible when you trust your patterns to reveal the underlying architecture of your authentic self rather than viewing your reactions as random or problematic?
Sleep
Take a moment to reflect on your body's actual sleep needs versus what you allow yourself to receive. Most adults require between 7-9 hours of quality sleep nightly, though individual requirements vary based on genetics, age, activity levels, and overall health conditions.
Your body offers clear feedback about sleep alignment. When well-rested, you experience stable mood, sharp cognitive function, sustained energy, and balanced hunger signals. Sleep deprivation creates the opposite—emotional volatility, mental fog, physical fatigue, and disrupted appetite regulation. These responses aren't personal failings but physiological wisdom communicating your body's fundamental needs.
Consider the gap between what your body requires and what you typically provide. This discrepancy often reveals deeper patterns about how you prioritize immediate desires over long-term wellness. External demands like work obligations or caregiving responsibilities may seem to dictate your schedule, yet internal factors frequently drive these choices—valuing productivity over restoration, enjoying late-night leisure, or unconsciously believing rest represents laziness.
Sleep represents your body's daily renewal cycle, essential for cellular repair, memory consolidation, and emotional processing. When you consistently override these needs, you're essentially borrowing energy from future days, creating a deficit that compounds over time. This pattern affects not only physical health but also your capacity for clear decision-making and authentic emotional expression.
Examining your relationship with sleep reveals how you honor or dismiss your body's intelligence. If you struggle to prioritize adequate rest, notice what beliefs support this pattern. Do you equate busyness with worthiness? Does guilt arise when you imagine sleeping longer? These internal narratives often prevent alignment with natural rhythms.
Creating sustainable sleep practices requires recognizing rest as productive rather than passive. During sleep, your brain processes experiences, your immune system strengthens, and your emotional centers recalibrate. This restoration
directly supports your capacity to show up authentically in relationships and contribute meaningfully to collective healing.
Inspiration
When you honor your sleep needs, you transform depletion into vitality— discovering that moving beyond beliefs about rest as unproductive opens the path to sustainable energy that serves both personal wellness and community contribution.
Consideration
Consider how aligning with your body's sleep wisdom might reveal dimensions of natural rhythm that past patterns of override have obscured.
InQuiry. Application. Implementation.
How might honoring your sleep requirements transform your relationship with daily energy and presence? In what ways could prioritizing rest help you move beyond unexamined beliefs about productivity requiring exhaustion? What possibilities emerge when you recognize that the restoration you cultivate within yourself contributes directly to the sustainable activism you wish to see in the world?
Protect Or Project
How many hours of sleep do you want? This simple question holds profound significance for your Wave Tamer, the archetypal guardian responsible for your emotional well-being. Your Wave Tamer recognizes that sleep transcends mere physical restoration—it represents emotional regulation in its most fundamental form.
Your Wave Tamer understands the direct relationship between sleep deprivation and emotional volatility. When you shortchange sleep, you diminish your capacity to navigate emotional currents with grace and wisdom. The waves of feeling that your Wave Tamer typically manages with skill become more turbulent and difficult to direct constructively.
During adequate sleep, your brain processes emotional experiences from the day, integrating them into your expanding emotional understanding. This overnight processing helps you maintain perspective, preventing emotional residue from one day from contaminating the next. Your dreams often serve as emotional laboratories where your Wave Tamer experiments with different responses to challenging situations.
The restoration that occurs during sleep directly empowers your Wave Tamer's capacity to fulfill its protective role. Like a skilled surfer who requires proper rest before tackling powerful waves, your emotional intelligence demands restoration to function optimally. Without adequate sleep, your Wave Tamer operates from depletion rather than abundance, leading to reactive rather than responsive patterns.
Consider tracking how your emotional responses shift when you honor your sleep needs versus when you compromise them. You'll likely discover that your Wave Tamer operates with significantly more skill and subtlety when well-rested, helping you respond to life's challenges from centered awareness rather than merely reacting from exhaustion.
Your Wave Tamer also recognizes sleep as preparation time for navigating each day's emotional waters. During rest, this guardian reviews emotional patterns, processes unresolved feelings, and prepares strategies for maintaining equilibrium
amid whatever waves tomorrow may bring. This preparation allows you to meet emotional challenges from stability rather than reactivity.
Inspiration
When you honor your Wave Tamer's need for restoration, you transform emotional reactivity into responsive wisdom—discovering that moving beyond beliefs about sleep as time lost opens the path to emotional mastery that serves both personal peace and collective harmony.
Consideration
Consider how viewing sleep as your Wave Tamer's essential preparation might reveal dimensions of emotional intelligence that past patterns of sleep compromise have obscured.
InQuiry. Application. Implementation.
How might prioritizing your Wave Tamer's restoration transform your relationship with emotional challenges? In what ways could honoring sleep as emotional preparation help you move beyond unexamined beliefs about emotions requiring constant vigilance? What possibilities emerge when you recognize that the emotional stability you cultivate through adequate rest contributes directly to the peaceful interactions you wish to see in the world?
Communication As Communion
Consider how the words you speak—and the manner in which you deliver them— leave indelible impressions on others that transcend forgiveness itself. Reflect on moments when someone's words have remained with you, perhaps for years, whether they lifted your spirit or created lasting wounds.
Your voice generates ripples that extend far beyond the immediate moment. The tone you employ, the words you select, and the intention behind them become woven into someone else's experience and memory archives. These verbal imprints join their personal narrative, influencing how they perceive themselves, relationships, and the world around them.
While we all stumble in communication, and authentic apologies can restore relational harmony, the original impact endures. The words themselves cannot be unspoken or unheard. They become part of the receiver's Wave Tamer's memory system, potentially influencing their emotional responses for years to come.
This reality invites profound consideration of mindful communication—the practice of pausing before speaking, allowing both feeling and thinking to inform your word choices, and maintaining conscious attention to your vocal tone. Such awareness transforms casual conversation into sacred exchange where each word carries the weight of its lasting impact.
Your communication patterns create your relational legacy. Every interaction either contributes to someone's sense of worth and possibility or diminishes it. When you speak from centered awareness rather than reactive impulse, you offer others the gift of feeling truly seen and valued. This gift becomes part of their internal landscape, strengthening their capacity to extend similar care to others.
Developing this communication consciousness requires recognizing that your words serve as either weapons or medicine in the lives of others. Before speaking, your Wave Tamer can scan for the emotional residue your words might leave behind. Will they contribute to healing or harm? Will they foster connection or create separation?
The transformation that occurs when you honor communication as sacred practice extends beyond individual relationships. Each mindful exchange contributes to
collective healing, creating ripples of respect and understanding that influence community dynamics and cultural patterns.
Inspiration
When you honor communication as sacred practice, you transform casual exchange into conscious contribution—discovering that moving beyond beliefs about words as temporary opens the path to creating lasting positive impact in every interaction.
Consideration
Consider how viewing your words as permanent gifts might reveal dimensions of relational wisdom that past patterns of unconscious speaking have obscured.
InQuiry. Application. Implementation.
How might treating your internal dialogue with your ArcTypes as a sacred exchange transform your how your respond in daily interactions? In what ways could honoring the lasting impact of your words help you move beyond unexamined beliefs about communication as inconsequential? What possibilities emerge when you recognize that the mindful speech you cultivate contributes directly to the respectful dialogue you wish to see in the world?
Rhythm & Rhyme
Unity is realized and appreciated only when diversity is the heart and it’s pulse is felt. Pause to explore the transformative understanding that can be realized in understanding the relationship between your ArcTypes. Examining how it illuminates your ‘invironment’ it becomes clear the pieces of self that have the strongest impact on your connections. This self-awareness generates the ability to flourish when you come face to face with different backgrounds, worldviews, and experiences. This knowledge lets you weave your difference together honour their distinctive contributions to decisions that lead to joy.
As you grow to understand and play with the harmony inherent with the pieces of self, you discover that authentic unity never requires uniformity. Unity develops through the sacred dance as the distinctively different aspects that make you whole maintaining their individual essence while participating in collective wholeness.
Consider a garden—where different plants support soil health, attract a variety of pollinators, as they create micro-environments that benefit the entire ecosystem.
Each encounter with this principle lets you experience new layers of vitality as you experience how the pieces of self want to naturally protect and co-operate. When you’re making a decision, your ArcTypes approach the situation from a different perspective, revealing solutions that no single perspective could possibly generate. The habit of consulting your ArcTypes when making a decision helps you realize that every opportunity is a chance to improve your ability for dynamic balancing and evolutionary growth.
Current attempts to eliminate difference reveals a fundamental misunderstanding about unity's requirements. Genuine unity depends upon diversity as its life source. Without varied elements there is no way to harmonize, and unity becomes impossible. Efforts to achieve unity through sameness create sterile uniformity instead, lacking the adaptability and innovation that genuine unity provides.
Your Wave Tamer has access to this wisdom, and when you find yourself in a situation where a fixed belief is challenge where you are, give yourself time, even
if it means saying “Thank you. I’m not ready to make a decision at this time as I need to feel my way through my feelings.” This provides an opportunity for a second encounter, honoring difference as unity's vital component rather than obstacle.
This self-awareness revolutionizes your approach to inner conflict. No longer experiencing opposing views between your heart and brain as enemies to unity, you recognize both as necessary ingredients to grow wisdom that emerges from your inner collective. When you embrace the differences that create your inner realities, feelings are free to stretch, and you emotionally shift from resistance to receptivity and from judgment to appreciation.
Living this principle means getting comfortable with paradox. We live in a universe that was birthed in paradox, a place space dances with time, where unity and diversity are partners not competitors. Just like breathing in and breathing out, they actually create each other through their interaction, life sustained through this rhythmic exchange.
Just to be clear, let me state this multiple ways:
Everything belongs in a unified system. Everything matters in a unified system Diversity produces Unity.
Unity flows from Diversity's fountain. Diversity makes Unity possible.
Unity requires Diversity for a sure foundation. Diversity nourishes Unity's growth.
Unity reflects Diversity's gift. Diversity sustains Unity's life.
Unity celebrates diversity's contribution. Diversity ensures Unity's continuation.
Inspiration
When you embrace diversity as unity's creative force, you transform separation into wholeness—discovering that releasing beliefs about similarity as safety opens pathways to resilient community where each unique voice strengthens collective harmony.
Consideration
Consider how welcoming difference as necessary might reveal aspects of belonging that previous patterns of seeking similarity have hidden.
InQuiry. Application. Implementation.
How might understanding diversity as unity's creative source transform your responses to disagreement and difference? In what ways could celebrating unique contributions help you release unexamined beliefs about peace requiring identical thinking? What possibilities unfold when you recognize that the diversity you nurture within yourself and your relationships contributes directly to the inclusive harmony you envision for the world?
Chapter 5: ReCognitive Connections
First Principle
First Principle Six
“Resources transform from a minimal to a highest state to establish a complete, stable and sustainable connection within the system.”
Translated as to how it applies to your life and making a decision:
“What you take in must be lifted to a new perspective, making sure it doesn’t compromise promises you’ve already made.”
The 4th ArcType: The Light Lifter
Your cognitive ability is the ArcType I’ve called the Light Lifter. When your emotional realities are positive, the dynamics lift to your brain and your cognitive intelligence is charged with examining whether what your body and heart approve connects with everything else you have going on! In the battle for your attention and choices, the Light Lifter serves as your strategic command center—yet many have been taught to distrust their own cognitive assessment in favor of external "expert" opinions. Making sure a new possibility doesn't disrupt anything or everything else in your life, your commitments, desires, and responsibilities. This ArcType serves as integrative force as you proceed toward making a coherent decision.
When physical senses signal approval for new possibilities, your Light Lifter evaluates how potential choices fit within your life's larger tapestry. Those seeking to control your choices often overwhelm this integrative function with urgency
—"Act now!" "Limited time offer!" "Don't think, just do!"—knowing that bypassing your Light Lifter leaves you vulnerable to their agenda. This faculty brings discernment without judgment, examining new elements within context and asking: "How does this enhance or potentially disrupt my existing life pattern?"
This piece of self prevents fragmentation occurring when you accept appealing possibilities that create unsustainable complexity when added to existing commitments. This protection is crucial because those who profit from your overwhelm deliberately fragment your attention, knowing that a scattered mind cannot mount effective resistance to manipulation. Supporting this function requires maintaining clear visual representation of current commitments—through comprehensive calendars, strategic reminders, or detailed lists creating tangible maps of energetic and temporal investments. These tools become your plan in the assault against your choices—clear documentation of where your energy is already committed to flowing helps you recognize when someone is trying to divert it.
The Light Lifter reveals others tactic to manufacture chaos—knowing how when your cognitive capacity is constantly overwhelmed by external demands, you lose the ability to think strategically about your own life. Many have been conditioned to see careful thinking as "overthinking," to view integration as "being difficult,"
to perceive boundaries around your time as "selfishness." These are weapons used against your sovereignty.
When you reclaim the high ground in the battle for your consciousness, you’re developing the ability to see the bigger picture. As you recognize patterns of manipulation, you begin to understand who benefits when you're overwhelmed an unable to think clearly. This ArcType helps you move from reactive scrambling to strategic choosing.
Inspiration
When you engage your Light Lifter's integrative wisdom, you transform fragmentation into coherence—discovering that moving beyond beliefs about spontaneity requiring disorganization opens pathways to sustainable choices that honor both inspiration and existing commitments. In this integration, you become immune to those who weaponize urgency against your discernment.
Consideration
Consider how activating your Light Lifter's discernment might reveal dimensions of sustainable living that past patterns of impulsive decision-making —often triggered by those who profit from your scattered attention— have prevented.
InQuiry. Application. Implementation.
How might consciously engaging your Light Lifter transform your relationship with new opportunities and commitments? In what ways could honoring integrative thinking help you move beyond unexamined beliefs about excitement requiring immediate action? What possibilities emerge when you recognize that the coherent choices you cultivate contribute directly to the sustainable lifestyle you wish to see manifested? Who loses power when you take time to think things through? How can your Light Lifter help you recognize and resist the manufactured urgency designed to bypass your cognitive assessment?
Point of View vs Puncture
Finding a new perspective requires a quest, a deliberate ascent to a higher vantage points. The good news is when your Wave Tamer wants a decision assessment to continue it sends a wave that lifts you to the highest peak in your ‘invironment’. When contemplating an opportunity, formulating a request, or extending an offer, give yourself enough time to compare what’s already going on, making sure everything, including something new fits. If it doesn’t you have to say “No, thank you.”
An elevated position offers a strategic advantage. Just as ascending a mountains reveals terrain that’s invisible from a valley floor, retreating from immediate pressures enables perceiving relationships and patterns previously obscured by proximity. The intentional pause to "ensure coherent connections emerge" invites evaluating alignment between immediate opportunities and your broader principles and existing commitments.
This practice prevents fragmented decision-making where individual choices appear beneficial in isolation yet create dissonance within your complete life architecture. Through deliberately seeking elevated perspective before engaging, you ensure responses emerge from integrated understanding rather than partial comprehension.
The contrast between "point of view" and "puncture" reveals a fundamental distinction in how you engage with life's challenges and opportunities. Point of view suggests spaciousness, perspective, and the capacity to see multiple dimensions of a situation. Puncture implies being penetrated, wounded, or deflated by circumstances—losing your essential fullness when pressured.
Cultivating an elevated point of view protects you from the puncturing effects of reactive engagement.
When operating from ground level—immersed in immediate circumstances— your vision becomes limited to what's directly in front of you. Pressures feel overwhelming because you can't see their relationship to larger patterns. Problems appear insurmountable because you're too close to perceive available resources.
Opportunities seem urgent because you lack perspective on their true timing and appropriateness. This proximity creates a kind of tunnel vision that distorts your understanding of what's actually happening.
The deliberate ascent to higher perspective functions like adjusting the zoom on a camera lens. Close-up views reveal important details but can miss crucial context. Wide-angle perspectives show relationships and patterns invisible from limited vantage points. Your capacity to consciously shift between detailed examination and comprehensive overview becomes essential for wise decision-making in complex situations.
This elevated positioning doesn't mean becoming detached or disconnected from your immediate experience. Rather, it involves expanding your awareness to include multiple timeframes, considering various stakeholders, and recognizing how current choices fit within larger life themes. You maintain engagement while gaining perspective, staying present while accessing wisdom from past experience and future intentions.
The strategic distance you create through this practice serves multiple functions. It allows emotional reactivity to settle, revealing clearer priorities beneath initial impulses. It provides time for additional information to emerge, preventing decisions based on incomplete understanding. It creates space for consulting various aspects of your intelligence—analytical, intuitive, somatic, and spiritual— rather than defaulting to habitual response patterns.
Your quest for elevated vantage points becomes a deliberate practice rather than accidental occurrence. You learn to recognize when you're operating from ground- level perspective and develop specific techniques for gaining altitude. This might involve physical movement to different environments, temporal distancing by imagining how current concerns will feel in five years, or relational expansion by considering how choices affect others beyond your immediate circle.
The coherent connections that emerge from this perspective often surprise you with their elegance and efficiency. Solutions that seemed impossible from ground level become obvious when viewed from higher altitude. Relationships between seemingly unrelated elements reveal themselves as parts of larger patterns.
Resources you couldn't see while immersed in problems become visible when you gain perspective on the whole landscape.
This comprehensive understanding prevents the puncturing effects of reactive engagement. When you respond from elevated perspective, you maintain your essential wholeness rather than being deflated by challenging circumstances. Difficulties become information rather than threats. Opportunities become choices
rather than urgent demands. Pressures become feedback rather than overwhelming forces.
The architecture of your complete life requires this kind of integrated perspective to maintain coherence. Individual decisions that seem beneficial in isolation might create structural weaknesses when they don't align with your broader foundation. The temporary benefit of quick decisions often creates long-term complications that require extensive energy to resolve. Taking time to ensure comprehensive understanding prevents these costly misalignments.
Your ability to recognize when you're operating from punctured rather than elevated perspective becomes crucial for maintaining authentic power. Punctured perspective feels reactive, urgent, and limited. Elevated perspective feels responsive, timely, and expansive. Learning to distinguish between these states allows you to consciously choose your approach to challenging situations.
The practice of seeking elevated vantage points also transforms your relationship with time itself. Instead of feeling pressured by artificial deadlines or external urgency, you begin to sense the natural timing inherent in situations. Some opportunities require immediate response while others benefit from extended consideration. Some problems demand urgent attention while others resolve naturally when given appropriate time and perspective.
This elevated approach to decision-making particularly serves you when navigating complex relationships and professional opportunities. Personal conflicts often dissolve when viewed from higher perspective, revealing underlying needs and possible solutions invisible from ground level. Career decisions become clearer when considered within the context of your complete life vision rather than immediate financial or status considerations.
The wisdom cultivated through this practice extends beyond individual decision- making to influence how you hold space for others facing difficult choices. When you've developed your own capacity for elevated perspective, you can offer this gift to friends, family, and colleagues who might be stuck in ground-level reactivity. Your presence becomes a resource that helps others access their own higher perspective.
The integration of multiple timeframes—honoring both immediate needs and long-term consequences—creates a sophisticated approach to practical wisdom. You learn to balance urgent requirements with sustainable practices, immediate
opportunities with patient development, current pressures with enduring values. This temporal integration prevents both shortsighted reactivity and paralytic overthinking.
Your commitment to comprehensive understanding before major decisions becomes a form of spiritual practice. It demonstrates respect for the complexity of existence and humility about the limitations of immediate perception. This approach honors both the mystery of unfolding circumstances and your responsibility to engage consciously with whatever emerges.
Inspiration
When you ascend to higher perspective before deciding, you transform narrow vision into comprehensive understanding—discovering that moving beyond beliefs about immediate action as efficiency opens pathways to integrated choices that serve both present opportunities and long-term harmony.
Consideration
Consider how seeking elevated vantage points might reveal dimensions of decision wisdom that past patterns of ground-level thinking have limited.
InQuiry. Application. Implementation.
How might deliberately climbing to higher perspective transform your approach to opportunities and major decisions? In what ways could seeking comprehensive understanding help you move beyond unexamined beliefs about quick decisions as practical? What possibilities emerge when you recognize that the integrated perspective you cultivate contributes directly to the coherent life choices you wish to see manifested?
The Danger of A Punctured Perspective
Without this elevated viewpoint, decisions become punctures—sharp, isolated choices that create holes in the fabric of coherent living. These punctured decisions may appear logical individually but fail to consider how they interact with existing commitments, values, and long-term aspirations.
Punctured perspective leads to life fragmentation where various choices work against rather than with each other, creating internal conflict and external chaos. When operating from punctured viewpoints, you lose sight of how individual decisions contribute to or detract from your overall life direction and authentic expression.
When your perspective becomes punctured, your life begins to resemble a balloon that's been pricked by a sharp object. What once felt full, vibrant, and capable of soaring suddenly deflates, losing its essential buoyancy and capacity for elevation. Each punctured decision creates another small hole through which your vital energy, enthusiasm, and sense of direction gradually escape. The balloon that once held beautiful shape and promising potential becomes limp, unable to maintain its form or fulfill its purpose.
Similarly, punctured perspective functions like acquiring a flat tire while traveling toward an important destination. Initially, you might not notice the slow leak—the gradual loss of pressure that compromises your vehicle's performance. You continue driving, but steering becomes more difficult, the ride grows rougher, and progress slows considerably. Eventually, the deflation becomes so severe that forward movement becomes impossible, leaving you stranded far from your intended destination, requiring significant time and energy to repair what preventive attention could have preserved.
These metaphors reveal how punctured perspective creates cascading effects that extend far beyond individual decisions. When you make choices without considering their relationship to your broader life architecture, you create structural weaknesses that compound over time. A commitment accepted without considering existing obligations becomes a source of stress. A financial decision made without evaluating long-term goals creates resource conflicts. A relationship choice pursued without honoring personal boundaries generates emotional confusion.
The sharp, isolated nature of punctured decisions reflects a kind of tunnel vision that mistakes immediate clarity for comprehensive understanding. From this limited vantage point, opportunities appear more attractive than they actually are because you can't see their hidden costs. Problems seem more urgent than they truly are because you lack perspective on their temporary nature. Resources appear scarce because you can't perceive the abundance available through integrated action.
This fragmented approach to decision-making creates what might be called "life leakage"—a slow but steady drain on your energy, enthusiasm, and effectiveness. Like a punctured container that can't hold water regardless of how much you pour in, a punctured perspective prevents you from accumulating the benefits of your efforts. Progress becomes frustratingly difficult because each step forward is undermined by conflicting choices made without comprehensive awareness.
The internal conflict generated by punctured perspective manifests as a constant sense of being pulled in multiple directions. Different aspects of your life make competing demands because they weren't coordinated through elevated understanding. Your professional commitments conflict with personal values.
Social obligations drain energy needed for creative projects. Financial choices limit options for meaningful experiences. This internal fragmentation creates exhaustion even when individual activities might be inherently enjoyable.
External chaos emerges as the natural consequence of internal fragmentation. When your decisions don't align with each other, your environment reflects this incoherence. Your schedule becomes overwhelming because commitments were made without considering their cumulative impact. Your living space becomes cluttered because purchases weren't evaluated within broader lifestyle intentions. Your relationships become strained because interactions weren't considered within the context of mutual growth and authentic expression.
The loss of sight regarding how individual decisions contribute to overall life direction creates a kind of existential drift. Without the compass of elevated perspective, you find yourself responding to immediate pressures rather than consciously creating desired outcomes. Days pass without clear progress toward meaningful goals. Energy gets dispersed across activities that don't support authentic expression. Time becomes a scarce resource rather than a canvas for conscious creation.
This punctured approach to living often develops gradually, making it difficult to recognize until significant damage has occurred. Like a slow leak in a tire, the degradation happens slowly enough that you unconsciously adapt to diminished performance rather than addressing the underlying problem. You accept increasing stress as normal, growing exhaustion as inevitable, mounting confusion as simply part of modern life.
The repair process for punctured perspective requires more than simply identifying the holes—it demands developing new patterns of elevated assessment before making significant choices. Like patching a tire, temporary fixes might provide short-term relief, but lasting solutions require strengthening the entire structure to prevent future punctures. This means cultivating habits of comprehensive evaluation that become automatic rather than exceptional.
Recognizing when you're operating from punctured perspective becomes crucial for preventing further damage. Warning signs include feeling constantly rushed, experiencing frequent conflicts between different areas of life, noticing that achievements feel hollow despite meeting external criteria for success, and finding that rest doesn't restore your energy because internal contradictions continue generating tension even during downtime.
The cumulative effect of punctured decisions creates what might be called "decision debt"—a backlog of choices that need to be reconsidered, renegotiated, or completely reversed because they weren't made with sufficient perspective.
Like financial debt that accumulates interest over time, decision debt grows more expensive to resolve the longer it remains unaddressed. Energy that could be directed toward growth gets diverted to managing the consequences of fragmented choices.
Breaking free from punctured perspective requires developing what might be called "decision hygiene"—regular practices that ensure choices emerge from elevated understanding rather than ground-level reactivity. This includes creating buffer time before responding to opportunities, consulting multiple aspects of your intelligence before committing, and regularly reviewing existing commitments to ensure they continue serving your authentic direction.
The transformation from punctured to elevated perspective doesn't happen overnight, but each conscious choice to seek comprehensive understanding before deciding begins to restore your capacity for coherent living. Like gradually inflating a deflated balloon, this process requires patience and persistence, but
eventually returns your life to its natural buoyancy and capacity for soaring toward meaningful destinations.
Inspiration
When you avoid punctured decision-making through elevated perspective, you transform fragmentation into integration—discovering that moving beyond beliefs about isolated choices as independent opens pathways to coherent living where all decisions support your authentic direction.
Consideration
Consider how preventing punctured perspective might reveal dimensions of life coherence that past patterns of isolated decision-making have disrupted.
InQuiry. Application. Implementation.
How might avoiding punctured perspective transform your relationship with decision-making and life coherence? In what ways could seeking integrated understanding help you move beyond unexamined beliefs about decisions as independent events? What possibilities emerge when you recognize that the coherent perspective you maintain contributes directly to the integrated life you wish to see expressed?
Recognizing & Repairing Leaks
From the highest point perspective, the realm of the Light Lifter, you can see the cumulative patterns of a punctured life clearly. What once may have seemed like an isolated drip, is revealed as a symptom of deeper issues. The reason for energy hemorrhaging is unconscious choices you don't even recognize as a decision.
The most common cause of leaks is taking on too much. This leads to cracks and fissures that weaken your system, causing energy to crash, leading to emotional swamps that bog your body down, threatening your wellbeing and health. From this elevated vantage point, you are able to see patterns that were once invisible.
Overcommitment—saying yes to something you don't truly want creates pressure and can force other poor decisions. Making this connection lets you see how energy—your life force— flows away from your priorities toward obligations that serve others' agendas rather than your vision.
This perspective lets you identify the leaks that require your immediate attention and those that can wait. It's important to address those habits that threaten you with stress, the habit of making commitments that compromise your ability to live your life. This book is about learning how to make choices that don't sap your energy.
It takes ongoing vigilance to keep stress down, reducing the leaks that diminish your quality and cause untold damage. Every decision brings you back to this elevated perspective, allowing you to spot new leaks before they become major problems. Remember that what seems normal at ground level is often revealed as problematic from this perspective.
Inspiration
When you reach an elevated perspective, seeing where energy is leaking in your life, reactive patching transforms into systematic restoration. In this you discover how to lift above ground-level crisis management, opening new pathways to choices that strengthen the fabric of your authentic living.
Consideration
Consider how finding a new perspective reveals patterns that past habits of ignoring leaks might have obscured.
InQuiry. Application. Implementation.
How might deliberately gaining this elevated perspective transform your approach to energy drains and overcommitment? In what ways could seeking understanding help you move beyond unexamined beliefs about how you manage problems as they arise? What possibilities emerge when you recognize cultivating a new perspective contributes directly to the leak-proof life you want to live?
The Cumulative Effect
The mathematics of leaks is that they compound exponentially, one small leak quickly leading to the hemorrhaging of energy that strips away meaning, purpose, and vitality. You find yourself working harder and harder to maintain what once flowed naturally. It's like filling a bucket with an eyedropper unaware that there's a hole in the bottom.
This fragmentation manifests in several recognizable patterns:
The Busy Trap: Your calendar becomes completely full—often overbooked—yet you accomplish little in the way of what truly matters to you. You're constantly in motion but rarely get any closer to your goals.
The Energy Crisis: You feel perpetually tired despite getting what you think is adequate sleep. Your life force is leaking, escaping through unconscious commitments, promises you make but never intend to keep, and choices that are not a match to your values or your vision.
The Relationship Juggle: You work hard to maintain numerous relationships, each requiring careful management. But rather than naturally flowing, reciprocity the hallmark, you end up feeling like a performer rather than yourself.
The Success Paradox: Ok, you may have achieved a lifestyle that conveys an image of success, but you feel increasingly empty inside as the quality of your life has eroded down to the bedrock. This usually happens when the success you achieved wasn't realized with intention, the method unaligned with your core values and vision.
Decision Fatigue: Every choice is a challenge because you've lost touch with your internal compass, meaning even the simplest decisions make you feel lost, dizzy, overwhelmed and uncertain.
Inspiration
When you understand how small leaks multiply into major life drainage, you transform scattered problem-solving into strategic life repair—discovering that recognizing these patterns early allows you to address root causes rather than chasing symptoms.
Consideration
Consider how identifying your personal leak patterns might reveal why past efforts to "fix" individual problems may have felt frustratingly temporary.
InQuiry. Application. Implementation.
Which of these patterns do you recognize most clearly in your current life? How might understanding the cumulative nature of energy leaks change your approach to addressing what feels overwhelming? What becomes possible when you realize that repairing one major leak often resolves multiple symptoms simultaneously?
Repair Progress
The good news about leaks is they can be repaired—but a superficial fix isn't a repair. Think about the times you've slapped positive thinking over a leaky life and believed it was going to hold. True repair requires understanding how the leak developed in the first place, the mending and healing starting when you directly address and resolve its root cause.
Identifying Active Leaks: The first step involves you making an honest assessment about what's sucking you dry. What's going on that doesn't serve your paving and walking your path? What commitments are you making that drain you rather than energize you? Do you want to heal relationships that require costumes and performance rather than your genuine presence?
Emergency Triage: There are leaks that require your immediate attention, and you must be willing to address them before you can begin to do deeper work. This means strengthening your boundaries, negotiating or ending relationships that drain you, or stepping back from commitments you were manipulated into that are harming your wellbeing.
Deep Repair Work: True leak repair happens when you learn to make decisions harnessing the knowledge and wisdom held by all your intelligences, living your life rather than reacting based on fear, obligation, or other unconscious patterns. Your ArcTypes are essential to understand, making decisions that reinforce your boundaries rather than poke holes in them.
Preventive Maintenance: Once you've repaired existing leaks, it's important to prevent new ones. This means consulting the pieces of self before you make commitments of any kind, doing it every time. Every decision is checked against your core values, maintaining the boundary between an authentic "Yes, please" and the habit of a people-pleasing "Ok. Whatever."
Inspiration
When you commit to genuine repair rather than quick fixes, you transform temporary band-aids into lasting restoration—discovering that addressing root causes creates sustainable healing that strengthens your entire life system.
Consideration
Consider how distinguishing between emergency repairs and deeper restoration work might help you allocate your healing energy more effectively.
InQuiry. Application. Implementation.
What active leaks in your life need immediate emergency attention versus deeper systematic repair? How might consulting all parts of yourself before making commitments change the quality of your choices? What would become possible if you consistently honored the difference between your authentic "yes" and your automatic "whatever"?
A Leakproof Life
Inclusivity—including all your ArcTypes in every decision—is the strongest form of prevention when it comes to sealing energy leaks. When all the pieces of you are valued, allowed to work in harmony, your life becomes naturally resistant to punctures. Opinion seeking stops and gossip ends as decisions flow from wisdom rather than reactivity, creating a seamless fabric that can hold everything you truly value.
This doesn't mean your life becomes rigid. Think of your boundaries as the highest-quality material you can buy. It can be in the sun. It's waterproof. It's beautiful. It's the kind most of us want on our year-round patio furniture!
An intentionally integrated life is flexible, and when storms blow you bend and are able to sustain boundaries that protect your integrity. The result is your life feels rich, stable, substantial, and deeply satisfying—not because it's perfect, but because it's yours! When you think through your decisions, checking to see how they fit in with what else is going on in your life, you're free to consciously continue the decision contemplation. Without leaks your energy flows toward what matters the most to you, your time is aligned with your values, and best of all, you're nourished rather than drained.
Repair the leaks and learn to make decisions that strengthen your boundaries rather than drill holes in the fabric of your life. From the Light Lifter's perspective, you can see the solutions, not just the damage that's now mendable, able to be restored.
.Inspiration
When you create a truly leakproof life through inclusive decision-making, you transform constant maintenance into natural flow—discovering that protecting your boundaries becomes as effortless as quality materials weathering any storm.
Consideration
Consider how viewing your life's boundaries as premium materials might change your willingness to invest in decisions that truly protect what matters most.
InQuiry. Application. Implementation.
How might including all parts of yourself in decisions create the kind of boundary strength you want? What would it feel like to have energy flowing toward your priorities rather than leaking away? What becomes possible when your life feels as durable and beautiful as the finest materials, built to last through any weather?
An Octahedral Perspective
Your Light Lifter operates through octahedral consciousness—the eight-faced form embodying perfect symmetry and balance, composed of identical triangles meeting at each vertex. This geometric principle reflects the ancient understanding "as above, so below"—patterns repeating across existence scales, from cosmic to mundane.
Your Light Lifter recognizes universal patterns and translates them into practical applications, perceiving reality's fractal nature where grandest cosmic principles find expression in smallest daily actions. This perception allows aligning ordinary choices with extraordinary meaning.
Peak experiences—moments of extraordinary clarity, connection, and meaning— often occur when your Light Lifter fully engages. In these transcendent instants, veils between worlds seem momentarily lifted, revealing not only what exists but what could be, glimpsing potentials and possibilities normally hidden.
The octahedral balance teaches crucial lessons about implementing vision. When resting on any single point, the structure requires equilibrium to remain stable.
Similarly, transforming inspiration into earthly good demands careful consideration of multiple perspectives, stakeholders, contexts, and consequences.
Inspiration
When you embody octahedral balance, you transform instability into equilibrium
—discovering that moving beyond beliefs about vision requiring single-minded focus opens pathways to implementations that consider multiple perspectives and serve lasting good.
Consideration
Consider how embracing "as above, so below" thinking might reveal dimensions of practical spirituality that past patterns of separating inspiration from application have missed.
InQuiry. Application. Implementation.
How might applying octahedral balance transform your approach to implementing meaningful visions? In what ways could honoring multiple perspectives help you move beyond unexamined beliefs about leadership requiring singular direction?
What possibilities emerge when you recognize that the balanced implementations you create contribute directly to the stable positive change you wish to see sustained?
ReFraming Challenges. Wiring Attitudes.
It's a universal human experience to occasionally feel as though others can read our thoughts. Remember, you're not uniquely transparent—no one has direct access to what's happening within your body, heart, mind, or intuition. Together, we're creating a protected space that honors both your self-expression and your right to silence.
When you choose to share, we commit to listening deeply, hearing genuinely, and responding with authentic understanding and empathy, ensuring your experience of being truly seen. This journey creates a sanctuary where your authentic self emerges naturally, each step honored in its perfect timing.
Author your life's masterpiece, revealing your story in vivid detail, uncovering the true work of art that is you! Your distinctive presence in this world isn't merely welcomed—it's necessary. It's an honor to be a small part of you discovering the extraordinary beauty of how to grow into genuine selfhood.
The process of rewiring your attitudes resembles renovating the electrical system in a vintage home. The beautiful structure of who you are is already there—the solid foundation, the graceful architecture, the inherent character that makes you uniquely valuable. However, the old wiring that once adequately powered earlier versions of your life now creates flickering responses, blown emotional fuses, and potential hazards when faced with your expanding capacity for authentic living.
This rewiring process requires both respect for your existing structure and recognition that outdated internal systems need updating. Just as you wouldn't demolish a beautiful old house because it needs electrical work, you don't need to tear down your entire personality to install new attitude patterns. The renovation preserves what's architecturally sound while replacing what no longer serves your current power requirements.
Like any electrical renovation, this work requires temporarily shutting off power to certain areas while new connections are installed. During attitude rewiring, you might experience periods where familiar responses feel unavailable while new patterns are still developing. This temporary disruption is normal and necessary— the brief inconvenience of living with extension cords and limited lighting while the real infrastructure is being upgraded to handle your full authentic wattage.
Your neural pathways function like trails through a vast forest of possibility. Over years of repetition, certain routes become well-worn highways that your thoughts automatically travel. These established pathways made sense when they were created, often serving important protective or adaptive functions during earlier phases of your development. However, some of these mental routes now lead to destinations you no longer wish to visit.
Creating new neural pathways requires the same patience and persistence as establishing trails through wilderness. Initially, new thoughts and responses feel awkward, requiring conscious effort to navigate unfamiliar territory. Branches catch on your consciousness, roots of old patterns try to trip you up, and the temptation to return to familiar routes feels overwhelming. Yet each time you consciously choose the new pathway, you clear away obstacles and make the route more accessible for future travel.
The remarkable plasticity of your brain means these new neural pathways can become as automatic as the old ones, given sufficient repetition and intention. What begins as effortful conscious choice gradually transforms into natural response. The new attitudes that once required constant vigilance to maintain eventually become the default setting for how you engage with life's challenges and opportunities.
This rewiring process often reveals how many of your current attitude patterns were installed during circumstances that no longer exist. The hypervigilance that protected you in an unsafe environment might now prevent you from enjoying secure relationships. The people-pleasing patterns that helped you navigate childhood dynamics might now compromise your adult authenticity. The skepticism that once shielded you from disappointment might now block you from receiving genuine love and opportunity.
Recognizing that these attitudes were appropriate adaptations to past circumstances helps you approach the rewiring process with compassion rather than self-criticism. Your psyche's electrical system developed exactly as it needed to for survival and success within earlier contexts. Now you're simply updating the infrastructure to support your current life requirements and future aspirations.
The sanctuary you create for this rewiring process serves as both the construction zone where new patterns are installed and the safe space where you can test new responses without judgment. Like having a skilled electrician supervise the renovation, you need trustworthy support that understands both the technical
aspects of change and the vulnerability inherent in exposing your internal systems for upgrade.
Your right to silence during this process honors the reality that rewiring requires periods of internal focus where external demands must be temporarily minimized. Just as electrical work requires shutting off power to prevent dangerous interactions, attitude transformation sometimes needs space from stimuli that might trigger old patterns before new ones are fully established.
The masterpiece you're authoring through this rewiring process emerges as your authentic responses replace automatic reactions. Each new neural pathway you establish contributes to the overall composition of who you're becoming. The flickering lights of inconsistent behavior are replaced by steady illumination that reliably reflects your genuine values and intentions.
Your distinctive presence becomes more visible as the rewiring eliminates the static interference created by outdated attitude patterns. When your internal electrical system operates efficiently, your authentic signal comes through clearly rather than being distorted by old programming that no longer matches your current identity and aspirations.
The honor of witnessing this transformation acknowledges the courage required to undertake such fundamental internal renovation. Like watching a master craftsperson restore a beautiful building to its full glory, observing someone consciously rewire their attitudes reveals the extraordinary capacity humans have for intentional growth and authentic expression.
This rewiring ultimately serves not just your personal development but your contribution to the larger human community. When your internal systems operate from authentic rather than reactive patterns, your presence becomes a resource that supports others' growth rather than triggering their defensive responses. Your rewired attitudes become part of the infrastructure that enables more conscious, connected, and creative human interaction.
Inspiration
Though we sometimes fear our thoughts are transparent to others, the reality is that your inner landscape remains your sacred domain—a private canvas where you alone hold the brushes to paint your authentic experience and author the masterpiece that is your life.
Consideration
Consider how embracing both your right to expression and your right to silence might reveal dimensions of self-authorship that past patterns of feeling exposed or misunderstood have obscured.
InQuiry. Application. Implementation
How might recognizing that no one can truly read your thoughts transform your relationship with vulnerability and sharing? In what ways could creating a sanctuary for your authentic self change how you engage with others? What possibilities emerge when you view your presence in the world not merely as welcomed but as necessary—a unique contribution that cannot be replicated or replaced?
The Language of Connection
The words you speak—and the manner in which you deliver them—leave permanent impressions that transcend forgiveness itself. Reflect on moments when someone's words remained with you across years, whether they elevated your spirit or created lasting wounds that still influence your choices today.
Your voice generates ripples extending far beyond immediate conversation. The tone you employ, words you select, and intention behind them become woven into another person's memory archives, joining their internal narrative and potentially influencing their self-perception for decades.
While we all stumble in communication, and authentic apologies can restore relational harmony, the original impact endures. Words cannot be unspoken or unheard—they become part of the receiver's experiential database, potentially shaping their emotional responses long after the conversation ends.
This reality invites profound consideration of sacred communication—pausing before speaking, allowing both feeling and thinking to inform your word choices, and maintaining conscious attention to vocal tone. Such awareness transforms casual conversation into deliberate exchange where each word carries responsibility for its lasting influence.
Inspiration
When you honor communication as sacred practice, you transform casual exchange into conscious contribution—discovering that moving beyond beliefs about words as temporary opens pathways to creating lasting positive impact in every interaction.
Consideration
Consider how viewing your words as permanent gifts might reveal dimensions of relational wisdom that past patterns of unconscious speaking have obscured.
InQuiry. Application. Implementation.
How might treating each conversation as sacred exchange transform your relationship with daily interactions? In what ways could honoring the lasting impact of your words help you move beyond unexamined beliefs about communication as inconsequential? What possibilities emerge when you
recognize that the mindful speech you cultivate contributes directly to the respectful dialogue you wish to see in the world?
Stardust Connections
You are composed of stellar matter! While absolutely unique, all substance— yourself, amphibians, pond organisms, weathered stones, and pristine gems— emerged from the apparent emptiness pervading our universe.
What emotions surface when you consider that your genetic code shares 99.9% identity with every other member of the human family?
To expand your perspective consider this: chickens, bananas, and fruit flies share 60% of your DNA. This genetic overlap reveals that DNA functions as an information transport system, it's role to carry specific developmental instructions rather than determining fundamental worth or separation.
This cosmic perspective fundamentally transforms how you understand your place in existence. The calcium strengthening your bones was forged in ancient stellar furnaces, the iron carrying oxygen through your bloodstream originated in stellar cores, and the carbon forming every protein in your body was created when massive stars collapsed in spectacular supernovae. Your physical form represents a temporary gathering of elements that have traveled vast distances through space and time to organize themselves into the miraculous complexity you call yourself.
This shared cosmic heritage extends beyond poetic metaphor into measurable scientific reality. When you breathe, you exchange atoms with every other living being on the planet. The oxygen you inhale was recently part of a tree, a whale's breath, or distant clouds. Through this constant atomic exchange, you maintain physical connection with all life on Earth, literally sharing substance with every creature you encounter.
The genetic similarities you share with other humans become even more profound when viewed through this cosmic lens. That 99.9% shared DNA represents billions of years of successful evolutionary experimentation, refined through countless generations of ancestors. The tiny 0.1% of genetic variation that makes you unique exists within the context of overwhelming similarity, like individual instruments playing variations on a shared universal symphony.
Your kinship with other species reveals the elegant efficiency of evolutionary processes that discovered successful solutions and applied them broadly across life forms. The 60% genetic overlap with chickens reflects shared solutions for fundamental biological challenges like cellular metabolism and protein synthesis.
These commonalities demonstrate that life discovered optimal ways to organize matter and energy, then preserved these successful patterns across millions of years.
This understanding transforms how you perceive differences between individuals, cultures, and species. Surface variations in appearance, behavior, and capability emerge as creative expressions of shared underlying patterns rather than evidence of fundamental separation. The recognition of shared cosmic origins dissolves artificial hierarchies based on physical characteristics or cultural differences.
When you understand that all humans emerged from the same stellar nurseries and carry nearly identical genetic information, distinctions based on skin color, nationality, or ancestry reveal themselves as arbitrary divisions imposed on fundamental unity.
Your daily interactions gain deeper meaning when viewed through this lens of cosmic connection. The stranger you pass on the street shares your stellar origins and genetic heritage. Even those you find difficult to understand represent unique expressions of the same universal creative force that animates your own existence. This perspective extends beyond human relationships to encompass your connection with all life—the trees providing oxygen, the soil supporting plants that nourish you, the microorganisms maintaining your health.
Understanding your stardust nature also transforms your relationship with mortality and change. Your current form represents a temporary constellation of cosmic material that will eventually reorganize into new configurations. This doesn't diminish your significance but rather places your individual expression within the context of an eternal cosmic dance where matter continuously explores new possibilities for consciousness and creativity.
Your unique individual expression serves the universe's apparent drive toward increasing complexity, consciousness, and beauty. While sharing fundamental composition with all other beings, your specific combination of genetic inheritance, life experience, and conscious choice creates a perspective that has never existed before and will never be replicated. Your individuality enriches the cosmic symphony rather than separating you from it.
Inspiration
When you embrace your cosmic origins, you transform separation into connection
—discovering that moving beyond beliefs about fundamental difference opens pathways to recognizing the universal essence connecting all life.
Consideration
Consider how understanding your stardust nature might reveal dimensions of kinship that past patterns of focusing on surface differences have hidden.
InQuiry. Application. Implementation.
How might remembering your cosmic composition transform your relationship with other beings? In what ways could honoring shared genetic heritage help you move beyond unexamined beliefs about superiority based on physical traits? What possibilities emerge when you recognize that the universal connection you acknowledge contributes directly to the inclusive world you wish to see manifested?
Diversity: Unity's Foundation
Unity emerges only when diversity provides its essential pulse. This principle illuminates both ecological systems and human connection. Natural environments thrive through varied species creating interdependent networks; similarly, human communities flourish when different backgrounds, worldviews, and experiences weave together while preserving their distinctive contributions.
Authentic unity never requires uniformity. Instead, it develops through a dance where distinct elements maintain individual essence while participating in collective wholeness. Consider gardens where different plants support soil health, attract varied pollinators, and create micro=environments benefiting the entire ecosystem.
Contemporary attempts to eliminate difference fundamentally misunderstand unity's requirements. Genuine unity depends upon diversity as its life source— without varied elements to harmonize, unity becomes impossible. Efforts achieving unity through sameness create sterile uniformity instead, lacking adaptability and innovation that authentic unity provides.
This paradox reveals itself most clearly in nature's sophisticated systems, where stability emerges through dynamic interdependence rather than static sameness. Forest ecosystems demonstrate this principle beautifully—towering canopy trees, understory shrubs, ground-covering mosses, and soil-enriching fungi each contribute unique functions that support the whole. Remove any element, and the entire system becomes vulnerable to collapse. The forest's strength comes not from having identical trees but from the complex relationships between vastly different organisms.
The same principle governs healthy human communities. A symphony orchestra creates unity through musicians playing different instruments, each contributing unique tonal qualities while following a shared musical vision. The violin's bright clarity, the cello's warm depth, and the percussion's rhythmic foundation create harmony precisely because they're different, not despite their differences.
Replacing every instrument with violins wouldn't create better unity—it would eliminate the rich complexity that makes unity meaningful.
Your individual contribution to collective unity requires you to develop and express your authentic uniqueness rather than conforming to external expectations. Just as a garden needs both deep-rooted trees and surface-spreading
groundcover, human communities need both bold visionaries and careful implementers, both analytical thinkers and intuitive feelers, both extroverted connectors and introverted reflectors. Your particular combination of gifts, perspectives, and experiences fills a specific niche that no one else can occupy.
The misconception that unity requires similarity often stems from fear of conflict or discomfort with difference. However, this approach creates the very fragility it seeks to avoid. Monocultures—whether agricultural, cultural, or intellectual—lack the resilience that diversity provides. When challenges arise, uniform systems have limited adaptive capacity because all elements respond similarly. Diverse systems offer multiple response strategies, increasing survival probability and innovative solutions.
True diversity encompasses more than visible differences like ethnicity, gender, or cultural background. It includes diversity of thought patterns, problem-solving approaches, learning styles, communication preferences, and value systems. Some people process information sequentially while others think in patterns. Some thrive on structure while others need flexibility. Some prioritize efficiency while others emphasize relationship. These cognitive and temperamental differences create the varied perspectives necessary for comprehensive understanding and effective action.
The sacred dance of authentic unity requires both individual integrity and collective cooperation. Each element must remain true to its essential nature while finding ways to contribute to shared purposes. This dynamic tension prevents both the dissolution of individual identity into group conformity and the fragmentation of individual isolation. You maintain your distinctive qualities while learning to harmonize with others who bring complementary strengths.
Contemporary challenges increasingly require diverse perspectives working together. Climate change, social inequality, technological disruption, and global health crises demand solutions that no single viewpoint can provide. Scientific research combined with indigenous wisdom, technological innovation merged with humanitarian values, economic analysis integrated with environmental concerns—complex problems need diverse approaches for sustainable solutions.
The foundation aspect of diversity means it cannot be treated as an optional addition to unity but rather as its fundamental requirement. You cannot build authentic unity and then add diversity as decoration. Instead, you must begin with respect for difference as the starting point from which genuine connection
becomes possible. This shifts the question from "How can we make everyone the same?" to "How can we create conditions where different contributions enhance each other?"
This understanding transforms how you approach differences in daily life. Instead of seeing disagreement as threat to harmony, you recognize it as potential source of creative tension that generates new possibilities. Instead of avoiding people who think differently, you seek them out as necessary partners in developing more complete understanding. Instead of trying to convince others to adopt your perspective, you explore how different viewpoints might combine to create solutions neither could achieve alone.
The pulse that diversity provides to unity resembles the heartbeat that sustains life
—a rhythmic alternation between contraction and expansion, gathering and dispersing, individual expression and collective integration. This dynamic movement prevents the stagnation that occurs when systems become too stable and the chaos that emerges when differences lack coordination.
Your participation in unity's foundation requires courage to express your authentic nature even when it differs from surrounding norms. It demands patience to understand perspectives that initially seem foreign or challenging. It invites curiosity about how apparent opposites might complement each other. Most importantly, it calls for the wisdom to recognize that your individual flowering serves the collective garden while the garden's health supports your personal growth.
Inspiration
When you recognize diversity as unity's essential foundation, you transform difference from obstacle into opportunity—discovering that authentic connection emerges through celebrating rather than eliminating the varied contributions that create resilient, innovative, and beautiful human communities.
Consideration
Consider how embracing your unique gifts while honoring others' different contributions might reveal dimensions of genuine unity that past patterns of seeking similarity have obscured.
InQuiry. Application. Implementation.
How might viewing diversity as unity's life source transform your approach to differences in relationships and communities? In what ways could developing your authentic uniqueness enhance rather than threaten collective harmony? What possibilities emerge when you recognize that the individual distinctiveness you express contributes directly to the resilient unity you wish to see manifested?
Absence of Diversity & Adversity
Systems failing to honor, respect, and intentionally cultivate diversity will eventually suffer adversity's consequences. Without diverse elements, perspectives, and contributions, systems lose resilience, adaptability, and evolutionary capacity. Consider examples where homogeneity created fragility— monocultures causing ecosystem collapse, identical thinking preventing innovation and problem-solving.
When adversity emerges from diversity's absence, it spreads quickly and proves difficult to contain. This adversity isn't mere inconvenience—it represents systemic crisis threatening entire structures. The active requirements to "honor, respect, and intentionally cultivate" suggest that passive acceptance proves insufficient; diversity demands deliberate nurturing.
The catastrophic collapse of the Tacoma Narrows Bridge in 1940 provides a haunting illustration of how single-point-of-failure design creates devastating vulnerability. "Galloping Gertie," as locals affectionately called the bridge, represented cutting-edge engineering—sleek, streamlined, and efficient. Yet this very uniformity became its fatal flaw. When moderate winds created resonant frequency oscillations, the entire structure had no alternative response mechanism. Every element vibrated in deadly harmony until the bridge literally tore itself apart in a spectacular dance of destruction that lasted only minutes but demonstrated principles that apply far beyond engineering.
Your organizational immune system operates with similar vulnerability when diversity is absent. Just as a compromised immune system lacks the varied antibodies needed to fight different infections, homogeneous systems cannot mount effective responses to unexpected challenges. When everyone thinks alike, processes information similarly, and responds to stress identically, a single threat can overwhelm the entire organization's defenses. The virus of groupthink spreads unchecked because no contrarian antibodies exist to challenge flawed assumptions or provide alternative solutions.
Consider how this immune system metaphor manifests in real-world scenarios. A company staffed entirely by people with identical educational backgrounds, similar life experiences, and matching personality types might function smoothly during stable periods. However, when market disruption occurs, customer preferences shift, or technological innovation threatens their business model, they lack the diverse perspectives necessary to adapt. Like an immune system that's
never encountered certain pathogens, they have no resistance to unfamiliar challenges.
The Tacoma Narrows disaster reveals how engineering elegance without structural diversity creates systemic fragility. The bridge's designers eliminated what they considered unnecessary elements—the heavy trusses and cable stays that earlier bridges employed. This streamlined approach created aesthetic beauty and reduced costs, but it also removed the structural diversity that would have provided alternative load distribution pathways. When wind conditions created unexpected stress patterns, the bridge had no backup systems to absorb or redirect these forces.
Your personal and professional systems face similar risks when you eliminate what appears to be redundancy but actually provides essential resilience.
Friendship networks composed entirely of people who share your worldview offer comfort but limited growth opportunities. Career skills focused solely on current industry demands leave you vulnerable when technological shifts make those competencies obsolete. Investment strategies concentrated in familiar sectors provide psychological security but financial fragility when market conditions change.
The speed with which adversity spreads through non-diverse systems mirrors how infections overwhelm compromised immune systems. Once a pathogen finds a weakness in immune-deficient organisms, it spreads rapidly because similar cells respond identically to the threat. In organizations lacking cognitive diversity, bad decisions cascade through identical thinking patterns. False assumptions amplify rather than being challenged. Blind spots multiply because everyone shares the same visual limitations.
This cascading failure pattern explains why diversity cannot be treated as a nice- to-have addition but must be recognized as a fundamental requirement for system stability. The Tacoma Narrows engineers didn't fail due to incompetence—they were brilliant professionals applying established principles. Their error was assuming that efficiency and elegance alone could provide sufficient strength.
They didn't anticipate that optimization in one dimension (aerodynamic streamlining) could create catastrophic vulnerability in another (resonant frequency response).
The intentional cultivation aspect becomes crucial because diversity doesn't maintain itself automatically. Left unattended, systems naturally drift toward homogeneity due to comfort bias, hiring preferences for cultural fit, and the human tendency to associate with similar people. Just as immune systems require exposure to varied pathogens to develop robust responses, organizational systems need deliberate exposure to different perspectives, experiences, and approaches to maintain adaptive capacity.
The structural engineering principle of redundancy provides a powerful model for building resilient human systems. Modern bridges incorporate multiple load- bearing pathways, varied materials, and flexible connection points that can accommodate unexpected stresses. When one element fails, others compensate until repairs can be made. This principle applies directly to team composition, skill development, and strategic planning.
Your personal resilience depends on similar structural diversity. Multiple income streams protect against economic uncertainty. Varied social connections provide different types of support during difficult periods. Diverse interests and skills create alternative pathways for meaning and contribution when primary sources become unavailable. Like a well-designed bridge, your life architecture should include backup systems that activate when primary structures face unexpected loads.
The adversity that emerges from diversity's absence often appears sudden but actually results from accumulated fragility that remained hidden until tested. Galloping Gertie swayed gently for months before its catastrophic collapse, but this apparent stability masked growing structural stress that uniform design couldn't accommodate. Similarly, homogeneous organizations might appear highly functional until market conditions expose their lack of adaptive capacity.
Prevention requires recognizing that true strength emerges through integration of different elements rather than elimination of variation. The most resilient bridges combine multiple materials, employ varied support mechanisms, and incorporate flexible joints that accommodate movement. The healthiest immune systems maintain diverse antibody populations ready to respond to unexpected threats. The most successful organizations cultivate cognitive diversity that provides multiple perspectives on challenges and opportunities.
Inspiration
When you recognize that diversity creates resilience rather than complication, you transform uniformity from apparent strength into hidden vulnerability— discovering that intentionally cultivating different perspectives, skills, and approaches provides the structural redundancy necessary for navigating unexpected challenges.
Consideration
Consider how the absence of diversity in your personal or professional systems might create single points of failure that could lead to cascading problems when unexpected pressures arise.
InQuiry. Application. Implementation.
How might the Tacoma Narrows principle of structural diversity transform your approach to building resilient teams, relationships, and personal capabilities? In what ways could viewing diversity as an immune system enhancement help you move beyond comfortable homogeneity toward adaptive strength? What possibilities emerge when you recognize that the varied perspectives you cultivate contribute directly to the resilient systems you wish to see sustained?
The Reality of Difference
Consider this striking fact: Of approximately 25,000 genes creating your unique identity, only about 150 determine your skin color—just 0.006% of your physical composition. This biological reality invites deep reflection about energy spent focusing on others' skin shade rather than recognizing the vast complexity making every person whole—their character, experiences, perspectives, talents, and dreams.
Make time to absorb this scientific fact, and it reveals how much mental and emotional energy gets misdirected toward something that represents such a minuscule fraction of human identity. The remaining 99.994% of our genetic makeup contains the intricate blueprint for everything else—our capacity for creativity, resilience, humor, intelligence, empathy, and the countless ways we process and respond to the world around us.
The Light Lifter piece of self understands this reality, recognizing how focusing on surface differences creates artificial barriers that prevent you from accessing the rich texture available in a genuine human-to-human connection. When you allow your Light Lifter to guide your perceptions, you naturally begin to notice what truly matters: the unique combination of life experiences that have shaped someone's perspective, the particular way they approach problems, their individual gifts and struggles, their capacity for growth and contribution.
This shift in focus transforms how you navigate diversity in your daily life. Instead of unconsciously categorizing people by their most obvious physical traits, you become curious about their stories, their wisdom, their authentic selves. You begin to appreciate how different backgrounds and experiences contribute complementary strengths to any group, relationship, or community.
The practical implications are profound. When you choose to see beyond the 0.006% and engage with the full complexity of another person, you open pathways to learning, connection and intentional co-operation, opportunities that might otherwise remain closed. You discover that diversity of thought, experience, and perspective creates stronger solutions than homogeneity ever could.
Your Light Lifter piece of self knows full well that unity doesn't mean uniformity. True harmony emerges when different notes combine to create something more beautiful than any single note or voice could produce alone. This understanding allows you to honor differences rather than fear them, celebrating unity rather than
forming clubs of exclusivity, seeing diverse perspectives rather than gravitating only toward those you’re familiar with.
When you consciously engage this awareness, you transform not only your own experience but also the quality of your inner actions and the interactions with those around you. People sense when someone see’s their full humanity rather than judging them or reducing who they are to their surface characteristics. This recognition creates space for a true connection, one where genuine understanding, acceptance, and mutual respect flourish.
Inspiration
When you choose to focus on the 99.994% rather than the 0.006%, you transform surface-level interactions into meaningful connections—discovering that moving beyond beliefs about difference as threatening opens pathways to authentic relationship that serves both personal growth and collective understanding.
Consideration
Consider how consistently recognizing the full complexity of others might reveal the richness available in human diversity that past patterns of focusing on surface differences have obscured.
InQuiry. Application. Implementation.
How might consistently seeing beyond surface characteristics transform your relationship with diversity and authentic connection? In what ways could focusing on the vast majority of human complexity help you move beyond unexamined beliefs about difference as division? What possibilities might emerge when you recognize that the authentic connections you create through seeing others' full humanity contributes directly to the unity through diversity you want to see manifested in your community and world?
Diversity & Sustainability
Removing diversity from your inner life undermines every notion of sustainability because essential characteristics disappear: clarity, dignity, flexibility, adaptability, quality, equity, levity, agility, charity, peace, connection, growth, and endurance. Your internal ecosystem requires varied perspectives, senses, feelings, emotions, and approaches to maintain resilience and creative capacity.
When you honor the multiple aspects of yourself—physical awareness, emotional wisdom, rational thinking, and intuitive knowing the pieces of self you’ve met so far—you create internal conditions that support sustainable decision-making. This inner diversity prevents the rigidity that breaks under pressure and cultivates the flexibility that’s essential to adapt to changing circumstances.
You are a living ecosystem, your existence generated from the inside out. Just as a forest with only one type of tree becomes vulnerable to disease and environmental stress, relying on a single way to process information becomes brittle and limited.
Your Light Lifter recognizes this fundamental fact: sustainable growth requires the full spectrum of your human capacities working in concert.
Consider what happens when you shut down any aspect of yourself. Remember a time when you silenced what was true for you emotionally in favor of logic you knew was what someone else wanted to hear. Do this and you lose access to crucial information about the relationship, its timing, and meaning. I know too well what happens when we dismiss or discount our intuitive knowing, choosing to believe what someone is saying when evidence more than suggests it’s not true. Relying solely on mental data—internal or external—disconnects you from all the pieces of self that are your inner guidance system. Think about the last time you ignored your physical ‘invironment’ or environment… Doing so you miss your body's early warning signals about stress, overcommitment, or misalignment.
Each quality that emerges from internal diversity serves a specific function in your sustainable living. Clarity arises when your different ways of knowing confirm each other rather than compete. Dignity develops and grows when you honor all aspects of your humanity instead of privileging some while shaming others.
Flexibility lets you grow with the flow, having and using multiple approaches available rather than locking yourself into one rigid pattern. Adaptability flourishes when your various intelligences can respond creatively to changing circumstances.
Learning to trust your Light Lifter is how you willingly hand over the strands of a decision to the next piece of self you’ll meet shortly, knowing this part of you has the competence to weave these reclaimed aspects into a sustainable whole. For now, get in touch with your Light Lifter, asking for help as you integrate these discoveries into daily living that can be maintained, enduring over time.
This integration creates "internal biodiversity"—a rich ecosystem of thoughts, thinking, feelings, and instincts, and awarenesses that support each other. When one aspect feels overwhelmed, others provide support. When you face a complex decision, multiple intelligences contribute their unique perspectives, and when circumstances shift, you have a variety resources to draw upon.
Thinking ahead without skipping steps, know that the sustainability implications extend far beyond your personal well-being. When you operate from internal diversity, you naturally contribute to external diversity. You become someone who appreciates different perspectives because you've learned to value the same within yourself. In doing so you begin creating room for others' to be whole parts of your life because you've earned their respect, learning to honor your own complexity.
This part of you has an innate understanding that healthy and sustainable communities, relationships, and solutions must be built on a foundation where diversity is honored, inside and out. Just as ecological diversity creates a resilient natural system, human diversity creates resilient social systems—but only when individuals have first learned to embrace their own internal complexity and continue to do so.
This is why authenticity and social unity aren't opposing forces; they're complementary aspects of the same sustainable system. When you deny a part of yourself to fit in, you actually weaken the collective by removing your unique contribution. When you honor your full array of complex intelligences, you strengthen the whole by adding irreplaceable elements to the mix.
The path forward involves consistently choosing integration over fragmentation, first within yourself and later in your relationships. The Light Lifter piece of you is capable of building you, helping you see how your personal work of honoring internal diversity contributes directly to the co-creation of external conditions where diversity flourishes and evolves.
Inspiration
When you embrace your inner diversity rather than forcing an artificial sense of unity within yourself, you transform rigidity into sustainable resilience— discovering that moving beyond beliefs about sameness or ‘one-way’, you open multiple pathways to integrating into a whole, your life serving both personal sustainability and collective flourishing.
Consideration
Consider how honoring all aspects of your humanity might reveal the sustainable strength naturally available that past patterns of privileging the ego over genuine qualities over others has weakened.
InQuiry. Application. Implementation.
How might consistently embracing your inner diversity—your full array of ArcTypes— transform your relationship with sustainable living and your contribution to it? In what ways could integrating all your unique intelligences help you move beyond beliefs about strength requiring uniformity? What possibilities might emerge when you recognize that the internal ecosystem you cultivate through honoring complexity contributes directly to the sustainable communities and relationships you want to see in the world?
Humor. Light. Insight.
Your natural capacity for joy and wonder operates independently of intellectual quotient. This ability sustains childlike attitudes inviting laughter and play into life, providing simplicity helping navigate complexity. Your Light Lifter knows precisely where inner light switches reside and loves illuminating your unique combination of thoughts, activities, and connections, knowing this light lifts you even when darkness threatens.
When you lose your sense of humor, your Light Lifter can retrieve it—humor cannot hide long and wants invitation back into your awareness. Activities generating laughter and joy represent life-affirming habits deserving frequent repetition. Your Light Lifter maintains perspective necessary to prioritize what truly matters, helping discern activities genuinely deserving your energy while preventing overextension that dims your inner light through exhaustion.
Inspiration
When you honor humor as essential light, you transform heaviness into levity— discovering that moving beyond beliefs about seriousness as maturity opens pathways to sustainable joy that illuminates solutions invisible to grimness.
Consideration
Consider how prioritizing laughter and play might reveal dimensions of wisdom that past patterns of constant seriousness have obscured.
InQuiry. Application. Implementation.
How might actively cultivating humor transform your relationship with challenges and responsibilities? In what ways could honoring joy as essential help you move beyond unexamined beliefs about productivity requiring grimness? What possibilities emerge when you recognize that the lightness you maintain contributes directly to the joyful world you wish to see reflected?
Gravity & Levity
Consider how gravity affects both physical body and emotional experience. Just as gravity grounds you to Earth while creating movement conditions, decisions have both anchoring and propelling effects in your life.
When contemplating choices, notice natural inclination to evaluate physical wellbeing impact first—will this keep me safe? This gravitational pull deepens, drawing you toward core values—what truly matters and what you're willing to dedicate life to supporting.
Think of levity as gravity's equal and opposite. Once you've examined core values, heart and breath push back, lifting you to the system's highest perspective. While this represents the pinnacle, it's also where errors can cause rapid descent.
Your Light Lifter's first action involves closing doors, allowing nothing else entry until decision finalization. This is when you illuminate inner wisdom to full brightness. If possibilities don't generate laughter or smiles, reconsider. If you cannot afford them, or they might cost more than manageable, it's time to decline graciously.
Inspiration
When you balance gravity and levity in choices, you transform heaviness into wise movement—discovering that moving beyond beliefs about decisions requiring either groundedness or elevation opens pathways to choices that are both practical and inspiring.
Consideration
Consider how honoring both gravitational grounding and levitational lifting might reveal dimensions of balanced decision-making that past patterns of extreme approaches have limited.
InQuiry. Application. Implementation.
How might balancing gravity and levity transform your relationship with important choices? In what ways could honoring both practical concerns and joyful inspiration help you move beyond unexamined beliefs about decisions requiring sacrifice of either groundedness or vision? What possibilities emerge
when you recognize that the balanced choices you make contribute directly to the sustainable progress you wish to see manifested?
Clarity Vs. Confusion
When confusion suddenly strikes, it's often because your Light Lifter turned off the lights when the door closed. This vital aspect of self ordinarily weaves connections between the limited number of experiential threads you can handle at one time. When this piece of self goes dormant, you find yourself drifting, trying to make order from information that's disconnected and no longer makes sense.
This piece of self operates like a great cook planning a gourmet dinner for those they love. When this part of you is present and ‘ingaged’, you can see and synchronize everything that's happening in your life, determining whether you can take on another task or if your capacity is already maxed out. Without this coordination, the probability of you sustaining order and completing what you've promised drops to somewhere near zero.
I know this feeling well. In 2025 I had way too much going on; six friends died in 90 days, not one expected; my doctor gave me a simple prescription and it turned out I was the 1 in a million who had the worst possible side effect—renal failure
—and spent two weeks in the hospital. Coming that close to dying brought legacy into sharp focus, and things that had long been simmering on the back burner— like this book—suddenly became a priority. Keeping my balance wasn't easy, and feeling—no, being vulnerable and fragile, I asked for and accepted help from family and friends.
Recovery was a stretch with my brain feeling like burned toast. Unable to do anything with so much going on was beyond frustrating. Remember the metaphor about the person cooking a gourmet dinner for friends? Well, that part of me was nowhere to be seen. More often than not I was in bed, exhausted and needing to heal, the simplest distraction left me feeling overwhelmed, and unable to coordinate anything, much less my thoughts. Like a chaotic kitchen, timing fell apart, and my life, usually harmonious, felt like every piece of self was competing for attention. Thankfully, our bodies operate without our cooperation, but without central guidance, it was as if every part of me was operating in isolation. The front burner blew up, the back burner went cold, and nothing my inner cook produced was digestible.
Inspiration
When you recognize confusion as your Light Lifter going offline, you transform overwhelm into understanding—discovering that restoring this coordinating function brings order back to even the most chaotic circumstances.
Consideration
Consider how your inner coordinator might need rest and recovery time, just like any other essential system that's been overloaded.
InQuiry. Application. Implementation.
What signs tell you when your Light Lifter has gone dormant and confusion is taking over? How might giving this part of yourself permission to rest actually restore your ability to handle complexity? What becomes possible when you honor your capacity limits rather than pushing past them?
Why The Light Lifter Goes Dark
Chaos reflects what happens in your mental landscape when overwhelm strikes. Your brain continues processing information, your body maintains its functions, and you respond to stimuli, but the integrative capacity that connects separate elements into a whole picture goes offline. Without your cognitive and reCognitive abilities you're unable to grind yourself the new lenses you need to see clearly. Mental meltdowns don't stop your brain from functioning but you lose the sense of how new possibilities fit to the whole.
The three-pound universe inside your skull deserves profound reverence for the miraculous complexity it manages simultaneously. Your brain orchestrates countless life-sustaining processes while constructing your moment-to-moment reality. This recognition helps you understand why demanding performance under compromised conditions leads to chaos.
When your Light Lifter turns the lights back on after confusing experiences, you have a stable space where you can intentionally focus your attention rather than pushing discomfort away. Recognizing that confusion is a signal that your sense- making faculties need attention, being still and taking some deep intentional breaths, or listening to some calming music can return clarity to the moment.
After a time away, intentionally and patiently focusing to make an assessment will restore help. The Light Lifter piece of self begins gently, surveying your current inner landscape without any need to fix everything.
The signals letting you know that your sense-making faculties need attention often appear as confusion itself. This is a sign that your usual clarity has become clouded and typical coordination has scattered. Rather than treating these signals as problems to eliminate, receive them as valuable information about when you need to restore order.
What you're learning is how every element of your life needs stability for you to live your purpose in a purposeful way. When you can see the whole of what's happening, you're able to make adjustments or say no before your brain spins into burnout.
Inspiration
When you honor your Light Lifter's role of connecting the dots rather than demanding it work under chaotic conditions, you transform mental overwhelm into coherent coordination. What is waiting to be discovered is that moving beyond beliefs and giving yourself excuses to ignore or push forward despite confusion opens pathways to understanding that serve clear thinking and purposeful action.
Consideration
Consider how creating stable space to think things through might reveal the importance of contemplation—stillness—that past patterns of ignoring signals that you were teetering on the edge of overwhelm or about to smack into a 'wall', might have prevented you from practicing.
InQuiry. Application. Implementation.
How might consistently honoring your need for considering and coordinating improve how you deal with confusion and reclaim mental clarity? In what ways could creating stable space help you move beyond an unexamined belief that says you have to push through overwhelm, buying the lie that it's productive? What possibilities emerge when you recognize that the understanding you cultivate through making decisions that support your stability, and keep your sense of humor in place, contribute to living a purposeful life? How would you like to see harmony arise between your mental coordination and integrated action?
InPowering
Commit to yourself: no immediate decisions for the next twenty-four hours. Communicate to others that you're developing conscious choice-making skills, requiring a minimum five-minute response window for any request. Establish clearly that rushed decisions won't receive consideration. Inform them that pressure tactics will result in automatic refusal—a firm, non-negotiable "No."
Observe their responses with careful attention, and extract the lessons embedded within.
Inspiration
When you claim sovereignty over your decision-making timeline, you transform impulsive reactions into deliberate choices—discovering that moving beyond beliefs about immediate responses as courtesy opens pathways to thoughtful decisions that honor your authentic wisdom and long-term wellbeing.
Consideration
Consider how reclaiming temporal control over choices might reveal dimensions of personal empowerment that past patterns of rushed compliance have suppressed.
InQuiry. Application. Implementation.
How might establishing decision-making boundaries transform your relationship with personal authority and choice quality? In what ways could requiring response time help you move beyond unexamined beliefs about quick accommodation as virtue? What possibilities emerge when you recognize that the intentional
decision-making you practice contributes directly to the thoughtful leadership you wish to see embodied?
Boundaries or Fences
This boundary-establishing practice accomplishes multiple objectives. First it gets you off the fence, thinking you can ride it and go somewhere. Next, it generates essential mental space for thoughtful consideration rather than reflexive reactions. Additionally, it communicates—to yourself and others—that you’re committed to making quality decisions and will not be persuaded to take one just because it’s convenient. Most significantly, having clear and articulated boundaries reveals a crucial intelligence about how you are going to invest in co-creating healthy relationships. Individuals who honor your boundaries demonstrate genuine regard for your autonomy and wellbeing, while those exhibiting resistance (I’m being nice) likely harbor priorities that are in conflict with your values and best interests.
Making time and honoring yourself to actually consciously observe others’ responses with careful attention, let’s you sense the lessons likely to be learned. Those who give lip service to boundaries but don’t hesitate to break them, frequently expose relationship dynamics previously concealed beneath deeply embedded patterns of insecurity, self-loathing, approval-seeking and accommodation.
Inspiration
When you set boundaries for yourself, you are building a relationship assessment tool, transforming hidden dynamics into illuminating information. You discover how moving beyond beliefs thinking you need to be constantly available, opens pathways to authentic connections that are grounded in mutual respect and individual sovereignty.
Consideration
Consider how studying others’ boundary responses —their own and to yours— might reveal dimensions of inauthenticity in relationships that a past pattern of perpetual accommodation have masked.
InQuiry. Application. Implementation.
How might observing others’ reactions to your boundaries transform your understanding of relationship health and personal value? In what ways could holding to your boundaries act as a diagnostic instruments to help you move beyond your own unexamined beliefs about love requiring self-sacrifice? What
possibilities emerge when you recognize that the boundary clarity you establish contributes directly to the genuine relationships you wish to see flourishing?
The Burden of Ultimatums
Ultimatums—attempts forcing compromises denying authenticity—can cause pain equal to or greater than a broken promise. When someone issues ultimatums, they create false binaries: comply or face consequences, an approach that leaves no room for natural unfolding of a response your inner wisdom facilitates.
Ultimatums are often disguised as reasonable requests or necessary boundaries: "If you really loved me, you would..." or "Either you decide now, or I'll decide for you." Neither offers genuine choice—both constrict it, asserting pressure distorting natural decision-making processes.
When recognizing ultimatums, especially those one part of you issues to another, your Light Lifter’s task is to protect authenticity by respectfully declining to make a decision under pressure. If you’ve been considering making an offer, make time for yourself. Don’t push. If you’re responding to a request, let them know you need more information before completing your decision-making processes, allowing what’s hidden in the folds to be revealed, and perhaps accepting that relationships may not accommodate your needs or your wants.
Inspiration
When you resist ultimatum pressure, you transform coercion into authentic choice
—discovering that moving beyond beliefs about quick decisions as cooperative opens pathways to responses that honor both relationship and personal integrity.
Consideration
Consider how protecting your decision-making process from ultimatums might reveal dimensions of authentic relationship that past patterns of pressure compliance have compromised.
InQuiry. Application. Implementation.
How might recognizing and resisting ultimatums transform your relationship with pressure and hasty decisions? In what ways could honoring your authentic decision-making timeline help you move beyond unexamined beliefs about love requiring immediate compliance? What possibilities emerge when you recognize that the authentic responses you protect contribute directly to the genuine relationships you wish to see flourishing?
Reel-to-real
You may or may not remember state-of-the-art recording technology in the 1960s
—the reel-to-reel tape recorder! Incredibly, it was about the size of a small carry- on suitcase!
Too often, our brains operate like reel-to-real contraptions. I've long thought this is why the first time we hear our recorded voices we say, "That's not me."
Take a moment to think about the muttering self-talk that plays on repeat in your head. Have you ever considered that what's playing on that loop isn't actually about you? Pay close attention and you're likely to be shocked to realize that these voices don't belong to you, and what's being said, screamed, or whispered isn't about you—nor is it true.
Memory loops and self-talk, mental recordings, often contain messages we've absorbed from others, more often than not parents, siblings, teachers, peers, or media. Seldom are they authentic reflections of who we really are. Recognizing the difference between 'borrowed' voices and your true self is the first step toward more conscious, compassionate self-awareness.
Inspiration
When you distinguish between borrowed voices and authentic self-awareness, you transform mental noise into conscious clarity—discovering that moving beyond beliefs about internal criticism as you open what is true for you lets you pave pathways to compassionate self-recognition that serves genuine growth.
Consideration
Consider how identifying the sources of your mental recordings might reveal dimensions of authentic self-talk that past patterns of accepting all internal voices as valid have obscured.
InQuiry. Application. Implementation.
How might recognizing borrowed voices as separate from your authentic self transform your relationship with internal dialogue and self-perception? In what ways could distinguishing between absorbed messages and genuine self- awareness help you move beyond unexamined beliefs about harsh self-criticism as motivation? What possibilities emerge when you recognize that the conscious
self-awareness you cultivate contributes directly to the compassionate inner dialogue you wish to see reflected in the world?
Overcoming Overwhelm
There is a solution when emergency or high-stress situations overwhelm your system. Conscious breathing settles emotional turbulence and prevents mental chaos from escalating beyond control. The following is a best habit for such moments, and you can safely do it pretty much anywhere and at any time:
Stop.
Stand completely still.
Set the intention for clarity and wisdom.
Take three intentional breaths.
Inhale deep through your nose.
Pause.
Then exhale, releasing all the air you can quickly through your mouth.
The fast and thorough exhalation literally gives your heart more space, and it slows down. Doing this grounds your body and calms you to the point your brain is able to refocus. This technique creates a profound physiological transformation, activating your parasympathetic nervous system—the biological mechanism that governs restoration and digestion responses. When breathing deliberately slows, it disrupts stress cycles, allowing scattered thoughts to settle into coherent patterns. An intentional breathing practice provides you with time needed to find and connect disparate details, inPowering your heart and InLightening your perception so you see more of the complete situation rather than a few fragmented pieces. In that moment of intentional completion, your request for clarity is likely to appear, and you are able to respond appropriately as best you can.
Inspiration
When you pause to breathe consciously during crisis, you transform reactivity into responsive wisdom—discovering that moving beyond beliefs about immediate action as strength opens pathways to measured responses that serve genuine resolution.
Consideration
Consider how creating breathing space during stress might reveal dimensions of clear thinking that past patterns of immediate reaction have prevented.
InQuiry. Application. Implementation.
How might implementing conscious breathing during emergencies transform your relationship with stress and crisis management? In what ways could honoring the pause between stimulus and response help you move beyond unexamined beliefs about quick reactions as effective? What possibilities emerge when you recognize that the centered responses you cultivate contribute directly to the calm presence you wish to see demonstrated during challenging moments?
An Intentional Breath
The seemingly simple act of focused breathing constructs bridges between fragmented perceptions and perspectives, integrated awareness helping you recognize connections and patterns previously hidden by mental noise.
Making intentional breathing an hourly practice, making time to stand and take as few as three breaths lets me live more effectively and easily. Breathing as a conscious practice opens pathways to a deeper understanding, creating the space necessary for synthesis rather than analysis. Writing is the hardest thing I do, and I am my own worst critic. Weaving personal meaning and experiences with knowledge, making sure one doesn’t overwhelm the other is hard, but when I get stuck, it’s clear that it’s time to make time to breathe. Doing to what one moment felt like information scattered inside my heart, head and spirit, never mind countless other documents, suddenly begins organizing itself . How this happens is finding the relationship between words, meaning quickly revealing how individual elements connect to form complete pictures. This momentary pause includes and transcends simple relaxation; it generates the clarity I need by creating space between the old voice that says “You’re not good enough” that translates as “I’m not good enough.” I now crave the stillness, the space where neither inner nor external stimuli have access to microphones or megaphones.
Making time for yourself to engage with the Stillness is magical. It always feels tantamount to a miracle when I ‘return’, suddenly aware that the song in the stillness has silenced the mental noise.
Inspiration
When you use breath to bridge fragmented awareness into integrated understanding, you transform confusion into clarity—discovering that moving beyond beliefs about complexity requiring mental struggle opens pathways to organic comprehension that serves authentic insight.
Consideration
Consider how conscious breathing might reveal dimensions of natural understanding that past patterns of mental forcing have obscured, complicated, diminishing or preventing pattern recognition that allows natural wisdom to surface and lead you toward understanding.
InQuiry. Application. Implementation.
How might using breath as a bridge to integrated awareness transform your approach to complex situations and decision-making? In what ways could trusting breath to organize scattered information help you move beyond unexamined beliefs about understanding requiring intense mental effort? What possibilities emerge when you recognize that the integrated awareness you cultivate through conscious breathing contributes directly to the clear comprehension you wish to see manifest in challenging situations?
Mental Soundtracks
Certain mental recordings prove disturbingly common across human experience, repetitive torments cycling endlessly through consciousness for years or entire lifetimes. These familiar refrains may echo within your own awareness:
"You're not good enough." "You're not smart enough."
"You'll never amount to anything." "Who do you think you are?"
"What do you think you are, special?" "It's all your fault."
"Shame on you."
The moment arrives to silence these internal persecutors—only you possess authority to declare this ceasefire.
Inspiration
When you acknowledge these destructive patterns as inherited rather than authentic, you transform self-persecution into self-liberation—discovering that moving beyond beliefs about internal cruelty lets you see, acknowledge and accept that what’s true for you opens new pathways to genuine self-regard that nurtures authentic growth.
Consideration
Consider how recognizing these widespread mental afflictions might reveal dimensions of collective healing that past patterns of isolating personal shame have concealed.
InQuiry. Application. Implementation.
How might understanding these mental torments as collective rather than individual transform your relationship with self-worth and internal peace? In what ways could recognizing shared suffering help you move beyond unexamined
beliefs about personal deficiency as fact? What possibilities emerge when you recognize that the self-compassion you cultivate contributes directly to the merciful world you wish to see embodied?
Reclaiming Mental Territory
The time has come to identify, confront, and expel unauthorized occupants colonizing your consciousness.
It’s so important to create deliberate space to observe, acknowledge, and specifically name whatever whispers, mutters, or shouts within when you’re experiencing confusion, sadness, anger, worry, or even joy. It’s essential to make time to gather courage, tracing the message back to its original source, remembering the precise moment you first heart that particular message. Reclaim ownership of your life means giving those messages back to their owners, owning what genuinely belongs to your experience. While engaging in this remembering, look inward and think about times when you’ve condemned or and criticized another, reflecting on how your words and actions spurred their internal struggles.
This deep interior investigation allows you to distinguish between authentic self- awareness and external judgments you’ve absorbed. Through identifying these borrowed narratives you open space for your inherent wisdom to surface and be your guide.
Inspiration
When you actively reclaim mental sovereignty from unauthorized voices, you transform psychological occupation into authentic self-governance—discovering how moving beyond beliefs, accepting all internal commentary as legitimate, opens pathways to discerning wisdom that serves genuine understanding.
Consideration
Consider how deliberately tracing the origin your internal messages might reveal dimensions of mental freedom that past patterns of unconscious acceptance of internal attacks have suppressed.
InQuiry. Application. Implementation.
How might systematically identifying and expelling borrowed voices transform your relationship with mental clarity and authentic self-knowledge? In what ways could distinguishing between inherited criticism and genuine insight help you move beyond unexamined beliefs about internal harshness as necessary? What possibilities emerge when you recognize that the mental sovereignty you establish contributes directly to the psychological freedom you wish to see realized?
Crossroads vs Crosshairs
When an experience illuminates your heart and reveals fresh perspective, you face a fundamental choice: either adjust your orientation and embrace what resonates as authentic for you, or feel your heart constrict as your essential vitality diminishes.
This powerful decision confronts you during pivotal moments of insight. These crossroads represent sacred intersections of possibility rather than dangerous crosshairs of threat. While the moment may feel intense, remember that standing at the intersection of old and new understanding offers expansion rather than targeting. The intensity signals growth opportunity, not imminent danger.
Observe how your physical form responds—an open heart generates expansion and energy, while resistance manifests as constriction and decreased life force. When you align with your authentic understanding, you connect with your genuine nature, enabling greater presence and joy. Conversely, when you deny what your experience has revealed, you gradually disconnect from your essential self.
Each time you encounter this crossroads between acceptance and denial, you reshape your worldview and your capacity to establish meaningful connection.
Inspiration
When you recognize crossroads as sacred intersections rather than threatening crosshairs, you transform intensity into opportunity—discovering that moving beyond beliefs about change as danger opens pathways to authentic expansion that serves both personal growth and meaningful connection.
Consideration
Consider how reframing crossroads moments as sacred intersections might reveal dimensions of growth opportunity that past patterns of experiencing change as threat have obscured.
InQuiry. Application. Implementation.
How might viewing crossroads as sacred intersections rather than dangerous crosshairs transform your relationship with pivotal moments and personal transformation? In what ways could embracing crossroads as expansion
opportunities help you move beyond unexamined beliefs about change as threatening? What possibilities emerge when you recognize that the sacred intersections you navigate contribute directly to the authentic growth you wish to see manifested?
Sacred vs. Threatening
The distinction between crossroads and crosshairs proves crucial for navigating transformative moments with grace rather than fear. Crossroads represent sacred intersections where multiple pathways converge, offering you choices and new possibilities. Crosshairs suggest targeting and danger, creating defensive responses that limit authentic engagement with growth opportunities.
When you recognize these moments as sacred intersections, you approach them with curiosity and openness rather than protection and resistance. This shift in perspective enables clearer perception of available options and more authentic response to emerging insights.
Inspiration
When you approach transformative moments as sacred intersections rather than threatening situations, you transform defensive reactions into curious engagement
—discovering that moving beyond beliefs about intensity as danger opens pathways to authentic exploration that serves genuine understanding.
Consideration
Consider how reframing intense moments as sacred rather than threatening might reveal dimensions of transformative opportunity that past patterns of defensive responses have prevented.
InQuiry. Application. Implementation.
How might consistently viewing intense moments as sacred intersections transform your approach to personal growth and change? In what ways could embracing intensity as opportunity help you move beyond unexamined beliefs about transformation as threatening? What possibilities emerge when you recognize that the sacred perspective you maintain contributes directly to the graceful transformation you wish to see embodied?
High Points & No
When your Wave Tamer says ‘Yes’, you have the energy needed to make the steep trek to a new perspective. High points are often dizzying and require focus. Your Light Lifter knows how to safely make the leap to those high points, and you need to trust this piece of self as the task is to ensure stability, making sure nothing is ‘leaking’ from your youniverse inappropriately.
When you’re in the re-cognitive stage of making a decision, and something triggers an impulse to flee, if you feel a need to run, or want to hide in the shadows, stop. When you know what you know, and realise a choice is going to cause something important that you’ve committed to, to be compromised or fail, don’t overthink it. It’s time calmly respond and say, “No, thank you.”
If you’re in a situation where the communication has been harsh or difficult, there is no need to explain or justify your decision.
If it’s been gentle and calm, you might want to share that thinking things through you realise that adding one more thing to your schedule isn’t possible without compromising commitments and ensuring you have sufficient time to show up as consistent in your world.
When you know you have room in your life to say ‘yes’ to an opportunity, you’re ready to pass the baton to the next ArcType. Knowing when ‘yes-is-yes’ and ‘no- is-no’, is a skill to prize as it eliminates the ‘maybe’ that churns uncertainty.
Think about an experience where you said “No, thank you” out loud, and instantly felt your feet on emotionally solid ground, realizing that doing so protected you.
Your internal cognitive warning system functions as a mental compass when you find yourself confronting a choice that may sound appealing yet fails to align with what else is going on in your life at that time. Notice how your body signals misalignment—that retreat impulse and sudden loss of humor serve as powerful indicators. Rather than dismissing these signals, honor and respect them as establishing or reinforcing a boundary, mentally reconnecting you with your core values.
Inspiration
When you honor the signals of your cognitive compass rather than ignoring them, you correctly align, paying attention to its protective wisdom. Moving beyond
static beliefs helps you recognize that sometimes what look great, is good on paper, or sounds wonderful, can destabilize your life.
Consideration
Consider how trusting an impulse to retreat as valuable information might reveal dimensions of authentic decision-making that past patterns of ignoring internal warnings have compromised.
InQuiry. Application. Implementation.
How might honoring your internal compass signals transform your life by letting you realize that an appealing choice is a misaligned opportunity? In what ways could trusting your internal, silent mental response help you move beyond unexamined beliefs, specifically a habit of saying ‘Yes’ when you knew you needed to say “No”? What possibilities might emerge when you honor that your boundaries contribute directly to the aligned life you are ready to live?
The Bridge to Insight
During intentional stillness while cultivating fresh perspective, your brain readily descends into Theta—a dreamlike state where awareness deepens significantly.
This receptive frequency (4-8 Hz) occurs naturally during profound meditation and light sleep, generating ideal conditions for accessing subconscious wisdom. Within this state, you bypass typical mental filters, enabling previously unrecognized connections to form and insights to surface organically.
When "Aha!" moments emerge, your brain has transitioned from Theta into Alpha frequencies (8-12 Hz), signaling integration of new understanding. This relaxed alertness state bridges subconscious wisdom with conscious awareness. Rather than immediately pursuing action following insight, remaining present with accompanying feelings enables complete absorption of emerging understanding.
Inspiration
When you honor both receptive Theta and integrative Alpha states, you transform fragmented knowing into integrated wisdom—discovering that moving beyond beliefs about quick thinking as efficient opens pathways to nuanced decision- making that serves both deeper understanding and present circumstances.
Consideration
Consider how cultivating relationships with different brainwave states might reveal dimensions of intuitive knowing that past patterns of constant mental activity have obscured.
InQuiry. Application. Implementation.
How might honoring both receptive and integrative brainwave states transform your approach to insight and decision-making? In what ways could trusting the Theta-Alpha bridge help you move beyond unexamined beliefs about immediate action as productive? What possibilities emerge when you recognize that the integrated wisdom you develop through brainwave awareness contributes directly to the aligned choices you wish to see embodied?
Authenticity as Dynamic Flow
Authenticity expresses itself as fluid movement, not fixed position. Neuroplasticity demonstrates clearly that when you choose to learn, unlearn, and relearn, transformation becomes possible. As you explore and identify what resonates as true for you, remember that like all things, life is dynamic. Absorbing fresh information requires considering how it might reshape your physical being, re-inform your emotional landscape, and potentially rearrange your perspectives.
Understanding this reality liberates you from rigid self-definitions that constrain rather than serve your growth. Your brain’s remarkable capacity to generate new neural pathways means your identity evolves alongside your experiences. This doesn’t require abandoning your core values; rather, it creates opportunities to deepen them, freeing you to express authenticity with increasing clarity and fullness.
Embracing change as a natural principle of growth lets you integrate emerging insight without feeling it threatens your essential sense of self. Every time you consciously reconsider a belief you recognize is inherited, and every time you deliberately break a limiting pattern, you free yourself to express authenticity more fully. Living in the Flow represents a fluidic approach to selfhood that creates space for continuous alignment of you inner knowing and external expression.
Inspiration
When you embrace authenticity as dynamic rather than a fixed identity, you transform rigid self-concepts into adaptive wisdom—discovering how moving beyond beliefs consistency opens pathways allowing you to evolve how you express yourself in ways that serve both personal growth and your ability to genuinely connect.
Consideration
Consider how accepting authenticity as fluid might reveal dimensions of genuine self-expression that past patterns of defending a fixed identity has limited.
InQuiry. Application. Implementation.
How might embracing authenticity as dynamic transform your relationship with personal growth and self-definition? In what ways could honoring neuroplasticity
as a personal principle help you move beyond unexamined beliefs about consistency as virtue? What possibilities emerge when you recognize that the fluid authenticity you embody contributes directly to the adaptive wisdom you want to express in your evolving life?
Moving on… Next!
Chapter 6: Gut Instinct & Intuition
First Principle
First Principle Seven
“Ordering and redistributing resources ensures the continuance of transformation. ”
Translated as it applies to your life and making a decision:
“Remembering what was, knowing what is, and sustaining your intention are critical to maintaining order, keeping your priorities clear, and holding your promises sacred.”
The 5th ArcType: The Space Bender
We've christened the fifth Mereon ArcType the "Space Bender"—that aspect of self that speaks on behalf of your gut wisdom, is capable of detecting instinctual urgencies, and intuitive murmurs. In reclaiming sovereignty over your choices, the Space Bender serves as your internal oracle—yet many have been taught to dismiss this profound knowing as "just imagination" or "irrational thinking." Within the Mereon Method framework, this represents your deepest subconscious connection, awakening when you intentionally offer it voice through meditation, prayer, or contemplative practice.
Your Space Bender carries a compass that lets you safely navigate uncharted invironmental territories. Unlike your Light Lifter, who seeks logical progression through pragmatic information assessment, this dimension of consciousness operates through scanning—performing intuitive reconnaissance that gathers insights beneath everyday waking awareness. Those who seek to influence your choices often work to disconnect you from this intuitive wisdom, knowing that a person cut off from their inner knowing is easier to mislead. When fully activated, this voice perceives and communicates hidden patterns, providing access to profound wisdom through connections that logical analysis alone cannot achieve.
The Space Bender earns its designation through your natural capacity to 'bend' conventional perceptions of your spatial realities. This is the piece of you that's able and willing to go deeper than what most think of as 'normal', walking inner pathways where inexplicable knowings appear, where you experience déjà vu, and breakthroughs seem to emerge out of nothing. Reclaiming this capacity is an act of rebellion against a culture that insists only measurable, logical thinking has value—a culture that benefits when you ignore your deeper knowings.
Your Space Bender holds ancient wisdom that predates the modern assault on intuition. It recognizes patterns too subtle for conscious analysis, detects incongruence between words and energy, and senses the hidden currents beneath surface presentations. This ArcType knows things your logical mind hasn't yet processed, offering early warning signals about people and situations that don't align with your authentic path.
Strengthening your Space Bender requires courage in a world that ridicules intuitive knowing. You may have learned to silence this voice after being told you
were "too sensitive," "imagining things," or "being unrealistic." Yet these dismissals often come from those threatened by your ability to perceive beyond their carefully constructed narratives. Your intuition is not a weakness to overcome but a sophisticated guidance system to honor.
Inspiration
Engaging your Space Bender, after your Light Lifter provides a logical cognitive analysis, your thinking arcs, travelling through time to dive into multidimensional awareness. What you discover is how moving beyond beliefs you've held, rational thoughts as complete opens pathways to integrated knowing that serves both practical decisions and profound understanding. In this integration, you become ungovernable by those who depend on your disconnection from inner wisdom.
Consideration
Consider how engaging your Space Bender might reveal dimensions of intuitive wisdom that past patterns of privileging logical analysis —often enforced by those who fear your full perception— have overlooked.
InQuiry. Application. Implementation.
How might consistently activating your Space Bender transform your approach to navigation and decision-making in uncertain territories? Remember your Space Bender doesn't say 'Yes' out loud, only agrees to pass the baton to your next ArcType. It can however require you to say "No, thank you." Think about ways that trusting this intuitive reconnaissance might help you move beyond old unexamined beliefs that logical analysis is sufficient? What possibilities emerge when you recognize that the multidimensional awareness you're able to access through your Space Bender contributes directly to the integrated wisdom you wish to see expressed in navigating life's complexities? Who taught you to distrust your intuition, and what might they have gained from your disconnection from this profound inner resource?
Priorities & Promises
When your Light Lifter reaches an affirmative conclusion and passes the talking stick to your Space Bender, the grows deeper wisdom when it accepts the assignment to journey through your inner world’s most profound territories.
This internal consultation is a process that prevents overcommitment. By engaging your intuitive wisdom, you assess your capacity for integration, something far more than simply determining if it’s logical. Examining how a possible new commitment aligns with existing priorities, you need to evaluate whether you have sufficient energy for meaningful engagement. Unlike surface- level analysis, this deep reconnaissance means considering your deepest inner landscape before making a decision.
The Space Bender's binary response system—“No, thank you” or “Next!”— eliminates ambiguity in priority assessment. “No” indicates you realize you either have insufficient space or there’s a misalignment with something deeper, nameable or not. “Next!” signals you have determined you have both the capacity and authentic resonance, to move forward, this piece of self providing clarity that lets you pass the baton to the next piece of self, proceeding with confidence.
Inspiration
When you engage your Space Bender's priority assessment rather than accepting logical approval alone, you transform surface decisions into integrated choices— discovering that moving beyond beliefs about logical affirmation as sufficient opens pathways to authentic prioritization that serves both practical capacity and deeper wisdom.
Consideration
Consider how consulting your Space Bender's deep reconnaissance might reveal dimensions of authentic capacity that past patterns of logical-only assessment have overlooked.
InQuiry. Application. Implementation.
How might consistently engaging your Space Bender's priority assessment transform your relationship with commitment and authentic capacity? In what
ways could trusting deep reconnaissance reports help you move beyond unexamined beliefs about logical approval as complete guidance? What possibilities emerge when you recognize that the integrated priority assessment you practice contributes directly to the authentic choices you wish to see manifested in your purposeful life?
The Inalienable Right to Personal Space
An inner journey needs to unfold in a realm of profound privacy. While this book is one of several that presents this new knowledge, it’s accompanied by a book that’s meant to be private, an empty book entitled, “My Playbook: My Life. My Rules.” This is a space where you can document your transformative journey, and it's private unless you choose otherwise. The empty pages are a sanctuary, a place only you can protect as you record your inner exploration. Of course it can stay empty, but it’s intended to be a space where you can record the actualities of an experience, without external judgment, exploring what feels true for you without performative pressure.
Owning your narrative and insights, your written words are tangibly yours— unseen by algorithms or strangers. They are kept in a place where boundaries are respected, where those who inhabit that space respect your privacy in a way that allows you to express yourself freely. Without fear of exposure, this is meant to be a safe space to process difficult feelings or celebrate delicate victories. Empty pages allow your thoughts to develop naturally without external interference, allowing connections to arise naturally rather than in response to outside validation. Your instincts speak more clearly when not competing with external voices or anticipating others' reactions. Privacy honors your unique timing— allowing past wounds to heal, present insights to deepen, and future possibilities to emerge without artificial deadlines. And holding your confidentiality sacred nurtures spiritual growth—the alignment between what is true for you and how you outwardly express it.
Through this experience, you access the potential for transformation that can only emerge in spaces of deep self-trust. It’s up to you to make this sanctuary the fertile ground where your authentic self can wander and emerge, integrating insights at the perfect pace for lasting change rather than temporary adaptation.
Inspiration
In the sacred space of privacy, free from algorithms, judgment, and external pressure, your authentic voice emerges with clarity and power—creating a sanctuary where transformation unfolds not through performative adaptation but through the gentle unfolding of what is genuinely true for you.
Consideration
Consider how honoring your need for protected time and space might reveal dimensions of self-knowledge that past patterns of external validation and artificial timelines have obscured.
InQuiry. Application. Implementation
How might creating tangible boundaries around your inner work transform your relationship with self-trust? In what ways could documenting your journey in a private space allow your instincts to speak more clearly than when competing with external voices? What possibilities emerge when you allow your process to unfold at its natural pace rather than conforming to others' expectations of healing, growth, or change?
Self-Organizing As Remembering
Your Space Bender possesses inherent self-organizing capabilities and commands the courage to compare emerging possibilities with extensive archives of prior experiences. This remarkable aspect of yourself functions like a master librarian who not only knows where everything is stored but can see the connections between seemingly unrelated experiences across time. The challenge lies in willingly granting this consciousness aspect permission to bring potentially painful points of awareness into conscious recognition.
Unlike other parts of your inner system that may prefer to keep difficult memories safely buried, your Space Bender understands that authentic self-organization requires honest accounting of what actually happened. It refuses to allow you to live in edited versions of your past that serve comfort over reality, what’s true for you at this moment in time. This part of you knows that real healing and wisdom emerge only when you're willing to face the full spectrum of your experiences.
You're not in front of a judge and jury, meaning this moment demands that you abandon all protests, and refuse to say "I don't remember." This isn't about punishment or shame—it's about reclaiming the full richness of your lived experience, including the parts that taught you essential lessons about boundaries, resilience, and your own capacity to survive difficult circumstances.
When seeking to recover experiences that have slipped from immediate access, locate music from the same temporal period as your experience and request its assistance in accessing your memory archives. Music operates as a direct pathway to stored memories because it bypasses the rational mind's tendency to filter or edit experiences. The specific rhythms, melodies, and emotional resonances that were present during significant moments become doorways back to the full context of those times.
Your Space Bender uses these musical keys not to torture you with painful memories, but to help you reclaim valuable information that got buried along with the difficult emotions. Often, the very experiences you've tried to forget contain crucial data about your authentic preferences, your natural boundaries, and your inherent wisdom about what serves or harms your wellbeing.
Establish stillness, absorb the musical frequencies, and maintain observant awareness as this self-dimension undertakes journeys through memory networks. Allow yourself to become a compassionate witness to your own history. Notice how this part of you moves through your memory archives with both courage and tenderness, neither forcing revelations nor avoiding necessary facts.
Proceed knowing your Space Bender refuses to deny or minimize the anguish of broken promises or moments when others forced unwelcome compromises upon you. This isn't cruelty—it's honoring the reality of your experiences and acknowledging that your past pain contains valuable information about what you need for authentic living. Your Space Bender recognizes that integrating these memories, rather than avoiding them, transforms past wounds into present wisdom.
Inspiration
When you grant your Space Bender permission to access complete experiential archives rather than limiting awareness to comfortable memories, you transform selective remembering into integrated wisdom—discovering that moving beyond beliefs about painful memories as destructive opens pathways to authentic assessment that serves both present decisions and genuine protection.
Consideration
Consider how allowing your Space Bender full archival access might reveal dimensions of experiential wisdom that past patterns of avoiding painful memories have prevented.
InQuiry. Application. Implementation.
How might consistently granting your Space Bender complete archival access transform your relationship with memory and authentic decision-making? In what ways could embracing painful awareness points help you move beyond unexamined beliefs about comfortable memories as sufficient guidance? What possibilities emerge when you recognize that the integrated remembering you allow contributes directly to the authentic choices you wish to see grounded in complete experiential understanding?
Music as Memory Gateway
Music functions as powerful portal to experiential archives, bypassing mental resistance through emotional resonance. Specific songs or instrumental pieces carry temporal signatures that unlock memories stored beyond conscious access, enabling your Space Bender to navigate memory networks with greater precision and depth.
This musical gateway operates through neurological pathways connecting auditory processing with emotional memory centers, creating bridges between present awareness and archived experience. Rather than forcing remembrance through mental effort, musical accompaniment allows natural emergence of relevant experiential data.
Inspiration
When you employ music as memory gateway rather than forcing mental recall, you transform resistant remembering into flowing access—discovering that moving beyond beliefs about memory as purely mental opens pathways to emotional archives that serve complete experiential understanding.
Consideration
Consider how using musical gateways might reveal dimensions of memory access that past patterns of mental forcing have blocked.
InQuiry. Application. Implementation.
How might consistently using music as memory gateway transform your relationship with accessing experiential archives? In what ways could trusting musical pathways help you move beyond unexamined beliefs about memory as purely mental function? What possibilities emerge when you recognize that the complete remembering you access through musical gateways contributes directly to the integrated wisdom you wish to see informing your authentic choices?
Your Guidance System
When contemplating intuition, you’re actually engaging a sophisticated internal navigation system—one processing information far more rapidly than conscious awareness. This ‘gut feeling’ doesn't represent magical thinking but is a complex integration of you experiential archive, pattern recognition, and subconscious processing that alerts you to potential difficulties before rational articulation becomes possible.
Despite its profound value, humans frequently override these intuitive signals or rely on them alone. Several dynamics contribute to this disconnection:
Familiarity possesses powerful magnetism and often proves surprisingly seductive. Even when your intuition warns against heading toward ‘same old complications’, this trajectory can also generate unexpected comfort. Consider moments when you’ve chosen a path of predictable pain, choosing a situation over the uncertainty of selecting an alternative path. Twisted comfort exists in a problem you recognize—they confirm an existing narrative about yourself and your surrounding realities.
Intuition often cautions against choices that may feel momentarily satisfying, this part of you knowing that it’s likely to generate long-term consequences that are less than pleasant. When dismissing that ‘quiet voice’, you likely prioritize immediate satisfaction over long term wellbeing. Temporary relief or pleasure appears worthwhile until you discover yourself suffering through complications that are all too familiar.
External expectations and social obligations frequently prompt an intuitive dismissal, something you might recall when thinking about times you’ve ignored internal warnings. What were the chances that you felt acknowledging them would require disappointing someone or you’d be seen departing from established ‘norms’. Pressure to conform can easily overwhelm persistent intuitive communications.
It’s important to consider how you may have been trained to value external authority and rational analysis over internal knowing. Perhaps you’ve been taught to doubt your intuition, treating it as unreliable or irrational. Being conditioned to
trust others, mistrusting or denying your gut or intuition is manipulation, someone intentionally cutting you off from your inner guidance system.
Inspiration
When you honor intuitive signals rather than overriding them for familiar comfort, you transform repetitive patterns into evolving wisdom—discovering that moving beyond beliefs about predictable pain as safe opens pathways to authentic navigation that serves both present awareness and future wellbeing.
Consideration
Consider how trusting your guidance system might reveal dimensions of protective wisdom that past patterns of dismissing internal warnings have prevented.
InQuiry. Application. Implementation.
How might consistently honoring intuitive signals transform your ability to build a powerful decision-making and pattern recognition? In what ways could trusting your guidance system help you move beyond unexamined beliefs about external authority as more reliable than internal knowing? What possibilities emerge when you recognize that the intuitive wisdom you honor contributes directly to the evolutionary growth you wish to see manifested in breaking free from repetitive cycles?
Integrating Internal Guidance
Learning to honor your intuition doesn’t require abandoning rational thought. It too, is a part of your neurological wonder. Integration involves harmonizing all consciousness aspects—your ArcTypes—and honoring their unique ways of knowing. When hearing that quiet voice whisper warnings, pause for investigation rather than immediate dismissal. This practice helps prevent repeatedly landing within familiar complications.
The next time you’re experiencing an intuitive prompting, think about asking yourself questions along this line: What exactly is this sensation attempting to tell me? Where in my body am I experiencing this signal? Does this situation remind me of a past pattern or outcome? What might happen if I honor my intuitive knowing instead of overriding it?
Developing a trusting relationship with your gut wisdom, natural instinct, and intuitive guidance frees you to move forward into authentic growth, liberating you from negative cycles that you keep repeating.
Inspiration
When you integrate rational thought with intuitive guidance rather than privileging one over the other, you transform fragmented decision-making into holistic wisdom—discovering that moving beyond beliefs about logic as superior opens pathways to integrated knowing that serves both practical assessment and deeper understanding.
Consideration
Consider how integrating different ways of knowing might reveal dimensions of complete guidance that a past pattern of fragmenting or ignoring inner wisdom may have limited.
InQuiry. Application. Implementation.
How might consistently integrating rational and intuitive guidance transform your approach to complex decisions and personal growth? In what ways could honoring all consciousness aspects help you move beyond unexamined beliefs about single-source guidance as sufficient? What possibilities emerge when you
recognize that the integrated wisdom you develop contributes directly to the evolutionary growth you wish to see expressed in breaking free from limiting patterns?
Creating Sacred Spaciousness
Your Space Bender represents the consciousness aspect that delights in generating room for play, rest, creativity, and unstructured time where profound insights naturally emerge. It recognizes that productivity without spaciousness creates diminished existence, regardless of your external achievements.
This dimension gently resists familial, cultural, or societal pressure to saturate every moment with seemingly necessary activity, preserving open spaces where your entire being is free and able to expand into your fullest expression.
Inspiration
When you honor your need for spaciousness rather than filling every moment with productive activity, you transform compressed existence into expansive living— discovering that moving beyond beliefs about constant productivity as virtue opens pathways to creative emergence that serves both personal fulfillment and authentic contribution.
Consideration
Consider how creating sacred spaciousness might reveal dimensions of creative wisdom that past patterns of constant activity have prevented from emerging.
InQuiry. Application. Implementation.
How might you honor this intuitive aspect of yourself today? What boundaries in your life appear solid but might bend under gentle pressure of your attention?
Where could your Space Bender create room for your essential self in a life perhaps grown too crowded with apparent obligations to others? What possibilities emerge when you recognize that the spaciousness you protect contributes directly to the authentic expansion you wish to see manifested in your creative and contemplative life?
Youniverse & Universe
Molecules naturally arrange themselves into dodecahedral shapes throughout nature. You can see this in crystallography, where certain metal alloys form dodecahedral crystal structures. Quantum mechanics researchers have found quantum states with dodecahedral symmetry, especially in spin networks and certain quantum systems. Some cosmological models suggest that the universe itself might be shaped like a dodecahedron. In 2003, researchers studying cosmic microwave background radiation proposed the universe could have the shape of a Poincaré dodecahedral space. Dodecahedral structures show up in metal-organic frameworks, and some protein complexes.
When you speak and act remember that you are a whole part of the Universe, and everything you say and do becomes her memories.
Inspiration
When you see yourself as the universe expressing through your individual form rather than as something separate from cosmic space, you transform feeling isolated into intimate connection—discovering that moving beyond beliefs about separation as reality opens pathways to embodied cosmic awareness that serves both personal authenticity and universal remembering.
Consideration
Consider how experiencing yourself as the universe incarnate might reveal aspects of cosmic participation that past patterns of separation thinking have hidden.
InQuiry. Application. Implementation.
How might recognizing yourself as the universe expressing through your individual form change your relationship with existence and personal responsibility? In what ways could embodying cosmic awareness help you move beyond unexamined beliefs about separation as fundamental reality? What possibilities emerge when you recognize that the universal memories you create through your words and actions contribute directly to the cosmic evolution you wish to see manifested through conscious participation in existence?
Sacred Geometry in Everyday Life
The dodecahedral pattern that keeps showing up in Nature—from how molecules arrange themselves to cosmic structures—reveals the basic organizing principles working across all levels of existence. This geometric template suggests an underlying coherence connecting quantum mechanics, crystallography, biological systems, and how the cosmos is structured.
Your recognition of the universe expressing herself through individual consciousness places you deep within this geometric harmony, making your words and actions part of cosmic memory formation. I can’t help but wonder if this harmony and the chaos doesn’t reach farther than most of us might dare to imagine. What I am certain of is that each authentic expression contributes to universal remembering through the living geometry of existence itself, its resonance felt far and wide.
Inspiration
When you align your decision with these first principles rather than living randomly, you transform chaotic expression into harmonic contribution. You quickly discover how moving beyond beliefs about your insignificance opens pathways to cosmic participation that serves both you and generates universal coherence.
Consideration
Consider how aligning with this natural geometric patterning might reveal aspects of cosmic participation that your past patterns of unintentional words and actions have prevented.
InQuiry. Application. Implementation.
How might consciously aligning with these First Principles change how you approach expressing and participating in your relationships, knowing it carries into the cosmos? In what ways might recognizing natural harmony help you move beyond unexamined beliefs about randomness and life as meaninglessness? What possibilities might emerge if you recognized that the harmonic expressions you contribute through intentional alignment are part of the universal memory you wish to see enriched and heal the field of consciousness?
Thinking about Intuition
When your gut roars, pay attention! Please. It has a natural ability to dig deep into your memory bank and surface what you need to remember to understand how you got to where you are at the moment. Your challenge lies in appropriately honoring that intelligence, knowing your Space Bender piece of self is able to accesses information held beyond your conscious reach.
When your gut transmits signals, it’s often drawing connections from previous experiences, and may be detecting subtle ‘invironmental’ cues that your Light Lifter overlooked. It might be retrieving emotional memories your Wave Tamer preferred to avoid, even though understanding that remembering helps keep you from getting in over your head.
Like other aspects of yourself, your intuition is able to access unique wisdom. Making a best decision requires pausing to hear and acknowledge that it’s telling you! Your Space Bender has the natural ability—and it can be improved— to distinguish between genuine insight and fear. This part of you recognizes the importance of figuring out when a decision might involve someone attempting to reshape you in ways you don’t want to change.
Allowing your Space Bender to highlight details that escaped your logical process is essential. While a natural partnership exists between your intuition and your thinking abilities, they are discrete and vital for making decisions that honor your inner wisdom relative to external realities that may emerge.
Inspiration
When you honor your intuition rather than dismissing it as irrational, you move one step closer to a best decision, learning that moving beyond beliefs about logic as sufficient opens pathways to a complete assessment that serves both practical needs and deeper protection.
Consideration
Consider how accessing and trusting your memory retrieval might reveal important information you missed when you relied solely on short-term, mental analysis, or reacted emotionally.
InQuiry. Application. Implementation.
How might consistently honoring intuitive signals you feel in your gut transform your approach to decision-making and pattern recognition? In what ways could trusting your Space Bender's ability to distinguish intuition from fear help you move beyond unexamined beliefs about logical analysis or emotional reaction as being enough to make a decision? What possibilities might emerge when you recognize that the integrated wisdom you access through your intuitive intelligence contributes directly to the sound decisions you want to see in your life? How would this protect your growing authenticity and evolving in healthy ways?
Ignoring as Ignorance
Your Space Bender, like all the pieces of self, possesses inherent self-organizing capabilities you need harness the courage to compare a presented possibility with you extensive archives of prior experiences. This remarkable aspect of yourself functions like a master librarian who knows where everything is stored and can see the connections between seemingly unrelated experiences across time. The challenge lies in willingly granting this piece of self permission to bring potentially painful points of awareness into conscious recognition.
Like other parts of your inner system, there may be times when this part of self resist revisiting difficult memories. Chances are you know the error of thinking you’re safer by keeping them buried. I do. Given the space and stillness, this part of you knows and understands that investigation is possible only because of self- organization. You know where to find an honest accounting of what actually happened. This is the part of you that has a 1-to-1 connection to the Universe, both forms identical, your intuition helping re-inform and shape your natural instinct. Your inner Space Bender refuses to let you to exist in an edited version of your passed, knowing it does nothing more than serve a portion of comfort what can smother your current realities.
You're not in front of a judge and jury, meaning this moment demands that you abandon all protests, and refuse to say "I don't remember." This isn't about punishment or shame—it's about reclaiming the full richness of your lived experience, including the parts that taught you essential lessons about boundaries, resilience, and your capacity to survive difficult circumstances.
This part of you knows that healing and wisdom only emerge when you're willing to face the full spectrum of your experiences. Make time and set your intention, asking the Universe to help you access your memory archives. Proceed knowing this aspect of your being refuses to deny or minimize the anguish of broken promises or moments when others forced an unwelcome compromise upon you.
Remembering isn't self-abuse or cruelty—it's honoring the reality of your experiences and acknowledging that your past pain contains valuable information about what you need to live your life wholly and fully today. Your Space Bender recognizes that integrating these memories, rather than avoiding them, transforms past wounds into present wisdom.
Inspiration
When you honor your intuition's simple binary responses rather than seeking elaborate explanations, you transform confused decision-making into clear guidance—discovering that moving beyond beliefs about complexity as wisdom opens pathways to direct knowing that serves both authentic choice and practical action.
Consideration
Consider how trusting your intuition's simple responses might reveal clarity that past patterns of seeking detailed explanations have obscured.
InQuiry. Application. Implementation.
How might consistently honoring your intuition’s responses, “Yes,” handing off to your next ArcType, or “No” leading to a “No, thank you” change your life? In what ways could trusting whole-body knowing help you move beyond unexamined beliefs about a detailed analysis being necessary for a best—not perfect— decision? What possibilities might emerge if you recognized and honored that the clear guidance received through simple intuitive responses, realizing that this isn’t the answer but contributes directly to determining you want to see as realized through a dynamic partnership with all your inner intelligences?
Music Turning the Key
When you suspect an important memory lies just beyond your conscious reach, music, specially from that time period, is a reliable locksmith. Your brain stores memories in complex networks where sounds, emotions, and experiences interweave so completely that hearing the right song can unlock entire chapters of your life you thought were permanently closed.
This is neuroscience meeting practical wisdom, not nostalgia. The same neural pathways that processed the original experience remain connected to the musical patterns that were present during significant moments. When you intentionally seek out songs from a specific time period, you're essentially providing your memory system with the exact frequency needed to access stored information. To this day, when I hear a piano playing Clair de’ Lune—or any other piece of music composed by Claude Debussy—I’m sitting under my mother’s baby grand piano, feeling the sorrow, loss, and grief that her habitual abuse of alcohol and drugs was never able to take away.
This knowledge increases my sense of awe and wonder about soundtracks we’ve spent decades testing. To date, three specific sonics, each lifted from the sequence of the frequencies generated by this dynamic geometry, has revealed a profoundly unique impact on the body. One induces delta, sleep; another theta, meditation; with the 3rd, inducing alpha/theta/alpha brainwaves catalyzing intentional innovation in a group setting.
Using music as a catalyst for recall requires intention and patience. In the face of a decision where a sense of doubt leads to a “No, thank you. Not at this time”, remember your intuition or gut is protecting the system. Honor that, and as soon as possible, ‘ingage’ in an intentional meditation to bring the reason to the surface as this won’t be the last time that sense speaks.
Start by identifying the timeframe you suspect a memory may have occurred that is somehow resonant with the opportunity you passed on. Then set up a playlist of music that was popular, meaningful, or simply present in your environment at that time. This might include top hits on the radio, easy to find from specific years.
You might find clues by playing albums you still own, or listening to movie soundtracks you remember.
Create a quiet space where you won't be interrupted and allow yourself to listen without trying to force something to surface. Relax, giving yourself permission to wander, following the musical threads wherever they lead. Sometimes a memory will unlock immediately—a song begins and suddenly you're back in a car with someone you’ve not thought about in decades sitting beside you, or you find yourself in room you remember with startling clarity. Other times, this happens gradually, with fragments of memory emerging over several listening sessions.
When a decision is weighty, give yourself space to remember.
Pay attention to physical responses as much as emotional feelings and mental reactions. Your body remembers what your brain has tucked away. You may notice a particular rhythm causing your breathing to change, a certain melody might create tension in your shoulders. Lyrics you forgot about are suddenly there as if you’re reading off a page. All can trigger unexpected emotional responses signalling that you're approaching material that got tucked away. Profound unlocks can come from songs you didn't consciously connect to important life events. Background music—the soundtrack playing in stores, elevators, restaurants, or cars during significant moments—can turn the key and unlock experiences that felt too intense to process at the time. All the pieces of self agreed to catalogued these musical markers and their attendant experiences, creating retrieval pathways you can access even decades later.
Sometimes the memory that surfaces isn't what you expected to find. You might begin searching for a specific experience and discover something entirely different but equally important. Trust your youniverse and the Universe as you grow through this, knowing it is leading to progress. Together, you know which memories are ready to be integrated and those that will serve your current growth spurt most directly.
Please remember the goal isn't to force some traumatic recall, dig up pain for its own sake, or to come up with a past life memory. You have enough in this lifetime that you have to deal with. This is intentionally creating an opportunity for your consciousness to naturally reorganize itself around complete experiences rather than fragmented ones. It’s a time to heal, not to pick scabs or take a mental scalpel and reopen old wounds thinking that bleeding and pain are a natural fast track to joy. What you’re allowing is for memories to gently return on a musical pathway, knowing they usually come with the emotional context. While tears may well fall,
they come with the power to lift you to a new perspective, one that allows for genuine integration rather than re-traumatization.
Inspiration
When you choose to use music as a key to access stored experiences, be ready to see forgotten fragments fit into the puzzle, opening an integrated understanding— discovering that your consciousness naturally organizes itself around complete memories when you give it the correct conditions for safe recall.
Consideration
Consider how the background soundtracks of your life might hold access to experiences that shaped you in ways you haven't fully recognized or integrated.
InQuiry. Application. Implementation.
What time period in your life feels like it holds important but inaccessible memories, and how might music from that era help you gather what you need in the way of support for a gentle exploration? How might creating safe, quiet space for musical memory work change your relationship with ignored or supposedly forgotten experiences? What might become possible in trusting your natural ability to allow time to release memories that are finally ready to be integrated?
The Nose Knows The Way
Your sense of smell operates through the most ancient and direct pathway to memory storage, bypassing the filters that other senses must navigate. When a familiar scent reaches your awareness, it travels immediately to the same brain regions where emotions and memories reside, creating an instant bridge between present moment and stored experience.
This isn't coincidence—it's elegant design. Your olfactory system connects directly to the limbic brain, where your deepest memories live alongside the emotional responses that gave them meaning. A whiff of your grandmother's perfume, the scent of rain on summer pavement, or the particular fragrance that lingered in a childhood home can transport you instantly to moments you thought were lost forever.
The specific rhythms, melodies, and emotional resonances that were present during significant moments become doorways back to the full context of those times. If you have a memory of a smell that you know comes from that time, recreate that as well. To this day the smell of baking bread quickens memories of my mom. Diving in the ocean, the salt water on my skin lets me feel my dad swimming beside me. The smell of freshly cut timber instantly takes me to my grandfather and his workshop where he built wooden boats. All these memories were supposed wiped out by my traumatic brain injury.
Unlike music, which requires conscious engagement and active listening, scent works below the threshold of conscious awareness. You don't decide to remember when a fragrance triggers recall—the memory simply arrives, complete with emotional context and unimaginable sensory detail. This involuntary activation makes smell perhaps the most honest gateway to memory recovery.
The practical application becomes clear when you understand how your ArcTypes don’t just store just visual or auditory memories—they hold the complete sensory experiences. The smell of fresh bread unlocks more than the different kitchens my Mom cooked in over the years, it also invokes a memory feeling this was how she expressed love. The image and sound of her hammering the bread, lets me see how she was working out anger or frustration. I can see the texture of flour changing as well as her attitude. It feels like I’m watching a movie as I watch her brush an egg white wash on each loaf, then sprinkling them with a generous
portion of sesame or poppy seeds before she slid them in the oven. Just writing that was being wholly ‘ingaged’, taking a powerful journey through my youniverse.
When doing something that’s meaningful, to intentionally build in memories that you want to retrieve, consider creating fragrance anchors. Later you body will almost immediately be able to associate that smell with the event, important moments or insights preserved over time.
A Sidebar
This leads me to something I feel is important to share about events I facilitate:
When I organize an event, a plethora of food and beverages are available. Why? Because I know we all construct our memory archive in ways that are uniquely ours, and I want us to remember our time together. I’ve experienced too many workshops that were advertised for personal development, that ‘preached’ anything but personal. These programs rigidly applied and adhered to what the teachers defined as ‘healthy living’ rules. The food they served was vegetarian, and often vegan; the only sweets were fruit; there was no chocolate, wine, and often low or no salt. While this regimen worked for the organizer, it didn’t work for me.
After suffering through more than one such event, I realized the absence of options—in food or beverage—is a covert way that diversity is utterly ignored and disrespected.
Thus, my choice has long been to refuse to restrict sensory tools—smells, textures, food, and drinks. When people register, they are actually ask if they have any special dietary pleasures or restrictions. People often ask if it’s okay if they smoke. It is provided it’s far from anywhere I am or may want to go. They’re allowed to smoke far away, the direction depending on which way the wind is blowing!
Personally, I don’t want to incur the karma that comes from the error of thinking that just because I’m organizing and facilitating an event, I have the right to make people eat or drink what works for me. This is a book of questions, sharing knowledge that makes it clear that no one knows or has the right to assert their opinion, presenting it as what’s ‘best’ for everyone.
For all these reasons, any event I facilitate is a “HighPlay Experience”, an opportunity for memories to be recalled and new memories made. Each is an invitation to intentionally reinforce your divine connections while strengthening the bond we share, doing so from the inside out. With all manner of healthy food available, fruit, nuts, and more, a day, a week, or even a month of being able to decide for yourself to indulge in an organic chocolate chip cookie, pop a green M
& M in your mouth—peanut for the protein, of course , or to enjoy a handful or bag of bio-corn chips loaded with guacamole, or have a big bowl of popcorn all to yourself, not required to share, is important. In the same way we know that
there's no such thing as 'junk DNA', food that today is labelled 'junk' is deeply
connected to childhood memories. Unless you have a medical condition that says otherwise, what won't kill or hurt you may actually help you heal. Personally the smell of coffee brewing in the morning is more important than the scent of lavender when the intent is to recall dreams that may lead to a new decision. For those who decide for themselves to not drink alcohol, relaxing with a beautiful glass of sparkling cider or ice cold Cava, is a memorable way to watch the sunset and then count the stars, celebrating a day and locking in a loving experience of belonging and memories we've made together.
Back to the Inside!
Your body naturally organizes itself around scent-memory connections because smell carries survival information. Throughout human evolution, the ability to quickly access memories associated with particular odors meant the difference between safety and danger, nourishment and starvation. This ancient wisdom now serves your modern need for emotional and psychological integration.
The invitation in these pages is to honor diverse pathways as equally valid when you want to access a stored memory wrapped around an experience. Sometimes the gentle approach of aromatherapy will trigger a memory, opening the gate your consciousness needs to organize itself around memory, remembering what was authentic for you in one event to decide whether a new possibility is something you want to repeat. Any way to honor what was transcends reconstructing an old story that forces you to live that lesson again.
Inspiration
When you recognize scent as your most direct pathway to stored experience, you transform accidental memory triggers into intentional gateways—discovering that honoring this ancient sensory wisdom opens access to authentic experiences that analytical approaches alone cannot reach.
Consideration
Consider how creating intentional scent associations during meaningful moments might provide you with reliable keys to access the full richness of important experiences when you need them most.
InQuiry. Application. Implementation.
What familiar scent immediately transports you to a specific memory, a place in space and time? What does this reveal about the experiences you have somehow marked as significant? How might you begin using fragrance intentionally during important dialogues leading up to a decision? Have you ever thought about how a smell might accelerate a healing moment? What is your favorite scent that you'd be willing to follow? What might become possible if you trusted your nose to guide you toward a memory that serves you today, facilitating your current growth and deepening self-understanding?
Your Internal Historian
Your Space Bender remembers choices where you’ve succeeded brilliantly as well as situations you barely survived after sticks and stones followed the proverbial hitting the fan. This part of you understands that your priorities have to be
based on promises that you’ve already made, meaning it’s responsible for anticipating—and predicting—if a choice has the potential to engulf your space.
Serving as both your internal historian and forecaster, provided you willingly give yourself open access to the living record of your experiences. Everything you’ve said and done is stored in Time, your memories belonging to the Universe, her memory as well.
A InnerSpatial Sidebar
My mom died in 2013. Several years after being diagnosed with dementia related to decades of drug and alcohol. Her death was a profound loss, making me realize that the dream I’d long tried to bring into reality— establishing a true and meaningful bond with her—was not going to happen. My grief was soul deep despite the fact that I have no memory of her ever being present to support my growth, physically, emotionally or spiritually. Alcohol and drugs became her life support when her mother died at the age of 56, this loss overwhelming any capacity she may have originally had. But please, understand this—I do not suffer from the belief that my mother didn’t remember or had lost her ability to make a decision. All evidence to the contrary.
Clearly her choices had chipped away at her health for years. Her abject unwillingness to address much less deal with traumas and emotional issues she’s suffered went with her into the grave. My believing after observing her fear of change, specifically of death, watching it magnify her existential terror of being judged not good enough, led her to lock herself inside. Her fear was so great that she wouldn’t do anything that might make her talk, and this included drinking.
Several years before her diagnosis one of her best friends was diagnosed with dementia, and while still very active and lucid, over a morning coffee she told Mom about her diagnosis and went on to share how she was going to intentionally make exit. Her decision was made, and she extracted the promise from my mother not to tell anyone, unaware that mom was utterly incapable of making such a
promise. Hearing secrets I didn’t need or want to know about family members and friends kept me from telling her pretty much anything. I made that error once, and would never do so again. What she told my mom was that this was goodbye, that the next day she was going to stop drinking and eating. Despite knowing this was going to be a very painful way to die, at least she’d be in control of how and when she did so. Writing this is hard because I still find it hard to believe my mom didn’t tell my stepdad.
Four days later, mom decided to call Phyllis, and when she didn’t answer the phone, only then did she tell my him what their friend—his golfing partner—had said. Although they had a key to her home, he immediately called the police to ask them to conduct a ‘Welfare’ check. Within minutes the police arrived, and using the key Papa Har had, they entered her elegant home. They found her sitting in her favorite chair looking out on her beautiful garden. She died how she wanted, when she wanted and how she wanted —looking out on the beauty she’d created, at the last thing she wanted to see and take with her as she crossed the threshold into her ‘next’.
The following has me reformulating my believing about dementia:
Four days before my mom died, she implemented the exact same exit plan her friend Phyllis used. Still at home, she locked herself in her bedroom, refusing to come out saying she just wanted to sleep. Finally, when she didn’t answer my stepdad’s pleas, he realized something was wrong and pushed his way in. Finding her almost dead, instead of letting her die in peace, the way she chose, called an ambulance. Two days later, after hideous medical interventions failed, all contrary to her explicit orders, failed, she died, these days physically, emotionally, mentally and spiritually devastating, far more painful than any death should be.
Returning to Remembering…
Sadly, I know what a traumatic brain injury can do to memories. But I also understand why Music is key to remembering. Memories are a powerful way to genuinely time travel, and when you’re making a decision, gifting yourself with the opportunity to revisit old decisions you made, even those you took or abdicated, helps you determine if a new opportunity is going to serve you well or create problems. Your Space Bender is that unique piece of self who retains the realities of what is or was true for you in every experience. When asked and not
put on a leash, this piece of you will deliver these memories. This part of you doesn’t edit or give you reason for justifying, rationalizing, or spiritualizing a prior decisions and will remind you that while you survived you didn’t thrive for some time.
When considering fresh possibilities, your intuitive self has the instinctual capacity to quickly search this archive, looking for similarities with previous situations. It recalls all sensations that emerged—whether positive excitement or warning chills. When it finds a pattern match, pay attention, especially when it has reconnected to a commitment you’ve made but haven't yet completed. It is critical to recognize when a new possibility has the probability of compromising your ability to honor existing promises. This part of self fills the gaps your logical thinking may have missed.
This innate predictive ability reaches beyond immediate results to let you get a sense about how a choice might ripple through your life smoothly or generate a tsunami that leaves a trail of destruction in its path, immediate trouble as well as long-term complications that can and will likely spread into multiple areas of your life.
By developing a respectful relationship with the warnings your inner Space Bender sends to the surface, you honor wisdom you earned and may have forgotten, and guard future potential.
Inspiration
Honoring your Space Bender's historical and predictive wisdom, and no longer dismissing past patterns as irrelevant, repeated errors in judgment are replaced with a healthy and protective “No, thank you.” In this you discover how moving beyond beliefs about failure and any fear about starting over again, lets you reconnect with your natural ability to find or pioneer new pathways that support a well informed decision. Every breath serves learning from experience and growing with the Flow.
Consideration
Consider how trusting your Space Bender's natural ability for pattern recognition might reveal important connections that past approaches of treating each decision as isolated might have missed.
InQuiry. Application. Implementation.
How might consistently honoring your natural capacity to remember historical events change how you approach a new opportunity? Would it make a positive difference in your life if you knew how to end compromise? In what ways could trusting your ability to recognize your old patterns—those that didn’t and still don’t serve you—help you move beyond any unexamined beliefs you hold about how a past experience limits you, no longer using it to inform you in the present? What possibilities emerge when you recognize that the integrated wisdom you access through respecting both warnings and affirmations contributes directly to the authentic choices you wish to see manifested in honoring both past learning and future potential?
Recalibrating Navigation Software
There’s no space for doubt or denial when my life makes it clear that my bullshi* detector needs an update, an overhaul, or replacing. Thankfully there are only a few stories, not one of which is worth wasting my time to share. They were such that the lessons were learned, and are not to be audited or repeated in this lifetime.
When you recognize that something is negatively affecting your intuition—when you sense your internal warning system needs repair, an overhaul, or a complete reset—It’s time to say “No, thank you. Not at this time.”
Your Space Bender functions like a piece of sophisticated detection equipment, constantly scanning for a true memory rather than a facade; for alignment versus deception; for potential that isn’t a lie. Like any ultra sensitive instrument, your intuition or gut requires regular recalibration, making sure external pressures, emotional overwhelm, or sustained stress don’t interfere with its signals, making an accurate reading difficult if not impossible.
It’s time to say “No, thank you. Not at this time.”
Wisdom is evident when you recognize your intuitive capacity has been compromised. This is not weakness. When you sense you’ve been exposed to subtle or covert manipulation, know your inner sensors are messed up. To realize just how true this is take a breath and remember a time when you were emotionally overloaded, your energy drained to the point that it compromised your ability to distinguish between a genuine opportunity and an attractive distraction. Sometimes information creates static where clarity once existed, taking your ability to process information to zero.
It’s time to say “No, thank you. Not at this time.”
When you notice your inner guidance system might be sending mixed signals, flickering uncertainly, or remaining silent when you really need direction, honor your awareness and stop. It’s time to say “No, thank you.”
Pushing forward with compromised navigation puts your promises at risk. Give yourself permission to pause letting it be okay that it might last minutes, hours, days, or even longer. It’s important to give yourself whatever time you need to
restore your ability to remember what was before you pass the baton to the next piece of self before making a decision.
Inspiration
When you honor your need for intuitive recalibration rather than forcing decisions with compromised guidance, unclear navigation ends and you have the opportunity to restore clarity. In this you learn how moving beyond beliefs about needing to make an immediate decision gives you what you need to reopen paths to choices that serve both present wisdom and future alignment.
Consideration
Consider how recognizing when your intuitive capacity needs restoration might reveal the importance of honoring your inner guidance system's maintenance needs that past patterns of pushing through confusion have ignored.
InQuiry. Application. Implementation.
How might consistently honoring your need for intuitive recalibration transform your relationship with decision-making timing and internal wisdom? In what ways could trusting your recognition of compromised guidance help you move beyond unexamined beliefs about immediate decisions as superior to well-timed choices? What possibilities might emerge when you honor how the restored clarity you gain through recalibration, contributes directly to what you want to manifest by making sure you have and pay attention to clear internal navigation?
Wisdom In Postponing
No shame exists in postponing a significant decision, even if it’s only long enough to excuse yourself and take a bio-break. If you feel pressured into a decision, the most intelligent response is to put space between yourself and the person pushing, giving yourself time to decide how you want to respond rather than react. A simple run to the loo is a strategic retreat—time to breathe, center yourself, and allow an inner reset.
Doing this serves you in multiple ways: first, it immediately removes you from the source laying on the pressure; actually using the loo can provide physical relief you didn’t know needed relieving; that alone helps restore mental clarity, giving you space to process whatever information you have without external interference. During even a short retreat, a solution can emerge naturally as clarity returns, opening the awareness that you’re being manipulated.
A strategic pause also communicates something people pressuring you need to know—you are going to protect your boundaries. When you consistently honor your need for space to instinctually process a decision, you’re training people to respect your space as you consider making a decision. They understand that you’re not going to be manipulated or roll over and say ‘Do what you want.”This puts them on notice not to expect an immediate response from you no matter how simple or complex they think their proposition or question is.
Inspiration
When you honor your need for a strategic pause and resist responding immediately to external pressure, you transform reactive decision-taking into a conscious choice you make. In doing so you learn how to grow beyond beliefs that say you need to respond quickly to a situation that everyone knows aren’t urgent. This awareness opens a path towards intentional action, improving your ability to make a complete instinctual assessment as you tune into your gut and the Universe.
Consideration
Consider how taking a strategic pause will reveal the value of internally processing, contrasting how your past pattern of immediately reacting, asking
"How high?" when someone tells you to jump, takes you out of the moment, when you may have been in the middle of something that was meaningful.
InQuiry. Application. Implementation.
How might consistently pausing when you don’t have an iota of an intuitive sense about how a choice might affect you transform your approach in high pressure, complex situations that requires a decision? In what ways might this help you move beyond a belief you have taken on that says you need to always give an immediate response? What possibilities might emerge if you said “No”, choosing to feel you way back to make sure this choice will contribute to what you want to manifested in your life through?
Arcs & Art
This book and the course, Discovering Wholeness: Peace by Piece make it clear how you can learn to make decisions that let you live the life you want to live.
If you’re sick of secrets, your own or others, you can demystify the mysteries lurking in your life that prevent you from freely living in authenticity. Allowing yourself to unlock every door and open all the windows in your youniverse lets you bring down the barriers—fences, stone and paper walls you’ve constructed— separating you from yourself and the Love you long for. The ‘how’ is simple enough, however the questions may be challenging as you dig deep to find what’s true for you. As you uncover self-knowledge, your body, heart, brain, spirit and hands are free to unravel the enigmas that both haunt and fascinate you.
When you intentionally engage your intuition, you enter a realm where conventional boundaries dissolve, carrying you into a space where you perceive reality through a different lens. Here, you are free to consider a possibility knowing this aspect of self is resilient enough to wander through a state where logic loosens its grip and your intuition flows freely. In this space, you might suddenly understand complex patterns that have shaped your life, recognize connections between seemingly unrelated events, or gain insight about a path not yet taken.
Consider the mysteries in your life that are asking—or begging— to be illuminated. What questions do you keep asking that have resisted logical analysis? What patterns keep repeating despite your best efforts to change them? Your intuition—your Space Bender— has a unique approach that is different from your other ArcTypes. It’s not about more thinking, it’s about intentionally making space to tap into your deepest awareness. The Space Bender piece of self speaks through symbols, metaphors, daydreams and embodied knowing. When your brain quiets, your gut communicates through subtle sensations, making connections that open an understanding about the relationship between different life experiences.
Your intuition has the power to transform your relationship with uncertainty. Trusting this intelligence is important, but not giving it the exclusive right to decide is transformative. It means significantly improving the chance that a choice
will be beneficial, and what may have once felt threatening becomes a field of creative possibility, a canvas where new patterns may emerge.
Inspiration
When you trust yourself enough to illuminate mysteries rather than reinforcing logical solutions, you transform frustrating analysis into receptive discovery, learning that moving beyond beliefs is the path to understanding that opens new ways to embody knowing that serves both the resolution of the mysterious and the opening of creative possibilities.
Consideration
Consider how consulting your intuition on a regular basis might reveal mysteries asking for illumination that past patterns of purely logical analysis have been unable to resolve.
InQuiry. Application. Implementation.
How might consistently trusting your intuition to illuminate what you don’t think you recall or don’t want to remember transform your relationship with uncertainty as you face the unknown in a possibility? In what ways could embracing receptive awareness help you move beyond an unexamined belief that says logical analysis is the only valid path to a decision? What possibilities might emerge if you recognized how the embodied knowing you access through your intuition contributes directly to the resolution of mysteries and leads to the creative discovery you want to see come to be in your life? How might it open a new connection with the Universe, with the Source of Love?
Humble Versus Humility
Think of the Space Bender as the Queen Bee in your life, the piece of self that’s your deepest connection to Source. This part of you is humble, yet deeply understands its power to remember what was. It’s the part of you that refuses to wear rose-colored glasses, never indulging in spinning fantasies or painting delusions of grandeur.
This powerful aspect of self operates with deep authenticity, connecting you to genuine insight, avoiding wishful thinking. You understand the importance of balancing and cultivating perspective, acknowledging your possibilities and limitations. It’s the piece of you with the wisdom to stay humble and seldom announces itself loudly. This aspect of your consciousness has the ability to sense, see and remember meaningful patterns that appear in meditative journeys and dreams and know what’s an illusion as well as what’s self-deception.
Confidence arises as you learn to connect your intuition with practical realities and pending potential—self-respect for your source without any need to inflate its importance. Connected to all the pieces of you, your Space Bender stays honest about your vulnerabilities and has no need to diminish or discount your real capabilities, empowering you to harness packets of innate wisdom by integrating subconscious knowledge with conscious awareness.
Remember, quiet trust in yourself doesn't require external validation. Getting to this point in a decision, it agrees with your body, heart, and brain or, with humble discernment speaks loud enough for you to know that the answer is “No, thank you.” Unlike ego-driven fantasies that habitually lead you astray, this aspect of self sustains its connection to Source, keeping you firmly grounded in what you know is true for you. This helps ensure your ability to distinguish between true intuitive guidance and wishful thinking.
Today, lean into the what you know is true while maintaining the discernment and willingness to separate an illuminating vision from a deceptive mirage.
Inspiration
When you honor your intuition’s humble wisdom, resisting any tendency to inflate its importance, you transform ego-driven fantasy into grounded insight. In this
you realize that moving beyond beliefs about dramatic revelation as necessary to opens to knowing what’s true for you. This knowing serves both your deep connection to Source and practical discernment.
Consideration
Consider how hearing your intuition's humble voice amid actual realities might reveal the difference between genuine insight and wishful thinking that past patterns of seeking dramatic guidance have obscured.
InQuiry. Application. Implementation.
How might consistently honoring your instincts transform your relationship with deep discernment? In what ways could trusting that quiet insight help you move beyond unexamined beliefs about some ‘divine’ revelation being more valuable than what is true for you. What possibilities might emerge when you recognize that the grounded wisdom you access through humble meditation or contemplation contributes directly to Source, increasing the chance that you will see what you work for manifested in your life?
Intruders & Squatters
When you discover someone occupying a shadowy corner of your heart or lurking inside your mind directing your attitudes, you’re acknowledging the profound impact others can exert on your inner terrain, cutting you off from your intuition. These ‘squatters’ could be a harsh parent, a controlling—hopefully former— partner, an authoritative teacher, or anyone whose commentary has become so embedded that it influences your thoughts, emotions, and decisions without your awareness or permission.
Upon making this discovery, simply witness their presence. This recognition is all that is necessary to evict them from your youniverse. Reality check: most of us live our entire lives without realizing how deeply internalized voices control our attitudes and responses.
Next, call each squatter by name, and identify the voices behind each message. Do your best to remember when they established residence in your head. Pay attention to their particular phrases and the circumstances that let them pick the lock on your heart or mind.
Inspiration
When you identify internalized voices, no longer accepting them as your own, you transform unconscious influence into conscious choice—discovering that moving beyond beliefs about inherited attitudes as permanent opens pathways to authentic self-direction that serves both mental freedom and emotional sovereignty.
Consideration
Consider how identifying these internal squatters might reveal the extent of the suffering you’ve ‘indured’ by assuming all the self-debasing thoughts you had were original, something you decided about yourself.
InQuiry. Application. Implementation.
How might consistently identifying internalized voices transform your relationship with authentic self-direction and mental autonomy? In what ways could recognizing external influence help you move beyond unexamined beliefs about inherited attitudes as unchangeable aspects of yourself? What possibilities
emerge when you recognize that the mental and emotional freedom you reclaim through evicting internal squatters contributes directly to the authentic self- expression you wish to see manifested in your independent thinking and feeling?
The Eviction Process
After identifying these voices, recognize how these internal dictators have constrained your choices, crushing your dreams and desires, sabotaging relationships you wanted with people they knew they couldn’t manipulate. Once you’ve spotted a squatter and assessed their damage, you can start reclaiming your life!
When you wander ‘hand-in-hand’ with your Space Bender you might notice that you don’t hear these old familiar tones. When you enter this space with intention, squatters tend to hide in the corner. But when you challenge the darkness with old messages, they pipe up and you need to declare out loud—“Nope. That isn’t about me. It’s all about you. I’m not carrying it any more. So take your shi* and hit the road.”
Visualizing the voices as originating outside your body, heart, and brain, knowing they are not part of you helps you live your life. By telling those voices to take a hike you create psychological distance that diminishes their influence. When you do that you have to actively compose a renewing, self-authored message that counters the squatter’s control and message. Saying what’s true for you to yourself, saying what you’ve longed to hear is powerful affirmation.
Please understand that people who cared about you often spoke with good intentions—especially during childhood—their words were meant to protect you, not persecute you. If they’re still with you, don’t shame or blame, simply commit to maintaining your boundaries after completing the eviction process. Yes, these voices will attempt to return, and how you counter them is with your new affirmations, sustaining your boundaries, and living your core values and honoring what's true for you in the moment, knowing that what’s true is temporary, evolving with you.
Journaling helps, therapy is often beneficial, and making music, being innovative or creating art are activities that keep you grounded in your experience while supporting your authenticity.
Remember that reclaiming your youniverse isn’t a single event. It’s an ongoing practice of recognizing when someone else’s voice has sneaked back in and is talking over what you know is true for you. It’s your responsibility to gently but
firmly escort them out of your heart and head— again. By consistently doing this work, you gradually create more space for yourself, and your authentic voice emerges loud and clear. Let your intuition guide you from genuine self-authority toward where you intend to grow, knowing that the only final word your intuition can instruct you to say out loud is “No, thank you. Not at this time.”
Inspiration
When you actively evict internalized voices choosing to no longer passively accept their control, you transform unconscious limitation into conscious liberation. Remember, as you move beyond beliefs about inherited messaging as a permanent path, new pathways open to self-direction serving both your personal freedom and genuine growth.
Consideration
Consider how consistently evicting squatters and changing bad habits reveals the ongoing nature of boundary maintenance that the habit of trying once, failing, and then giving up has defeated your will to live life on your terms.
InQuiry. Application. Implementation.
How might consistently practicing negative message eviction transform your relationship with self-authority and personal boundaries? In what ways could maintaining ongoing vigilance help you move beyond a belief you have that reclaiming inner territory is a one-shot-deal? What possibilities might emerge when you recognize that the authentic voice you cultivate through persistent boundary maintenance contributes directly to the genuine self-direction you want to work to realize in your continued growth and authentic expression?
The Green Light
When your Space Bender reports what’s happening in your gut, affirming there’s room for something fresh, the talking stick passes to your next intelligence.
Barring unforeseen circumstances, this intuitive yet unspoken ‘Yes’ means that if you decide to make a promise, you’re unlikely to suffer from compromise.
This clear signal from your Space Bender indicates that your internal systems have scanned your current commitments, energy levels, and capacity, finding genuine space for new possibilities. Unlike impulsive decisions made without proper assessment, this intuitive confirmation suggests alignment between what you’re considering and what you can practically and actually sustain.
The distinction between making promises and suffering compromises becomes crucial here. When your Space Bender affirms availability of space, it’s indicating that accepting this new opportunity is unlikely to require that you break existing commitments, overextend your resources, or violate your core values. A whispered “Yes” from your Space Bender signals that integration is more than 80% possible without going back on what you’ve said you’ll do.
However, the caveat about “unforeseen conditions” acknowledges that life is and always will be dynamic. Honor the fact that your Space Bender operates with historical facts, current information and patterns, but external circumstances can shift. This wisdom encourages you to proceed with confidence while maintaining awareness that situations can evolve.
Inspiration
When you trust your Space Bender's assessment of available capacity rather than overriding it with wishful thinking, you transform overcommitment into sustainable growth—discovering that moving beyond beliefs about saying yes to everything as generous opens pathways to authentic promise-making that serves both personal integrity and genuine contribution.
Consideration
Consider how trusting your Space Bender's capacity assessment might reveal the difference between sustainable growth and overextension that past patterns of ignoring internal signals have obscured.
InQuiry. Application. Implementation.
How might consistently trusting your Space Bender’s capacity to send you accurate signals transform your approach to new opportunities and promise- making? In what ways could honoring availability assessments help you move beyond beliefs you have that saying “Yes” is always virtuous? What possibilities emerge when you recognize that the sustainable commitments you make through trusting your inner capacity contribute directly to the authentic growth you’re committed to seeing in the world? How might saying “No, thank you” reduce compromise, protecting your existing promises and your personal integrity?
Cross My Heart & Check My List
Before moving to the next ArcType, I’d like to share something about how I work to keep my life in order.
Lists? I gave up making even a grocery list, because I can’t remember a single time when I thought to check it when I was actually at the market. And calendars? Given that I seldom —if ever— know the date or or even what day of the week it is, a calendar only works when I need to ink long term plans, with the calendar app actually sending me an email reminder a week before the event. Why a week before? Because what keeps me organized is a system of alarms. I rely 100% on my phone to know when I have a meeting, an appointment, or something that needs doing. Friends laugh when they hear my phone go off, because every type of event has a unique ringtone that matches the nature of the event! Being the only one who knows what each tone indicates means I know which are snooze-able and which ones mean “Get a move on!” What means the most to me about my organizing system is that it means I don’t need clocks in my home or a watch on my arm, and I can plan both long and short term while living one day at a time, one moment at a time. Once upon a time I loved waking up with the sun, early in the summer, late in the winter, but since getting a dog, waking me up in the morning is his first priority and he has made it clear ‘Rise & Shine’ isn’t snoozable!
It’s important to find a way to keep track of your priorities that works for you. When building a new habit it’s important to find tools that help you grow them. They become a foundation for your intention, anchoring your commitments and moving you to make actionable steps. In this you’re constantly engaging in self- dialogue, growing the clarity as to what genuinely matters to you. Finding a technique or tool that lets you reassess and prioritize makes your core values visible, and sometimes audible in a “No, thank you”. Whether it’s an alarm, post- it-notes scattered around the house, a calendar that sends reminders or a list, all become tangible expressions of your intentions, agreements with yourself about who and what merits your energy and time.
Such a practice generates clarity when your life goes sideways, a navigation s that help you manage hectic periods or complicated projects. Reminders give you additional structure precisely when it’s most needed. For me an alarm actually
reduces the mental burden, liberating cognitive resources for deeper reflection that lead to creative solutions. Keeping track of your commitments —be it to yourself or others— jump starts the solidification of the foundation of authenticity, functioning as an accountability partner. It does more than help guide you through your day; reminding me of what ‘is’ as choices come up, it gently serves to keeps you honest with yourself. When diversions appear or motivation flags, your habit of organizing remains visible evidence of what you’ve identified as most important. This becomes a reliable touchstone that helps you sustain harmony between your core values, your vision, your aspirations, and your necessary actions. What’s more, it also delivers satisfaction through visible advancement when you get to mark an item complete! This tangible proof of achievement is an emotional reward that actually generates fuel for ‘ongrowing’ progress. This cycle of accomplishment strengthens your dedication to both whatever practice works for you and the broader objectives it embodies.
Inspiration
When you embrace your organizing approach, choosing to view it as an aid, not a constraint, you transform wandering intentions into directed movement. In this you learn how growing beyond old beliefs about rigidity fosters fun and spontaneity. A new found sense of choice leads to the freedom that opens multiple pathways to purposeful living, meaning found in fostering authenticity, resulting in results that are measurable.
Consideration
Consider how developing and following an organizational method might reveal the importance of external support that past approaches of depending entirely on internal motivation have failed to sustain.
InQuiry. Application. Implementation.
How might consistently using an organizational method transform your relationship with commitment and personal follow-through? In what ways would honoring documented priorities help you move beyond beliefs about planning as restrictive rather than liberating? What possibilities might emerge when you recognize that the tangible progress you’ve achieved through completing things contributes directly to the purposeful living you want to see come to be?
Chapter 7: Weft & Warp. Time & Timing.
You may notice that this chapter has more sections than any other. There reason is obvious.
“If one takes Einstein's general theory of relativity seriously, one must allow the possibility that spacetime ties itself in a knot and information gets lost in the folds.” —Stephen Hawking
What hidden gems about yourself would you like to find hiding in the folds of Time?
First Principle
First Principle Eight
“Resources are imprinted with what is necessary to safeguard actualization, sustainability and evolution.”
Translated as to how it applies to your life and making a decision:
“In Time, new habits re-imprint old attitudes, allowing you to attend to the timing that is essential to safeguard you living your life and growing in the Flow. ”
Your 6th ArcType! The Time Shifter
A coherent decision requires you deliberately creating time that you need to address one of the most challenging human puzzles—getting the timing right. The Mereon Method presents a coherent way to make decisions, every aspect of which involves understanding the connection between your choices, life time and time.
The 6th ArcType is the "Time Shifter”, the piece of you who is the practical executor responsible for determining whether you have enough time for a new possibility. However, this piece of self is unique as when necessary, it is able to negotiate timing.
Once you understand your priorities, having genuine awareness of your inner landscape, you need to get clear on how you want them to actually unfold in Time. If your Space Bender says “yes” to an opportunity, it passes the talking stick to your 6th ArcType, a piece of self that actually gets to speak up if it’s correct to do so!
Timing—determining what to do, when and how to do it—is a crucial but often ignored element of successful implementation. Your Time Shifter serves as the practical conductor of your priorities, determining what you'll accomplish, when, where and how it will happen. This is the aspect of you that evaluates and sequences your priorities, recognizing that even significant matters have their proper moment. This part of self naturally attunes to the rhythms in your life— attending to daily cycles, energy fluctuations, and seasonal variations—aligning your actions with your natural patterns. Recognizing optimal openings and opportunities leads to right action, allowing you to minimize resistance and maximize potential for success. Your Time Shifter is responsible for determining appropriate pace—knowing when to accelerate your efforts and when to proceed carefully. Perhaps most critically, this aspect of self determines when waiting, saying no, serves your priorities better than immediate action, distinguishing productive patience from procrastination.
Your inner Time Shifter must operate efficiently and effectively without becoming enslaved to the tyrant known as "Urgent". Thinking about expansive Time, this is the part of you who understands how vital it is to pay close attention to timing,
maintaining awareness of your watch, clock, and calendar.
Inspiration
When you honor your Time Shifter's wisdom about proper timing rather than rushing into immediate action, you transform reactive urgency into strategic implementation—discovering that moving beyond beliefs about faster as always better opens pathways to aligned action that serves both effective execution and natural rhythms.
Consideration
Consider how trusting your Time Shifter's sense of proper timing might reveal the importance of rhythm and pace that past patterns of responding to urgency have prevented you from experiencing.
InQuiry. Application. Implementation.
How might consistently honoring your Time Shifter's guidance transform your relationship with timing and strategic implementation? In what ways could trusting natural rhythms help you move beyond unexamined beliefs about immediate action as superior to well-timed execution? What possibilities emerge when you recognize that the aligned action you take through honoring proper timing contributes directly to the effective implementation you wish to see manifested in harmony with your natural patterns and optimal outcomes?
Being true. Getting real.
Saying what’s true for you means being —or getting— real. Apologies if what I’m about to ask offends you, but being true is more powerful than being polite:
How often does the shi* hit the fan because you messed up the timing and didn’t show up on time, or you didn’t show at all?
Perspective. Wisdom. Flow. Grow.
The journey beyond belief is illuminated by natural patterns that reveal themselves throughout existence. The content and arrangement of the transformative questions in this book emerge from understanding how fundamental forms are defined by the dynamics of a simple, unified system. Two embedded patterns and their natural language offer a structural foundation for the ArcTypes, their roles, and functions. This knotted Pattern language connects everything from astrobiology to astronomy to atoms and art.
Moving beyond unexamined beliefs becomes possible when you glimpse the interconnected relationship between all forms. More than metaphor, this understanding helps you anticipate change and navigate it consciously. By recognizing how, when, and where each form appears and fits, and how it cooperates with every element in a system undergoing constant transformation, you experience your own evolution. This awareness enables you to reconsider the origins of authenticity, understand your life's natural cycles, and embrace growth with intention. What's remarkable is how the template remains constant, yet changes everything it touches—much like how examining unexamined beliefs transforms your life without changing your essential nature.
As you transform static beliefs into intentional believings, your inner light illuminates habitual patterns and pitfalls that have led to breakdowns. Through this awareness, you develop the ability to navigate life's challenges with greater insight and purpose, recognizing when old, unexamined beliefs are creating unnecessary suffering.
Reflect on how these concepts apply to your current circumstances. In our increasingly complex and interconnected world, understanding the patterns that govern both your inner landscape and external relationships provides a powerful framework for making conscious choices. How might recognizing these natural principles help you identify where you are in your cycle of growth? What unexamined beliefs have you begun to illuminate that no longer serve your authentic expression?
Inspiration
When you recognize the natural patterns flowing through all existence, you transform fragmentation into wholeness—discovering that moving beyond belief connects you to rhythms and cycles that have always been supporting your evolution, even when unacknowledged.
Consideration
Consider how understanding these fundamental patterns might reveal dimensions of your life's unfolding that past unexamined beliefs about randomness and disconnection have obscured.
InQuiry. Application. Implementation.
How might recognizing the natural patterns in your life transform your approach to challenges and transitions? In what ways could understanding cycles of growth help you move beyond unexamined beliefs about where you "should" be in your development? What possibilities emerge when you view your journey not as a linear progression but as a natural unfolding that follows the same beautiful patterns found throughout the cosmos?
Flow = Time
The river of time continuously sculpts and refines your being. The person reading these words differs subtly yet profoundly from who you were last season, last moon cycle, or even as you began your day. Each encounter, conversation, and quiet moment imperceptibly reshapes your understanding of yourself and your world.
Here lies a beautiful paradox: time's constant motion provides the very foundation for authentic existence and spiritual unfoldment. While human nature often grasps for solid ground and unchanging certainty, our genuine development emerges precisely when we surrender to change. This natural current transcends artificial boundaries—those constructed limitations that constrain your authentic expression.
Consider each breath an initiation ceremony, your entire being—physical, emotional, mental, and spiritual—spread across the cosmic Loom of Change. Every inhale offers an opportunity for renewal as your cells regenerate, your emotional landscape shifts, your thoughts evolve, and your consciousness expands to encompass new dimensions of understanding.
When we recognize and honor our fundamentally evolutionary nature, we liberate ourselves from the prison of fixed identity. This freedom opens doorways to possibilities that remain forever closed to those who position themselves against time's natural flow rather than moving with its rhythm.
Inspiration
When you release your grip on who you believe yourself to be, you transform stagnation into renewal—discovering that authentic presence emerges not from maintaining a fixed position but from dancing gracefully with time's continuous unfolding.
Consideration
Consider how embracing your constantly evolving nature might reveal dimensions of freedom that past patterns of clinging to fixed identity have
obscured.
InQuiry. Application. Implementation.
How might recognizing yourself as a human becoming making progress, not a fixed entity churned by process transform your approach to life's inevitable changes? In what ways could surrendering to time’s never ending reshaping influence nurture rather than threaten your authentic expression? What possibilities emerge when you pause to identify one specific way you've resisted natural change recently, feeling how this resistance affected not only your internal landscape but your connections with others?
Eternity
The Time Shifter ArcType is the part of you who understands how important it is to pay close attention to timing, maintaining awareness of your watch, clock, and calendar while simultaneously knowing you are connected to something far greater. Your Time Shifter operates within the paradox of finite moments and infinite possibility, recognizing that each decision exists within the context of both your lifetime and eternity.
This deeper understanding of Time reveals that every choice carries weight beyond immediate consequences. Your Time Shifter knows that what you do today ripples through your entire life story, carrying beyond that as it’s woven into the eternal fabric of existence. This piece of you understands that timing is about more than efficiency and productivity—it's about aligning your finite human experience with the timeless reality I experienced and most of us long for, infinite love.
When you honor this expanded perspective on Time, you begin to see how your daily decisions contribute to your life’s larger purpose. Your Time Shifter is the part of you who knows how to help you navigate the tension between urgent demands and what truly matters across the span of your lifetime. It knows there are times when swift action is necessary and when to wait. In life, understanding that some things require the fullness of time to unfold is essential to well being.
Inspiration
When you honor your Time Shifter’s connection to this moment, every prior moments of your lifetime, and eternity, you shift into a very unique time zone, present in the moment yet in a space where temporal anxiety transforms into timeless wisdom. Learning to move beyond beliefs about time as something that limited opens pathways to a noble perspective that serves both your present effectiveness and a lifetime of purpose.
Consideration
Consider how connecting your Time Shifter to finite moments and infinite possibilities might reveal the deeper significance of timing that past patterns of
focusing only on immediate matters might have caused you to miss.
InQuiry. Application. Implementation.
How might consistently honoring your Time Shifter’s perspective of the divinity of Time and human timing transform your relationship with daily decisions and a lifetime of purpose? In what ways could connecting this moments to eternity help you move beyond unexamined beliefs about time as merely a practical constraint? What possibilities emerge in recognizing that the timeless wisdom you access through stillness contributes directly to the meaningful life you wan to manifest, the harmony that flows between finite choices and the infinity of Love?
The Art of Correct Timing
Correct is correct. It doesn’t mean ‘right. It means timing that works best for you.
Timing—determining what to do, when and how to do it—is a crucial but often ignored element of successful implementation. Your Time Shifter serves as the practical conductor of your priorities, determining what you'll accomplish, when, where and how it will happen. This is the aspect of you that evaluates and sequences your priorities, recognizing that even significant matters have their proper moment. This part of self naturally attunes to the rhythms in your life— attending to daily cycles, energy fluctuations, and seasonal variations—aligning your actions with your natural patterns. Recognizing optimal openings and opportunities leads to right action, allowing you to minimize resistance and maximize potential for success. Your Time Shifter is responsible for determining appropriate pace—knowing when to accelerate your efforts and when to proceed carefully. Perhaps most critically, this aspect of self determines when waiting, saying no, serves your priorities better than immediate action, distinguishing productive patience from procrastination.
Your inner Time Shifter must operate efficiently and effectively without becoming enslaved to the tyrant known as "Urgent". Thinking about expansive Time, this is the part of you who understands how vital it is to pay close attention to timing, maintaining awareness of your watch, clock, and calendar.
Inspiration
When you honor your Time Shifter's wisdom about proper timing rather than rushing into immediate action, you transform reactive urgency into strategic implementation—discovering that moving beyond beliefs about faster as always better opens pathways to aligned action that serves both effective execution and natural rhythms.
Consideration
Consider how trusting your Time Shifter's sense of proper timing might reveal the importance of rhythm and pace that past patterns of responding to urgency have prevented you from experiencing.
InQuiry. Application. Implementation.
How might consistently honoring your Time Shifter's guidance transform your relationship with timing and strategic implementation? In what ways could trusting natural rhythms help you move beyond unexamined beliefs about immediate action as superior to well-timed execution? What possibilities emerge when you recognize that the aligned action you take through honoring proper timing contributes directly to the effective implementation you wish to see manifested in harmony with your natural patterns and optimal outcomes?
Your Temporal Director
Your Time Shifter functions as the coordinator of your priorities. Deciding to take in something new is you attending to assessing risks and ensuring quality control for everything you have committed to at this point. This piece of you has to figure out if accepting or extending an invitation or taking on a projects is going to improve or erode your most precious resource, Time. The human issue is timing, figuring out what you are committed to accomplishing, knowing what you have to deliver, where and how it will happen, and how long it's going to take.
This piece of you has the natural ability to assess and the power to rearrange your priorities, provided promises aren\t broken and no one has to compromise. This aspect of self has an innate understanding that even crucial matters have their ideal moment, and sometimes one part of you is short on energy and another is in overflow. This is when your Time Shifter checks to see if events can be resynchronized, carefully paying attention to daily rhythms, energy waves, and seasonal changes, to make sure your actions match your organic flow. Spotting a great opportunity is one thing, but making sure your time isn’t at risk leads to effective action, helping you reduce struggles and maximize the chance for success.
First, you’ve got to remember if you’ve done something similar to what’s being offered, and ask yourself if you’re ready to do it again. If something has sucked your time in your past, taking up more time than asked for, the only negotiation is setting a boundary you’re committed to keeping:
How often does someone ask you for a minute or five minutes and keep you for an hour or more?
Let me recommend you buy several timers, or hourglasses with sand that falls in increments of one, three, five, and 60 minutes. If someone shows up or calls ask for a minute, pick up that timer, and say, “Ok, I can give you 5 minutes, but not one minute more. I’ll turn the timer when you start talking. Or, do you want to book a time to come back if you know it's going to take longer?”
This lets them know you’re there for them, but you’re offering your time on your
terms. If they learn that you’re their teacher, the next time they want your help they’re going to organize their information—questions, comments, and ideas—
and know how much time they need from you before they even think about calling or knocking on your door. When they learn, you’ve earned their respect.
Again, most importantly, this part of self is responsible for knowing or figuring out when pausing or declining actually serves you better than jumping into action. What you're learning is how to protect our time, a limited resource.
To optimize quality and minimize risk, the Time Shifter must work smoothly and well without with the other pieces of self, and when negotiating on your behalf, advocates for you only about timing. (Two things to note: young children are another story for another book, and of course, if the house is the urgent also applies to you.) Considering the bigger picture of Time, this is the part of you who understands how crucial it is to own your lifetime, paying attention to how you use that gift, staying aware of your watch, clock, and the calendar but not being run by them.
Inspiration
When you trust your Time Shifter to protect your time, intentional quality control rather than automatically agreeing to a request or opportunity, you transform reactive scheduling into protective coordination—discovering that moving beyond beliefs about the definition of generosity, you open new pathways to wise stewardship that serves both effective accomplishment and sustainable energy.
Consideration
Consider how trusting your Time Shifter’s risk assessment ability might reveal the importance of learning from past experiences. Remember a time when someone else used your time for what they needed.
InQuiry. Application. Implementation.
How might consistently trusting your Time Shifter’s to attend to quality use of your time transform your approach to evaluating an opportunity and protecting your time? Remember a previous experience where you ignored a historical pattern where temporal abuse prevented you from doing what you wanted or needed to do. In what ways might honoring a past experience help you move beyond unexamined belief that there is virtue in always saying ‘yes’? What
possibilities might present themselves if you recognized that the protective
coordination you practice through wise stewardship of your time, indeed your lifetime, contributes directly to the sustainable success you long to manifest, generating harmony between genuine opportunity and conserved energy?
InLightening
Like Time, your lifetime is momentary and eternal, celestial and terrestrial. A divine human, your life is like a bubble floating in an ocean of space, carried in the river of Time. When things are dark and heavy, when doubt and despair settle in like mental fog, turn on the lights and celebrate the wonder of a lifetime.
Remember that life is fragile, and you have no idea when your effervescent energy will be returned to the ocean of existence. These words are an invitation hold the joy of becoming as simultaneously insignificant and infinitely precious. As a bubble of consciousness, you contain entire universes of experience, thoughts, and feelings, yet you are carried in the river of time with countless other bubbles. The surface tension that maintains your individual form is temporary, but its essence, its motion, connects you with everything that has ever been or will be.
InLightening, is you recognizing that your mortal journey carries immortal significance. Every breath you take participates in the cosmic rhythm that has sustained life for untold eons. Every choice you make sends ripples through the interconnected web of existence, your brief sparkle of awareness contributing to the eternal dance of consciousness as the Universe explores itself through countless forms that reflect its essence.
This understanding transforms how you wake up to greet each day. Rather than rushing through moments as if they were obstacles to overcome, you begin to savor them as precious gifts. The ordinary becomes extraordinary when viewed through the lens of a cosmic perspective. A conversation with a friend, the taste of your morning coffee, the feeling of sunlight on your skin—all become encounters with the divine tangibly expressing itself through your temporal experience.
Your effervescent nature means you naturally bubble with the elixir that flows from the Fountain of You, the Life Source of the Universe bubbling with creativity, light and joy. This isn’t despite your mortality, it’s because of it. The fact that a lifetime is short, and you never know when it will come to its natural ending, your time on Gaia intensifies your awareness of the preciousness of each moment. Like champagne, the pressure of constraint creates the effervescence that makes existence—you— sparkle.
Self-InLightening is you acknowledging the profound responsibility that comes with conscious awareness, realizing you are are the universe experiencing itself!
You are the divine subjectively and temporarily embodied to contribute your unique perspective to the infinite story. Your words, actions, how you live and love matter for their eternal contribution to the ocean of consciousness, this far beyond their immediate effects.
Inspiration
When you embrace your lifetime as both momentary and eternal rather than focusing only on its brevity, you transform temporal anxiety into sacred appreciation—discovering that moving beyond beliefs about fragility as fearful opens pathways to wonder that serves both present celebration and timeless connection.
Consideration
Consider how recognizing your lifetime as both bubble and ocean might reveal the divine nature of human existence that past patterns of seeing only limitation have obscured.
InQuiry. Application. Implementation.
How might consistently celebrating your lifetime as divine wonder transform your relationship with mortality and meaning? In what ways could embracing both fragility and eternity help you move beyond unexamined beliefs about life's brevity as cause for anxiety? What possibilities emerge when you recognize that the effervescent energy you celebrate today contributes directly to the ocean of existence you wish to honor through living your divine humanity with full appreciation for this miraculous bubble of consciousness floating in infinite space?
Temporal Integration
This method helps you transform your relationship with Time. It’s recognizing how authentic living dissolves the boundaries between past lessons, present awareness, and future possibilities, understanding that Time is a knot with no beginning or end, the Flow a continuum of growth.
Living authentically changes everything about how you experience Time, lessons learned all connected to you as a human becoming intentionally using your time wisely by paying attention to timing. Prior experiences become your teachers rather than failures, lessons you’ve passed rather than mistakes that define you. When you learn to stand free in the present, time carries you and there’s no need to race. You're not trapped by regret or anxiety simply and freely flowing and growing with Time’s natural rhythm. This awareness opens the realization that every breath is a new beginning, every exhalation an ending, this the demise of the exhausting habit of chasing an elusive future that is only found in the ever pending present.
Temporal integration is the fusion of an understanding that Time is divine, and your lifetime is about humanly synchronizing by attending to timing. Magic happens when you stop fragmenting your experiences into separate compartments. When you stop labelling lessons you’ve passed as shameful, you’re unable to carry dissatisfaction into the present and your life changes.
Recognize how each moment contains the fullness of your journey—wisdom earned through experience, presence available in the present, as the potential unfolds naturally through the breathing that defines an authentic choice.
Standing free in the present doesn't mean ignoring your history or abandoning planning. It means understanding that Time flows through you, not against you, creating opportunities for continuous renewal rather than demanding perfection or completion. You’re learning to slow dance with Time rather than fighting it.
You're not becoming complacent or losing ambition. Instead, you're discovering how authentic presence creates the foundation for meaningful action, allowing your past wisdom to inform current choices while remaining open to possibilities
that emerge through genuine engagement with what's actually happening now.
Inspiration
When you move beyond beliefs about Time as linear progression toward distant goals and embrace temporal integration as continuous renewal, you understand how authentic living transforms every moment into an opportunity for fresh beginning. For those wondering about living in the ‘Now’: In the Knot the now is not. Time is the Flow of an endless number of ever pending ‘next’. Think about it: the moment you think or say ‘now’, it’s tumbled into the abyss, passed. This is why when I ask someone for something, and the next question is usually “When you want/need it?” My response is specific but it is not “Immediately” because this makes my request a demand, meaning I don’t understand or respect their time.
Consideration
Consider how standing free in the present might reveal the difference between being trapped by your timeline and flowing with Time's natural rhythm. Think about how viewing past experiences as teachers rather than failures could transform your relationship with both memory and possibility.
InQuiry. Application. Implementation.
How might embracing temporal integration transform your ability to experience renewal in each moment rather than constantly postponing satisfaction until future achievements? In what ways could recognizing every breath as a new beginning help you move beyond beliefs about redemption requiring distant transformation? What possibilities emerge when you understand Time as flowing through your authentic presence rather than as a resource you must manage or overcome?
Learning From Timing Errors
Scars and still healing wounds from decisions where Time was ignored and timing went sideways offer valuable wisdom:
A significant timing error leaves an impression that helps recognize the probability of a similar pattern;
The scars such errors leave inform future decisions;
The memories serve as an internal warning signal when similar timing dynamics come up; and
They transform into wisdom when they’re acknowledged not hidden or denied.
Your timing errors aren't failures that you want to forget—they're teachers and lessons you need to remember. Every decision that goes wrong because of poor timing leaves you with invaluable data about how Time actually works in your life. These experiences become part of your internal navigation system, informing your Time Shifter about how to make better assessments next time.
What’s critical is how you treat these timing wounds. Put a bandaid on them, covering them up because you think they’re shameful and need to be kept secret, or buy into a belief that they’re further evidence of personal inadequacy, they remain painful and unhelpful and don’t heal. But approaching them as data in a learning laboratory they transform into powerful allies. When they heal the scars they leave tell a story, reminding you about what happens when you ignore natural rhythms, rush important processes, or delay beyond the optimal moment.
The impressions left by timing errors become increasingly sophisticated over time. When you intentionally pay attention to Time and timing, you begin to recognize the subtle signs that precede a timing disaster: you get the sense of being pushed too fast; feel something isn’t quite right or ready; or someone pressures you to act before you’ve gathered enough information. Your body often knows before your brain registers that the timing feels off.
Learning from timing errors means developing compassion for your decisions you
made to fast, honoring that you passed them. You made every choice with the
information and awareness you had at the time. Rather than judging yourself harshly, it’s time to learn to honor these experiences as necessary steps in developing the timing wisdom that lets you live your lifetime wholly and fully. Every wound that heals makes you stronger and increases your ability to discern what’s what.
The scars also serve as reminders that most timing errors are survivable. You’ve made it through every mis-timed decision to date, and this is an opportunity learn and grow by remembering each one. Doing so builds confidence that even if you occasionally misread temporal signals again, you have the resilience and wisdom to navigate whatever unfolds.
Inspiration
When you embrace timing errors as wisdom teachers rather than treating them as shameful failures, you transform past wounds into future guidance—discovering that moving beyond beliefs about mistakes as permanent marks against you opens pathways to sophisticated discernment that serves both healing integration and improved decision-making.
Consideration
Consider how honoring timing scars as valuable data might reveal the learning potential in past experiences that previous patterns of shame and denial have prevented you from accessing.
InQuiry. Application. Implementation.
How might consistently treating timing errors as wisdom teachers transform your relationship with past decisions and future discernment? In what ways could honoring timing scars as valuable data that helps you move beyond an unexamined belief about mistakes being evidence of your inadequacy or incompetence? What possibilities emerge when you recognize that the discernment you develop through learning from timing errors contributes directly to an improved decision-making ability?
Timing Boundaries
Valuing your time is how others learn to respect it. When making a decision you’re responsible for attending to matters of time and timing, deciding if you have enough time to do what is asked without compromising your existing promises.
Remembering that the only person you can change is you, resist attempting to clean up others’ timing mess. Doing so reflects self-respect and respect for your time:
Accepting poor timing behavior from others only reinforces it;
Being the one who habitually accommodates others’ timing errors is how they learn they don't have to value your time; and
Just because a timing problem is handed to you with a smile doesn't mean it's your job to fix it or make something right.
Your relationship with Time and how your respond to matters of timing teaches others how to value you and your time. When you consistently honor your timing commitments—showing up when you say you will, delivering what you promise when you promise it—you model what respecting time looks like. This creates a standard that others naturally try to match when they interact with you.
But modeling good timing behavior isn’t enough. You must maintain boundaries and reject poor timing behavior from others. Every time you rush to accommodate someone's last-minute emergency, rescue them from their poor planning, or adjust your schedule to fix their timing mistakes, you’re inadvertently training them that your time is free game while theirs is not.
This doesn’t mean you are going to be rigid or unsympathetic when genuine emergencies arise. It means you know how to distinguish between an actual crisis and a manufactured urgency that stems from someone else’s poor time management. Your Time Shifter can sense the difference between |I need help because something unexpected happened” and |I need you to fix this because I didn’t plan properly.”
Keeping your boundaries around time and timing also mean recognizing that just because someone asks you nicely or promises to pay you a hefty sum doesn’t obligate you to make their timing problem yours. Such requests when wrapped in charm, apologies, or flattery are still requests. You get to evaluate whether accommodating someone compromises your priorities or honors your commitments.
Protecting your time isn't selfish—it’s responsible stewardship of a finite resource. When you guard your time wisely, you can show up fully for the commitments that truly matter, modeling for others how to develop better timing skills. Those who truly respect you will appreciate these boundaries because they understand that your reliability stems from your willingness to protect the very resource that makes reliability possible.
Inspiration
When you maintain clear timing boundaries rather than constantly accommodating others' poor planning, you transform relationship chaos into mutual respect—discovering that moving beyond beliefs about flexibility as always generous opens pathways to sustainable connection that serves both your authentic availability and others' growth in time management.
Consideration
Consider how protecting your timing boundaries might reveal how you require your time be respected where past patterns of constant accommodation have prevented others from learning.
InQuiry. Application. Implementation.
How might consistently maintaining temporal boundaries transform your relationships and how you use your time? In what ways could protecting your commitments help you move beyond unexamined beliefs that say accommodation is always kind? What possibilities emerge when you recognize that respecting your time and the time of others is modeled through clear boundaries. How might this contribute directly to the mutual respect you wan to see in your relationships where all parties value each other's time and honor their commitments?
Resistance
Learning how to make decisions that let you grow with the Flow of Time is the opportunity of a lifetime! Resisting Time is futile. Don’t waste a second trying to slow it down or speed it up. Time moves at its own pace, and is indifferent to your preference or protests. You can rail against deadlines, wish for more hours in the day, or desperately try to create and freeze perfect moments, but Time continues its steady rhythm regardless. Fighting this reality is like trying to argue with gravity—you’ll exhaust yourself while accomplishing nothing.
The futility of resistance reveals itself in countless ways. When you're dreading an upcoming event, Time seems to accelerate cruelly toward it. When you're enjoying yourself, it feels like Time speeds past too quickly. When you're bored or waiting, Time crawls with maddening slowness. Yet in all these experiences, Time itself hasn't changed—only your relationship to it has shifted.
This resistance often stems from the illusion that you should be able to control Time's flow. You imagine that if you worry enough, plan enough, or fight hard enough, you can bend Time to your will. But Time isn't your adversary—it's your dance partner. The question isn't how to control Time, but how to move gracefully with it.
Growing with the Flow of Time means recognizing its natural rhythms and learning to work within them rather than against them. Some seasons of life call for rapid action, others for patient waiting. Some moments demand your full presence, others ask you to release and let go. When you align your decisions with Time's natural flow rather than forcing artificial timelines, everything becomes easier.
This doesn't mean becoming passive or resigned. Instead, it means becoming responsive rather than reactive. Your Time Shifter knows how to read the currents of Time and navigate them skillfully. It understands when to paddle hard and when to drift, when to make your move and when to wait for better conditions.
The opportunity of a lifetime isn't about accumulating more time or trying to cheat Time's passage. It's about learning to make decisions that work with Time's flow,
creating a life of greater ease, effectiveness, and joy. When you stop fighting Time
and start flowing with it, you discover that Time becomes your ally rather than your enemy.
Inspiration
When you stop resisting Time's natural flow rather than fighting its rhythm, you transform temporal struggle into graceful navigation—discovering that moving beyond beliefs about controlling Time opens pathways to flowing partnership that serves both effective action and natural ease.
Consideration
Consider how working with Time's flow rather than against it might reveal the dance-like nature of temporal existence that past patterns of resistance have prevented you from experiencing.
InQuiry. Application. Implementation.
How might consistently flowing with Time rather than resisting it transform your relationship with timing and life's natural rhythms? In what ways could embracing Time as dance partner help you move beyond unexamined beliefs about control as necessary for success? What possibilities emerge when you recognize that the graceful navigation you practice through flowing with Time contributes directly to the lifetime opportunity you wish to see manifested in harmony between your decisions and Time's natural currents?
In the Flow. In Time.
Finding your rhythm with Time isn’t something you figure out through thinking alone—it requires direct experience. Meditation, contemplation, thought experiments, and prayer all create space for you to explore your personal relationship with Time’s deeper currents. In these moments of stillness, remarkable growth happens as awareness naturally unfolds, weaving paths and passages into profound understanding.
When you willingly step into stillness, you develop sensitivity to how genuine growth actually feels. You start recognizing those unmistakable moments when you know you're aligned with your life path—when everything clicks into place with an almost audible rightness. By cultivating awareness of how authenticity feels in your body and being, you become skilled at recognizing when you’re moving in harmony with life's natural Flow, and when you’re swimming upstream against it.
A dynamic geometric understanding of how connection actually works is important. In my early career in interior design I worked with architects, in the years since have often reflected on the words architect and ‘architecture’; arc indicates motion; and tech for me adds the description as ‘one who intends/ designs how movement will take place; architecture adding ‘texture’, that which provokes emotions and a sense of safety. Time is nonlinear, an arc of motion defined by a point moving in space to connect with other points. Geometry. Think about it and you realize growth doesn’t happen in straight lines never mind on your preferred timeline. Self-understanding happens gradually, and on top of that, it evolves with every breath, every new experience. This makes timing absolutely critical to ensure a decision is correct. This is why allowing the piece of self responsible for mastering temporal skills, your Time Shifter, matters so much. It’s you learning what to do, and when to do it.
In this investigation you are coming to understand the distinction and connection between “a lifetime” and “human timing’—one spanning the infinitesimal to the grand scale of existence, the other governing the intimate rhythms of your daily life.
Please make time for yourself to explore the elements commonly ascribed to “divinity” as they relate to Time. I have no doubt this will ignite many thoughts
about why and what we ascribe meaning to as sacred. This contemplative practice transforms your entire relationship with Time. Instead of seeing Time as just another resource to manage or optimize, it becomes a dimension you approach with reverence and wonder—a sacred territory you're eager to explore.
Inspiration
When you move beyond beliefs about Time as mere resource, and something you have to attempt to management, you begin embracing it as sacred dimension, the Flow opening the contemplative stillness that guides toward optimal timing.
Consideration
Consider how cultivating stillness might reveal the difference between forcing your timeline and flowing with Time’s natural rhythms of growth and understanding.
InQuiry. Application. Implementation.
How might regular contemplative practice cultivating and honoring all the qualities you consider ‘sacred’ transform your ability to recognize alignment between the Time and human timing relative to a decision? In what ways could developing sensitivity to how genuine growth feels help you move beyond beliefs about forcing outcomes on your preferred timeline? What possibilities emerge when you approach Time as a dimension for reverent exploration rather than a resource requiring management?
Negotiating vs Manipulating
Timing conversations can either build trust or destroy it. The difference resides in whether you’ve got a true reason to negotiate a timing issue before agreeing, or if you’re actually attempting to manipulate behind the scenes. Real negotiation happens in the light, where all involved can see what’s happening, therefore prepared to move forward in making an informed choice.
When you need to ask for a timing change, do it openly and immediately, without making an agreement. There’s one more ArcType yet to check in with. Don’t hint or build false. Transparency when it comes to in timing solidifies the foundation for a decision that actually works for all involved. Key points are:
Negotiate only to agree on timing: Knowing you can negotiate timing before making your decision frees you from making a promise you can’t keep, compromise something that erodes the soul. Speaking up before committing creates space for solutions to arise that honor everyone’s desires and genuine constraints.
Notice and remember manipulative patterns around timing: Pay attention to how others might use timing as a control mechanism—last- minute requests designed to pressure you into yes, shifting deadlines without discussion, or creating artificial urgency to bypass your decision- making process. Recognizing these patterns protects you from getting pulled into someone else's poor planning.
Build in timing buffers: Allow breathing room in your schedule for the unexpected. Rarely does anything in life unfolds exactly as planned, and having a buffer gives you flexibility to respond gracefully rather than scrambling to accommodate changes that throw everything off balance.
When you’re body is weary, your emotions feel stagnant, and your brain and intuition are off line, stop. Make time to examine where you’re resisting the Flow. When you feel trapped between impossible choices, it’s time to step back and question whether those are really your only options. When burnout hits, remember that slowing down, stopping and turning around often puts you right back in the
Flow.
Inspiration
When you move beyond beliefs about timing as a fixed constraint and embrace open negotiation over hidden manipulation, transparent communication becomes your pathway to a decision that honor both your practical needs and authentic growth.
Consideration
Consider how practicing transparent timing negotiations might reveal the difference between cooperative decision-making and the exhausting routine of suspecting and having to figure out if someone has a hidden agenda.
InQuiry. Application. Implementation.
How might consistently negotiating timing openly transform your relationships and reduce the compromises that drain your energy? In what ways could recognizing manipulative timing patterns help you move beyond beliefs about urgency as being eternally legitimate? What possibilities emerge when you build timing buffers that allow for both practical flexibility and the spaciousness you need to grow with the Flow?
Cosmic Intersections
The Mereon method helps you recognize when the Universe opens windows in Time, creating moments where past, present, and future align in meaningful ways, be it an unexpected daydream, a thought that simply appears, all are meant to be a moment of spontaneous joy.
When a daydream unexpectedly bubbles to the surface, bringing with it a smile or laugh, pay close attention. These seemingly random moments might be far more significant than they first appear. The Universe loves expressing herself through the unexpected, and given that you’re constantly processing information, living your life caring for your family, and friends, working, playing, meeting deadlines, and planning for the future, you're living in structured existence where these spontaneous temporal journey’s serve a special purpose.
These moments are invitations from the Universe, inviting you to co=create a moment together in a brief intersections where Time reveals connections you might not have ever intentionally considered. They often occur when you least expect them— for me it’s often in the shower, swimming, falling asleep or waking up! Incredibly, these moments can happen when you're in the middle of something that seems completely unrelated. I’ve learned to pay attention as the time of day and the timing itself may well be significance, so check the clock, date and the content of your experience.
Recognizing when you’r in a cosmic intersection requires doing your best to stay there. It may or may not be related to what you were doing when it happened.
Make sure to notice if there's a repeating pattern to any aspect of the experience.
Don’t try to force meaning or try to manufacture a mystical experiences. Life has enough challenges Instead, focus developing awareness about how the Universe naturally expresses herself to you through these surprising moments, celebrating the joy and sharing it with someone you trust and know will appreciate your temporal gift.
Inspiration
When you move beyond beliefs about daydreams as mere distractions and
embrace them as cosmic intersections, you understand how spontaneous moments
of joy become pathways to recognizing how the Universe communicates with you through Time.
Consideration
Consider how honoring these unexpected moments might reveal the difference between forcing spiritual experiences and allowing the Universe to express herself naturally through your daily life. Think about how noticing patterns in timing and content could deepen your connection to the Universal Source.
InQuiry. Application. Implementation.
How might consistently recognizing cosmic intersections transform your ability to receive something special, spontaneous joy emerging, rather frustration that often accompanies seeking answers through a structured practice? In what ways could paying attention to the timing of an unexpected daydream or idea help you move beyond beliefs about spiritual communication as rare or difficult to access? What possibilities might emerge in honoring these moments, seeing them as genuine invitations from the Universe rather than thinking them to death or dismissing them as random thoughts?
Messages In, Through & Across Time
This method helps you recognize and respect spontaneous moments of cosmic communication by documenting their content and timing, creating space for the Universe's guidance to integrate with your conscious awareness.
When these moments occur, pause if you can, even for a few seconds, and note the content and timing of the daydream or vision. Make time to journal about it later, reflecting on the thoughts and feelings it triggered. Without obsessing about the 'why,' look for patterns if similar daydreams follow. These internal moments deserve equal respect alongside your structured learning because they represent a different but equally valuable form of education.
Let me say this another way: Your life requires learning, unlearning, and relearning, and these cosmic intersections connect your personal experience with Time's universal patterns. By honoring these moments, you develop both intellectual knowledge and wisdom—the integration of which enriches your life experience in ways that serve your studies and your lifelong journey of discovering who you are.
Honoring cosmic intersections means creating space for the Universe's communication without forcing interpretation or demanding immediate understanding. You're developing reverence for how Time reveals connections through spontaneous moments that complement your conscious efforts to learn and grow.
You're not abandoning structured learning or dismissing the importance of traditional education. Instead, you're recognizing that wisdom emerges from balancing intellectual pursuit with receptivity to the Universe's spontaneous guidance, creating a more complete approach to understanding your unique contributions.
Inspiration
When you move beyond beliefs about education as only happening through formal study and embrace cosmic intersections as equally valuable learning, you understand how honoring spontaneous guidance becomes a pathway to integrated
wisdom.
Consideration
Consider how documenting these moments might reveal the difference between forcing spiritual understanding and allowing the Universe's timing to unfold naturally through your awareness. Think about how balancing structured learning with receptivity to cosmic communication could enrich both your studies and self- discovery.
InQuiry. Application. Implementation.
How might consistently honoring cosmic intersections transform your ability to integrate intellectual knowledge with intuitive wisdom rather than treating them as separate forms of learning? In what ways could documenting patterns in spontaneous guidance help you move beyond beliefs about education as limited to formal study? What possibilities emerge when you respect these moments as genuine communication from the Universe rather than dismissing them as distractions from "real" learning?
42. YES, FORTY TWO.
This method helps you recognize how multiple layers of consciousness and time flow through singular space, revealing the interconnected dimensions that dreams and meditation make accessible to your awareness.
The Mereon Method at the heart of this book reveals that conscience and awareness exist in multiple layers and dimensions. The knowledge of multiple intelligences and the geometry tying five knots leads us to consider if there might be multiple tracks of time flowing through singular space. Think about how your dreams and meditation experiences let you access another layer of conscious awareness—think in terms of layers, not levels which implies hierarchy, everything enfolded and flowing as one.
At the heart of this 'High Play,' I found something Douglas Adams, author of 'The Hitchhiker's Guide to the Galaxy,' would either love or find completely mind- bending! Adams presented 42 as the "Answer to the Ultimate Question of Life, the Universe, and Everything" as calculated by supercomputer Deep Thought over 7.5 million years. He insisted he picked 42 randomly because it made no sense, exploring life's absurdity and humanity's quest for meaning.
But… what if Adams tapped into a knowing he didn't know he knew? I still laugh knowing the Mereon Matrix reveals 42 interconnected layers of reality—33 in the boundary and 9 in the core. These states of awareness often slip through your
everyday filters, allowing you to receive information and guidance that might otherwise be inaccessible.
When you dream or enter deep meditation, you’re essentially allowing your consciousness to explore the dynamic, spatial-temporal flow that’s fundamental to existence. As you begin trusting these experiences, you may start noticing patterns that connect seemingly unrelated life events, or you recognize as motions in common to massive celestial bodies and microscopic particles.
You’re not losing touch with reality, thinking abstractly, or becoming impractical. You’re discovering how wholeness reveals itself through it’s whole parts; how time transcends linear limitations in your dreams, and through intentional
meditation; you receive simple guidance that takes you seamlessly through a
complex situation— maintains integrity through constant motion and understanding the cooperative relationship among the whole pieces of self!
Inspiration
When you move beyond beliefs about consciousness as singular and embrace multiple layers of awareness flowing through space, you understand how dreams and meditation become gateways to accessing the interconnected dimensions that shape reality.
Consideration
Consider how recognizing 42 layers of reality might reveal the difference between seeking answers through linear thinking and allowing guidance to emerge through multidimensional awareness. Think about how trusting dream and meditation experiences could transform your relationship with both consciousness and time.
InQuiry. Application. Implementation.
How might embracing multidimensional consciousness transform your ability to receive guidance through dreams and meditation rather than limiting awareness to waking thought? In what ways could recognizing universal patterns help you move beyond beliefs about events as isolated occurrences? What possibilities emerge when you understand consciousness as layered awareness flowing through singular space rather than as a single stream of linear thinking?
Introspection & Integration
This method helps you transform meaningful moments into measurable wisdom by creating practical systems for capturing and integrating insights from dreams, meditation, and spontaneous awareness.
Integrating this knowledge is how what you find meaningful in the moment becomes measurable, potential appearing as product and wisdom that is meaningful. There are lots of ways to do this, and it's up to you to find a way that works for you. You might consider keeping a dream journal beside your bed and recording impressions immediately upon waking, having small journals in the car, your briefcase or purse, at your desk, or outside the shower so you can write down thoughts that emerge out of the blue, or saving voice notes on your phone.
Note patterns that repeat across different dreams or meditative states. Pay attention to emotional resonance—visions that feel significant on a visceral level. Look for connections between your inner visions and external events. Allow these insights to help inform decisions but don't make the error of letting them dictate your choices.
By honoring these experiences, you align yourself more fully with the universal patterns that the Mereon Method illuminates. This alignment provides a more coherent framework for understanding and navigating your challenges, leading you to a wise decision, but it doesn’t remove the life lessons you choose and those that come your way! In learning how to make a decision You’re not becoming dependent on mystical experiences or abandoning rational decision-making.
Instead, you're creating integration between your inner wisdom and waking consciousness, allowing both to inform your choices. Just as the 42 layers of the Mereon system create a complex but harmonious whole, integrating your dream wisdom with your waking consciousness creates a more complete and resonant expression of your unique place within the larger pattern of existence.
Inspiration
When you move beyond beliefs about dreams and meditation as separate from practical life and embrace integration as the pathway to wisdom, you understand how meaningful moments become measurable guidance through consistent
attention and documentation.
Consideration
Consider how creating practical systems for capturing insights might reveal the difference between having spiritual experiences and integrating them into daily decision-making. Think about how honoring both inner visions and external reality could create more coherent navigation through life's challenges.
InQuiry. Application. Implementation.
How might consistently documenting dreams and spontaneous insights transform your ability to recognize patterns rather than treating each experience as isolated? In what ways could integrating inner wisdom with waking consciousness help you move beyond beliefs about spirituality as impractical or separate from daily life? What possibilities emerge when you understand integration as creating harmony between multiple layers of awareness rather than choosing between rational thought and intuitive guidance?
Temporal Sovereignty
The Mereon method you’re learning/remembering here helps you recognize how surrendering control of your time affects both your emotional well-being and your ability to fulfill your unique purpose. It creates an internal focus, self awareness, that leads to an intentional time investment rather than thoughtlessly giving your time away.
What happens when you decide to allow others to take control of your time? Take a moment to consider how you feel when you realize you don’t have enough time to do what you want or need to do. Because you have this book in your hand means you’ve accepted an invitation to explore your relationship with the Universe, with Time, and the consequences of surrendering its control.
Consider how often you find yourself saying "yes" when you want to say "no," or postponing personal priorities to accommodate another's request. Notice the emotions that arise when you discover your time has slipped away—perhaps frustration, resentment, anxiety, or a sense of being unseen. These feelings aren't random; they're important signals about the alignment between how you spend your time and what truly matters to you.
Think about a specific instance when you gave your Time away. Was it a conscious choice or a habitual response? Did you receive something valuable in return, or did you simply lose a non-renewable resource? Your emotional response to temporal scarcity offers valuable insight into whether pressure triggers panic, resignation, or determination, and how your reaction influences your ability to use available time effectively.
You’re not becoming selfish or unavailable to others. Instead, you’re developing clearer boundaries around your time, treating it as precious—neither hoarded selfishly nor given away thoughtlessly, but invested with intention. Reclaiming control of your time isn't selfish; it’s necessary for fulfilling your unique purpose and serving others from fullness rather than depletion.
Inspiration
When you move beyond beliefs about saying “No, thank you” as unkind or
selfish, embrace temporal sovereignty knowing it is essential for authentic service,
understanding how protecting your time opens multiple pathways to fulfilling your unique purpose. This is far from being selfish and withholding your energy.
Consideration
Consider how treating time as precious might reveal the difference between conscious investment and habitual giving away of your most valuable resource. Think about how developing clearer boundaries would transform both your effectiveness and dramatically increase your ability to serve others from overflow.
InQuiry. Application. Implementation.
How might recognizing your emotional responses to feeling you don’t have enough time transform your ability to make a conscious choices rather than reacting habitually to others’ requests? In what ways might understanding time as a non-renewable resource help you move beyond beliefs about availability as always being kind? What possibilities might emerge if you decided to invest your time intentionally rather than allowing others to control or attempt to manage it?
Embracing Endings As Beginnings
Life offers no guarantee of a "happily ever after." Each sentence and chapter eventually closes, making way for a ‘next’.
You possess the power to celebrate every ending. When a relationship, job, project, or phase of life concludes, you can choose to honor what it brought out in you—the growth, the lessons, the moments of joy and challenge. Such honoring is about acknowledging its significance in shaping who you've become.
The minute you recognize something is ending, you simultaneously begin to prepare yourself for a new beginnings. The space created by an ending provides fertile ground for intending what comes next. This is the time and space for you to plant new seeds. As one door closes, know that the Universe is cutting the key that will open the next to appear. Prepare to open that door and cross the threshold of your new next with openness and the fullness of presence.
This perspective transforms how you experience life’s inevitable transitions. Instead of fearing endings or rushing through them, you might discover they contain their own unique gifts—closure, wisdom, freedom, relief, or the bittersweet beauty of completion.
Today, when something is coming to a close, even if it is just the exhale following an inhale, celebrate this transition. Honor the waiting for every new next.
Inspiration
When you move beyond beliefs about endings as losses and embrace them as natural transitions that create space for new beginnings, you understand how celebrating closure becomes a pathway to preparing for your next chapter with openness and presence.
Consideration
Consider how honoring what each ending brought out in you might reveal the difference between fearing transitions and recognizing them as fertile ground for planting new seeds. Think about how celebrating closure could transform your relationship with life's inevitable changes from resistance to grateful
acknowledgment.
InQuiry. Application. Implementation.
How might embracing endings as beginnings transform your ability to experience transitions as gifts rather than losses? In what ways could honoring the growth each chapter provided help you move beyond beliefs about change as inherently painful or threatening? What possibilities emerge when you understand that as one door closes, the Universe is already cutting the key for the next door to appear?
Sphere. Drop. Ripple. Wave.
How often does your time just seem to slip away, leaving you wondering where it went?
I long ago realized how futile it is to attempt to control my time. This came with the realization that like it or not, Time controls every one of us. That was the moment I decided to live my lifetime in its Flow, growing with intention, as best I could. The following thoughts are me rising to what feels like an ultimate dare.
Take them for what they are, my thoughts about how nothing connects to the (K)nothing known as Mereon.
This led to another, even deeper realization, that the world is transformed only as we dare to make internal changes. More often than not, change is something most fear and therefore, resist. When we name the positive changes we want to see in the world, we're exercising our imagination and vision. This first step acknowledges the possibilities available in our environment, our exploration looking for what would make our life better, more harmonious. Few look for what will make their life different. I care enough to dare to do more than envision a world with greater compassion, environmental sustainability, social justice, and peaceful cooperation. This book is one way I want to transform this vision into a reality beyond mere fantasies, recognizing that the possibilities to make this of actual already exist within our shared reality.
What quantum physics reveals reflects this understanding about change: reality exists in a field of infinite potential until observation collapses it into an actual experience. Of course, quantum physics represents a collection of assumptions that scientists have agreed upon, given that there's something—not perfect or even close to complete—about what they think they're observing. Yet these working models offer useful parallels for understanding how this Method and consciousness itself operates.
Your conscious awareness acts as the observer, literally selecting which possibilities to manifest in your personal sphere of influence. This sphere, like a stone dropped into still water, an authentic choice you make creates ripples that extend far beyond your immediate circle, carrying or carried by the frequency of
your intention into the larger field of collective consciousness.
A pebble dropped in water produces ripples that move across the surface. Cosmic ripples are on a different scale, following spherical pathways we can’t see due to our sight being limited by a horizon. Yet, it is logical that when these cosmic drops drop into and through the quantum field, they do so in the same way that human connections can defy a conventional understanding of cause and effect.
How is it that a moment of genuine courage in your living room, or words on a computer can somehow be felt, strengthening someone's resolve halfway around the world. An act of compassion in your workplace has the power to ripple through relationships, people you'll never know, creating waves of possibility that travel at the speed of consciousness itself. Whatever that is.
There is a piece of you that understands the quantum nature of change, recognizing these models as useful frameworks rather than absolute descriptions. It knows you exist simultaneously as particle and wave—as both an individual sphere of consciousness and part of the larger wave created by its motion, thus impacting all sentient life.
When you make authentic choices, those that are aligned with your deepest values, you're not just changing your personal trajectory; you're adding your unique frequency to the collective wave, the Song that shapes every imaginable reality.
This is why internal transformation precedes external change. In quantum terms, you must first become the observer of self, seeing new possibilities before they collapse. When you shift your internal state from resistance to flow, from fear to love, from separation to connection, you literally alter the field of potential that surrounds you.
The wave nature of change means that transformation doesn't happen through force but through resonance. When you embody the qualities you want to see in the world—compassion, sustainability, justice, peace—you become a kind of cosmic tuning fork that activates these same frequencies in others and the world. Daring to show up and live your authentic presence creates what quantum physicists call "entanglement"—though like all quantum concepts, this represents
their best model at this time in their attempt to describe the mysterious connections they observe but don't fully understand.
Consider how this plays out in daily life:
When you choose to respond with patience instead of reactivity, you're not just managing one interaction; you're sending a wave of calm into the collective field. When you make a choice based on love rather than fear, you're actually contributing to the probability that love-based solutions will emerge in situations you'll never directly encounter.
Your sphere of influence extends infinitely through these quantum ripples and waves. That’s why authenticity isn't selfish—it's the most powerful contribution you can make to collective transformation. When you live what is deeply true for you, you ‘give’ permission to others to do the same, creating an exponential effect that has the power to shift systems within system within systems.
Think about it. The quantum field responds to coherence, which is interesting given that coherence is the word defining the final assessment in this natural decision making process method. It’s known that when your thoughts, feelings, and actions align in authentic expression, a change in the field can be measured and it’s not random, this defined as what one might expect or predict. The stronger the coherence the stronger the amplification of your influence.
Think about how the quality of consistency and trustworthiness turns your transformation into a broadcast that reaches far beyond what you think is possible. Your energy is growing not slowing.
Time is a limited resource and your best ally in learning to make a decision that’s best for you. Instead of trying to control your time, realizing that Time is controlling you, you learn to surf its waves, growing with the Flow, moving and allowing synchronicity to carry your intentions into manifestation. Just as in the quantum realm, the Mereon Knot can represent the past, present, and future, all exist simultaneously. In the Love knot unity is represented in the form itself, diversity found on the surface in every color of the rainbow. But dive below the cooler and you’re swimming in white light the source of its unity. Like the rainbow you see when there’s a break in the storm, it’s real. It’s true. It’s the sum of all everything you don’t see, yet it’s not a thing.
Known that the choices you make based on what is true for you in that every
evolving moment, that your tone, words and actions ripple forward and backward
through time, every breath an opportunity to heal old wounds, changing patterns as you birth new potential, its byproduct new possibilities.
Inspiration
When you embrace your role as both particle and wave in the quantum field of consciousness, you transform isolated individual action into connected collective influence—discovering that moving beyond beliefs about change requiring external force opens pathways to resonant transformation that serves both personal authenticity and universal evolution.
Consideration
Consider how recognizing your quantum nature might reveal the infinite reach of authentic choice that past patterns of linear thinking about cause and effect have obscured.
InQuiry. Application. Implementation.
How might consistently choosing authenticity as your contribution to the quantum field transform your relationship with personal responsibility and collective change? In what ways could understanding your ripple effect help you move beyond beliefs about individual powerlessness in the face of global challenges?
What possibilities might emerge when you recognize that the coherent frequency you maintain through authentic living contributes directly to the wave of consciousness you want to see manifested in the world?
The First Drop
"Saving our planet, lifting people out of poverty, advancing economic growth... these are one and the same fight. We must connect the dots between climate change, water scarcity, energy shortages, global health, food security and women's empowerment. Solutions to one problem must be solutions for all." —Ban Ki- moon, 8th Secretary General of the United Nations
Personal transformation is the catalyst for global healing.
The world's most pressing challenges—climate change, poverty, inequality, conflict—are connected and require unique solutions. Interconnected symptoms, they reveal how we are disconnected to ourselves, each other, and Time itself.
When Ban Ki-moon spoke about connecting the dots between these global issues, he was pointing to something profound: a deep sense that there is a universal logic that if understood and applied can lead to solutions.
This knowledge you are discovering is precisely such a solution.
Genuine change begins in the intimate spaces of your being and is realized in how you live your daily life. It starts with how you speak to yourself in the mirror each morning. It's realized whether you choose patience or frustration when someone cuts you off in traffic. It's in the tone and words you use when your child spills juice on the carpet. These moments might seem insignificant compared to melting ice caps or international conflicts, but they're actually the foundation of everything larger.
Your personal sustainability practices— how you treat your body, the way you manage your energy and even if you choose to compost and recycle—create ripple effects far beyond what you can see. Every choice to align your actions with your values sends out a frequency that touches others near and far. When you embody the change you want to see, you give others permission to do the same. Your emotional work, handled by the Wave Tamer, is the stage of a decision where transformation begins to get real. Unexamined anger that isn't resolved is stuck inside, and is guaranteed to erupt—affecting your family, your coworkers, everyone you encounter. Your natural capacity for compassion creates space for
others to be more compassionate. The way you handle your own frustrations models possibility for everyone watching.
Again, the Mereon Method isn't espousing perfection or suggesting you can become some idealized version of yourself. What you're learning is how to recognize that your inner world and the outer world are interconnected, not separate. Think about the judgment you carry toward yourself eventually shows up with you sitting in judgment on someone else—those you know or don't know. The peace you cultivate by harmonizing the pieces of self actually extends an invitation for your relationships to become participants in co=creating an environment where peace is a lived experience.
Think about how often your intuitive knowing about what needs to change in the world is usually accurate—those gut feelings about injustice, environmental destruction, or human suffering point toward real problems. The crux of the issue is looking inside and seeing where these facts are factual in your life. I've hammered this before and will do so again: intuition is a powerful intelligence but it cannot stand on its own. It needs to partner with practical wisdom, clear and critical thinking, and sustained action over time. It's interesting how rarely the timeline of transformation matches our sense of urgency. Think about how changes you make today might not show visible results for years… but they immediately alter the trajectory of what's possible. Each moment you choose alignment over convenience, authenticity over approval, new pathways for yourself and everyone connected to you are created.
When your daily choices consistently reflect your deepest values, you experience coherence—that satisfying harmony that arises when who you are matches how you live. This coherence is contagious, inspiring others to examine their own alignment and make changes that ripple outward in ways none of us can fully track.
Inspiration
When you move beyond beliefs about personal and global transformation as separate endeavors and embrace your daily choices as the foundation for collective change, coherent living becomes your contribution to the world you want to see manifested.
Consideration
Consider how aligning your daily choices with your values for global change might reveal the interconnected nature of personal and planetary transformation.
InQuiry. Application. Implementation.
How might consistently embodying the changes you want to see in the world transform both your personal experience and your impact on others? In what ways might recognizing the connection between your emotional patterns and your family, community or world conditions help you move beyond beliefs about being powerless to participate in the resolution of global challenges? What possibilities might emerge when you approach personal transformation as your direct contribution to collective healing and planetary change?
Intimidation Or Intimacy?
For years I struggled with the concept of intimacy, longing for a way to reframe it from the secular sensual or sexual to the sacred. Too many times I heard people behind podiums or pulpits defining it the same: 'Into me, I see', and observing their lives, this rang hollow and failed to resonate with a single cell in my being. Longing for a deeper meaning beyond my own skin, I felt it had to be an echo, a reflection, and an experience of who I am and how I think I am in relationship— the testing ground of self-awareness. Relationship is two or more co=creating a space where Time is sacred; where our self-believings are safely and appropriately expressed in the moment; where we recognize that intimacy is a byproduct of self- awareness—self-love freely received and openly returned. For me, it was an emergent property to be revealed, not fundamental, in the same way I feel peace is a byproduct of hearing, understanding, honoring, and respecting diversity that is the heart and soul of unity. I wanted a way to express intimacy with another where loving is a state far removed from the romantic notion of 'falling in love'.
As is often the case, I remember where I was the day these words floated into existence. I instantly wrote them down, feeling like I was reading Braille someone had typed onto my heart. Reading it aloud, I felt it had been there all along, and was just waiting for me to see. It was a gift, and captured the essence of decades of work unfolding the awareness of Time—eternity—as universal, our lifetime as a gift, and understanding how for so many, timing is an existential challenge. In sharing it, my hope is that you feel the ineffable, hear the inaudible, and see the invisible in yourself. It speaks to our relationship with all that Is, daring us to be open, vulnerable, and to surrender any need to hoard or withhold, growing and evolving as we transcend the banal understanding of what it means to be true friends. I trust that sharing it here compels you to think about your intimate relationship with Time, with the Universe, with the unfolding Pattern of existence itself, and with every sentient being.
In Time I See
In time I see life as flowing grains of sand, Seeds of love slipping soft through my hands. The tides of time turn to fall from my grasp, Eternity complete in each second that’s passed.
In time I see love that remains unspoken, Tears at the soul, hearts once again broken. Joy proves true as love’s returned in kind, A knowing growing in values & mind.
In time I see love, laughter caressing a face, Remembering love is the evidence of grace. The gift is the gratitude that nothing can fade, Love we withhold in a pauper’s grave is laid.
In time I see peace again reigning on earth, Love reawakened, joy and passion rebirthed. Compassion conducted by maestros of peace, Conscience revived as a new Psalm is released.
In time I hear Joy calling the advent of Love, Renewed from within, joy echoed from above. In time we’re inLightened, grow together to be Inpowered by the Love we now hear and see.
In Time I See Insight
Clarity has its own schedule, and it rarely matches our impatience. Those breakthrough moments when everything suddenly makes sense don’t usually arrive on command—they emerge when you create enough space and make time for them to land—physical space, emotional breathing room, and mental quiet. I know full well how the most profound insights can show up during the most ordinary moments—sitting at a red light, washing dishes, swimming, or walking the dog—when the brain gives up and finally stops pushing. There’s something special about those moments when you simply allow yourself to be present.
For me, ’In Time I See' points to something essential about how real understanding works: clarity is emergent, and can’t be forced or rushed. Deep realizations need time to blossom, the fruit pushing the flower to the ground and then having time to ripen. This require patience, trusting that progress is taking place even though you can’t always see it, harnessing the courage to honor your internal timing even when it conflicts with external pressures or other people's schedules.
This is where timing becomes deeply personal and sometimes challenging. Others might want your decision immediately or later today, but your know yourself well enough to knows when something needs a sleep, another week, another month, or even longer for clarity. Learning to trust your internal sense of timing—even when it makes others uncomfortable—is one of the most inPowering decisions you can make.
Deciding to prioritize your timing over others' urgency is rarely easy, but the rewards run deep. When you give yourself the time you actually need to see clearly, decisions flow from wisdom rather than external pressure. This means you avoid the regret that comes when a choice is made too quickly, instead you experience the grace that emerges when your actions align with your inner knowing.
Transformation can happen in an instant—those amazing moments when everything seems to click into place and you see the big picture in vivid colors. Seldom are these moments rushed. They’re the result of a natural sequence that
you intentionally allow to unfold beneath the surface. This often goes on much longer than we realize or want to admit. When insight arrives suddenly, chances
are that the understanding necessary for acceptance and acknowledgement has been building through patient and intentional attention to your relationship with Time itself.
Remember please, that honoring your timing isn’t selfish or inconsiderate. It’s you making sure there’s an intentional alignment with your core values, your vision, and the rhythms that support the clear thinking that leads to a decision that reflects authenticity. Respecting your need for correct timing, leads you to a best decision that serves everyone involved.
Inspiration
When you move beyond beliefs about clarity as something you can force and embrace, as a natural rhythm of understanding and the power of patient presence opens pathways to insights that serve both wisdom and authentic action.
Consideration
Consider how creating space and allowing the natural timing of insight to arise might reveal the difference between decisions made from pressure and choices that emerge from genuine clarity.
InQuiry. Application. Implementation.
How might honoring your authentic timing for clarity transform the quality of your decisions, reducing the regret that comes from rushing an important choice? In what ways could recognizing your need for correct timing help you move a toxic beliefs that others are more important than you? What possibilities emerge when you consistently create the time and space needed for genuine time to naturally unfold?
The Art of Conscious Transitions
Every story has punctuation marks—periods, commas, question marks—that give meaning to what comes before and after. Your life operates the same way, with natural pauses and conclusions that create rhythm and allow new chapters to emerge. Too often we treat endings like failures or interruptions, something to get through as quickly as possible. But what if endings are actually invitations? What if they’re the Universe's way of clearing space for something we might not have dared to dream or imagined because we’ve to a fist hold on what was?
There’s a particular kind of wisdom that only comes from learning to sit gracefully in the space between what’s finished and what hasn’t yet begun. This liminal territory—neither here nor there—holds enormous creative potential if you’re willing to resist the urge to immediately fill it with the familiar.
When you notice something winding down in your life, pay attention to what wants to be acknowledged. The relationship that taught you about boundaries. The job that showed you what you don't want. The project that revealed capabilities you didn’t know you had. Every ending carries forward something essential, even when the form itself needs to dissolve.
The key is learning to trust the pauses. Between the inhale and the exhale there is a pause, when your body is using and transforming the air you inhaled. Between the last breath out and the next breath in, there’s another moment of perfect stillness. Between one season and the next, there’s a time when nature gathers itself for transformation. Your personal transitions deserve the same respect for their natural timing.
This doesn’t mean being passive or waiting for life to happen to you. It also doesn’t mean going out and looking for whatever you think is missing. It means developing the sensitivity to recognize when something is ready to be released and when something new is present and ready to be welcomed in. It means honoring both the excitement of new possibility and the grief of letting something grow to its ‘next’.
Inspiration
When you move beyond beliefs about endings as permanent or worse, as failures and embrace conscious transitions as opportunities to celebrate a happy ending that is inherent in the natural rhythm and flow of growth, patient presence becomes your powerful ally in navigating the space between what was and what’s becoming.
Consideration
Consider how learning to honor the natural completions that accompany every phase of life might reveal opportunities for growth that rushing into whatever next thing shows up would miss.
InQuiry. Application. Implementation.
How might developing skill in conscious transitions transform your relationship with change from something that happens to you into something in which you skillfully participate? In what ways might recognizing the creative potential in endings help you move beyond beliefs about not having enough, being less than, or needing to immediately fill every space with activity or certainty? What possibilities emerge when you consistently treat the pause between endings and beginnings as sacred time for reflection and intention-setting?
Crystal Balls & Cosmic Ladders
Have you ever wished you could buy a crystal ball that lets you see what's coming up? Have you ever rummaged through an antique shop looking for a bottle that might hold a genie hostage? How often do you ask for help or advice even when you know what you want? Do you have a habit of consulting psychics, asking them to climb some cosmic ladder, see what they see, and then come down and report what they heard or saw?
While they might get some things right, the one thing they often miss is timing.
There's something deeply human about wanting to peek behind the cosmic curtain, to know what's coming before it arrives. Yet this hunger for external validation reveals how we've been conditioned to doubt our own inner compass. We've learned to trust algorithms more than intuition, to value expert opinions over personal wisdom, to seek cosmic confirmation rather than cultivating self- knowledge.
When you find yourself reaching for that metaphorical crystal ball—whether consulting yet another advisor, reading your horoscope for the third time this week, or asking friends to make decisions you know are yours to make—pause and ask: What am I really seeking? Is it information, or is it permission? Is it guidance, or is it someone else to hold responsible if things don't work out perfectly?
Your Time Shifter—that aspect of yourself that understands the rhythm and sequence of your personal journey—holds more wisdom about your life's timing than any external advisor could possibly possess. It processes countless micro- signals that no one else can perceive: the slight quickening of your pulse when you imagine one path versus another, the way your energy expands or contracts around certain possibilities, the quiet voice that whispers "not yet" or "yes, now."
But here's what the crystal ball seekers often miss: by the time external guidance reaches you, the energetic moment it addressed has already shifted. The Universe doesn't hold still for consultations. What if, instead of outsourcing your inner authority, you developed the skill of consulting your own deep knowing first?
Inspiration
When you move beyond beliefs about needing external validation to make good decisions and embrace your own inner knowing as your primary guidance system, the power of confident self-trust opens pathways for navigating uncertainty with wisdom and authenticity that no crystal ball could provide.
Consideration
Consider how consulting your own deep knowing before seeking external advice might reveal the difference between decisions that truly fit your life's unique rhythm and choices that satisfy others' expectations or interpretations of cosmic patterns.
InQuiry. Application. Implementation.
How might developing trust in your own timing and inner guidance transform your relationship with uncertainty from anxiety-provoking searches for external answers to curiosity-inspiring conversations with your own wisdom? In what ways could recognizing your unique perspective and personal knowing help you move beyond beliefs about needing others to validate your choices or predict your future? What possibilities emerge when you consistently consult your self- knowledge first and use external input as supplementary rather than primary guidance for navigating life's decisions?
Reasons & Changing Seasons
When you realize a ‘season’ of loving is coming to its end, breathe, and honor the love that brought you together in the first place.
Seeing Forever?
Science makes it clear that space bends, that space and time are interconnected and cannot be separated.
Looking across a room, what you can see is limited by the structure of that space, things like solid doors and walls. Looking across the landscape, if you're standing on the ground, and you have normal vision you can see about 5 kilometers. Not far. If you're short and standing on the beach it might not even be that far. But if you're standing on a mountain, you can see farther because its height gives even the shortest person an advantage even when the horizon is far away.
However, when you look up, it's a different story! You can see millions of kilometers away! The sun, moon and stars are a feast for the eyes because the light from these far distant objects can travel an infinite distance until their light is absorbed or scattered.
Now, think about how far you can see when you look inside…
The physics of vision offers a perfect metaphor for the geography of self- awareness. Just as your physical perspective determines what you can perceive in the external world, your internal vantage point shapes what you can discover about yourself, your patterns, and your possibilities.
Most people spend their lives looking across the room of their immediate experience—seeing only current thoughts, today's feelings, this week's challenges. But the most profound shift happens when you learn to look up—to perceive your life from the cosmic perspective that your Time Shifter naturally inhabits. From this elevated vantage point, arbitrary limitations dissolve. You can see connections across vast distances of time. Events that seemed random begin revealing their place in larger patterns.
Just as physical structures limit what you can see in a room, your beliefs about yourself often create similar boundaries. The stories you tell about your limitations, the assumptions you make about what's possible, the conclusions you've drawn about your capabilities—these function like walls, creating artificial constraints on your internal vision.
Your Time Shifter understands that sometimes you need to climb your own internal mountain to see the actual shape and possibilities of your life. Other times, you need to look up entirely, connecting with something larger than immediate circumstances. The question "how far can you see when you look inside" invites you to consider the scope of your internal vision and approach your inner exploration with the same wonder you bring to stargazing.
Inspiration
When you move beyond beliefs about self-knowledge as limited to immediate thoughts and feelings and embrace the vast inner landscape available through shifting perspective, the power of expanded awareness opens pathways to perceive the interconnected nature of your past lessons, present moment, and emerging future.
Consideration
Consider how changing your internal vantage point—like climbing a mountain or looking up at stars—might reveal aspects of yourself and your life journey that remain invisible from the ground-level perspective of daily concerns and immediate circumstances.
InQuiry. Application. Implementation.
How might developing the capacity to shift your internal perspective transform your relationship with self-reflection from surface-level awareness to cosmic vision that recognizes patterns and connections across vast distances of time? In what ways could recognizing the interconnected nature of your past, present, and future help you move beyond beliefs about linear limitations and separated experiences? What possibilities emerge when you consistently approach self- reflection with the same wonder and expansiveness you bring to stargazing, knowing that your inner landscape extends infinitely beyond immediate circumstances?
Time Containers vs Temporal Constraints
The moments you set aside for yourself—truly for yourself—become something more than simple pauses in your day. They transform the boxes others used to constrain you into sacred containers where deeper knowing can emerge, where scattered thoughts and feelings settle and give rise to clarity. These are the moments where the Universe can issue and invitation, and answers you’ve longed that are ready to be revealed can do so without pressure or you feeling rushed or crushed by obligations.
Too often we underestimate the power of intentional solitude, the consequence of living in a culture that equates busyness with importance and constant connection with being alive. But there’s a different kind of aliveness that only emerges when you create genuine space for your inner voices to speak without interruption and you can clearly hear what’s going on in your youniverse.
An intentional container isn’t empty time—it’s Time you hold open and fill with meaning. The boundaries you set protect you from the endless demands of daily life intruding. Its spaciousness allows every part of you to engage in a dialogue without one aspect of self —or someone else— feeling they have the right to con you into their version of something. Here, your practical brain gets to weigh in alongside your intuitive knowing, your cautious self able to voice concerns while your adventurous self explores possibilities. Better yet, your heart and head don’t have to compete for attention; they honor their distinct role, and naturally co= operate. Here, these unique aspects of self define and refine your character by freely giving voice without having to shout over external noise.
Just as the Mereon knot flows, maintaining its integrity through continuous movement rather than rigid positioning, it’s you growing organically in the flow, giving new ideas time to percolate in the silence, a space where feelings are fully felt as you grow toward a decision that benefits from the natural rhythm of consideration, integration, and deciding that can’t be rushed.
The Flow allows something essential to happen: your boundaries—what you will and won’t accept in your life—begin to align naturally with your core values— what truly matters to you, what you’re willing to dedicate investing your energy
into. Again, this alignment emerges from the clarity that develops when you’re no longer rushing toward an answer, trying to force or over analyze the moment.
The ‘container’ you create might be as simple as fifteen minutes with your morning coffee before anyone else wakes up, or as elaborate as a weekend retreat. What matters isn’t the duration but the intention to honor your need for uninterrupted communion with yourself. It’s a time when your computer and phone are off, your agenda is set aside, and your only job is to be present with whatever wants to emerge.
These sacred containers are laboratories for authenticity, time where you discover what you actually think about something, not what you think you should think.
They’re where you notice what energizes you and realize what drains you. They’re where the smallest voice of your deepest knowing can finally be heard above the noise of everyone else’s expectations and opinions.
Inspiration
When you move beyond beliefs about solitude—making space and time for yourself— as selfish or unproductive and embrace a sacred time containers as essential for authentic decision-making, the power of intentional presence opens new pathways for aligning who you are and how you live.
Consideration
Consider how creating regular containers of uninterrupted time for reflection might reveal the difference between decisions made from external pressure and choices that emerge from internal clarity.
InQuiry. Application. Implementation.
How might establishing sacred time containers transform your relationship with decision-making from reactive responses to life’s demands into conscious choices aligned with your deepest values? In what ways could honoring your need for contemplative space help you move beyond beliefs about busyness as productivity or constant availability as caring? What possibilities emerge when you consistently protect time for all aspects of yourself to contribute to important decisions without rushing or external interference?
Inner Vision & External Guidance
While you can't see your inner space, you have the capacity to tap into your memory and look back in time without its curvature limiting your vision.
Thinking about this, is it worth paying an outsider to look into your 'passed' or 'future'? Furthermore, by the time they look, come back down to Earth and report what they thought they saw, everything has changed because space spins and Time moves meaning the Universe has reshuffled the deck without asking you!
There's something both fascinating and futile about the entire enterprise of external prediction. Here you are, equipped with the most sophisticated navigation system imaginable—your own consciousness, capable of accessing memories across decades, processing subtle environmental cues in real-time, and sensing resonance between present possibilities and your deepest values—yet the culture continuously suggests that someone else has better access to information about your life path.
Your Time Shifter understands something that external advisors fundamentally cannot: the precise moment you're occupying right now, with all its unique conditions, opportunities, and energetic qualities. By the time an external prediction makes its way through perception, interpretation, and communication, the cosmic moment it was attempting to describe has already transformed.
This doesn't mean all external perspectives are worthless. The key is understanding their proper place in your decision-making ecosystem. External input can offer valuable mirrors, but the moment you elevate external guidance above your own inner knowing, you've reversed the natural hierarchy of wisdom. You've placed secondary information ahead of primary experience.
Your inner vision operates with remarkable sophistication. You can "see" across vast spans of time through memory, sense into potential futures, and most importantly, you have real-time access to constantly updating information about what's happening in your energy field. This immediate feedback system provides more current and relevant data about your life direction than any external advisor could offer.
Discovering wholeness truly is an inside job—not because external input has no value, but because the final integration happens within your own consciousness. What shifts when you approach external guidance as supplementary information rather than primary authority?
Inspiration
When you move beyond beliefs about needing external validation to understand your inner journey and embrace the real-time wisdom of your Time Shifter, the power of present-moment awareness opens pathways to navigate life's constant changes with authentic responsiveness rather than relying on outdated predictions from external sources.
Consideration
Consider how strengthening trust in your internal navigation system might reveal the difference between adapting to life's shifts as they happen in real-time versus relying on fixed predictions that become obsolete before they even reach you.
InQuiry. Application. Implementation.
How might developing confidence in your real-time inner guidance transform your relationship with uncertainty from seeking external predictions to trusting your capacity to respond authentically as situations evolve moment by moment?
In what ways could recognizing the ever-changing nature of the Universe help you move beyond beliefs about needing others to see your past or future when you have direct access to your own memories and present-moment awareness? What possibilities emerge when you consistently approach life's uncertainties by strengthening your internal navigation system rather than outsourcing your insight to external advisors whose information is already outdated by the time it reaches you?
Power in Trusting the Present
You alone know what you've 'passed', and as you stand in the present-ever- pending future, you understand what's going on inside you and around you better than anyone else. Giving yourself time to contemplate a decision means you're going to come up with a best solution. Accepting this wisdom opens something profound about decision-making and personal agency.
Think about it. No one else has lived your exact journey. The path you've traversed—with all its lessons, joys, sorrows, and insights—is uniquely yours. This accumulated experience creates a perspective that no outside advisor can fully access or understand.
There's extraordinary power in recognizing yourself as the ultimate authority on your own experience. Not because you're infallible or because you have perfect judgment, but because you're the only one who has gathered the data firsthand. You're the only one who knows how particular decisions felt in your body, what warning signs your intuition offered that you ignored, what green lights appeared that you followed to wonderful outcomes.
The knowledge of what you've 'passed' isn't just a collection of events stored in memory—it's a living library of embodied wisdom. Every relationship that taught you about boundaries created internal sensors that help you recognize when those boundaries are being tested. Every job that showed you what you don't want refined your ability to sense when an opportunity aligns with your values versus when it simply looks good on paper. Every project that revealed capabilities you didn't know you had expanded your understanding of what becomes possible when you operate from authentic engagement rather than obligation.
This accumulated wisdom doesn't just inform your thinking—it lives in your cellular memory, in the subtle ways your energy expands or contracts around different possibilities, in the quiet knowing that emerges when you create space for your deeper intelligence to participate in decision-making.
When you acknowledge that you're "standing in the present-ever-pending next," you recognize something profound about the nature of time and agency. This
moment—right now—contains both the culmination of everything you've learned and the seeds of what's wanting to emerge. You exist at the exact intersection
where past wisdom meets future potential, where memory meets imagination, where experience meets possibility.
This unique position gives you access to information that no external advisor can possibly possess. You know not just what has happened, but how those experiences have shaped your current capacity for discernment. You know not just what you want, but why you want it, and whether that desire emerges from authentic aspiration or from external conditioning. You know not just what's possible in general, but what's possible for you specifically, given your particular combination of strengths, challenges, resources, and circumstances.
Your Time Shifter understands that the present moment is the only true point of agency—the place where your accumulated wisdom meets your emerging future, where learned experience becomes available for conscious application. Every other moment exists either in memory (where you can learn but cannot act) or in imagination (where you can envision but cannot implement). Only in the present can you actually choose, actually respond, actually create.
This recognition transforms decision-making from an anxious search for the "right" answer into a confident engagement with your own deepest knowing. When you understand that you possess the most relevant information for your life decisions, the question shifts from "What should I do?" to "What do I know, and how do I want to apply that knowledge to these current circumstances?"
The practice of contemplating decisions—giving yourself the gift of time to let all aspects of your wisdom contribute to important choices—creates conditions where your best solutions can emerge naturally. This isn't procrastination or indecisiveness; it's a recognition that good decisions often require more than just logical analysis. They benefit from the integration of rational thinking with intuitive sensing, past experience with future possibility, practical considerations with deeper values.
When you trust this process, when you believe in your capacity to arrive at solutions that serve your life well, you stop looking outside yourself for permission or validation. You stop needing others to confirm that your path makes sense. You start recognizing that the very desire to contemplate, to gather more information, to wait for greater clarity, is itself a form of wisdom worth honoring.
This doesn't mean becoming isolated or refusing all input from others. It means establishing appropriate hierarchy: your inner authority as primary, external perspectives as supplementary. It means trusting that the person who has lived your life is the person best qualified to make decisions about your life's direction.
Inspiration
When you move beyond beliefs about needing external validation for important decisions and embrace the profound wisdom that emerges from your unique journey and present-moment awareness, the power of trusting your accumulated experience opens pathways to decisions that authentically serve your evolving life rather than satisfying others' expectations.
Consideration
Consider how acknowledging your unique position at the intersection of past wisdom and future potential might reveal the difference between decisions that fit someone else's idea of your life and choices that honor your specific journey, circumstances, and inner knowing.
InQuiry. Application. Implementation.
How might developing trust in your ability to contemplate and arrive at your best solutions transform your relationship with decision-making from seeking external approval to honoring your internal authority as the person most qualified to direct your life? In what ways could recognizing that you stand uniquely at the intersection of your past wisdom and future potential help you move beyond beliefs about others knowing what's best for your specific circumstances? What possibilities emerge when you consistently approach important decisions by giving yourself the time and space to access the profound knowledge that only you possess about your journey, values, and what wants to emerge in your life?
Learning from Haste
Take a moment to remember and rethink the lesson you learned by barely passing because you didn't give yourself time to get the information necessary for making a best decision.
Think about a specific time when rushing led to an outcome that was less than optimal. Perhaps you made a career move without thoroughly researching the company, entered a relationship without truly understanding the other person's values, or committed to something that later revealed hidden complications.
Recall how it felt in that moment of realization—when you first understood that a bit more time spent gathering information could have led to a vastly different result.
There's something uniquely instructive about these moments of recognition— when you can see clearly how rushing created problems that patience might have prevented. Your body remembers these lessons in ways your mind might forget. The slight tightening in your chest when someone pressures you to "decide now." The restless energy that emerges when you're being rushed toward a commitment that hasn't had time to settle into alignment.
Your Time Shifter holds these memories not as sources of shame but as deposits in your wisdom account. Each "barely passing" experience taught you something essential about the relationship between timing and outcomes. These moments revealed how external pressure can override internal knowing, how other people's urgency can become your emergency.
The pattern is often remarkably consistent: rushing creates complications that require more time to resolve than patient consideration would have required in the first place. The hasty career move leads to months of job searching when the warning signs were visible from the beginning. The impulsive commitment creates ongoing stress that could have been avoided with careful consideration.
This reflection isn't about dwelling in regret but about recognizing patterns so you can make different choices when similar situations arise. The awareness itself creates a crucial pause—a moment where you can step out of automatic reactive
mode and into conscious choice. Learning from haste transforms these
uncomfortable memories into allies that help you distinguish between genuine urgency and artificial pressure.
Inspiration
When you move beyond beliefs about speed as efficiency and embrace the wisdom gained from experiences of barely passing due to haste, the power of pattern recognition opens pathways to honor your natural timing and make decisions from adequacy rather than urgency or external pressure.
Consideration
Consider how reflecting on times when rushing led to less-than-optimal outcomes might reveal the difference between decisions made from external pressure and choices that emerge from having adequate information, proper timing, and internal alignment.
InQuiry. Application. Implementation.
How might developing awareness of your personal patterns around rushing and decision-making transform your relationship with external pressures from automatic compliance to conscious choice about when speed serves you and when patience would serve you better? In what ways could recognizing how haste has affected your past decisions help you move beyond beliefs about speed as always beneficial or others' urgency as more important than your need for adequate consideration? What possibilities emerge when you consistently honor your Time Shifter's wisdom and create the space needed to gather necessary information and achieve internal alignment before making important decisions?
The Gift in Intentional Stillness
Remember a moment when something precious emerged after intentionally engaging with the stillness where you invited Time to shed light on a decision. Take a moment to revisit this experience, when you consciously stepped away from pressure and noise, creating space for clarity to emerge, allowing wisdom to surface at its own pace. Recall the quality of that stillness. It wasn't empty or passive, but rather vibrant with potential, your Time Shifter actively working beneath the surface, connecting patterns, weighing values, and sensing resonance.
There's a particular quality to the stillness that births authentic decisions—a pregnant pause that feels entirely different from empty waiting or anxious paralysis. When you intentionally create space for deeper knowing to emerge, you enter a state of active receptivity. This isn't the stillness of giving up—it's the alert, engaged stillness of someone who knows that the most profound transformations happen below the surface before they become visible.
In these moments of intentional pause, your Time Shifter comes fully online. All the scattered pieces of information you've been gathering begin to arrange themselves into coherent patterns. Connections emerge that rational analysis alone could never have discovered. What emerged from this pause? Sudden clarity like a light switching on? Or perhaps a gradual dawn where your decision slowly became visible?
Notice how this emergence felt different from conclusions reached through rushing. There's a quality of alignment that occurs when decisions arise through natural timing—they feel right not just intellectually, but across multiple dimensions of your being. This alignment doesn't happen through force but through what mystics call "active waiting"—engaged receptivity where you're fully present but not pushing.
Creating containers for this kind of stillness requires both skill and courage in a culture that equates busyness with productivity. Your capacity to engage intentionally with Time—to create these sacred pauses where wisdom can emerge at its natural pace—represents one of your most powerful resources for navigating life's complexities with grace and authenticity.
Inspiration
When you move beyond beliefs about stillness as unproductive or passive and embrace intentional engagement with Time as an active process of wisdom emergence, the power of patient presence opens pathways to decisions that align across multiple dimensions of your being rather than satisfying only logical analysis.
Consideration
Consider how creating containers of intentional stillness might reveal the difference between conclusions reached through rushing and precious insights that emerge when your Time Shifter is allowed to function with full capacity, connecting patterns and sensing resonance without external pressure.
InQuiry. Application. Implementation.
How might developing the capacity to engage intentionally with stillness transform your relationship with decision-making from rushing toward answers to allowing wisdom to emerge at its natural pace through active receptivity? In what ways could recognizing the vibrant potential within stillness help you move beyond beliefs about productivity requiring constant action or immediate responses demonstrating intelligence? What possibilities emerge when you consistently create space for your Time Shifter to connect patterns, weigh values, and sense resonance across multiple dimensions of your being before making important choices?
The Tyranny of Drama
In deep moments of quiet your thoughts are your own. This is the space for honest reflection where you can confront the patterns that shape your life—patterns you may fail to notice in the rush of daily existence.
Among these patterns, few are more deceptive than the grip drama has on your time. Like a skilled thief, drama rarely announces its presence. Instead, it disguises itself as urgency, as necessity, as unavoidable reality. It arrives uninvited, demanding immediate attention, pulling you away from what truly matters.
There's something sacred about these pockets of silence where you can recognize the subtle ways your time gets hijacked by forces that masquerade as importance. Drama has evolved sophisticated camouflage techniques, arriving wearing masks of legitimacy: urgent emails that "can't wait," other people's crises that "need you right now," emotional emergencies that demand immediate intervention.
Drama thrives on reaction rather than response, feeding on the adrenaline of crisis and the intoxication of being needed. It operates by hijacking your nervous system, triggering responses that bypass your rational mind and deeper wisdom. The drama doesn't only originate from external sources—your internal landscape can generate its own compelling productions: emotional turbulence that feels urgent, catastrophic thinking that transforms minor setbacks into major crises.
Whether drama originates from outside pressures or internal patterns, its effect remains consistent: the hijacking of your time, energy, and focus away from what actually aligns with your values and vision. Your Time Shifter recognizes drama's signature—the artificial urgency, the emotional intensity disproportionate to actual importance, the way these situations expand to fill whatever time you're willing to give them.
The assignment that follows is to examine the pattern of drama in your life with unflinching honesty. This isn't an exercise in judgment but in awareness—the first essential step toward reclaiming the authorship of your days. Your Time Shifter stands ready to help you recognize these patterns and chart a different course, one
where drama may still occasionally appear, but no longer dictates how you spend your precious, irreplaceable time.
Inspiration
When you move beyond beliefs about drama as unavoidable reality and embrace the capacity to distinguish between genuine urgency and manufactured crisis, the power of conscious choice opens pathways to spend your time and energy on what actually aligns with your values and vision.
Consideration
Consider how developing awareness of drama's various disguises might reveal the difference between authentic service and enabling dysfunction, between healthy responsiveness and reactive availability that depletes your resources without serving meaningful purposes.
InQuiry. Application. Implementation.
How might developing the capacity to recognize drama's signature patterns transform your relationship with time from feeling constantly hijacked by others' emergencies to consciously choosing when and how to engage with challenging situations? In what ways could distinguishing between genuine needs and manufactured crises help you move beyond beliefs about being indispensable or responsible for managing others' emotional turbulence? What possibilities emerge when you consistently check in with your Time Shifter before allowing apparent urgency to pull you away from activities that actually serve your deeper purposes and long-term well-being?
“All change is a miracle to contemplate;
but it is a miracle which is taking place every instant.”
- Henry David Thoreau
Claim & Proclaim
Each heartbeat marks a moment that will never return. Each sunrise offers hours that, once passed, vanish forever. Your life is not an infinite resource to be squandered on demands that don't align with your deepest values. You are not obligated to give your time to every person, crisis, complaint, or demand that appears before you, and you're not required to explain or justify how you spend these precious moments.
There's something revolutionary about truly grasping this fact—not just intellectually, but in your bones, in your daily choices, in the quiet sovereignty with which you approach each day. We live in a culture that has trained you to believe that your time belongs to anyone who asks for it, that saying "no" requires elaborate justification, that putting your own priorities first is somehow selfish or irresponsible.
But consider this: if you don't guard your time with the same fierce protectiveness you'd show toward any precious resource, who will? The freedom to determine how you spend your time is not a luxury—it is your birthright. It is the foundation upon which you build a life of meaning rather than mere reaction.
These cultural messages create a subtle form of internal colonization—where external demands become internalized as obligations, where other people's urgency becomes your emergency. Breaking free requires recognizing that your time is the raw material from which you create your life experience.
Your Time Shifter understands that this freedom isn't granted by external permission—it's claimed through internal authority. It knows that every "yes" you give to something that doesn't align with your values is simultaneously a "no" to something that does. The practice of claiming this freedom begins with small acts of sovereignty: pausing before automatically saying "yes," asking whether an activity serves your deeper purposes, creating boundaries around your most creative hours.
This isn't about becoming selfish—it's about becoming conscious. When you protect your time from automatic distribution to whoever asks loudest, you
preserve your capacity to contribute meaningfully to people and causes that align with your values. Claiming this freedom requires courage, but consider the
alternative: a life spent responding to others' priorities while your own dreams wait indefinitely.
Inspiration
When you move beyond beliefs about your time belonging to anyone who asks for it and embrace your birthright to determine how these precious moments are spent, the power of conscious choice opens pathways to create a life that reflects your deepest values rather than default reactions to external demands.
Consideration
Consider how claiming sovereignty over your time might reveal the difference between responsibilities you've consciously chosen and obligations you've unconsciously accumulated, between genuine service and automatic people- pleasing that depletes your capacity for authentic contribution.
InQuiry. Application. Implementation.
How might embracing your authority to determine how you spend your irreplaceable time transform your relationship with others' requests from automatic accommodation to conscious choice based on alignment with your values? In what ways could recognizing that every "yes" to what doesn't matter is a "no" to what does help you move beyond beliefs about availability as virtue or boundaries as selfishness? What possibilities emerge when you consistently honor your Time Shifter's wisdom about which activities deserve your precious life force and which requests you can gracefully decline without explanation or justification?
Find a mirror and look yourself in the eye, repeating the following affirmation until you feel it’s true;
“My life is precious and I am free to determine how I spend my time.”
These words are not merely a statement. They’re a declaration of sovereignty over your most irreplaceable resource—Time.
Mastering vs Thinking You're a Master
Authenticity is a dynamic process. Living your life is continually mastering the art of perfecting.
There's a profound difference between the ongoing practice of mastering and the static declaration of being a master. One keeps you humble, curious, and growing. The other closes doors, hardens perspectives, and stops time in its tracks.
Understanding this distinction becomes crucial as you navigate personal development in a culture obsessed with credentials, achievements, and final destinations.
Genuine mastery isn't about reaching a fixed endpoint where learning stops. It's about embracing the ongoing process of refinement, the continuous cycle of learning, application, and deeper understanding. True masters never graduate from the school of experience—they simply become more sophisticated students, more skilled at recognizing what they don't yet know.
Consider the difference in energy between these statements: "I am a master" versus "I am mastering." The first carries finality, suggesting completion. The second vibrates with possibility, with the dynamic movement of ongoing development. Your Time Shifter recognizes this distinction immediately, sensing the difference between static pride and living energy of continuous becoming.
The most accomplished individuals consistently demonstrate this mastering mindset. They approach each day with "beginner's mind"—fresh attention that sees familiar situations with new eyes. They understand that the moment you start believing you've "arrived," you close yourself to perspectives and possibilities that could expand your potential further.
Your relationship with time plays an essential role here. External pressures to prove expertise quickly can seduce you into premature declarations of arrival. Your Time Shifter understands that authentic development unfolds according to its own organic rhythm. Some insights require years of patient observation. Some skills demand thousands of hours of practice. Rather than rushing to declare mastery, the mastering approach allows you to engage fully with whatever stage
of development you're actually experiencing.
This ongoing art of perfecting becomes a way of life—approaching your relationships, work, and creative expressions with recognition that there's always another level of depth, another dimension of possibility waiting to be discovered.
Inspiration
When you move beyond beliefs about mastery as a fixed destination and embrace the ongoing art of perfecting as a dynamic process, the power of beginner's mind opens pathways to continuous growth that keeps you humble, curious, and available to possibilities that premature declarations of arrival would close off.
Consideration
Consider how maintaining a mastering orientation rather than claiming master status might reveal the difference between confidence that serves your continued development and pride that stops your growth in its tracks.
InQuiry. Application. Implementation.
How might embracing the ongoing process of mastering transform your relationship with learning from a means to an end into a lifelong adventure where the journey itself becomes intrinsically valuable? In what ways could recognizing the difference between developing expertise and declaring mastery help you move beyond beliefs about needing to prove your accomplishments or present yourself as more developed than you actually are? What possibilities emerge when you consistently approach your capabilities with the energy of "I am mastering" rather than the finality of "I am a master," maintaining beginner's mind even as your skills develop?
RetroPerspective
Reflecting on the time you've passed, and being aware of where you're currently flowing lets you focus and clearly decide how to respond to time-sensitive issues. This insight highlights the three dimensions of temporal awareness that your Time Shifter navigates with increasing sophistication as you develop this capacity.
There's an art to standing at the intersection of past wisdom and present possibility while responding skillfully to situations that demand immediate attention. Most people operate from either pure reaction (responding to urgency without context) or endless deliberation (analyzing until the moment for action has passed). Your Time Shifter offers a third way: informed responsiveness that draws on temporal depth while remaining available for decisive action.
Understanding where you've been and what you've learned creates essential context for current decisions. Your personal history isn't just a collection of memories—it's a living library of embodied wisdom that can inform present choices with precision. When you've developed retrospective awareness, you can quickly access relevant patterns: How did similar situations unfold? What approaches served you well? What warning signs could you recognize earlier this time?
Recognizing your current position in time—your commitments, resources, priorities, and energetic state—provides crucial information about what's actually possible right now. Present awareness means honestly assessing your current capacity and the broader rhythms operating in your life. Your Time Shifter understands that the same opportunity might be perfect timing in one phase of development and completely wrong in another.
With this dual awareness of past learning and present reality, you can make clear decisions about urgent matters without losing connection to your deeper wisdom. This perspective transforms "urgency" from something that controls you into something you navigate with intention. Your Time Shifter recognizes that responding effectively isn't about abandoning thoughtfulness—it's about accessing your deepest knowing quickly, trusting that you can bring wisdom to rapid decision-making.
What emerges is a balanced approach that honors both genuine time constraints and the wisdom that comes from temporal depth, allowing decisions that serve immediate needs while remaining aligned with longer-term priorities.
Inspiration
When you move beyond beliefs about urgency requiring reactive responses and embrace the capacity to bring temporal depth to time-sensitive decisions, the power of retrospective awareness opens pathways to respond with both wisdom and speed, honoring immediate needs while maintaining alignment with your deeper priorities.
Consideration
Consider how developing the ability to rapidly access relevant insights from your past while remaining present to current reality might transform urgent situations from sources of anxiety into opportunities to practice bringing your full wisdom to immediate circumstances.
InQuiry. Application. Implementation.
How might cultivating retrospective awareness—the skill of quickly gleaning wisdom from past experiences while staying present to current possibilities— transform your relationship with time-sensitive decisions from reactive responses to informed choices that honor both immediate needs and long-term values? In what ways could recognizing the difference between genuine urgency and artificial pressure help you move beyond beliefs about speed requiring the abandonment of wisdom? What possibilities emerge when you consistently bring your full temporal awareness to situations that demand quick action, trusting your capacity to respond wisely even under time constraints?
Temporal Dimensions & Conscious Co=Operation
Your past experiences are more than memories—they're active participants in your current decision-making process. When you make choices that honor the wisdom gained from your journey so far, you align your personal timing with Time's natural progression. These experiences have shaped your Time Shifter's understanding of rhythm and sequence.
Your present awareness serves as the fulcrum between what you have passed and your ever-pending future. The fulcrum is where your attention rides, where you perceive the current conditions and possibilities when you're fully present. It's here that when you focus you can sense the subtle cues that indicate whether the moment is ripe for action, needs patience, or requires more information.
Your Time Shifter senses potential futures not as fixed destinations but as evolving possibilities that respond to your choices and timing. Remember, your unfolding future isn't separate from your present and what you've passed. It emerges from their interaction.
There's something profound that happens when you begin to understand time not as a linear sequence of separate moments, but as a dynamic, interconnected field where past, present, and future collaborate in the ongoing creation of your experience. Most people experience time as disconnected episodes, creating decision-making that either ignores valuable lessons or becomes paralyzed by uncertainty about the future.
Your memories aren't passive recordings—they're living repositories of embodied wisdom. Every challenge has taught you about resilience, every relationship has revealed connection patterns, every success has shown what becomes possible when you align authentically. When you make decisions that honor this accumulated wisdom, you begin to sense a rhythm that extends beyond immediate circumstances.
This present-moment awareness isn't passive observation but active sensing that reads subtle energetic information. When fully present, you can feel whether conditions have aligned for action, when patience serves better, or when more
information is needed. Your Time Shifter operates most effectively from this
fulcrum point, accessing both historical learning and emerging possibilities while staying responsive to current reality.
When all temporal dimensions operate cooperatively, your timing begins to align with larger patterns of flow. You develop "temporal fluency"—the ability to read subtle rhythms that indicate when to act, when to wait, when to trust the process to unfold naturally.
Inspiration
When you move beyond beliefs about time as fragmented episodes and embrace the cooperative intelligence operating across all temporal dimensions, the power of temporal fluency opens pathways to decisions that honor past wisdom, respond to present conditions, and align with emerging possibilities in ways that create natural flow rather than forced effort.
Consideration
Consider how recognizing the active wisdom of your past experiences might transform your relationship with decision-making from ignoring valuable lessons to allowing your lived experience to contribute its intelligence to present choices and future possibilities.
InQuiry. Application. Implementation.
How might developing temporal fluency—the ability to sense when past wisdom, present awareness, and future possibility align—transform your relationship with timing from anxiety about making the "right" choice to confidence in your capacity to read the subtle rhythms that indicate when action serves and when patience serves better? In what ways could recognizing the cooperative nature of temporal dimensions help you move beyond beliefs about past and future as separate from present experience? What possibilities emerge when you consistently operate from the fulcrum point where all temporal dimensions can contribute their intelligence to whatever circumstances you're navigating?
The Passed as Active Wisdom
The memories you carry aren't passive recordings of what happened—they're living repositories of embodied wisdom that continue to inform and guide your present choices when you know how to access their gifts. Every challenge you've navigated has taught you something about your own resilience and capacity.
Every relationship has revealed patterns about how you connect with others, what you need to thrive, and what warning signs to recognize. Every success has shown you what becomes possible when you align with your authentic nature rather than forcing outcomes through willpower alone.
When you make decisions that honor this accumulated wisdom—not by being limited by past experiences, but by learning from them—you begin to sense a rhythm in your life that extends beyond immediate circumstances. Your Time Shifter recognizes which opportunities feel genuinely aligned based on how similar situations have unfolded before. It can sense when you're about to repeat a pattern that didn't serve you well, offering the chance to choose differently this time.
This isn't about being trapped by your history or assuming that past patterns will inevitably repeat. It's about allowing your lived experience to contribute its intelligence to present decisions, helping you recognize not just what you want, but what actually works for your particular way of being in the world.
Your present awareness serves as a dynamic fulcrum where all your temporal awareness converges. When you're positioned here, fully present to what's actually happening right now, you can access both the wisdom of your past and sense into the possibilities of your future while remaining grounded in current reality. This present-moment awareness isn't passive observation but an active sensing capacity that reads the subtle energetic information available in each moment.
Understanding your future as evolving possibility rather than fixed destiny transforms your relationship with uncertainty from anxiety to creative partnership. Your Time Shifter recognizes that the future isn't something that happens to you— it's something you participate in creating through your choices, timing, and
alignment with deeper currents of change.
When all temporal dimensions operate cooperatively, your timing begins to align with larger patterns of flow and opportunity. You develop "temporal fluency"—the ability to read subtle rhythms that indicate when to act, when to wait, and when to trust the process to unfold naturally.
Inspiration
When you move beyond beliefs about time as fragmented episodes and embrace the cooperative intelligence operating across all temporal dimensions, the power of temporal fluency opens pathways to decisions that honor past wisdom, respond to present conditions, and align with emerging possibilities in ways that create natural flow rather than forced effort.
Consideration
Consider how recognizing the active wisdom of your past experiences might transform your relationship with decision-making from ignoring valuable lessons to allowing your lived experience to contribute its intelligence to present choices and future possibilities.
InQuiry. Application. Implementation.
How might developing temporal fluency—the ability to sense when past wisdom, present awareness, and future possibility align—transform your relationship with timing from anxiety about making the "right" choice to confidence in your capacity to read the subtle rhythms that indicate when action serves and when patience serves better? In what ways could recognizing the cooperative nature of temporal dimensions help you move beyond beliefs about past and future as separate from present experience? What possibilities emerge when you consistently operate from the fulcrum point where all temporal dimensions can contribute their intelligence to whatever circumstances you're navigating?
Chapter 8: The Final Call
First Principles
First Principle 9
“Resources are imprinted with what is necessary to safeguard actualization, sustainability and evolution.”
Translated as to how it applies to your life and making a decision:
“What you say and do must ensure that the quality of your life is sustainable, allowing you to freely grow with the Flow.”
First Principle 10
“In the process of generating true potential, the system of origin is invisible, obscured by ‘progeny’ whose ‘birth’ produces energetic streams of new resources that are critical to its sustainability.”
Translated as to how it applies to your life and making a decision:
“What you are on the inside is carried —obviously or like inside a Trojan Horse— inside everything you produce, your relationships, your community, and the world. Don’t like what you hear or see? Change the only thing you can, yourself.”
First Principles
First Principle 9
“Resources are imprinted with what is necessary to safeguard actualization, sustainability and evolution.”
Translated as to how it applies to your life and making a decision:
“What you say and do must ensure that the quality of your life is sustainable, allowing you to freely grow with the Flow.”
First Principle 10
“In the process of generating true potential, the system of origin is invisible, obscured by ‘progeny’ whose ‘birth’ produces energetic streams of new resources that are critical to its sustainability.”
Translated as to how it applies to your life and making a decision:
“What you are on the inside is carried —obviously or like inside a Trojan Horse— inside everything you produce, your relationships, your community, and the world. Don’t like what you hear or see? Change how you are.”
Meet Your True Guardian
Deep within you is a voice that speaks only when everything else is on the line. You've felt this presence before: that unmistakable inner voice that rises from somewhere deeper than thought, stronger than reason, more certain than analysis. In the campaign for your authentic life, this is your final line of defense—yet tragically, for many, this is precisely the part of self that has been bought, bent, and manipulated by those who understand its power.
So many talk about their guardian angels giving them credit for saving them from one disaster or another. It seems to me that crediting 'others' is a covert way to spiritualize the lack of self care, or worse, when we've abdicated a decision. This externalization of protection is exactly what those who seek control want—if you believe salvation comes from outside, you'll never fully claim your inner authority. How is it that so many humans expect someone—god, angels, or aliens
—is going to show up to save them, hoping someone is going to rescue us from our bad behavior? When I realized I was one foot over the threshold between death and dying, the first thing I expected was not my grandmother. If asked, I might well have said "An angel." Seeing geometry, arcing angles moving to tie a knot, a pattern that connects, transformed an entire system of dogmatic beliefs, including angels, into a very different and dynamic believing about Time and, yes, 'others'. We'll leave that for another day.
Your Guardian is the part of you that knows, without explanation, justification, or spiritualization, when a choice threatens your core values. Yet here's the painful truth: many have had their Guardian corrupted through trauma, conditioning, or systematic manipulation. When children are taught to override their "No," when people are punished for maintaining boundaries, when standing firm in your values brings rejection or harm—the Guardian learns to stay silent. This silencing is not weakness; it's survival. But it leaves you vulnerable to those who would exploit this damaged defense system.
There is an unswerving nature of your spirit that is the ultimate expression of self- preservation. It isn't rigidity or stubbornness; it's the part of you responsible for protecting your existence. But when the Guardian has been compromised— through abuse, gaslighting, or chronic boundary violations—it may no longer recognize threats, may even align with those who harm you. This is perhaps the
deepest wound in the struggle for authentic choice: when your final line of defense has been turned against you.
The Guardian, like the Time Shifter, can also negotiate, but only on what it determines may threaten the very core of who you say you are. The corrupted Guardian, however, negotiates everything away—your values, your boundaries, your very essence—having learned that compliance means survival. Inside your being is a wise inner arbiter, a piece of self with the right and responsibility to engage in serious dialogue when you suspect there's a hidden agenda. But if this arbiter has been bought through fear, bent through manipulation, or broken through betrayal, it may advocate for your harm rather than your protection.
Healing your Guardian is perhaps the most revolutionary act in reclaiming sovereignty over your choices. It requires recognizing how and when this protective mechanism was compromised, understanding that its current dysfunction is not your fault but rather evidence of what you survived. The Guardian that says "yes" to abuse, that can't recognize manipulation, that advocates for self-betrayal—this is not your true Guardian but a wounded shadow of what it should be.
You know that respect is earned, and understand that coherence is the heart of a strong connection with others who share your values, are aligned with your morals, and support a global ethos where love, mercy, and compassion stand in the face of evil. Even when a decision reaches the Guardian—every other ArcType saying yes—you're going to say "No" at the hint that someone's going to put you in a position where you betray your deepest values. But first, you must reclaim this capacity from those who stole it, heal the Guardian that was taught to betray rather than protect. Refusing to come down from your moral high ground is not judging another. It is staying true to who you are inside and out. Abandoning the noble ethics that define your character is not an option, and if someone tries, the conversation's over and you politely but without hesitation, say "No, thank you."
The 7th ArcType: The Guardian
This piece of self represents your innate, noble spirit. While the first six ArcTypes might have been relatively easy to understand, the words 'spirit' or 'spiritual' can quickly lead to assumptions.
We've arrived at the point in making a decision at what's perhaps the most subtle yet powerful aspect of your inner nature. Yet let's be honest: for many, this is precisely the part of self that has been bought, bent, and manipulated. The Guardian—your final line of defense—can become your greatest vulnerability when compromised through conditioning, trauma, or systematic betrayal. This is where you stand when it's time to finalize a decision about a possibility. You're in a temporal intersection where you face the responsibility of serving as the final arbiter of every decision.
Your Guardian ensures you remember who you are, knows what's meaningful, and is charged with making sure it remains measurable. These are not abstract ideals, they are lived realities. But when your Guardian has been corrupted—taught to prioritize others' needs over your own survival, trained to see self-protection as selfishness—it may advocate for choices that harm rather than help you. Your spirit understands why diversity is essential to unity. Transcending faith and religious practices, your spirit is tuned to the resonance found at the foundation of all spiritual traditions, and is accountable to ensure that you live your life from love.
This perspective liberates spirituality from institutional constraints, your Guardian operating from a universal foundation that honors all paths. It can be connected to a single faith, but it is bound to none. However, many faiths and institutions have weaponized the Guardian, teaching that true spirituality means endless self- sacrifice, that boundaries are unloving, that saying "No" is sinful. This spiritual manipulation leaves your Guardian defending your destroyers rather than your authentic self.
Your spirit is responsible to issue your final answer: "Yes, please" or "No, thank you". But what happens when your Guardian has learned to say "Yes" to harm and "No" to help? This reversal—often installed in childhood through punishment for having boundaries or rewards for self-betrayal—creates a Guardian that works against you rather than for you.
In this role, the Guardian serves as both discerner and protector, standing at the threshold between contemplation and action to ensure that what crosses from the inside to your external realities matches what is true for you. Healing a compromised Guardian requires recognizing how it was turned against you.
Perhaps you were taught that love means having no boundaries, that spiritual people never say no, that your needs don't matter. These lies corrupt the Guardian's core function. This explains why decisions that ignore or override the Guardian often lead to regret or deep inner dissonance. The reason being you've bypassed your internal authenticity assurance system that is intended to keep you aligned with the universe, yourself, and every relationship.
The good news? Your true Guardian still exists beneath the corruption. It's the part of you that feels sick when you betray yourself, that creates anxiety when you're about to say yes to harm, that whispers "this isn't right" even when you've been trained to ignore it. Reclaiming your Guardian means learning to distinguish between its authentic voice and the programmed responses installed by those who benefited from your compliance.
Inspiration
Your Guardian represents the most trustworthy aspect of your inner wisdom. Even as time shifts and changes everything, learning to recognize and honor this voice transforms your decision process from external pressure to internal alignment. But first, you may need to sort through the false voices—the ones that sound like protection but actually serve your harm. The Guardian that says "stay small to stay safe" or "never disappoint anyone" isn't your true Guardian but a corrupted version serving someone else's agenda. Without judging or condemning opportunities presented to you, your spirit knows what serves you in paving and walking your life path and what doesn't.
Consideration
Notice the difference between decisions made with your Guardian's guidance and those made without it. The Guardian's "Yes" feels expansive and energizing, even when a choice is challenging. Its "No" feels protective and clarifying, even when an opportunity seems attractive. But a compromised Guardian creates confusion— its "Yes" to harmful situations feels heavy with dread, its "No" to healthy opportunities feels like self-punishment. Learning to recognize these distortions is
the first step in reclaiming your authentic protective voice. Your spirit operates beyond fear or desire, responding only to what aligns with what it knows is true for you, your values, and the vision that defines your highest purpose, and helps you heal every wound.
InQuiry. Application. Implementation.
When did you last feel your Guardian's clear "Yes" or "No" about a decision? More importantly, when did you override it—and who taught you that overriding your inner knowing was the "right" thing to do? How can you create space to hear this inner voice more clearly? Practice pausing before announcing a decision—not to analyze, but to sense what your Guardian feels and knows is true for you. If your first instinct is to sacrifice yourself, ask: "Is this my true Guardian speaking, or the voice of someone who benefited from my self-abandonment?" When making a decision, don't label them. They aren't large or small, banal or important. In the wise words of Gertrude Stein who said, 'a rose is a rose is a rose', 'a decision is a decision is a decision.' Notice how your body and spirit respond to different options. As you develop trust in this inner discernment, trust your Guardian's guidance to lead you to choices that honor living from authenticity and how you contribute to the world.
The Guardian’s Breath
Your Guardian's task is reminiscent of the rule, GIGO, "Garbage in. Garbage out." However, here, it's G.I.G.T.G.O., "Garbage In. Garbage Through. Garbage Out." Its task is to ensure that any garbage that makes it this far, is booted out with a resounding "No, thank you." But what happens when your Guardian has been programmed to see nourishment as garbage and poison as food? Many have had their filtering systems reversed—rejecting what would help them grow while welcoming what keeps them small.
This powerful expansion of the familiar computing principle introduces a critical middle phase that's often overlooked in decision-making. Just as data processing involves input, processing, and output, your Guardian oversees a three-part process of evaluating information to discern the best decision. The corruption often happens in that middle phase—where healthy boundaries get reframed as selfishness, where self-care gets labeled as weakness, where "No" gets punished until it disappears from your vocabulary.
Breathing as a metaphor illuminates something profound about your Guardian's function. Between the intake of information and the expression of decision lies a crucial transformative space—the "thru put" phase. In breathing, this is the moment when oxygen transfers to the bloodstream and carbon dioxide is released. In decision-making, it's when your ArcTypes either refuse, validate or fail to filter what's passing through your system. A compromised Guardian might be holding its breath—too afraid to exhale the toxic patterns it's been taught to treasure.
Your Guardian makes sure what comes in is good for you, and generates benefits for others. But healing requires recognizing that "benefits for others" never means harm to yourself—that's not generosity, it's self-destruction wearing a spiritual disguise.
Inspiration
Your Guardian operates with the same essential intelligence that governs your breathing—automatically and continuously to sustain life. Just as you trust your lungs to transform what you breathe, you can trust your Guardian to transform what the pieces of self have done their best to consider up to this point.
Reclaiming this trust means recognizing when you've been taught to hold toxic
beliefs like holding your breath—eventually, nature demands you release what doesn't serve. This isn't mystical, it's biological: your natural ability to discern what's true for you follows the same natural rhythms that keep you alive, ensuring that what nourishes you also contributes to the wellbeing of your larger ecosystem.
Consideration
Notice how rushed decisions often leave you feeling breathless. It's because they literally have not been through the transformative middle phase where your lenses on your realities are reground, producing the clarity you need to make sure a decision supports your Vision. Those who manipulate often create false urgency precisely to bypass this natural processing—they know that given time to breathe, your true Guardian would recognize their agenda.
If someone or something is making you feel pressured to decide quickly, stop. Say "Not at this moment." This pause is revolutionary for those whose Guardians were trained to comply immediately. You can then invite them to present their idea or offer in an hour, bringing it back with the pressure deleted. In the meantime, practice conscious breathing to remind yourself that all natural processes require their full cycle. The same patience you naturally give to breathing serves your Guardian's discernment process, allowing proper filtering and transformation of what you're considering.
InQuiry. Application. Implementation.
How might your decision-making change if you approached each choice with the same natural rhythm as breathing? What might happen if you honored the "through" phase as essential rather than an inconvenient delay? Who loses power when you take time to breathe through decisions rather than gasping out immediate compliance? Practice using your breath as a guide for decision- making: breathe in the possibilities, pause in the transformative space where your ArcTypes can work, then breathe out your authentic response. Begin treating hasty decisions as a form of spiritual breathlessness—a sign that you need to stop, allowing your Guardian's natural filtering process to complete its essential work. Remember that just as holding your breath eventually becomes uncomfortable, rushing past the "thru put" phase creates its own form of internal pressure that ultimately demands resolution.
Phases of Discernment
Your Guardian operates through three distinct phases that mirror the universal Pattern found in every system in nature. Understanding these phases reveals how spiritual discernment actually works in practice, transforming what might seem like mysterious intuition into a comprehensible natural approach that leads to agency driven progress. Recognizing where your Guardian may have been corrupted in each phase helps you reclaim its authentic function.
Input
Your Guardian first assesses the details of what your Bringer wants you to consider bringing into your life. The initial phase functions like a sophisticated screening system, examining opportunities, relationships, ideas, and experiences, reassessing how something new might relate to 'what was', what is, and what might be. A compromised Guardian might have damaged input sensors— trained to see red flags as green lights, taught to interpret warning signals as excitement, programmed to mistake manipulation for opportunity. Rather than automatically accepting or rejecting based on surface appearances, your Guardian conducts a preliminary evaluation of how any new element might interact with your existing inner ecosystem.
Thruput
This crucial middle phase represents your internal processing. As possibilities move through your system, your Guardian reflects how the first six internal ArcTypes interacted with the possibility, taking into account your core values, priorities, and commitments. This is often where the deepest corruption lives— where you've been taught to override your ArcTypes' warnings, to dismiss your body's no, to ignore your intuition's alarm bells. "Don't be so sensitive," they said. "You're overreacting," they claimed. These phrases install malware in your processing system. It's here where discernment begins—not outside the door to your Youniverse, but along the pathway of your inner landscape where everything is connected. Like nutrients being processed through a living system, the elements of a possibility are analyzed, evaluated for the probability of success or how they might negatively affect what you've already committed to.
Output
The final phase, output, concerns what you say and do, what you put into the world. Your Guardian ensures that what you ultimately manifest aligns with what you have decided is true for you. But a corrupted output system might produce "Yes" when everything inside screams "No," might generate compliance when resistance would serve your truth, might create self-betrayal disguised as spiritual virtue. Even if your Bringer brought questionable input to the door, and it's made it all the way to your Guardian, your spirit can still prevent it from tearing through your youniverse and making its way to the world. It can do so by negotiating to uncover more information or realign with what is morally and ethically coherent, or it can say "No, thank you" realizing that to agree would be in contradiction with what you say you live for, and how you love.
This three-phase process explains why Guardian-guided decisions feel both thorough and natural. Discernment isn't making snap judgments, it's conducting a thorough analysis that honors both what is true for you and the complexity of real- world circumstances. Healing your spirit means reclaiming each phase—teaching input to recognize true opportunity, allowing throughput to process without interference, and empowering output to express your authentic truth.
Inspiration
Your Guardian's three-phase process reveals the profound intelligence operating as spiritual discernment. This natural system honors both your authentic core and the complexity of real-world circumstances, and isn't random. Even when corrupted, your spirit retains its original blueprint—that's why betraying yourself feels wrong even when you've been taught it's right. Understanding the natural progression that brought you to your Guardian lets you trust this piece of self, knowing that it is in harmony with knowledge revealing how the Universe works.
Consideration
Reflect on recent decision you made that left you feeling torn or uncertain, and it eventually sent something in your life 'sideways'. Chances are you said "Yes" to the Bringer, or ignored the Thru phase, skipping it entirely. Or perhaps your Guardian, trained in self-betrayal, said yes to something every other ArcType recognized as harmful. This isn't failure—it's feedback showing you where healing is needed. Guardian-aligned decision-making requires patience, allowing all your inner ArcTypes to fully process if a new possibility matches your core
values and vision, and how it fits in with other commitments before determining your response.
InQuiry. Application. Implementation.
How might your life improve if you intentionally honored your Guardian's discernment? What would change if you could distinguish between your true Guardian's voice and the corrupted programming that passes for protection? Practice identifying what phase you're in when making a current decision.
Allowing your Guardian to embrace each phase as essential rather than trying to shortcut the natural rhythm of spiritual discernment is life changing. Trust that your Guardian, like all natural cycles, will unfold what you need to know to make a decision. Remember the old rule, "When in doubt, don't." It will serve you well allowing you to produce a coherent choice that isn't rushed, taken, or abdicated.
Most importantly, when your Guardian says "No," ask yourself: "Is this my authentic protection speaking, or am I still obeying those who taught me that having boundaries means being bad?"
Decision’s Breath
Think about breathing—moving air into and out of your lungs brings oxygen into your cells, while the exhale removes carbon dioxide, the waste produced in cellular metabolism, and also known as greenhouse gas!
This metaphor connects conscious decision-making to the most fundamental life process. Just as breathing sustains physical life by bringing in what nourishes and releasing what no longer serves, the Guardian sustains authentic living by welcoming aligned choices and letting go of misaligned ones. But many have been taught to breathe in poison and hold it, to never exhale what harms them, to suffocate on politeness rather than breathe out a necessary "No."
Consider how breathing happens both automatically and consciously. Your body breathes without thought, yet you can also choose to breathe deeply, slowly, or with intention. Decision-making mirrors this dual nature—some choices flow naturally from your authentic self, while others require conscious attention to discern what truly aligns with who you are becoming. Reclaiming your Guardian means learning to exhale—to release the toxic yes's you've been holding, to breathe out the obligations that were never yours to carry.
The rhythm matters too. Just as holding your breath creates tension, clinging to decisions that no longer serve creates internal pressure. And just as shallow, rapid breathing creates anxiety, making hurried choices without proper consideration leaves you feeling scattered and disconnected from your center. Those who benefit from your breathlessness know this—that's why they create urgency, demand immediate answers, make you feel guilty for taking time to breathe.
Inspiration
What if every decision became as natural and life-giving as breath itself? When you trust the Guardian's wisdom, choices emerge from your authentic center rather than external pressure or fear. This is the ultimate reclamation—when saying "No" becomes as natural as exhaling, when protecting yourself feels as essential as breathing. You begin to recognize the difference between decisions that energize you—bringing fresh possibility like oxygen—and those that drain you, creating the spiritual equivalent of carbon dioxide that needs releasing.
Consideration
Notice your decision-making patterns. Do you hold your breath—freezing in indecision? Do you hyperventilate—making choices too quickly from anxiety? Or have you found that steady rhythm where choices flow naturally from your deepest knowing? If you've been taught to hold your breath until others give permission to exhale, recognize this as the violence it is—no one else should control your breathing or your boundaries. The Guardian teaches you to breathe consciously through decisions, taking in what aligns and releasing what doesn't serve your authentic path.
InQuiry. Application. Implementation.
What decisions am I currently "holding my breath" about? Which choices in my life feel life-giving, and which feel draining? Who taught me that exhaling— saying no, having boundaries, choosing myself—was wrong? How can I create space to "breathe" before making important decisions? Practice decision- breathing: Before making any significant choice, literally take three conscious breaths. On the inhale, welcome all possibilities. On the exhale, release fear and external expectations. On the third exhale, release anyone else's voice that claims authority over your choices. Let the decision emerge from this centered space.
Begin with small daily choices—what to eat, wear, or prioritize. Notice how decisions feel different when made from a place of conscious breathing versus reactive rushing. As this becomes natural, apply the same conscious rhythm to larger life decisions, trusting that authentic choices, like breath, sustain and nourish your truest self. Remember: reclaiming your Guardian is like learning to breathe again after someone has tried to control your air supply. Be patient with yourself as you remember how to inhale possibility and exhale what no longer serves.
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Recognizing Synchronicity
Before sharing my thoughts and experiences, let me share my Mereonic definition of synchronicity: it’s the harmony that feels ‘magical’ or ‘miraculous’ when your body, will, and spirit agree to intentionally cooperate in the High Play of regeneration, this agreement issuing and invitation that the Universe can’t resist, thus stepping in as an active participant as you progress towards an outcome.
When your inner timing aligns with the natural flow of life, certain unmistakable signs emerge. You experience decreased resistance to your efforts, as if invisible doors begin opening rather than slamming shut. Unexpected support appears precisely when needed—not through manipulation or force, but through the organic unfolding of circumstances. A deep sense of peace settles around your decisions, even challenging ones, because something within you recognizes their rightness.
Outcomes often exceed your expectations, not because you aimed low, but because aligned action taps into possibilities beyond what you could have calculated. Events flow with natural ease, creating momentum that feels effortless rather than forced. These aren't coincidences or lucky breaks—they are reliable indicators that you've synchronized with life's deeper rhythms.
This understanding transforms decision-making from simply weighing pros and cons to sensing the appropriate moment for action. Your Guardian works with your internal sense of timing, remaining practical while gathering all necessary information—emotional, physical, and intuitive—before offering its clear “Yes, please” or “No, thank you” .
This alignment requires four essential practices. First, before making significant decisions, you create space to sense how your past experiences, present circumstances, and potential futures interact around this particular choice. Second, you notice when you feel pressured to rush a decision, recognizing this urgency often signals misalignment between your timing and life's natural rhythm. Third, you develop sensitivity to when opportunities feel truly "ripe" versus premature or past their optimal moment. Finally, you practice surrendering to life's larger rhythm, especially when your personal timeline conflicts with what's actually unfolding.
The harmony that emerges when your authentic spirit synchronizes with life's timing isn't merely pleasant—it's profoundly informative. It reveals that you've aligned with something fundamental about how existence unfolds, leading to decisions that honor both your personal journey and the larger patterns of life itself.
Inspiration
What if every decision could feel this aligned? When you learn to recognize and trust these synchronistic signals, choice-making becomes less about forcing outcomes and more about sensing when to act and when to wait. Your Guardian becomes attuned to life's natural rhythms, helping you move with rather than against the flow of existence.
Consideration
Reflect on past decisions that felt effortless and supported versus those that required constant struggle and force. Notice the difference in how your body, emotions, and spirit responded to each type of choice. Your Guardian remembers these patterns and can guide you toward decisions that align with life's deeper currents rather than fighting against them.
InQuiry. Application. Implementation.
When have you experienced this kind of synchronistic flow in your life? What does it feel like in your body when timing aligns versus when you're pushing against natural rhythms? Practice creating pause before decisions—not to overthink, but to sense whether this is the right moment for action. Begin noticing the difference between urgency driven by fear and the natural momentum that comes from aligned timing. As you develop this sensitivity, allow your Guardian to guide you toward choices that honor both your authentic path and life's larger unfolding, trusting that right action at the right time creates space for outcomes beyond what you could have imagined alone.
The Guardian’s Role
If a decision reaches your Guardian, this piece of self has the responsibility of ensuring that the first six ArcTypes have conducted a thorough assessment— confirming that the possibility you're considering aligns coherently with your core values and vision. But here's the uncomfortable truth: when your Guardian has been compromised, it might rubber-stamp decisions without this essential review, or worse, override the warnings your other ArcTypes are screaming.
This reveals the Guardian's essential position within the Mereon structure and sequence. It doesn't operate in isolation but depends entirely on the proper functioning of the previous six aspects of self. Yet many have had this natural sequence disrupted—taught to skip straight to "yes" without consultation, trained to ignore their internal council, programmed to see careful consideration as "overthinking" or "being difficult." When all seven ArcTypes work in harmonious cooperation, decisions naturally align with life's deeper rhythms, creating that profound sense of synchronization and effortless flow we explored earlier.
Your Guardian represents the culmination of your temporal wisdom, integrating all dimensions of time into each significant choice. It honors your past by ensuring alignment with established values and hard-won insights. Unless, of course, your Guardian has been taught that honoring your past means staying stuck in old patterns of self-betrayal, that "forgiveness" means having no boundaries, that "moving on" means pretending harm never happened. It respects your present through authentic expression that reflects who you truly are right now. It serves your future by ensuring that today's choices create coherent consequences that support rather than undermine your continuing growth.
This comprehensive temporal integration explains why Guardian-aligned decisions often feel unmistakably "right" across all dimensions of time and self. There's no internal conflict between what you've learned, who you are, and where you're heading—everything aligns in service of your authentic path. But when your Guardian has been corrupted, you might feel that sickening wrongness even as you say yes—that internal scream that you've learned to silence because someone taught you your instincts were wrong.
The healing journey involves recognizing which decisions truly came from your Guardian's wisdom versus which were products of its corruption. That
relationship that felt wrong from the start but your Guardian said "give them another chance"? That wasn't your true Guardian speaking—it was the voice of whoever taught you that you don't deserve to trust your first impressions. That opportunity everyone said was perfect but made your stomach churn? Your other ArcTypes knew the truth, but a compromised Guardian overrode their wisdom.
Inspiration
Your Guardian offers something remarkable: the ability to make decisions that honor your entire timeline while remaining true to your deepest values. But first, you may need to excavate your true values from beneath the rubble of what others insisted you should value. When you learn to recognize and trust this inner arbiter, choice-making becomes an act of integrity that spans past wisdom, present authenticity, and future possibility. This is sovereignty reclaimed—when your Guardian serves you, not those who programmed it to serve their interests.
Consideration
Think about decisions that felt completely right versus those that created internal tension or regret. Guardian-aligned choices typically generate peace and energy, even when they're challenging, because all aspects of yourself are in agreement. But notice the false peace that comes from compliance—that exhausted relief when you've once again betrayed yourself to keep others comfortable. That's not your Guardian's peace; it's the numbness of a corrupted system. Decisions made without the Guardian's input often create fragmentation, requiring ongoing energy to maintain or later requiring correction. And decisions made by a compromised Guardian? They create a special kind of torment—the agony of having betrayed yourself with your own protection system's approval.
InQuiry. Application. Implementation.
What might transform in your decision-making process if you consciously consulted your Guardian before finalizing important choices? More importantly, what if you learned to question your Guardian's first response: "Is this my authentic wisdom, or am I channeling someone who benefited from my self- abandonment?" How would it feel to know that every significant decision had been thoroughly vetted by all aspects of your inner wisdom? Practice bringing decisions to your Guardian only after allowing the other ArcTypes to do their work—gathering information, assessing practicalities, honoring emotions,
connecting with others, sensing timing, and clarifying values. If your Guardian tries to skip this process with a quick "yes" to avoid conflict, recognize this as corruption, not efficiency. Notice how decisions feel different when they emerge from this comprehensive inner consultation versus when made hastily or from limited perspectives. Trust that your Guardian's final "yes" or "no" represents the collective wisdom of your entire authentic self. But verify that trust—test whether your Guardian's guidance leads to expansion or contraction, to vitality or depletion. A true Guardian's "yes" energizes; a corrupted Guardian's "yes" exhausts. Learn the difference, and you reclaim your most powerful ally in the campaign for authentic choice.
Remembering…
The Mereon Method reveals a dynamic system that operates universally across all scales of existence. Three interconnected elements form its foundation: a core, the context that provides boundaries, and the Pattern created through their dynamic interaction. Each ArcType corresponds to specific geometric forms that appear throughout nature's living systems—within your own consciousness and in the collaborative systems you help create through relationships, families, communities, and larger social structures.
This geometric foundation extends far beyond abstract theory. Nature organizes itself through consistent patterns that repeat across every scale of existence. The spiral arms of galaxies mirror the arrangement of seeds in a sunflower. The double helix of DNA reflects the same organizing principles found in river meanders and storm systems. Your ArcTypes embody these same natural patterns, which explains why working with them feels intuitively correct rather than forced or artificial.
Your Guardian corresponds to one of nature's most sophisticated geometric forms: the Rhombic Triacontahedron. This thirty-faced structure embodies the complexity and nuanced discernment required for authentic spiritual guidance.
Unlike simpler geometric forms, this shape demonstrates how multiple perspectives can exist simultaneously while maintaining complete structural integrity—precisely mirroring how your Guardian integrates input from all other ArcTypes into coherent output realized and recognized as a decision based on what is true for you.
Consider each face of this remarkable form as representing different dimensions of spiritual wisdom: accumulated life experience, present-moment awareness, potential, core values, authentic expression, relational harmony, and temporal alignment. These aren't separate compartments but facets of unified consciousness that can shift perspective while preserving your essential integrity. Your Guardian operates through this multidimensional awareness, simultaneously considering every relevant aspect of important decisions while protecting your authentic core.
The dynamic nature of this geometric form reveals something profound about spiritual development. Your Guardian evolves continuously, becoming more sophisticated as you integrate your life experiences, deepen self-knowledge, and
expand your capacity for authentic choice. Your spiritual discernment grows more nuanced and multifaceted while maintaining its essential function as both protector and expresser of your truest self.
This understanding reveals how your spirit guides authentic expression. When you speak up and offer a clear “Yes, please” or “No, thank you” as your final response to any request or opportunity, your Guardian speaks for the Bringer and all inner pieces of self. This integrated intelligence co-creates inner harmony and naturally generates the same harmonious potential in your relationships and the world at large.
Inspiration
Your Guardian follows the same universal Pattern that connects all living systems, from microscopic cells to cosmic structures. The geometric system that directs the Flow reveals that your inner wisdom isn't arbitrary preference but follows First Principles—natural laws that unfold in sequence, each responsible for co-creating harmony and sustainability throughout nature’s vast interconnected web.
Consideration
Your Guardian functions like nature's most sophisticated boundaries—not as rigid barriers but as intelligent membranes that allow life-supporting elements to pass while filtering out what doesn’t serve you. This same selective wisdom protects your authentic self while allowing you to remain open to growth, connection, and the continuous evolution of conscious awareness.
InQuiry. Application. Implementation.
How does recognizing the geometric foundation of your Guardian transform your trust in this inner wisdom? What changes when you understand that your spiritual discernment follows a universal natural Pattern rather than personal preference? Begin recognizing your Guardian as nature's intelligence expressing itself through your awareness—not separate from the physical world but embodying the same organizing principles that create beauty, balance, and sustainability in all living systems. Allow this understanding to deepen your confidence in inner guidance, knowing it emerges from the same source that orchestrates life's intricate dance across every scale of existence.
A W-holy InCounter with Your Spirit
This ‘incounter’ with your Guardian invites you to recognize the natural forms and understand how they set the Pattern that guides how systems function.
Understanding the beauty and structure of the Rhombic Triacontahedron provides insight into how your Guardian operates—not through abstract rules or external authority, but through natural principles woven into existence itself.
This thirty-faced geometric form represents something profound about spiritual discernment. Each face reflects a different aspect of authentic choice-making, yet they unite in perfect structural harmony. The form demonstrates how complexity and simplicity can coexist—how your Guardian can consider multiple dimensions of any decision while maintaining clear, unified guidance. More than an arbitrary preference or indoctrination from another source, your inner wisdom can grow by following the same sequence of organizing principles responsible for co-creating spiral galaxies, seed patterns, and the intricate networks that sustain all life.
This knowledge reveals why inner spiritual guidance feels both familiar and mysterious. It's familiar because it follows natural laws you instinctively recognize—the same patterns that govern growth, balance, and sustainability in all living systems. It feels mysterious because its seamless integration slips past what your conscious mind can fathom or even orchestrate. This helps you understand why Guardian-guided decisions can often lead to outcomes that feel both inevitable and surprising, both deeply personal and universally resonant.
When you intentionally align with a decision by integrating all your ArcTypes, decisions flow with ease and coherence, reflecting the same elegant efficiency found throughout nature. Your Guardian respects the voices of every piece of self, knowing that they help build every aspect of spiritual discernment, helping you navigate so that your tone, words, and actions align with what is deeply true for you.
Inspiration
Your Guardian’s intelligence represents nature's most sophisticated form, expressing itself in response to your unique life experiences. When you learn to recognize and trust this inner guidance system, you discover how authentic choice-making isn't a burden but a privilege. Living your lifetime—playing by
your rules, determining your core values, articulating and evolving your vision, all while living the Law of Love—makes you a conscious participant in the co- creation of beauty that resonates throughout the cosmos.
Consideration
Reflect on decisions you’ve made that felt effortless and correct versus those that required constant emotional or mental wrestling. A Guardian-aligned decision has a quality that makes you feel it was meant to be, that you simply opened the door and walked down the path to greet what was waiting for you. This is the result of choosing to allow yourself to follow your inner wisdom, operating on the same principles that guide rivers to the sea and sunflowers to turn and follow the sun.
InQuiry. Application. Implementation.
How might your decision-making transform if you decided to trust your Guardian, knowing you'd followed the Pattern, connecting your inner realities using universal principles rather than just giving in to personal whim? What might change if you approached every choice consciously, realizing it is an opportunity to naturally align your inner and external worlds rather than attempting to turn problems into something to solve through mental effort alone? Make an effort to notice when you sense your spirit is discerning something is 'off' as compared to when a complex decision is clear despite being multifaceted and complex. Treat your Guardian with respect, trusting that the other pieces of self that brought you to this place are relying on your spirit to make a correct decision.
Motion, Pattern & Living
The dynamic relationship between your core values, your vision, and how you use your time is reflected in how your spirit operates to protect your life and what you determine is true for you. Your spirit is a living process characterized by continuous motion that connects your body, your deepest values and how you show up in your relationships and the world.
This motion follows the same fundamental Pattern, the Knot that governs all living systems. Like the spiral movement of growth in plants, the rhythmic cycles of breathing, and the orbital dance of celestial bodies, your spirit moves according to natural laws. Creating order in the midst of complexity, entropy, zero. Think about it— have you ever seen Nature fighting? How many 'natural disasters' are due to human action?
Your Guardian's three-phase process—In, Thru, and Out—creates this natural motion in your daily life. Each phase represents a different quality of movement: the receptive motion of assessment, the transformative motion of processing, and the expressive motion of manifestation. Together, these phases create a continuous flow that maintains coherence between what’s true for you and how you express that in your relationships and the world.
The In phase initiates motion by creating space for conscious consideration rather than automatic reaction.
The Thru phase sustains motion by allowing thorough integration with your existing values and commitments.
The Out phase completes the cycle by ensuring that what you express maintains alignment with your authentic core.
This progression isn't linear. It’s the union of two spirals in motion, one clockwise, the other counter clockwise, and in their coming together they fuse to flow in one direction. Each spin on this circuit, deepens your capacity to make authentic decisions, living from authenticity by maintaining an unbreakable connection to your essential self.
When your Guardian decides a decision is aligned with your values, you're allowing this natural pattern to express itself, its motion creating a coherent
trajectory. This isn't a static state but an ongoing dance between being and becoming, between honoring who you are and growing into who you're meant to be. The pattern emerges through the quality of your choices over time, each Guardian-guided decision adding another thread to the tapestry of your authentic life.
Understanding spirit as motion and pattern rather than fixed identity transforms how you approach personal growth and decision-making. Instead of trying to become someone else or achieve a perfect state, you learn to trust the natural unfolding of your authentic path through the continuous cycle of In, Thru, and Out.
Inspiration
Your spirit operates as a living bridge between your inner realities and your external realities. When you align with this natural motion, life becomes less about forcing outcomes and more about gracefully participating in the continuous creation of authentic presence. Every Guardian-guided choice adds momentum to this sacred pattern, creating a life that feels both purposeful and effortless.
Consideration
Notice how different decisions affect the flow of your life. Some choices create smooth momentum that builds naturally over time, while others generate friction or require constant course correction. Guardian-aligned decisions typically contribute to patterns that feel sustainable and generative, creating positive momentum that supports both your growth and your positive impact on others.
InQuiry. Application. Implementation.
How would your approach to decision-making change if you viewed each choice as contributing to the ongoing pattern of your life rather than as isolated events? What would it mean to trust that your spirit naturally seeks coherent motion between your values and their expression? Practice sensing the quality of motion that different choices would create—notice which decisions feel like they would add harmonious movement to your life's pattern versus those that would create turbulence or stagnation. Begin treating your Guardian as a dynamic guide, not a judge, you maintain coherent motion between the ever evolving what’s true for you and how you express yourself in the world.
The Peril of Ignoring the “Thru”
Let's examine what happens when you skip the crucial middle phase of your Guardian's discernment process. Many decision-making approaches focus only on input—gathering information—and potential outputs—the actions you might take. You cannot afford to neglect the crucial transformative process that occurs between them. Your Guardian's "Thru" phase isn't optional; it's where authenticity either emerges or gets compromised.
Without attending to this middle space where your values interact with possibilities, you risk making decisions that seem logical on the surface but create internal discord. These rushed choices often lead to actions that contradict your stated values, leaving you wondering why something that made sense intellectually feels so wrong in practice. The disconnect occurs because information moved directly from input to output without being processed through your authentic core.
Your Guardian recognizes several specific consequences of bypassing the "Thru" phase. You may find yourself making decisions that seem logical but feel wrong, creating a persistent sense that something is off even when you can't identify what. You might act in ways that contradict your stated values, leading to guilt, confusion, and loss of self-trust. Internal conflict after choices are made becomes common because different pieces of self weren't consulted during the decision process. Perhaps most concerning, you risk allowing harmful influences to shape how you express yourself in the world, essentially becoming an unconscious channel for values that aren't authentically yours.
Your Guardian is perfectly designed for this three-part process, able to understand what comes in, process it through your authentic filters, and transform it before determining whether—and how—to allow it to manifest in your decisions. The "maybe—maybe not" quality of the final phase demonstrates your Guardian's sophisticated ability to accept information without automatically accepting the agenda attached to it.
By honoring the complete cycle rather than rushing from input to output, you develop a profoundly nuanced relationship with your Guardian. This allows your Guardian to fulfill its essential purpose as the protector of authenticity across all
three phases of your decision-making breath, ensuring that what you put into the world genuinely reflects what is true for you.
Inspiration
Your Guardian's three-phase process protects you from becoming a passive conduit for external influences while ensuring your responses emerge from authentic consideration rather than reactive impulse. When you honor the "Thru" phase, you maintain sovereignty over your choices, allowing your values to actively shape what you accept and express rather than simply processing whatever arrives without discrimination.
Consideration
Reflect on recent decisions that left you feeling conflicted or "off" even though they seemed logical at the time. Notice whether you rushed from information gathering directly to action without allowing your values to process what you were considering. Your Guardian's wisdom suggests that feeling wrong about logically sound decisions often indicates a bypassed "Thru" phase where your authentic core wasn't consulted.
InQuiry. Application. Implementation.
How might your decisions improve if you consistently honored the transformative middle phase rather than rushing from input to output? What would change if you treated the "Thru" phase as the most important part of decision-making rather than an inconvenient delay? Practice identifying when you're tempted to skip the middle phase, especially when external pressure encourages quick decisions.
Begin treating internal conflict after decisions as valuable feedback that your Guardian's process was bypassed rather than properly honored. Remember that your Guardian's "maybe—maybe not" response in the final phase isn't indecision but sophisticated discernment—the ability to receive information without automatically accepting the agenda or action it suggests. Trust that decisions made through the complete three-phase process will feel both logical and authentically right because they've been filtered through your genuine values rather than external expectations.
The Guardian's Warning System
Your Guardian operates a sophisticated early warning system designed to protect your authentic decision-making process. Three specific signals trigger your Guardian's heightened attention: chaos, misalignment between your values and vision, and any indication that someone is exaggerating the potential in a possibility. These warning signals serve as your Guardian's internal alarm system, alerting you when something requires deeper examination before proceeding with any decision.
Understanding these signals helps you recognize when your Guardian is actively protecting you from choices that might compromise your authenticity or wellbeing. Rather than general unease, your Guardian provides specific information that helps you figure out what’s amiss, understanding exactly what needs attention in your decision-making process.
Chaos requires your immediate attention to the emotional and energetic state surrounding a choice. When chaos begins churning inside you—manifesting as anxiety, confusion, or a sense of internal disorder—your Guardian recognizes this as a signal that something fundamental isn't aligning properly. This internal turbulence often appears before your conscious mind has identified the specific problem. Your Guardian treats chaos as evidence that too many variables are moving too quickly, preventing the natural "Thru" phase from functioning properly.
A core values-vision mismatch points to a disconnect between your deepest values and your forward vision. Your Guardian maintains the integrity of your authentic self by detecting even subtle misalignments between what you truly value and where a particular choice might lead you. This mismatch often creates barely perceptible discomfort that your Guardian amplifies into conscious awareness.
When what you're considering doesn't support both who you are and who you're becoming, your Guardian sounds this alarm.
Exaggerated potential addresses a tendency toward wishful thinking on your part or manipulation on the person presenting you with a possibility. Your Guardian serves as a reality check against inflation—whether from your own enthusiasm, someone else's influence, or external pressure to see a possibility as larger than it actually is. This protection prevents you from making decisions based on inflated
promises, unrealistic expectations, or manipulated presentations that distort the actual potential of a situation.
Together, these three signals create a comprehensive diagnostic system, a refined bullshi detector that alerts your Guardian to potential issues with any choice you're considering. When even one of these warning signs appears, it signals the need to pause, saying “Not at this moment, thank you”, then intentionally breathing through the "Thru" phase more carefully. Another round of dialogue after sleeping on it will prepare you to negotiate, receiving additional information before you make a decision.
Inspiration
Your Guardian's warning system operates like sophisticated medical monitoring equipment, providing specific diagnostic information rather than vague discomfort. These three signals—chaos, values-vision mismatch, and exaggerated potential—give you precise information about what needs attention, allowing you to address problems before they compromise your decision-making process or lead to choices that don't serve your authentic development.
Consideration
Notice which of these three warning signals you tend to experience most frequently in your decision-making process. Do you often feel chaos when facing choices, or do you more commonly sense misalignment between your values and where a decision might lead? Understanding your personal warning pattern helps you recognize when your Guardian is actively protecting you from potentially compromising choices.
InQuiry. Application. Implementation.
How might your decision-making improve if you treated these warning signals as valuable information rather than obstacles to overcome? What would change if you paused whenever chaos, an obvious values-vision mismatch, or exaggerated potential appeared rather than ignoring and acting despite these warnings?
Practice identifying which signals your Guardian uses most frequently to get your attention. Work on developing specific responses for each type of warning, knowing these are evidence that your Guardian is demanding a verdict, protecting all of you, not just protesting to cause an inconvenient delay in your decision.
Remember, your Guardian's warning system is designed to prevent problems before they manifest, not to create unnecessary anxiety. learning to respond appropriately to these signals protects your life, your well being, and how your success in relationships and the world.
The Guardian's Confirmation Signal
When you sense a decision is in alignment with who you are and what your life is about—with or without negotiation based on morality and ethics—risks are known to be minimal, and sustaining quality is assured to the best of your ability. It's then that a distinctive sense of peace emerges from within, and even before reaching a final decision, this peace signals you've successfully evaluated probabilities. It's evidence of harmony between a choice and your core values and vision.
This inner peace indicates your Guardian's confirmation system—the positive counterpart to its warning signals—is working as opposed to the red flags that demand attention. This almost indescribable feeling arises only in your Guardian, the piece of self who can give the green light, knowing your discernment to this point is effective. This peace isn't passive nor does it elude understanding. It is built on a foundation of understanding that leads to acceptance realized as active harmony when all aspects of you are in agreement. You understand the Time and human timing, your core values are honored, and your vision is supported in what you're considering taking part in. A sense of confirmation may try to persuade you at any point, but until it emerges from your Guardian, no decision is made.
The peace that "bubbles up" suggests something natural and organic rather than something forced or manufactured. It fountains from what I've long called the Fountain of You when every intelligence is genuinely aligned. This flow is natural, and when you intentionally self-organize to make a decision, the Pattern and behavior heard and seen is coherent to all.
Remember, your Guardian confirmation means there's an 80% chance that you're moving in a direction that honors your whole self, not jumping through a hoop to meet an external expectation.
Inspiration
Your Guardian's confirmation system creates distinctive inner peace when decisions align with your core values and vision. This peace emerges from genuine alignment of all your intelligences, signaling successful evaluation of probabilities and harmony between choice and authentic self, offering an 80% probability of honoring your whole self.
Consideration
Consider the difference between peace that bubbles up naturally from your Guardian versus false confirmations that try to persuade you from other sources. Notice how genuine Guardian confirmation feels like active harmony rather than passive acceptance, built on understanding of timing, values, and vision all working together in coherent alignment.
InQuiry. Application. Implementation.
How do you recognize the distinctive peace of Guardian confirmation versus other internal voices? What does it feel like when all your intelligences are genuinely aligned around a decision? Practice waiting for true Guardian confirmation rather than accepting earlier persuasions, developing sensitivity to when this peace emerges from the Fountain of You. Use this 80% probability as guidance while remaining open to course corrections, trusting your Guardian's discernment while staying responsive to new information.
Real-World Guardian Negotiation
Understanding how your Time Shifter negotiates timing, let me share an example that makes it clear what and how your Guardian—also having a ‘periscope’ into the external world—negotiates.
Imagine a friend has invited you to see a horror film:
“Hey, I'm really up for an evening hanging with you. But knowing blood and gore rolls off you like water off a ducks back, I have to pass because there's no way I'd be able to go sleep when I get home! But, I can do dinner, and if you’re interested I read about an interesting new sci-fi playing at the same theatre about the same time. I'd love to see that or the new RomCom that starts 30-minutes later. What do you think? Would either possibility work for you?"
This example perfectly illustrates how your Guardian protects you without judging someone else. This piece of you is committed to maintaining relationships as priorities as noted in wanting to spend the evening together. It is vulnerable, acknowledging personal limitations as clear reasoning. Its the part of you that loves to innovate, looking and offering creative alternatives that meet everyone's needs. You don't just reject what doesn't work—you actively seek a solutions that honors both your authentic needs and your relationships with others.
Inspiration
Your Guardian's confirmation signal provides reliable guidance for recognizing authentic alignment in your decision-making process. This natural peace isn't something you must create but rather something you can trust to emerge when your choices genuinely support your values, vision, and wellbeing. Learning to recognize and trust this signal transforms decision-making from anxious deliberation into confident navigation guided by your authentic wisdom.
Consideration
Reflect on decisions that ultimately felt right and notice whether you experienced this bubbling sense of peace during your evaluation process. Consider how different this natural harmony feels from forced optimism or resigned acceptance. Your Guardian's confirmation signal provides a reliable internal compass that you
can learn to recognize and trust as validation that your discernment process is working effectively.
InQuiry. Application. Implementation.
How might your decision-making change if you learned to recognize and trust your Guardian's peace signal as reliable guidance rather than dismissing it as wishful thinking? What would shift if you waited for this natural harmony to emerge rather than rushing to decide based on external pressure or logical analysis alone? Practice paying attention to the quality of peace that accompanies different decisions, noticing the difference between genuine alignment and forced acceptance. Begin treating your Guardian's confirmation signal as valuable data in your decision-making process, equal in importance to logical analysis and practical considerations. Remember that your Guardian's peace signal isn't passive but active—it emerges when your choice genuinely supports your authentic development and contributes positively to your relationships and circumstances.
Trust that this natural harmony is your authentic self's way of confirming that you're making choices that honor both who you are and who you're becoming.
The Decision Symphony
After thorough consideration, when your Guardian confirms that a choice is coherent with your authentic self, you're free to open your mouth and say "Yes, please." This moment represents the culmination of your Guardian's discernment process—the point where careful evaluation transforms into committed action.
When you actually implement a conscious decision made through your Guardian's guidance, inner coherence deepens your sense of peace while simultaneously heightening excitement as the Universe begins to cooperate and play the melody of your choice. The implementation of Guardian-approved decisions creates a symphonic relationship between your inner world and outer experience, where authentic choices generate harmonious responses from your environment.
Using music as a metaphor for decision-making reveals profound wisdom about what happens after your Guardian gives its approval. Life's experiences unfold like varied musical compositions, each with its own emotional texture and rhythm. Some decisions bring the structured brilliance of Beethoven—powerful, intentional movements with clear resolution and dramatic crescendos. Others create the energetic, innovative spirit of the Beatles—playful, genre-bending experiences that feel fresh, alive, and delightfully unexpected.
Yet the acknowledgment of Wagner and Schubert reminds us that even well-made decisions can lead to periods that feel heavy, dramatic, or melancholic. This isn't necessarily evidence of poor decision-making but rather recognition that life's symphony includes movements in minor keys and complex emotional themes.
What makes this musical comparison so powerful is how these varied experiences are all valid parts of an authentic life.
Your Guardian doesn't guarantee perpetual happiness but rather coherence between your choices and your true nature. The resulting symphony may contain both joyful and somber movements, but it remains authentically yours. This insight completes our understanding of the Guardian's role: not to shield you from life's full range of experiences, but to ensure that whatever you experience— whether exhilarating or challenging—arises from choices aligned with who you truly are.
Inspiration
Your Guardian's approval creates a unique form of cooperation between your authentic choices and the Universe's response. When decisions emerge from genuine discernment rather than external pressure or reactive impulse, they generate their own supporting symphony—sometimes triumphant, sometimes contemplative, but always coherent with your authentic self. This cooperation isn't magic but the natural result of choices that align with your deepest nature and highest potential.
Consideration
Reflect on decisions you've made that felt deeply right even when they led to challenging periods. Notice how these Guardian-approved choices created a sense of inner peace even during difficult external circumstances. Consider the difference between struggles that arise from authentic choices versus conflicts that emerge from decisions made against your better judgment. Your Guardian's guidance creates coherence that sustains you through both the joyful and difficult movements of your life's symphony.
InQuiry. Application. Implementation.
How might your relationship with challenging periods change if you understood them as natural movements within your authentic life symphony rather than evidence of wrong decisions? What would shift if you trusted that Guardian- approved choices create their own form of cosmic cooperation, even when the immediate results feel difficult? Practice recognizing the difference between the heavy emotions that can accompany authentic choices and the chaotic feelings that emerge from decisions made against your Guardian's guidance. Begin treating your life as a symphony that includes both major and minor keys, trusting that coherent decisions create beautiful music even when individual movements feel challenging. Remember that your Guardian's role is to ensure authenticity, not to guarantee ease—the peace that comes from aligned choices sustains you through both the Beethoven crescendos and the Schubert contemplations of your authentic life experience.
The Universal Song of Spirit
Your Guardian operates beyond the boundaries of any single religious tradition while deeply respecting the sacred role that faith plays in human experience.
Whether you find meaning through Christianity, Islam, Judaism, Buddhism, Hinduism, indigenous practices, or personal spiritual exploration, your Guardian's function remains consistent: ensuring that your deepest values translate into authentic action in the world.
The true measure of spiritual development isn't found in doctrinal correctness, ritual observance, or religious affiliation but in the quality of character that emerges through your everyday words and actions. Your Guardian protects this authenticity by ensuring that your spiritual understanding doesn't remain abstract but becomes tangible through how you treat others, speak with them, and move through the world.
When your Guardian successfully guides your expression, something remarkable occurs: the universal principle of loving kindness becomes visible not through what you say you believe but through how you actually behave. Your tone of voice carries genuine understanding rather than judgment. Your acceptance of others reflects inner peace rather than forced tolerance. Your laughter creates space for compassion rather than exclusion or superiority.
This authentic spiritual expression creates what we might call harmonic resonance
—a quality that allows others to experience your genuine spirit through direct encounter rather than through your stated beliefs or religious identity. People feel your Guardian's influence through the warmth in your voice, the spaciousness in your presence, and the genuine care in your responses.
Your Guardian recognizes that authentic spirituality transcends religious differences while honoring their importance. Whether you pray, meditate, attend services, or find the sacred in nature, your Guardian ensures that these practices serve their highest purpose: cultivating character that naturally expresses itself as loving kindness in the world.
This understanding reveals spirituality as fundamentally practical rather than purely philosophical. Your Guardian transforms spiritual concepts into lived experience, ensuring that whatever tradition informs your understanding, your expression of it remains grounded in genuine compassion rather than spiritual performance, religious superiority, or moral posturing.
Inspiration
Your Guardian serves as the authentic translator between spiritual understanding and daily living, ensuring that your highest insights become practical expressions of loving kindness rather than elevated concepts that remain disconnected from how you actually treat people. When your Guardian guides your interactions, spirituality becomes a quality others experience through your presence rather than a label they learn about through your affiliations.
Consideration
Observe the gap between your spiritual ideals and your actual daily behavior, particularly during stress, disagreement, or inconvenience. Notice whether your religious or spiritual practice is making you more genuinely loving or simply more certain about your beliefs. Your Guardian's authenticity test isn't whether you can articulate your spiritual understanding but whether that understanding naturally flows into kinder words, more patient responses, and deeper acceptance of human complexity.
InQuiry. Application. Implementation.
What would change if you measured spiritual growth by the quality of your daily interactions rather than by religious knowledge, ritual practice, or spiritual experiences? How might your faith tradition serve you differently if you approached it as training for loving kindness rather than preparation for afterlife rewards or group membership? Practice letting your Guardian guide each conversation, allowing your spiritual understanding to express itself through genuine curiosity about others rather than attempts to convert, correct, or impress them. Begin treating every difficult person or challenging situation as an opportunity for your Guardian to demonstrate the practical application of your spiritual values rather than tests of your religious correctness. Remember that your Guardian's role is to ensure that whatever spiritual path you follow leads to increased capacity for authentic love rather than increased certainty about being
right—when your genuine spirit becomes audible through real compassion, you contribute to the harmony that connects all human hearts regardless of the different traditions that inform their understanding.
A Personal Perspective
Since dancing with death, I've been open about the transformation of the religious beliefs I was taught in my childhood. In one singular moment, static beliefs were transformed into dynamic believing in the power of Love. People often ask me to share my feelings about spirituality and religion. So let me be clear: I'm not an atheist, and find such an assertion ludicrous. Why? Because it means someone's announcing that they possess 100% of the knowledge in the Universe. And no, I'm not an agnostic either.
What is true for me in this precious, present moment is this: On January 15, 1987, I left my footprint embedded in a knotted, spherical rainbow that I experienced as Time itself, its flow generated by arcing angles that moved the breath of a cosmic bubble. In that experience, a door opened into a realm of fire, where a sun emitted light that didn't burn but illuminated everything with perfect clarity.
This flowing rainbow was a symphony that induced unimaginable peace, an aria of grace that penetrated every cell of my being. Watching as each note danced, weaving a unique strand, I was filled with awe as what I felt was the Tapestry of Creation wove around me. In that moment I was aware of myself as an individual, but knew beyond any shadow of doubt that I am whole, a complete part of something far grander than any single human experience could contain.
Even today, this experience remains more true than anything I could ever dare to dream or imagine. That one encounter with Love, with Unity, opened my heart and mind completely, leaving a living mark of light on my body, heart, brain, and spirit that nothing has ever dimmed or extinguished. It changed me forever, transforming not just what I believed but how I understand the very nature of existence itself.
I love visiting places of worship, especially experiencing music that celebrates unity, as I strive to understand the rich texture of our human diversity. Yet where I find the deepest peace, holiness, respite, clarity, remembrance, and inspiration is when I am held in the open arms of Mother Nature, whether on a mountain peak or in the embrace of the sea.
We are Family, and I honor our Goddessential—God, Goddess, and the Essence of Spirit—recognizing Unity while respecting and valuing our diversity, knowing that the Source of Love frees us to choose to live our lives from authenticity, overflowing with wonder, awe, and gratitude.
Inspiration
This near-death experience reveals how your Guardian operates beyond the boundaries of traditional religious categories while remaining deeply spiritual. The transformation from static beliefs to dynamic believing demonstrates how authentic spiritual experience transcends doctrine to become lived reality. When your Guardian guides you toward an evolution in what’s true for you that is emerging from direct experience rather than inherited instruction, it opens pathways to understanding that honor both unity and diversity without requiring uniformity of belief or practice.
Consideration
Reflect on the difference between beliefs you've inherited and understanding you've experienced directly. Notice how your Guardian might be calling you toward authentic spiritual experience rather than adherence to prescribed religious positions. Consider whether your current spiritual framework allows for the kind of dynamic believing that emerges from personal encounter with the sacred, or if it requires you to fit your experience into predetermined categories that may not accommodate your actual spiritual reality.
InQuiry. Application. Implementation.
How might your spiritual life deepen if you distinguished between inherited beliefs and direct spiritual experience, allowing your Guardian to guide you toward what you actually know to be true rather than what you think you should believe? What would change if you approached spirituality as dynamic believing that grows from authentic encounter rather than static adherence to fixed doctrine? Practice honoring both your direct spiritual experiences and your respect for diverse religious traditions, allowing your Guardian to help you navigate between what’s personal and what’s universal. Begin treating spiritual categories like atheist, agnostic, or specific religious labels as potentially limiting rather than accurately descriptive of your authentic spiritual reality. Remember that your Guardian's role is to protect your access to genuine spiritual experience while
maintaining respect for the many paths through which humans encounter the sacred—when you allow direct experience to inform your believing rather than forcing experience to conform to inherited beliefs, you open space for the kind of transformative spiritual encounter that changes everything forever.
Cosmic Co-Operation
When your authentic will and Guardian find harmony, something remarkable occurs—your inner "yes" creates energetic ripples that extend far beyond your individual experience. This alignment becomes a genuine invitation that the Universe responds to, not as cosmic obligation, but as natural partnership between your authentic intention and the larger forces that support conscious evolution.
This represents the beautiful synchronicity of Guardian-guided decision-making. As your internal aspects come into genuine accord, external circumstances begin arranging themselves in support of your chosen direction. What others might call coincidences appear with striking regularity, opportunities emerge from unexpected sources, and necessary resources materialize not through supernatural intervention, but through the natural order that responds to aligned intention and authentic commitment.
This cosmic cooperation doesn't mean your path becomes effortless or that challenges disappear. Rather, it means your efforts find their natural flow—like paddling a canoe with the current rather than exhausting yourself fighting against it. Even difficulties take on different meaning within this harmony, appearing as growth opportunities and refinement processes rather than mere obstacles or evidence that you've chosen wrongly.
Your Guardian recognizes that this cooperation emerges from coherence between your ‘invironment’ and the environment you share. When your decisions arise from authentic discernment rather than external pressure, ego demands, or reactive impulse, they naturally align with the larger patterns that support conscious development and mutual benefit.
The true power of cosmic cooperation manifests through what follows your Guardian's approval—your committed action in the physical world. When you embody your internal "yes" through tangible steps taken with full presence and integrity, you complete the essential circuit between intention and manifestation. Each action taken from this place of Guardian-guided alignment naturally extends benefit beyond yourself, creating positive ripples that touch others in ways you may never fully witness but that contribute to the larger harmony of conscious living.
Inspiration
Your Guardian's alignment creates a form of cosmic cooperation that transforms effort into flow, obstacles into opportunities, and individual action into collective benefit. When your decisions emerge from authentic discernment rather than external pressure or internal conflict, they naturally align with forces that support conscious evolution. This cooperation isn't supernatural but represents the natural harmony that emerges when authentic intention meets committed action in service of both personal growth and collective wellbeing.
Consideration
Notice the difference between decisions that create struggle and resistance versus those that generate flow and unexpected support. Reflect on times when your authentic choices seemed to magnetize helpful coincidences, supportive people, or timely opportunities. Consider whether you're currently fighting against the current in any area of your life or if you're allowing your Guardian's guidance to help you find the natural flow that supports both your growth and positive impact on others.
InQuiry. Application. Implementation.
How might your approach to challenges change if you understood them as refinement opportunities within cosmic cooperation rather than evidence that you've made wrong choices? What would shift if you trusted that Guardian- aligned decisions naturally create supportive responses from your environment, even when immediate circumstances appear difficult? Practice distinguishing between the effortless struggle of authentic growth and the exhausting resistance that comes from fighting against your Guardian's guidance. Begin treating unexpected support, timely coincidences, and emerging opportunities as confirmation that your decisions are aligned with larger patterns of conscious evolution rather than mere good luck. Remember that cosmic cooperation requires your active participation through committed action—when you combine
Guardian-guided decisions with dedicated effort, you create the optimal conditions for both personal fulfillment and positive impact that extends far beyond your individual experience to benefit the larger web of life you're part of.
The Dilemma of Hypocrisy & Heresy
Hypocrisy is antithetical to authenticity. When your words and actions are out of alignment with the vision and values you proclaim to be authentically yours, you're a hypocrite.
This stark statement invites deep contemplation about the gap that sometimes exists between who we claim to be and how we actually behave. Your Guardian, as protector of your authentic self, stands precisely at this intersection— monitoring the alignment between proclaimed values and lived actions.
The challenge of hypocrisy emerges in subtle ways. Perhaps you advocate for environmental responsibility while overlooking your own wasteful habits. Or you might emphasize the importance of honesty while telling "small" lies when convenient. Each inconsistency creates internal dissonance that your Guardian registers, even when you try to ignore it. What makes hypocrisy particularly insidious is how it erodes trust—both from others and within yourself. When your actions contradict your stated values repeatedly, you begin to doubt your own authenticity. This self-doubt weakens your Guardian's ability to provide clear guidance, creating a cycle that further distances you from your authentic self.
And then there's heresy...
Rejection happens in families, friendships, every brand of faith, and business. It reveals a tragic universal human tendency to protect an established—dare I say, fixed and static—worldview. What's sad for me is how rejection comes with a refusal to examine evidence that supports a new perspective, abandonment and shunning taking place despite no one trying to persuade them to change their beliefs, merely asking them to accept that they have changed.
I've understood the consequences of bigoted, religious heresy since the age of eleven when I told my doctor and parents everything I heard them say and saw them do while I was in a feverish coma. Even though they acknowledged the accuracy of my words, they dismissed it as a dream because I was unconscious. Clearly, this experience contradicted my father's religious belief that awareness requires one to be awake, eyes and ears open.
This formative experience illustrates how even within loving relationships, extraordinary perception can trigger dismissal. Such belief systems, when established early, cannot accommodate anything that threatens to open the box that holds their convictions. Know that an expanded state of self-awareness may present a challenge when you choose to integrate the new you into a system based on others' rules.
I find it tragic and disheartening when religious beliefs that were originally intended to connect and heal instead shatter bonds of body, heart, mind, and spirit. Families, friendships and social systems that are created to foster community and communion are too often scenes of division. I've experienced rejection far too many times, told I don't belong as someone hangs up the phone or closes the door in my face.
Too often after a gathering is called, an open space where everyone is welcome and meaning is explored, it rigidifies into a closed space where dogma reigns and only a few belong, others excluded because they or their experiences fall outside the boundaries of what someone has determined to be 'so'. This pattern happens in families, every brand of faith, and business, revealing a universal human tendency to protect an established worldview when confronted with a new perspective.
When I encounter such rejection, I share this understanding: I respect your perspective and your beliefs and honor how you hold them. You know something about my life experience and it changed how I view the word 'heretic'. Most people don't know its true meaning as it originates from the Greek word 'heresis' which simply means 'one who chooses differently'.
Choosing to love and invest in believings, I strive to make my actions loving, doing so with an open heart, open attitude, and open hand ready for a hug because I know too well how fast life changes, never mind how quickly it’s over. Other peoples judgement doesn't mean I have to attempt perfection, simply that I need to be aware and acknowledge it for what it is, theirs.
When you recognize a gaps between your values and actions, you are able to create an opportunity to realign them. It might mean adjusting what you anticipate to match what you're genuinely willing to receive or do, recommitting based on what honors your deepest values.
Your Guardian offers a faithful reflection of inconsistencies, not to shame you but to invite you back into coherence. Each time you notice and address these, you strengthen your relationship with your authentic self and build integrity that radiates through all aspects of your life.
Inspiration
Your Guardian's role in navigating hypocrisy and heresy is not to create perfect consistency but to maintain awareness of alignment between your values and actions. When you choose to live authentically, you may indeed become a "heretic" in the original sense—one who chooses differently from established systems. Your Guardian helps you distinguish between beneficial growth that challenges outdated beliefs and destructive inconsistency that undermines your integrity. This discernment allows you to evolve consciously while maintaining authentic coherence.
Consideration
Examine the areas of your life where your stated values and actual behaviors may be misaligned, noticing how these gaps create internal tension and external confusion. Reflect on times when your authentic growth has been labeled as heretical by others who needed you to remain unchanged to feel secure in their own beliefs. Consider whether your commitment to authenticity requires you to risk rejection from systems that demand conformity rather than support genuine development.
InQuiry. Application. Implementation.
How might your relationships and life choices change if you committed to closing the gap between your proclaimed values and your daily actions, even when doing so requires difficult conversations or lifestyle changes? What would shift if you embraced the role of conscious heretic—one who chooses differently when growth demands it—while maintaining respect for others' need to hold their current beliefs? Practice recognizing when your Guardian is alerting you to value- action misalignment, treating these signals as invitations to greater integrity rather than evidence of personal failure. Begin distinguishing between destructive hypocrisy that undermines your authenticity and natural inconsistencies that occur during periods of genuine growth and change. Remember that your Guardian's reflection of inconsistencies serves your evolution rather than your condemnation
—when you courageously address these gaps with honest acknowledgment and committed action, you build the kind of authentic integrity that can withstand both internal doubt and external rejection while inspiring others through your example of conscious living.
The W-holy Connected Self
As the illusion of silos you may have once imagined separating your natural intelligences begins to fall away, you realize everything has always been connected. The artificial boundaries between emotional wisdom, cognitive understanding, spiritual insight, and physical awareness dissolve into recognition of your unified wholeness. Once you understand this connection, you realize you have the grace and the space to receive whatever life offers, and when you make time to be who you authentically are, you can do what you genuinely love.
This insight captures the beautiful integration that occurs when your Guardian works in harmony with all aspects of your being. The compartmentalization that modern life often imposes—treating emotional intelligence as separate from logical thinking, spiritual understanding as divorced from practical action, physical awareness as disconnected from mental clarity—reveals itself as unnecessary fragmentation of what has always been a unified whole.
Your Guardian recognizes this interconnection as fundamental reality rather than aspirational ideal. When operating from this W-holy perspective, your Guardian doesn't just protect one aspect of your authenticity but safeguards the integrity of your entire being. Decisions emerge from consideration of how choices affect your emotional wellbeing, cognitive clarity, spiritual alignment, and physical vitality simultaneously rather than requiring you to sacrifice one dimension for another.
This recognition of interconnection brings profound possibility. The "grace and space to receive" suggests an openness that emerges when you stop compartmentalizing yourself into competing parts. This receptivity allows for more complete expression of who you are, since you're no longer limiting yourself to narrow definitions of appropriate response or acceptable identity.
The connection between making time for authenticity and doing what you love highlights how temporal awareness works in concert with your Guardian's guidance. When you allocate time in alignment with your authentic self rather than external demands or inherited obligations, you create conditions for meaningful engagement with activities that bring genuine joy and fulfillment rather than mere accomplishment or approval.
This interconnected perspective transforms how you approach both major decisions and daily living—moving from fragmented consideration that exhausts you through internal conflict to holistic awareness where each aspect of yourself contributes to harmonious wholeness. Your Guardian is the conductor of this internal symphony, ensuring that all parts of your being play together rather than compete with each other.
Inspiration
Your W-holy connected self represents the natural state of integration that emerges when your Guardian successfully coordinates all aspects of your being. This wholeness isn't something you must achieve but rather something you can recognize and allow. When you stop fragmenting yourself into competing intelligences and choose to honor the interconnected wisdom of your complete being, you discover how authenticity and effectiveness naturally align rather than requiring you to choose one over the other.
Consideration
Notice areas of your life where you may be compartmentalizing different aspects of your intelligence or identity, treating emotional needs as separate from logical requirements or spiritual values as disconnected from practical decisions. Reflect on how this fragmentation might be creating unnecessary internal conflict or limiting your ability to respond to life with your full capacity. Consider what would change if you approached decisions from your W-holy connected self rather than from isolated aspects of your being.
InQuiry. Application. Implementation.
How might your decision-making transform if you consistently consulted your emotional wisdom, cognitive understanding, spiritual insight, and physical awareness as interconnected sources of guidance rather than competing voices requiring negotiation? What would shift if you made time for activities that engage your whole being rather than compartmentalizing work, relationships, spirituality, and physical care into separate categories? Practice recognizing moments when you feel most integrated and whole, noticing the conditions that support this natural connectedness rather than the fragmentation that modern life often imposes. Begin treating your various intelligences as complementary aspects of unified wisdom rather than separate systems requiring management or balance.
Remember that your Guardian's ultimate function is to protect and express your W-holy connected self—when you honor the interconnection between all aspects of your being, you discover that making time to be who you authentically are naturally leads to doing what you genuinely love, creating a life of integrated authenticity rather than compartmentalized achievement.
The Minute That Wasn't
Let's explore a situation where your Time Shifter and Guardian work together to protect your most precious resource...
Today, if someone asks, "Can I talk to you for a minute?" and you agree, notice how much time you actually give them. Unless you draw a boundary, most people will take as much of your time as you're willing to give. This observation reveals something profound about how you temporally operate in social interactions and why your Guardian's protection extends those temporal boundaries.
A seemingly innocent request for "a minute" rarely concludes within sixty seconds. Instead, it often extends to five, fifteen, or even thirty minutes— sometimes longer. The discrepancy between the requested time and the actual time taken is not due to malicious intent to eat—waste— your time. It actually reflects a common pattern where people underestimate their needs or unconsciously test boundaries to fulfill those needs.
Your Time Shifter and Guardian both recognize that time spent cannot be recovered. When you give someone who asks for a minute twenty, that's twenty minutes of your life redirected from your vision to theirs. This is why you need to learn to protect your schedule and your sovereignty over how you invest your finite temporal resources.
Temporal boundaries can be kept with equal portions of kindness and firmness, a response something like, "I can give you five minutes now, and then I need to return to what I was doing."
Or you might suggest an alternative: “Thanks for asking. I can't talk right now, but I can schedule fifteen minutes tomorrow, or ten at 4pm. What works best for you?” Both responses honor both the other person's needs and your own without requiring you to sacrifice either.
By being explicit about time boundaries, you practice conscious temporal stewardship rather than unconscious accommodation. This isn't about being rigid or unkind, it’s about bringing your awareness—and that of others— to how you choose to allocate your time.
Intentionally practicing this skill you grow in wisdom, ensuring that your generosity doesn't become self-sacrifice.
Inspiration
When your Time Shifter hands off to your Guardian a powerful protection for your temporal and spiritual sovereignty is realized. When you bring consciousness to how "a minute" often becomes much more, you reclaim agency over one of your most precious resources. This isn't about being selfish. It’s becoming conscious—ensuring that when you give your time, it's a genuine choice rather than an unconscious default that leaves you feeling depleted or resentful.
Consideration
Reflect on how many "minute" conversations from the past week actually lasted far longer than requested. Notice whether you feel comfortable setting time boundaries or if you worry that doing so makes you appear unfriendly or unavailable. Consider how your current patterns of temporal accommodation might be affecting your ability to focus on your own priorities and whether clearer boundaries might actually improve your relationships by preventing resentment.
InQuiry. Application. Implementation.
What would change if you began tracking these "minute" requests and their actual duration, becoming conscious of the cumulative impact on your daily schedule and energy? How might your relationship with time—and with others—transform through more explicit temporal boundaries that honor both generosity and self- care? Practice responding to time requests with specific parameters rather than open-ended availability, noticing how this clarity affects both your stress levels and others' respect for your boundaries. Begin treating your time as precious currency that deserves conscious allocation rather than automatic dispensation based on others' requests. Remember that your Guardian's protection of your time isn't selfishness but essential self-care—when you honor your temporal boundaries with clarity and kindness, you maintain the energy and focus necessary to show up authentically in all your relationships rather than becoming depleted through unconscious accommodation.
Gossip: Contaminating The Spirit
The instant you realize all someone wants to talk about is gossip, ask them to stop.
Without shame, let them know the conversation isn't beneficial to you or anyone else, and is not worth another second of your time. Make it clear that you will not participate in talking about someone who isn’t present.
This powerful boundary honors your precious temporal resources, as gossip represents one of the most insidious time thieves in social interactions. It's disguised as making a connection but actually bends or breaks them by draining valuable time from your day without providing meaningful value in return. Your Guardian recognizes this immediately, while your Time Shifter calculates the true cost of these seemingly harmless conversations.
Time spent gossiping isn't neutral territory. Beyond simply consuming minutes, it actively diminishes your energy, compromises your integrity, and redirects your attention from what genuinely matters. The cumulative effect of these diverted moments can significantly impact your ability to focus on authentic priorities and maintain the mental clarity necessary for meaningful decision-making.
Asking someone to stop "without shame" acknowledges the social pressure that often accompanies refusing to participate in gossip. Many people engage in gossip not because they value it, but because they fear the social consequences of setting this boundary. Your Guardian understands that the temporary discomfort of refusing is a worthwhile investment when weighed against the integrity cost of continued participation.
By clearly stating that the conversation isn't beneficial to anyone, you transform what might feel like personal rejection into relationship elevation. This approach invites the other person to recognize that gossip doesn't serve their highest good either, potentially creating space for more meaningful interaction that honors both of your authentic selves.
Remember the last time that seconds turned into minutes, and minutes into hours of conversations that left you feeling drained rather than energized. Don't let gossip nibble away at your lifetime like a persistent snack that never satisfies but always consumes.
Your Guardian's protection extends beyond just your time to encompass your energetic and moral integrity. When you refuse to participate in gossip, you protect not only your own authenticity but also the dignity of those being discussed. This creates a ripple effect that elevates the quality of all your interactions.
And the gift that emerges from refusing to gossip? Trust. When people know you won't participate in talking about others behind their backs, they develop deeper confidence in your character and discretion. This transforms your relationships from surface-level social interactions into connections built on genuine respect and reliability.
Inspiration
Your Guardian's refusal to engage in gossip creates a protective boundary that preserves both your temporal resources and your integrity. When you consistently decline to participate in conversations that diminish others, you signal to yourself and others that your time and energy are reserved for interactions that elevate rather than diminish. This boundary becomes a gift not only to yourself but to everyone in your social circle who learns they can trust your discretion.
Consideration
Notice how much of your social time is consumed by conversations about other people's business, mistakes, or personal lives. Reflect on how these interactions leave you feeling—energized and connected, or drained and slightly compromised. Consider whether your participation in gossip aligns with the person you want to be and the relationships you want to cultivate, or if it represents a social habit that no longer serves your authentic development.
InQuiry. Application. Implementation.
What would change in your relationships if you became known as someone who consistently refuses to engage in gossip, redirecting conversations toward more meaningful topics or simply declining to participate? How might your energy and focus transform when freed from the subtle drain of participating in conversations that diminish rather than elevate? Practice recognizing the early signs of gossip- oriented conversations and responding with clear, kind boundaries that protect both your time and your integrity. Begin treating your willingness to engage in
conversation as precious currency that should be invested in interactions that align with your values rather than spent on social habits that compromise your authenticity. Remember that your Guardian's protection of your integrity through gossip refusal creates the foundation for deeper trust in all your relationships— when people know you won't discuss others inappropriately, they develop confidence that you'll treat them with the same respect and discretion.
The Universal Harmony of Love
Noble words and actions harmonize with the spirit of Love that inspired every major religion.
This elegant understanding reveals the connection between authentic expression and universal spiritual principles. Across diverse faith traditions—Christianity, Islam, Judaism, Buddhism, Hinduism, indigenous spiritualities, and countless others—Love emerges as the foundational force that transcends doctrinal differences and ceremonial distinctions.
Your Guardian recognizes this harmony intuitively. When your words and actions align with Love's essential nature—compassion, kindness, respect, generosity, forgiveness—you naturally resonate with the spiritual wisdom that has guided humanity across cultures and centuries. This alignment doesn't emerge through religious performance or doctrinal correctness but through authentic expression of the loving qualities that define your deepest nature.
This perspective transformed how I view religious diversity. Rather than focusing on differences in practice, ritual, or belief systems, I recognized how each was an expressions of genuine Love. The challenge was finding or co-creating a common language that transcends their distinctions. A kind word spoken to a stranger, a selfless act of service, a moment of deep hearing someone who’s in pain—all these embody the essence that inspired prophets, sages, and teachers throughout history, regardless of their specific traditions.
The harmony between noble words, loving actions, and spiritual wisdom represents the natural resonance that occurs when human behavior aligns with the universal patterns that connect all life. Your Guardian, attuned to these deeper harmonies, gravitates toward expressions that contribute to rather than detract from this ancient symphony of conscious love.
When you speak and act from authentic Love rather than ego, fear, or social performance, you contribute your unique voice to this timeless composition. Your individual expression of loving kindness becomes part of the larger harmony that connects all sincere spiritual seekers, regardless of the particular path or tradition that informs their practice.
This understanding invites profound shifts in how you approach both your own spiritual development and your interactions with people whose faith expressions differ from yours. Instead of focusing on theological correctness or ritual observance, you can ask whether your words and actions embody the Love that inspired the founders of every genuine spiritual tradition. Your Guardian's guidance ensures that your spiritual expression serves this highest purpose rather than merely reinforcing personal or cultural identity.
Inspiration
Your Guardian's alignment with Love creates natural harmony with universal spiritual principles that transcend religious boundaries. When your authentic expression embodies compassion, kindness, and genuine care for others, you participate in the same spirit that inspired every major religious teacher throughout history. This harmony emerges through authentic expression of loving qualities that represent your deepest nature and highest potential rather than through religious performance or spiritual competition.
Consideration
Examine whether your current spiritual or religious practice is making you more loving in daily interactions or simply more certain about your beliefs. Notice how your words and actions either contribute to or detract from the universal harmony of Love that connects all genuine spiritual seeking. Consider whether you approach religious differences with curiosity about shared Love-based values or with focus on doctrinal distinctions that separate rather than unite human hearts.
InQuiry. Application. Implementation.
How might your spiritual life deepen if you measured your development by how well and often your words and actions harmonize with Love rather than with religious knowledge, ritual observance, or theological (or political) correctness? What would shift in your relationships with people of different faiths if you focused on recognizing and celebrating Love-inspired qualities you share rather than doctrinal differences that separate? Practice letting your Guardian guide interactions toward expressions of genuine Love—compassion, kindness, respect, generosity—regardless of the religious context or spiritual background of people involved. Begin treating every encounter as an opportunity to contribute your unique voice to the universal harmony of Love rather than as a chance to defend,
promote, or distinguish your particular spiritual position. Remember that your Guardian's role is to ensure that your spiritual expression serves Love's highest purposes rather than ego's need for superiority—when your words and actions genuinely harmonize with Love's spirit, you automatically align with the essence that inspired every authentic spiritual tradition throughout human history.
There is a voice that doesn’t use words, listen. -Rumi
Sumthing & Knothing
Your spirit, your Guardian, is the piece of self charged with remembering that everything is eternal yet nothing is permanent. Remembering that everything and everyone eventually leaves, live today knowing that the only thing you can change, heal, cure, or fix is yourself.
This profound insight captures the essential temporal wisdom that your Guardian holds. It recognizes the paradoxical nature of existence—the eternal quality of life's patterns alongside the impermanence of specific manifestations. Your Guardian serves as the keeper of this delicate balance, helping you navigate between appreciating what's eternal while releasing attachment to what's temporary.
Your Guardian maintains this perspective even when other pieces of self might forget. When you become attached to people, possessions, or circumstances, your Guardian gently reminds you of their temporary nature. This isn't to create despair but rather to foster deeper appreciation for what exists now while preventing the suffering that comes from clinging to what naturally changes.
The guidance to focus solely on changing yourself arises from this understanding of impermanence. Since everything external eventually transforms or departs, directing your healing energy inward becomes the only sustainable approach.
Your Guardian recognizes that attempting to fix others or external circumstances often leads to frustration and disappointment, while self-transformation creates ripples that naturally influence your environment without force or manipulation.
This perspective transforms how you approach relationships, work, health, and every aspect of life. Rather than trying to control the uncontrollable, you direct your attention to what truly lies within your domain—your responses, choices, attitudes, and actions. Your Guardian helps you distinguish between what you can influence and what you must accept, creating both peace and purposeful action.
By embracing this Guardian wisdom, you develop resilience in the face of inevitable change while maintaining deep appreciation for the temporary gifts that each moment brings.
Inspiration
Your Guardian holds the ultimate perspective that liberates you from the exhausting attempt to control what cannot be controlled. When you truly internalize that everything external is temporary while your capacity for growth is eternal, you discover freedom in focusing your energy where it can actually create lasting change. This wisdom transforms potential despair about impermanence into profound appreciation for the present moment and deep investment in your own authentic development.
Consideration
Reflect on areas of your life where you've been trying to change, fix, or heal others or external circumstances. Notice how much energy you've invested in these attempts and what results you've achieved. Your Guardian's wisdom suggests redirecting that same passionate energy toward your own growth, responses, and choices. This doesn't mean becoming selfish—it means becoming the source of positive change rather than trying to force it externally.
InQuiry. Application. Implementation.
How might your life improve if you stopped trying to force others to change and focused on becoming the person you want to be in those relationships? What would shift if you approached each day knowing that everything you encounter is temporary, including your current challenges and limitations? Practice identifying when you're attempting to control external circumstances and gently redirect that energy toward your own responses and choices. Begin treating every person and situation as a temporary gift that's here to teach you something about yourself rather than something you need to fix or control. Remember that your Guardian's perspective on impermanence isn't meant to create detachment but to generate a deeper engagement. When you know something has a natural ending in this lifetime, even though the love you share lasts forever, you are free to fully appreciate it while it's here.
The Weight of Denial
Over time, experiences you deny and evidence you refuse to examine, solidify. As denial hardens, heaviness drags you down, depression sets in, and self-doubt prevents you from soaring.
Your Guardian recognizes that denial creates emotional, mental and spiritual constipation—blocking the natural flow necessary to keep your ‘invironmental’ ecosystem healthy. When you refuse to examine evidence and consider what it might do to you life, simply taking it in, the energy overload it creates that you’re unable to follow through on doesn’t disappear. Instead, it accumulates like plaque builds up and clogs the arteries of the heart. To prevent a heart attack, physicians do a procedure to open blockages, improving blood flow, and reducing the risk of further complication. When your Guardian realizes this is the state of your energy flow, it has to say “No, thank you” so you can heal yourself.
This weight manifests in every area of your life, and what your Guardian is charged with doing is to make sure you don’t overload the thruput phase. It understands the reasons you might want to accept something but will reject some things simply because your system is calcified with energy that got stuck in your system. Saying “No, thank you” opens space and the trapped energy begins to flow, taking with it the heaviness you might feel as depression, confusion, or self- doubt.
Your Guardian has a helicopter perspective, and will not judge what the other pieces of self may not have understood. What is recognizes is the consequences. Saying “No”, it protects you by stopping the hyperventilating caused by distress and stress, letting you take a full breath so you heart can relax and your brain is able to clear. Remember, if your spirit is constantly forced to hold it’s breath by your refusal to examine evidence or explore an experiences that contradicts a fixed belief, the more pressure builds in your system.
The antidote isn't forced examination. It’s gently letting returning to the natural rhythm of In, Thru, and Out. Your Guardian knows that what you've denied eventually needs to move through your system. It might be difficult but it’s essential to restore the flow that allows for clear thinking and responsive action.
When you reach this point, and are ready, your Guardian’s task is to help you take a deep healing breath, allowing what’s been stuck to finally pass through, released into the universe for healing. Remember your core values have the power to carry you through the most difficult situations, enabling all the pieces of self to respond based on what is true for you.
Inspiration
When your Guardian as to say “No, thank you”, it’s life-saving medicine, not rejection.This part of you understands that denial often begins as protection—a way to shield yourself from experiences or evidence that feel too overwhelming to process. However, what starts as temporary protection can become permanent blockage if not addressed. Recognizing denial as spiritual constipation rather than moral failure allows you to approach it with the same practical concern you'd give to any blocked natural process that needs gentle restoration.
Consideration
Notice areas—physical, emotional, mental and in spirit— where you feel heaviness, depression, or persistent self-doubt. More often than not these are signals that your Guardian is trying to get you to pay attention to something, an experiences or evidence that needs processing. Truthfully, I’ve often felt the Universe has intentionally put me on my back when I’ve resisted lookin inward. Thankfully, I negotiated with Cosmic Coincidence Control, making it clear that I’m willing to remember providing they leave my body alone. I’m willing to live to present this knowledge, but I’ve danced with the arcing angles of death four times, and that’s more than enough. Next time I come close, I’m out of here! So, rather than forcing a situation, let me recommend you begin by simply acknowledging whatever it is you know you've been avoiding. The piece of self I’ve called your Guardian is ready and willing to help you determine when and how to safely unblock these memories, clearing the way for you to grow into your natural discernment ability.
InQuiry. Application. Implementation.
What experiences or evidence have you been denying, and how might this denial be contributing to feelings of heaviness or self-doubt? How could you begin to restore the natural flow of your Guardian's discernment process without overwhelming yourself? Practice gentle acknowledgment of what you've avoided,
trusting that your Guardian will help you process these experiences at the right pace and in the right way. Begin treating denial not as a character flaw but as a signal that something needs to move through your system for your spiritual and emotional health. Remember that your Guardian's three-phase process is designed to handle even difficult information or situations—when you're ready to breathe again, the natural flow of In, Thru, and Out transforms what you've denied into wisdom and action.
Flow. Sludge. Stone
When your spirit encounters an experience that challenges your self-concept or worldview, your initial response might be to push them away. This denial seems protective in the moment—a buffer against pain or discomfort. However, denied experiences don't simply disappear; they accumulate in your psyche, gradually hardening like sediment into stone.
This solidification process happens subtly. Each time you turn away from a difficult situation, reject feedback, or ignore intuitive signals, you add another layer to this internal formation. The mind must expend energy to maintain these barriers, creating an ongoing drain on your vitality.
Inspiration
When your spirit encounters challenging experiences, the temptation to push them away through denial seems protective but actually creates internal accumulation. These denied experiences don't disappear but gradually solidify like sediment into stone, requiring ongoing energy to maintain barriers that drain your vitality and block authentic development.
Consideration
Consider how each time you turn away from difficult event or emotion, reject feedback, or ignore intuitive signals, you add another layer to internal formations that harden over time. Notice the subtle but real energy cost of maintaining these protective barriers, and how this ongoing drain affects your overall vitality and capacity for authentic engagement with life.
InQuiry. Application. Implementation.
How can you recognize when you're beginning to push away challenging experiences versus facing them consciously? What does it feel like when you're expending energy to maintain internal barriers rather than processing experiences authentically? Practice catching the initial impulse to deny or reject difficulties, developing the skill of staying present in a challenging experience rather than allowing them to accumulate and solidify. Use your Guardian's guidance to distinguish between healthy boundaries and protective denial, learning to face experiences that support your growth while maintaining appropriate limits.
Beyond More, Bigger & Better
As these denied experiences accumulate, they create a heaviness that affects you on multiple levels:
Physically, denial often manifests as tension, restricted breathing, or chronic pain as your body holds what your mind refuses to process. Emotionally, the weight of denial leads to depression—not necessarily as a chemical imbalance, but as the natural response to living divided from your authentic self. Joy becomes more difficult to access when significant portions of your experience remain unacknowledged. Spiritually, the heaviness prevents the natural upward movement of your spirit. Your Guardian, designed to connect you with larger patterns and possibilities, becomes weighed down by unprocessed material, limiting your ability to access inspiration and transcendence.
The resulting self-doubt emerges not from lack of capability but from living at odds with your own inner knowing. When you consistently override or ignore your authentic responses, you begin to distrust your own perception.
The alternative to this accumulation is the practice of authenticity—the willingness to acknowledge your complete experience, even when it's uncomfortable or contradicts your preferred narrative. This doesn't mean indiscriminately expressing every thought or feeling. Rather, it means honestly acknowledging to yourself what you're experiencing, examining evidence even when it challenges your assumptions, and allowing the natural process of integration to occur.
When you engage with life in this way, the "Flow" remains unobstructed. Energy moves freely through your system rather than being diverted to maintain denial. Your Guardian operates without the burden of protecting false constructs, allowing it to connect you more directly with your deepest values and vision.
Inspiration
The accumulation of denied experiences creates physical tension, emotional heaviness, and spiritual blockage that weighs down your Guardian and limits access to inspiration and transcendence. The practice of authenticity—honestly
acknowledging your complete experience—allows natural flow to resume, freeing energy for authentic connection with your deepest values and vision.
Consideration
Consider how self-doubt emerges not from lack of capability but from living at odds with your own inner knowing. Notice the difference between the heaviness that comes from maintaining denial versus the natural flow that occurs when you acknowledge your complete experience, even when it challenges your preferred narrative.
InQuiry. Application. Implementation.
How can you recognize when accumulated denial is creating physical tension, emotional heaviness, or spiritual blockage in your life? What would change if you practiced authenticity by honestly acknowledging your complete experience rather than maintaining comfortable narratives? Practice distinguishing between indiscriminate expression and honest internal acknowledgment, developing the courage to examine evidence even when it challenges your assumptions. Allow the natural process of integration to occur, freeing your Guardian from the burden of protecting false constructs so it can connect you more directly with authentic values and vision.
'Eloveutionary' Joy
'Eloveutionary' is my extension of a word I didn't 'invent'! It was a typo in an email I received in 1997 from my friend and colleague Louis H. Kauffman! We agreed it was worth keeping given that even at that time it was felt very 'Mereonic'!
Many people consider joy and happiness equivalent. This is something I'd like to invite you to reconsider. An insight reveals the relationship between authenticity and joy. When you live from your genuine self, you naturally gravitate toward what you truly love. These loves aren't random preferences but signposts pointing toward your unique contribution and path.
As you follow what genuinely brings you alive, you continue growing in directions aligned with your authentic nature. This growth isn't forced or formulaic but emerges organically from living in harmony with what’s true for you.
The invitation here is to examine where denial might have created solidification in your life and to consider how authenticity might restore movement and flow.
What might be possible if you allowed yourself to acknowledge your complete experience and align your life more fully with what you truly love?
As you complete this last lesson on this journey, remember, while every piece of you can vote "Yes", if your Guardian feels your values or reputation might be compromised, it can negotiate. If this piece of self is unable to reach an agreement, it's time for you to give your response, and say "No, thank you" out loud.
Remember, your spirit protects you, inside and out.
Inspiration
Eloveutionary joy emerges when you live from your genuine self and naturally gravitate toward what you truly love. These authentic loves serve as signposts pointing toward your unique contribution and path, creating organic growth that aligns with your authentic nature rather than forced or formulaic development.
Consideration
Consider the distinction between joy and happiness, recognizing how authenticity creates the conditions for genuine joy to emerge. Notice how your authentic loves aren't random preferences but meaningful indicators of your unique path, and how following what genuinely brings you alive creates natural alignment with what is true for you.
InQuiry. Application. Implementation.
How can you distinguish between what you think you should love and what genuinely brings you alive? Where might denial have created solidification in your life that blocks access to authentic joy? Practice examining your complete experience and aligning more fully with what you truly love, allowing your Guardian to guide you toward choices that honor both your values and your authentic nature. Remember that your Guardian's protective wisdom—including its power to say "No, thank you"—serves your spirit's protection inside and out.
Vigilance
As you continue, make a few moments to focus on how your Guardian, your spirit, protects your core values, your vision, indeed, your lifetime. Your Guardian keeps stress at a minimum, ensures your heart and body are safe, and validates that your walk and talk match. This powerful but quiet piece of self serves as your internal protector, establishing boundaries that preserve what matters most. Unlike external protection that might restrict your freedom, your Guardian's vigilance actually expands your authentic expression by ensuring alignment between what's true for you, and what's real in your world.
Consider how your Guardian operates across multiple dimensions:
Your Guardian maintains constant vigilance over your foundational principles. When faced with decisions that might compromise these values, it sends subtle signals—perhaps a moment of hesitation, a physical sensation in your body, maybe hitting the brakes of the car in response to a quiet voice of caution. These signals aren't random. They are precise communications about potential alignment or misalignment.
The protection of values isn't rigid or dogmatic but rather ensures coherence between who you truly are and how you navigate the world. Your Guardian recognizes that values may evolve and deepen over time, but it distinguishes between natural growth and compromise born of external pressure.
Inspiration
Your Guardian serves as your internal protector, maintaining vigilance over your core values, vision, and lifetime wellbeing. This quiet but powerful piece of self expands rather than restricts your authentic expression by ensuring alignment between what's true for you and what's real in your world.
Consideration
Consider how your Guardian's protection operates through subtle but precise signals—hesitation, physical sensations, or quiet caution when decisions might compromise your essential nature. Notice how this vigilance distinguishes between natural growth of values and compromise born of external pressure,
maintaining coherence between who you truly are and how you navigate the world.
InQuiry. Application. Implementation.
How can you become more sensitive to your Guardian's protective signals without becoming rigid or fearful? What does it feel like when your Guardian expands your authentic expression versus when external protection restricts your freedom? Practice recognizing the difference between natural evolution of values and pressure-driven compromise, developing trust in your Guardian's ability to distinguish growth from betrayal of your essential nature. Use these insights to honor your Guardian's protective wisdom while remaining open to authentic development.
ReVisioning Your Vision
Beyond immediate values, your Guardian safeguards your longer-term vision. It recognizes opportunities that contribute to your authentic path and helps you discern which invitations or possibilities might lead you astray. This protective function operates not just in major life decisions but in daily choices that collectively shape your direction.
Your vision serves as a North Star, and your Guardian ensures that momentary distractions or monetary temptations don't permanently pull you off course. This isn't about perfection. It's about maintaining general alignment with what you most deeply intend to create and become.
The Guardian's protection extends to your physiological wellbeing by reducing unnecessary stress. When you make decisions aligned with your authentic self, you avoid the stress that comes from internal conflict. Your body doesn't have to cope with the tension of living at odds with what you know to be true for you.
This stress reduction isn't about avoiding all challenges—your Guardian knows that growth often requires stretching beyond comfort. Rather, it's about eliminating the particular strain that comes from violating your own integrity or betraying your deepest knowing.
Inspiration
Your Guardian safeguards your longer-term vision by recognizing authentic opportunities and helping you discern which possibilities might lead you astray. This protection operates through daily choices that collectively shape your direction, using your vision as a North Star to maintain general alignment with what you most deeply intend to create and become.
Consideration
Consider how your Guardian distinguishes between growth-related challenges that stretch you beyond comfort and the particular strain that comes from violating your integrity. Notice how decisions aligned with your authentic self reduce unnecessary stress by eliminating internal conflict, allowing your body to avoid the tension of living at odds with realities you define as true for you.
InQuiry. Application. Implementation.
How can you use your vision as a North Star for daily decision-making rather than only for major life choices? What does it feel like when momentary distractions or monetary temptations threaten to pull you off course versus when opportunities genuinely contribute to your authentic path? Practice distinguishing between productive growth challenges and integrity-violating stress, developing sensitivity to how alignment or misalignment with your vision affects your physiological wellbeing. Use your Guardian's protective wisdom to maintain general direction while remaining open to authentic opportunities for expansion.
Coherence
Your Guardian recognizes the intimate connection between all the pieces of self understanding how the ArcTypes constantly interact, cooperating in harmony when you allow them to do so. Recognizing that harmony is a choice, you safeguard your authenticity, creating conditions where you remain open rather than defended, and your life functioning optimally rather than carrying the burden of beliefs that are not yours to carry or live.
This protection happens through discernment about relationships, environments, and commitments. Your Guardian helps you recognize when something feels unsafe not due to fear but due to genuine threat to your wellbeing, guiding you toward conditions that support rather than diminish your vitality.
Perhaps most importantly, your Guardian maintains the alignment between what is true for you and your outer expression—ensuring your inside and outside match. This congruence creates a particular kind of power and peace that comes from living undivided. When others interact with you, they encounter a whole person rather than a fragmented one. This authentic presence creates trust and depth in relationships while eliminating the energy drain that comes from maintaining inconsistencies between what you believe and how you live.
By taking time to acknowledge and appreciate your Guardian's protective function, you strengthen this aspect of self. The more consciously you engage with your Guardian, the more effectively it can fulfill its role as the protector of your authentic life expression.
Inspiration Your Guardian maintains alignment between your inner life and your relationships, all the pieces ‘InPowering’ and ‘InLightening’ your being, co- creating the rare peace that comes from living undivided. This coherence allows others to encounter a whole person rather than a fragmented one, your authentic presence building trust and depth in relationships while eliminating energy drains and sink holes.
Consideration
Consider how your Guardian's protection creates conditions where your heart remains open rather than defended and your body functions optimally rather than
carrying beliefs that you do now subscribe to. Notice the difference between fear- based unsafe feelings and genuine threats to your wellbeing, and how this discernment guides you toward vitality-supporting conditions.
InQuiry. Application. Implementation.
How can you strengthen your Guardian's protective function by consciously acknowledging and appreciating its role in your life? What does it feel like when your inside and outside match versus when you maintain inconsistencies between beliefs and behavior? Practice engaging more consciously with your Guardian's guidance about relationships, environments, and commitments, developing trust in its ability to distinguish between growth challenges and genuine threats to your wellbeing. Use this coherence to create authentic presence that serves both your own vitality and the depth of your relationships.
Inner Ecosystem or Egosystem
Living your core values lets you live with a clear conscience. Now that you understand how the Mereon Method works, you're realizing it's different from other decision-making tools. What you've learned is about you, your youniverse. It's learning to nurture conscious awareness by honoring the importance of every aspect of self.
What truly sets the Mereon Method apart is its recognition of your inner multiplicity. Unlike conventional approaches that treat decision-making as a single-minded process, this method acknowledges that you contain distinct aspects of self—your ArcTypes—each with its own perspective and wisdom.
Traditional decision frameworks often rely on external criteria: pros/cons lists, risk assessments, or seeking consensus from others. While these have value, they frequently bypass the internal wisdom system you already possess. The Mereon Method inverts this approach, starting with your inner navigation system rather than external metrics.
Making a decision for yourself using this method is not about consensus. It's not hierarchical. And while you have two opportunities to negotiate, it isn't about taking opinion polls. Most importantly, a unanimous vote—all the pieces of self agreeing—isn't required for a decision. This creates an inner ecosystem where each aspect of self is honored without requiring complete agreement, rather than an egosystem where one voice dominates or external validation drives your choices.
Inspiration
The Mereon Method transforms decision-making from external validation-seeking into internal wisdom cultivation, recognizing your inner multiplicity as strength rather than confusion. By honoring each ArcType's perspective without requiring unanimous agreement, you create an authentic inner ecosystem where conscious awareness guides choices that align with your core values and generate the clear conscience that comes from living what’s true for you.
Consideration
Consider how traditional decision frameworks that rely on external criteria—pros/ cons lists, risk assessments, or consensus from others—often bypass the sophisticated internal wisdom system you already possess. Notice the difference between living from an inner ecosystem where each aspect of self is honored versus an egosystem where one voice dominates or external validation drives your choices, and how this shift affects both the quality of your decisions and your relationship with yourself.
InQuiry. Application. Implementation.
How might your decision-making transform if you trusted your internal navigation system over external metrics and opinions? What would change if you approached choices by honoring your inner multiplicity rather than seeking consensus or hierarchical control? Practice using the Mereon Method's recognition of your ArcTypes as distinct wisdom sources, developing comfort with making decisions that don't require unanimous internal agreement but do require conscious engagement with each perspective. Create an inner ecosystem that nurtures conscious awareness of every aspect of self, allowing your core values to guide choices that generate authentic clarity and the deep satisfaction that comes from living in alignment with what is true for you.
Your Youniverse
Finally, remember that the concept of your "youniverse" represents a profound shift in understanding. Rather than seeing yourself as a fixed entity making decisions, you recognize you too are a dynamic system—a personal cosmos where different aspects interact while following natural patterns as reflected in the geometric structure and the Flow found in the motion of the Mereon knot.
This foundation differentiates the Mereon method from psychological approaches that might identify similar "parts" but lack the coherent structural understanding of how these parts interact. The trefoil knot is a pattern providing a map to mark every inner- and interaction, reminding you how information flows through your decision-making process.
Perhaps most revolutionary is the non-hierarchical nature of this process. While your Guardian may have final say, it doesn't override or dominate the other aspects. Instead, it works within the system, honoring what the previous five ArcTypes have established.
The two negotiation points—through your Time Shifter and Guardian—provide flexibility without compromising integrity. This balance between structure and adaptability mirrors how natural systems function, allowing for responsive adjustment while maintaining overall coherence.
Being liberated from requiring unanimous agreement represents a breakthrough in understanding authentic decision-making. This recognition frees you from the paralysis that often comes when trying to satisfy every consideration simultaneously.
Instead, the method acknowledges that tension and even disagreement among aspects of self can be part of a healthy decision process. Your Wave Tamer might feel hesitation while your Space Bender sees opportunity—and both perspectives contribute valuable information without needing to reach perfect harmony.
This approach honors complexity rather than forcing artificial simplicity. By allowing for the full spectrum of your inner responses, decisions become more robust and authentically aligned with your multidimensional nature.
The Mereon Method ultimately transforms decision-making from an external problem-solving exercise into a process of self-discovery and alignment—one that respects the intricate geometry of your inner landscape while providing practical guidance for navigating life's choices.
Inspiration
Your youniverse operates as a dynamic personal cosmos where authentic decision- making emerges from honoring complexity rather than forcing artificial simplicity. This revolutionary approach transforms choices from external
problem-solving into self-discovery, creating decisions that align with your multidimensional nature while respecting the intricate geometry of your inner landscape.
Consideration
Consider how liberation from unanimous agreement frees you from decision paralysis while honoring the valuable information that comes from internal tension and disagreement. Reflect on how this non-hierarchical process allows your Guardian to work within the system rather than dominating it, creating flexibility without compromising integrity through natural patterns of structure and adaptability.
InQuiry. Application. Implementation. How does recognizing yourself as a dynamic system rather than a fixed entity change your relationship with decision- making? What shifts when you allow tension between different aspects of self to inform rather than paralyze your choices? Practice using the Mereon Method's geometric understanding to navigate information flow through your decision process, developing comfort with complexity while maintaining practical guidance. Transform your approach from seeking external solutions to discovering internal alignment, using your youniverse's natural patterns to create robust decisions that honor your multidimensional authenticity.
The Eternal Binding
Time binds all the pieces of self into a coherent whole. Moving faster than you can imagine, it never crumbles, remaining resilient and enduring as this nothingness eternally connects your stardust with all that was, is, and ever shall be. This profound insight reveals Time not merely as measurement but as the fundamental force that unifies your multidimensional being. While you often experience Time as linear progression, its true nature is far more complex and magnificent—a dynamic pattern that weaves together all aspects of existence.
The binding property of Time creates coherence among your ArcTypes. Your Guardian, Wave Tamer, Gate Keeper, Light Lifter, Space Bender, and Time Shifter don't exist as separate entities but as facets of a unified whole, their boundaries fluid and interconnected through Time's ceaseless movement. This movement "faster than you can imagine" speaks to Time's quantum nature—existing beyond the limitations of human perception. At scales too small or vast for your senses, Time creates connections you can intuit but rarely directly perceive. The Mereon knot, with its complex trefoil pattern, provides a geometric representation of this dynamic binding force.
No-Thing-ness
The paradox of Time as "nothingness" that nonetheless creates profound connection echoes quantum physics' understanding of the vacuum state— seemingly empty yet teeming with potential. This apparent emptiness contains the patterns that maintain coherence across all scales of existence.
The reference to "stardust" reminds you of your cosmic origins—every atom in your body once forged in stellar furnaces. Time connects this ancient material history with your present consciousness and future potential, creating a continuous thread of being that extends beyond individual existence.
This binding force transcends the personal, connecting you with "all that was, is, and ever shall be." Your Guardian recognizes this greater context, understanding that authentic decisions align not just with personal values but with the larger patterns of connection that Time sustains across all dimensions of reality.
When you allow Time to fulfill its binding function rather than fighting against it, you experience the extraordinary gift of coherence—living as an integrated being whose parts work in harmony rather than conflict. This coherence manifests as the peace that arises when your decisions align with your authentic nature and the larger patterns of existence.
Your Guardian and Gate Keeper are the foundational pillars of your existence. Similar to bookends, your body and spirit provide the necessary support for your growth in the course of your life. Their cooperation:
Supports your physical realities, allowing you to experience profound emotions, feeling deeply without spinning into neediness;
Lifts and protects you when a higher perspective is needed;
Ensures that greediness doesn’t suck you in, and neediness doesn’t tear you down;
Keeps your intuition sharp, gut rumbling to a minimum; and
Respects your role in Time during this lifetime, helping as you navigate one of the ultimate human challenges, timing.
Your morals and core values are visible in the ethical outcomes of every decision, whether you intentionally focus and make a choice; manipulate the moment to take a choice; or choose to abdicate a decision, thinking that this absolves you of responsibility. It does not.
When confronted with a challenging choice, keep in mind that it’s your spirit’s duty to guide your selection. Take a moment to pause and willingly delve deeper, letting your Guardian perceive the path aligned with the natural flow.
By attuning yourself to your physical sensations, emotions, mindset, and priorities, you can safely navigate the constant, yet ever changing rhythm of time. Upholding your values enhances the likelihood of optimizing probabilities and realizing the true potential within any opportunity. Your best decisions keep you from poverty consciousness, allowing you to live wholly and fully.
Inspiration
Time as "no-thing-ness" reveals the profound paradox of existence—the seemingly empty space that actually holds everything together. Like quantum physics shows us, what appears to be void is actually teeming with infinite potential. Your Guardian operates from this timeless perspective, recognizing that you are simultaneously stardust from ancient stellar furnaces and conscious potential reaching toward the future. This cosmic thread of being connects you not just to your personal values, but to the larger patterns that sustain all existence.
When your Guardian guides your decisions from this expanded awareness, you experience the extraordinary gift of coherence—living as an integrated being whose inner nature aligns with the universe's deeper rhythms.
Consideration
Notice how your Guardian and Gate Keeper work together like bookends, supporting every aspect of your existence. When these foundational pillars cooperate, you can feel deeply without spinning into neediness, maintain perspective without losing connection to reality, and keep your intuition sharp while respecting the sacred timing of your life. Your Guardian ensures that every decision—whether you make it intentionally, manipulate the moment, or abdicate responsibility—reflects your authentic moral core. There's no escaping the ethical outcomes of your choices, but when you honor your Guardian's guidance, those outcomes align with your highest values and the natural flow of existence.
InQuiry. Application. Implementation.
Before making any significant choice, pause and ask your Guardian to perceive the path aligned with natural flow. Practice attuning to your physical sensations, emotions, mindset, and priorities as a complete guidance system. When confronted with challenging decisions, remember it's your spirit's duty to guide your selection—not your fears, desires, or external pressures. Notice how decisions made with your Guardian's guidance keep you from poverty consciousness and allow you to live wholly and fully. Develop trust in this deeper timing by observing how honoring your Guardian's wisdom enhances the likelihood of optimizing probabilities and realizing true potential within every opportunity. Ask yourself: "Does this choice align with the cosmic thread of being that connects me to all that was, is, and ever shall be?"
Guardian of the Threshold
Your spirit holds the key to the Universe and stands ready and willing to open the door that leads to a new understanding, every decision an experience in living from authenticity. It's where you stand on the threshold, your inner selves facing your external realities, and your Guardian must ensure that your decision ensures thriving. This piece of you understands why it's essential to spend time in the stillness, knowing that this is how you make sure a decision is coherent. Loving yourself is how you sustain peace in your life, flowing through every season, growing and strengthening through the cycles of change.
This perspective on the Guardian's role intends to capture its role as standing on the threshold between your inner and outer worlds. Unlike decision-making approaches that focus on external outcomes, the Mereon Method focuses on the sacred nature of choices as expressions of your authentic self. Every decision you make represents a doorway between what is and what could be. Your Guardian doesn't just evaluate options but actually holds "the key to the Universe," connecting your individual choices to every relationship.
Remember, stillness is a prerequisite for coherent decisions, and honors the temporal dimension of wisdom. Your Guardian recognizes that rushing a decision often leads to misalignment, while patience and persistence allows the natural pattern to emerge. The connection between self-love and peace reminds you that decisions made from authenticity create harmony not just in specific circumstances but throughout your entire life. This flow through "every season" acknowledges that your Guardian's wisdom operates not just in isolated moments but across the full spectrum of your journey.
When your body, will, and spirit agree to cooperate, the Universe responds, and so begins the high play of regeneration. Keeping your ears, eyes, heart, attitudes, and hands open frees you to experience the transcendence that resides in every moment.
You are lovable.
Believing this, you begin to appreciate why self-awareness includes and transcends what are often considered magic or miraculous.
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“I'm convinced of this: Good done anywhere is good done everywhere. For a change, start by speaking to people rather than walking by them like they're stones that don't matter. As long as you're breathing, it's never too late to do some good.”
—Maya Angelou
Tranquillity is the essence of a safe space, a place where you know you belong. Investing time in yourself is essential, critical to wisely expressing authenticity in the world.
Gift your spirit with the quietude it craves, understanding that it is essential to living a coherent life.
Conscious Content, Unconscious Delivery
Your Guardian's work doesn't end when you've consciously selected what to express. One of the most revealing aspects of Guardian responsibility emerges in those moments when you can distinguish between expressions that came from conscious choice versus those that emerged when your spirit wasn't fully engaged. This split between conscious and unconscious expression creates a unique opportunity for both understanding and growth.
Problems are going to arise when your message carries contradicting signals.
Consider this scenario: You've consciously considered your response to a difficult conversation, deliberately choosing words that reflect your authentic intention— perhaps to offer support, set a boundary, or share important information. Your content emerges from conscious selection, yet something in your tone carries hurt, frustration, or defensiveness you might not have been aware of harboring.
The person receiving your message is going to find themselves facing a complex situation when it comes to responding. Think about it—they hear your words saying one thing, but there’s something about your tone of voice that says something entirely different.
How often has someone responded to this situation, saying, "I heard and understood your words and will take them to heart, but your tone wounded me.”
Chances are never. The reason is your tone outweighs your words.
I have an adorable Yorkie, and he’s masterful at knowing what I’m saying with just the tone of my voice. I can lovingly say to him, “Sibi, you’ve got poo stuck to your tail, and don’t you dare drag your ass across my carpet or clean floors” and he’s going to sit or come to me for a hug! But if I get snarky with him, and say the same thing with a stern tone, he’s going to run for the door!
What you say and how you say it is critical, your values, vision and morals fully ‘ingaged’ before you speak.
Inspiration
Your Guardian is responsible for your final output - what you say, how you say it, and what you do. The most revealing moments emerge when you can distinguish between expressions that came from conscious choice versus those that emerged when your spirit wasn't fully engaged. When you have consciously--with intention--crafted your final output, tone, words, or action, you will receive feedback about how what you expressed was received.
Consideration
What you say and how you say it is critical, your values, vision and morals fully engaged before you speak. Problems arise when your message carries contradicting signals because your tone outweighs your words.
InQuiry. Application. Implementation.
Practice distinguishing between feedback about your conscious choices and feedback about unconscious patterns—this creates space for curiosity rather than defensiveness. Develop awareness by noticing when others seem confused by mixed messages from you, preparing you to explore what happens next in the journey from conscious choice to authentic expression.
The Gift of Conscious Expression
Here's what's remarkable: when your words emerge from conscious choice, you can usually receive feedback about unconscious delivery without defensiveness. Because you know your intention was deliberate, criticism of your tone doesn't feel like an attack on your entire message or character.
You might respond, "You're right—I didn't realize my tone carried that edge. That wasn't what I wanted to convey." This openness exists because conscious content creates what I call "feedback receptivity." You can separate your deliberate intention from unconscious patterns that slipped through.
When you've made conscious choices about your expression, feedback becomes information rather than accusation. Your Guardian's deliberate work creates a foundation of confidence that allows you to hear how your message was received without feeling threatened. This capacity to receive feedback openly is one of the most valuable benefits of conscious expression—it transforms communication from a defensive exchange into genuine dialogue.
Inspiration
Conscious expression creates the capacity for "feedback receptivity"—the ability to hear how your message was received without feeling attacked. When your Guardian has done its work deliberately, feedback becomes valuable information about the gap between intention and impact rather than a threat to your sense of self.
Consideration
Consider how differently you respond to feedback when you know your expression came from conscious choice versus when you suspect it emerged unconsciously. Notice the internal shift from defensiveness to curiosity when you're confident about your Guardian's deliberate work. This confidence doesn't mean your expression was perfect, but rather that it emerged from authentic intention.
InQuiry. Application. Implementation.
How can you recognize when your expression has come from conscious choice versus unconscious patterns? What creates the internal confidence that allows feedback receptivity? Practice pausing before expressing to ensure your Guardian is fully engaged, then notice how this affects your ability to receive feedback.
Develop awareness of the difference between information about impact and attacks on intention, using this distinction to maintain openness in difficult conversations.
The Resistance To Unconscious Expressions
Contrast this with moments when both content and delivery emerge from unconscious patterns. When someone speaks or acts from a completely unconscious place, resistance to feedback becomes almost inevitable. The entire expression carries a defensive quality that immediately activates when questioned or challenged.
This resistance isn't willful stubbornness. When we express unconsciously, part of us recognizes we weren't operating from conscious choice, creating internal vulnerability. Feedback about unconscious expressions can feel like an attack on our sense of self rather than information about a specific moment.
The unconscious mind's first response is often to defend the expression rather than examine it, because examination would require acknowledging we weren't fully conscious—something the ego finds deeply threatening. This creates a protective mechanism that prioritizes self-preservation over learning, making genuine dialogue nearly impossible.
When we operate from unconscious patterns, we lack the internal foundation that conscious choice provides. Without that deliberate intention, any feedback feels like criticism of who we are rather than what we did. The very vulnerability of having acted unconsciously makes us hypersensitive to any response that might expose that unconsciousness.
Inspiration
Unconscious expression creates automatic defensiveness because part of us knows we weren't operating from deliberate choice. This internal vulnerability makes feedback feel like an attack on our identity rather than information about our impact, triggering protective responses that block learning and connection.
Consideration
Consider the difference between how you receive feedback when you know you've acted consciously versus when you suspect your expression emerged from unconscious patterns. Notice how unconscious expression often carries its own defensive energy even before any feedback arrives. The ego's protective mechanism prioritizes defending the unconscious expression over examining it
because examination would require acknowledging the lack of conscious engagement.
InQuiry. Application. Implementation.
How can you recognize when your expression has emerged from an unconscious pattern versus when it’s a conscious choice? What internal signals indicate you're operating unconsciously before you even speak? Practice developing awareness of your internal state before you express yourself, noticing when defensiveness arise as opposed to when you can remain open and want to hear a response. Use this awareness to catch unconscious patterns earlier in the process, harmonizing your tone and words before they make their way out of your mouth.
Do so and those who hear you speak will find resistance futile.
How Conscious Choice Creates Openness
When your words emerge from conscious consideration, you maintain a different relationship with them. You chose them deliberately, so feedback doesn't threaten your sense of self—it provides information about how your conscious choice was received.
This creates space for curiosity rather than defensiveness. You can ask, "What did you hear in my tone?" or "Help me understand how that landed for you" because you're genuinely interested in the gap between your conscious intention and what unconsciously emerged.
The mechanism is straightforward: conscious choice creates internal confidence. When you know your Guardian deliberately crafted your expression, you don't need to defend it—you can explore its impact. This confidence transforms feedback from potential attack into valuable data about communication effectiveness.
This openness becomes a gift to both you and others. For you, it provides insight into unconscious patterns that may be affecting your expression. For others, it creates safety to share their genuine experience without fear of triggering defensiveness. The result is authentic dialogue where both parties can learn and grow.
Inspiration
Conscious choice creates internal confidence that transforms feedback from threat to information. When your Guardian deliberately crafts expression, you can explore impact without defending intention, creating space for genuine curiosity about how your conscious choice was received by others.
Consideration
Consider how your internal experience shifts when you know your words came from deliberate choice. Notice the difference between defending an expression versus exploring its impact. The confidence that comes from conscious intention allows you to separate your worth from your communication effectiveness, creating genuine openness to learning.
InQuiry. Application. Implementation.
How can you cultivate the internal confidence that comes from conscious choice? What questions can you ask to explore impact without defensiveness? Practice deliberate expression, then notice how this affects your ability to receive feedback with curiosity. Develop phrases like "Help me understand how that landed" or "What did you hear in my tone?" Use conscious intention as the foundation for authentic dialogue where both parties can learn and grow.
Learning Thru Mish-Mashing
When you put conscious content into the world not paying attention to the tone you’re delivering them with, reveal valuable information about your internal landscape. And it isn’t always what you want the world to know. This makes it clear to the one you’re speaking to that your spirit wasn’t fully ‘ingaged’, absent when your mouth moved and you didn't pay attention.
Before you speak, pause, remembering you can’t take back what you say out loud. You have the ability to connect what you’re going to say with how you’re going to say it.
When you screw up, the receiver reacting, rejecting is often like fighting fire with fire. You can put that inferno out quickly by apologizing, admitting your error and asking for forgiveness. When it’s given, you can take these questions into a meditation session:
What was I feeling that slid into my tone of voice sending meaning sideways?
What old pattern did I slip into while I was supposed to be focused on my words?
Inspiration
Mish-mashing conscious content with unconscious delivery reveals when your spirit wasn't fully engaged in expression. These moments provide valuable learning opportunities about internal patterns, though the information revealed isn't always what you want the world to know about your internal landscape.
Consideration
Consider how quickly you can transform conflict when you take responsibility for expressions where tone and words are oppositional. Fighting fire with fire creates infernos, but apologizing, admitting error, and asking forgiveness can extinguish the flames immediately. The key is recognizing when conscious content carried unconscious patterns and taking ownership of the mixed message.
InQuiry. Application. Implementation.
How can you catch mish-mashing before it emerges? What does it feel like when your spirit isn't fully engaged in expression? Practice pausing before speaking to connect what you're going to say with how you're going to say it. When you do mish-mash, use it as learning: apologize quickly, then explore what feelings slid into your tone and what old patterns emerged while you were focused on word choice. Use these insights to develop greater awareness of when your spirit is fully present in expression.
Conscious vs. Unconscious Dialogue
You might notice certain indicators in your audience when you deliver conscious content with any degree of unconscious attention:
Others are confused when you deliver a mixed message
People react to your "tone" rather than even carefully chosen words
Someone's body language and facial expression make it clear your message didn't land as you intended despite paying attention to the words
Feedback is about how you said not what you said
When this happens, don't get defensive. Apologize. Ask for forgiveness and when it's given start again, this time paying attention to the tone of your voice. This time look the receiver—who’s forgiven you in the eye. They'll know beyond a shadow of a doubt if what you're saying is true or not, this their right and responsibility to themselves.
Inspiration
Clear indicators reveal when conscious content carries unconscious delivery - from confused reactions lead to feedback about your tone rather than your words. When this happens, you know how to clear the path forward. Do so immediately, this time fully engaged so the receiver is able to discern your words and their meaning come with the clarity and compassion found in authenticity.
Consideration
Consider how the receiver's ability to discern what is true for you is activated when you approach them with genuine feelings— be it compassion, remorse, or joy— all expressed with conscious intention. Their right and responsibility to themselves includes evaluating whether your second attempt emerges from your values and self-awareness, and concern for the relationship, or is simply more of the same falling out of your mouth.
InQuiry. Application. Implementation.
How quickly are you able to recognize even one indicator of mixed messaging? What does a genuine apology feel like versus making a defensive excuse? Practice catching unconscious delivery through these warning signs, implementing the recovery process immediately: apologizing, sincerely seeking forgiveness, and restarting when it’s granted. Engage with full intention, knowing the receiver's right to evaluate your authenticity, using their discernment as invaluable feedback.
Understanding Conscious Expression
Recognizing these splits between conscious content and unconscious delivery helps you develop awareness of when your spirit is fully engaged versus when unconscious patterns slip through. Your goal isn't about perfection in any way! It’s about intentionally developing your ability to bring your entire expression into conscious alignment.
Nothing in this journey toward conscious expression is about achieving perfection
—it's about learning to increasingly refine your awareness of your internal state before and during communication. Each moment of recognition, whether you catch unconscious patterns before they emerge or notice them after the fact, builds your capacity for authentic expression that is essential to a genuine relationship. If you want to end your part in ‘relationshi’ realize at this moment that this is what this entire book is about.
This recognition naturally leads to questions about how to engage your spirit more fully in your world. It’s learning to develop awareness when unconscious patterns are emerging, understanding what supports you in maintaining conscious intention in communication. You are growing daily practices that help you pause and align before speaking, cultivating the internal presence that prevents making a mish- mash of a relationship you value. Some find being aware of their breath helpful, others make it a habit to do a brief internal check-in, and still others refine their sensitivity to physical tension that signals an unconscious pattern emerging. The key is discovering what works for your unique system and practicing it consistently.
Understanding the impact your tone, words and actions have on others means accepting that growth happens through experience, not theory. Every dialogue is an opportunity to practice conscious alignment, and every error —unconscious or intentional— becomes valuable data about your internal landscape. Cultivating self awareness over time transforms your communication, changing it from performance into practice, from something you think you have to get ‘right’ into something you are allowed to explore and refine. Remember, asking for and receiving forgiveness ends the shame and blame game.
Inspiration
Understanding conscious expression means developing awareness of when your spirit is fully engaged versus when unconscious patterns slip through. The goal isn't perfection but rather bringing your entire expression into conscious alignment, transforming every conversation into an opportunity for authentic communication and personal growth.
Consideration
Consider that conscious expression develops through practice rather than theory, with each conversation offering opportunities to refine your awareness. Notice how accepting this as a growth process rather than a performance requirement changes your relationship with communication itself, allowing exploration and learning rather than demanding immediate mastery.
InQuiry. Application. Implementation.
How can you develop awareness of your internal state before and during expression? What practices help you pause and align before speaking—breath awareness, internal check-ins, or sensitivity to physical tension? Practice discovering what works for your unique system, using every conversation as an opportunity to refine conscious expression. Accept that growth happens through experience, treating instances of mish-mashing as valuable data about your internal landscape rather than failures to be avoided.
Chapter 9: Coherence: The Ambassador
First Principle
First Principle Eleven
"Forms, functions and dynamics of a System are self-referential and recursive, with self-similarity occurring at the macro and micro levels."
Translated as to how it applies to your life and making a decision:
"Karma. Energy and life are constant yet constantly change, healing, expanding and multiplying as you begin again and again and again.…"
THE 8TH ARCTYPE: THE AMBASSADOR
The 8th and final Mereon ArcType is the Ambassador, the piece of you who shows up in your relationships and the world at large. While the role and responsibilities are important, in many ways it's the simplest. Only after your Guardian speaks, and says "Yes, please," to a possibility do you, your values, and your vision become audible and visible in your world.
The world sees you as a clear reflection of Love, a genuine human who cares for others, and demonstrates coherence in how you live your life, or they see you as unreliable, inconsistent, a gossip who feels they are always right, and thus have the right to control or judge others.
Authentic Intelligence is revealed in your decisions, each increasing how others receive you, trusting you and often inviting your wisdom.
Your Ambassador is the living expression of your internal alignment. When all six inner intelligences have spoken and your Guardian has given the green light, your Ambassador doesn't create new responses; it faithfully transmits what your authentic self has already determined.
This makes the Ambassador both powerful and vulnerable. Powerful because it carries the full weight of your integrated wisdom. Vulnerable because it's visible to the world and bears the consequences of every internal choice made by the other ArcTypes.
How you take the complexity of your inner deliberations and your decision into your life is where you learn if what you think/feel is true for you, actually is. As you intentionally implement your choice into words, actions, presence, and energy that others, when it comes without judgement or criticism others willingly receive you. The quality of your life depends entirely on the clarity of the message you send from inside out.
An Invitation In
Few doubt that in the relatively brief period of recorded human history, there has ever been a greater opportunity for communication. Instant, free, and at unimaginable distances no less. Yet I am compelled to ask: how is it that in an epoch of technology that has led to the advent of virtually instant interaction at previously unimaginable distances, so many of us are unable to commune or be in communion with people closest to us?
Why, at a time when the natural sciences are rapidly revealing their mysterious processes, does there remain so much confusion within the social sciences? Why is it that those who want to be known and know another are not being met by other Homo sapiens sapiens—we, a class of knowers who supposedly have the innate ability to know that we know? Is it hubris? Is it fantasy? Is it some grand delusion?
I don't think so. After three decades of being an infinitesimal node on the internet, refusing to participate in creating a cult of personality, I've realized how this medium keeps too many isolated, separated from one another. I'm weary of trying to boogie boarding the tidal wave of information that flows into my inbox every day. Every 'wave' seems determined to take me back out to see, plunking me down on a 'shore' where someone's demanding they're right to be in control of everything, including me.
I am fully committed to living wholly and fully, protecting my body health, keeping my heart and attitudes open. Only then am I able to discern if someone has an underlying agenda, wants to ignore or take down what's true for me.
In this book you're learning—remembering—that the opportunity of a lifetime is to continue to turn your attention inward, intentionally attuning to your inner world. This is the only space and place on this planet where you can be sure of what's going on.
Inspiration
When you honor your inner knowing rather than external noise, you transform digital overwhelm into authentic connection—discovering that moving beyond beliefs about constant connectivity as necessary opens pathways to genuine
communion that serves both meaningful relationships and what’s personally true for you.
Consideration
Consider how trusting your inner attunement might reveal the depth of authentic connection that past patterns of seeking validation through digital interaction have prevented you from experiencing.
InQuiry. Application. Implementation.
How might consistently honoring your inner knowing transform your relationship with technology and authentic communication? In what ways could trusting your inner world help you move beyond unexamined beliefs about external validation as superior to self-trustworthiness? What possibilities emerge when you recognize that the authentic presence you cultivate through inner attunement contributes directly to the genuine communion you wish to see manifested in harmony with your deepest values and truest connections?
Vulnerability: Your Superpower
Self-knowing and the willingness to be vulnerable cut the key that opens the door to relationship. This is what allows you to ask and answer the questions that determine the quality of your life. Weaving the cosmic 'red thread' that connects your inner actions and interactions inspires the courage to question the beliefs that underpin how you feel and what you think about yourself, building or undermining your relationships.
Walking the Middle Path, the Love Knot, living life from inside to out, means learning to do emotional Braille—cultivating understanding by hearing, feeling, sensing, and yes, daring to touch the height, breadth, and depth of love.
Flowing with the Light paving this rainbow path, your understanding of your youniverse evolves. Learning to co=create with another, living a life that's meaningful, means knowing how to make agreements—decisions that are better than mere contentment beyond mediocrity—and trusting the universal timing that follows neither clock nor calendar. This path of light is a path of love that is meant to be shared intimately with another.
Loving yourself is the key to a true relationship, as this is the context where self- knowledge evolves. I've never met a single person who wasn't longing for reunion with a 'beloved' other. It often seems as if we're a band of cosmic Don Quixotes who came to Earth to find ourselves and our 'Dulcinea'.
An intimate relationship is one where both are willing, able, honest, and desiring to walk the path of life together—one who knows they deserve to co=create a space of love in which both honor and, indeed, celebrate individuality; one who is free to serve, to share the sounds of light, space, and time even though not always in the same 'place' emotionally, mentally, or physically.
Over the years, I've invited others to share their thoughts and experiences with me, and a profoundly painful pattern began to emerge. Even though all felt love was eternal, their experiences left a deep sense of failing at 'in-loveness':
Most felt a deep sadness about how quickly the wonder of knowing and being known disappeared into banality
One woman wept wondering how the exciting and awe-inspiring man she fell in love with became lazy, tedious, and demanding
Another wondered how someone who once made her tingle could so quickly bore her to tears
What hurt the most were those who saw neither hope nor escape and actually meant it when they said they wanted to die
How is it that we humans so quickly forget the loving energy that brought us together in the first place? What is it that keeps so many stuck, looking at what was, or the one that got away? What reason do you give yourself for trying to climb a psychic step ladder, wanting to gaze into some elusive 'tomorrow'?
Science is clear—if you actually see something, just the act of seeing it changes it! What locks you into isolation? Is it fear of abandonment? Rejection? Are you riding the fence, afraid to enter the field of love where the possibility of being loved exists?
Trying to ride the fence, you only end up with 'splinters' in painful places, this requiring a level of vulnerability to remove them that few committed to the fence possess. And if you're one of those determined to cling to the status quo, it won't take long to painfully realize it got up and left long ago. It disappeared with the delusion of a relationship with a perfect person, the notion of 'happily-ever-after' also succumbing to the anesthesia of 'normalcy'.
Healthy relationships flow, all parties staying current with what's true for themselves, authenticity keeping every day fresh as 'natural' grows and flows.
While contemplating this, a thought came to me—a gift I knew I couldn't afford to think to death, that made me wonder: what if instead of waiting to be asked out or asking someone else out, what if we opened our hearts, minds, and hands and invited another person "in"?
Doing so would allow two or more to co=create a safe space, a field for a meeting of hearts, minds, and spirit. The idea of co=creating relationships, so often rife with potholes but rich with emotional and spiritual possibilities, felt like a radical yet transformative approach. It held the potential of defusing occasions where one or both parties felt forced to 'put on', 'give up', 'cover up', 'put up', 'dress up', or 'put out' in any way, denying or constraining their authentic selves.
Following that 'red thread', I wondered what it would be to intentionally redesign these anxiety-filled rituals, be they a talk with our parents, a heart-to-heart with a friend or on a date, or a nose-to-nose between parents and kids… How might an invitation 'in' increase the willingness of a colleague to cooperate? How might the dynamics of a board meeting change?
Perhaps these thoughts will inspire you to dare to dream again, renewing your vision for a relationship. Imagine what might emerge if you decided to take the risk and say, "I love and will trust myself, and from this place of inner knowing and certainty, I will invite another:
To bond without binding…
To hold without needing to grasp…
To be enveloped body, mind, and spirit without being smothered… To be wrapped in Love without your joy being muffled…
To feel enfolded in grace without being concealed… To feel protected, no longer needing to hide…
To be accountable without creating undue anxiety…
To honor the magic of 'We' without diminishing our individuality… To remember that perfect is what we are, not something we achieve… To be held without holding back…
To know without having to be a 'know it all'…
To embody the heart of compassion without judgment or expectation… To appreciate without the false obligation of finding fault…
To care deeply without the compulsion to take care of…
To participate in dialogues of joy without needing to con or convert… To experience and appropriately express what's true in the moment…
To be present in the moment without monologues of the past…
To stroke the heartstrings of unity without being choked by attachment… To feel comprehended, your spirit unrestrained…
To feel supported without the fear of suppression…
To be cherished for your being, without disdain for your doing… To be free, no longer enslaved by guilt…
To have your joy multiplied, your sorrow halved… To feel mutually guided without domination…
To share space with grace, love unrestricted…
To respond from Love, rather than reacting with fear…
To comprehend with your heart, with no need for ego to explain… To be heard with no one needing to give an opinion…
To share emotions without having to emote…
To transcend contentment—true serenity of body and spirit… To express concern without losing inner Peace…
To become fluent in the language of Love, no longer stammering in fear… To allow your heart to be naked, stripped of any need to criticize…
To hold joy in an open palm, without the poverty of doubt… To be held in silence until you hurt no more…
To dance with one who's true, not a phantom born of romantic illusion… To be wholly accepted, not merely tolerated…
To live and love without apathy…
To know you deserve, feeling free to serve… To feel nurtured without being 'mothered'… To foster another without being 'Mother'…
To reconcile differences without jeopardizing accord… To heal, secrets laid in an open grave…
To feel included without restrictions…
To be connected without psychic enmeshment…
To invoke laughter without the provocation of pain… To divide only to multiply—unity without division… To generously give and forgive…
To be free to request without the need to demand…
To share responsibly without abdicating responsibility…
To honor the singularity of each spirit and the unity of the Soul… To surrender without the fear of spinning out of control…
To be observed without being subservient…
To observe without needing to be overly 'observant'… To forgive and remember…
To feel seen without distortion, to give without manipulation… To celebrate sameness while honoring uniqueness…
To fathom the depths of another without the fear of drowning… To receive and return as easily as breathing…
To be empowered by Love, enlightened by gratitude…
To surrender fear and soar to the height, breadth, and depth of love…
To intimately share a Goddess-essential inner course whether or not you're celebrating Goddess-sensual intercourse…
Wholly committed to the quality of the journey, celebrating unconditional acceptance devoid of neediness or greediness, focusing on the elusive destination.
Inspiration
When you honor vulnerability as your superpower rather than your weakness, you transform isolation into intimate connection—discovering that moving beyond beliefs about protection through emotional armor opens pathways to authentic love that serves both genuine intimacy and courageous self-expression.
Consideration
Consider how trusting your willingness to be vulnerable might reveal the depth of authentic love that past patterns of emotional self-protection have prevented you from experiencing.
InQuiry. Application. Implementation.
How might consistently honoring your vulnerability as strength transform your relationship with intimacy and authentic connection? In what ways could trusting your capacity for emotional courage help you move beyond unexamined beliefs about safety through distance as superior to safety through authenticity? What possibilities emerge when you recognize that the vulnerable presence you offer through genuine openness contributes directly to the intimate love you wish to see manifested in harmony with your deepest longing for true connection?
Showing up Authentically
Your Ambassador is how you show up authentically in every relationship. Let's consider some realms where what's true for you is heard and seen:
In Friendships
In friendships, your Ambassador encounters a unique sanctuary—relationships chosen freely, without the intensity of romance or the complexity of family inheritance. With true friends, your authentic self is free unfold with without pressure, the relationship perceived by both has having equal equity and opportunity for growth.
True friendship requires your Ambassador to navigate the art of mutual support without codependency. Unlike family bonds that carry historical weight or intimate partnerships that involve deep vulnerability, friendship offers space to practice authenticity with less risk but equal reward.
When your Ambassador shows up authentically in friendship, you discover the joy of being known and appreciated for exactly who you are. Friends become mirrors that reflect your growth while accepting your humanity. They challenge you to be better while loving you as you are.
Authentic friendship through your Ambassador brings:
Loyalty without possession: You support your friends' choices even when they differ from your own path. Your friendship doesn't require them to be who you need them to be, but celebrates who they are becoming.
Honesty wrapped in kindness: You can offer a perspective based on what’s true for you, but only when asked—doing so without needing to fix or change them. Make sure your words come from love withholding judgment.
Presence without demand: You can offer support during difficult times without taking responsibility for their outcomes. You hold space for their process while maintaining your own boundaries.
Celebration without comparison: You genuinely rejoice in their successes without measuring them against your own journey. Their wins become your wins because friendship multiplies joy.
In Intimate Relationships
Here, your Ambassador faces the ultimate test: can you be fully seen and still remain authentic? Intimacy often triggers the urge to perform love rather than express it.
The closer someone gets to your heart, the more your unhealed patterns surface. Suddenly, your Logic Finder might start creating elaborate justifications for defensive behaviors. Your Heart Walker might swing between overwhelming neediness and cold withdrawal. Your Space Bender might try to control your partner's responses to avoid discomfort. Your Time Shifter might rush toward commitment or flee from it entirely.
In intimate relationships, your Ambassador must navigate the delicate balance between openness and boundaries, between giving and receiving, between individual authenticity and relational harmony. This isn't about finding the "right" way to love—it's about learning to love from your authentic self rather than from your wounds or fears.
When you show up authentically in intimate relationship, you bring a quality of presence that transforms the entire dynamic:
Vulnerability comes from strength, not neediness: you are free to share your fears, desires, and imperfections without requiring your partner to fix, validate, or rescue you. Your openness invites connection rather than demanding it.
Honesty that serves connection, not ego: Saying what’s true for you isn't about being right or proving points; it's about creating deeper intimacy through authentic sharing. You can say difficult things with love and hear difficult realities with grace.
Presence that allows for both togetherness and individual space: You don't merge identities or maintain rigid separation. Instead, you co=create what poet Rainer Maria Rilke called "a good marriage"—two people who "protect and border and greet each other."
Love that enhances rather than diminishes both partners: Your affection doesn't require your partner to be different than they are, nor does it ask you to sacrifice your authentic self. Love becomes a force that calls forth the best in both of you.
In Family Dynamics
Family systems often have strong gravitational pulls toward old patterns. Your Ambassador's job here is particularly challenging—maintaining authenticity while navigating inherited expectations and roles.
When your Ambassador operates from internal alignment:
You can love family members without enabling dysfunction
You express care without sacrificing your own well-being
You honor traditions that serve life while letting go of those that don't
You model growth without rejecting your origins
In Professional Settings
As an Ambassador in your world you quickly reveal whether you're operating from authentic competence or performing expected roles. When your inner council has aligned, you are:
Leading from within without leaving leadershi all over the work space
Using your natural abilities without needing to prove yourself
Ideas emerge from genuine insight rather than political positioning or poisoning
Boundaries are clear rather than defensive, and
Intentionally co=operating, honoring your competencies and others'
Compare this to situations you find yourself in when your inner ArcTypes haven't properly deliberated: chances are you have a few memories of being reactive, engaging in people-pleasing to avoid conflict or attempting to dominate to mask your self doubt and uncertainty.
Inspiration
When you honor your Ambassador's authentic expression in all relationships rather than adapting to meet expectations, you transform performative connection into genuine intimacy—discovering that moving beyond beliefs about acceptance through pleasing others opens pathways to true belonging that serves both authentic self-expression and meaningful relationships.
Consideration
Consider how trusting your Ambassador's authentic presence might reveal the depth of genuine connection that past patterns of relationship performance have prevented you from experiencing.
InQuiry. Application. Implementation.
How might consistently honoring your Ambassador's authentic expression transform your relationship with intimacy, friendship, family, and professional collaboration? In what ways could trusting your genuine presence help you move beyond unexamined beliefs about acceptance through adaptation as superior to acceptance through authenticity? What possibilities emerge when you recognize that the authentic presence you offer through your Ambassador contributes directly to the meaningful relationships you wish to see manifested in harmony with your deepest values and truest connections?
The Performance Trap
In an intimate relationship, when your internal ArcTypes haven't done their work, you unconsciously begin performing love rather than expressing it. You might:
Say what you think your partner wants to hear rather than what's true for you
Shape-shift to meet their needs while abandoning your own
Create drama to generate intensity that feels like intimacy
Withhold authentic responses to avoid conflict or rejection
Give compulsively to earn love rather than expressing it freely
Falling into the performance trap is exhausting, and confuses your partner, who begins relating to your persona rather than to you as a person—their person.
Making intentional decisions heals codependency.
Inspiration
When you honor your authentic expression rather than performing for acceptance, you transform relationship anxiety into genuine intimacy—discovering that moving beyond beliefs about love as something to be earned opens pathways to unconditional connection that serves both authentic self-expression and true partnership.
Consideration
Consider how trusting your genuine self might reveal the depth of authentic love that past patterns of relationship performance have prevented you from experiencing.
InQuiry. Application. Implementation.
How might consistently honoring your authentic expression transform your relationship with love and genuine intimacy? In what ways could trusting your true self help you move beyond unexamined beliefs about love as performance as superior to love as authentic presence? What possibilities emerge when you
recognize that the genuine love you offer through authentic expression contributes directly to the meaningful connection you wish to see manifested in harmony with your deepest capacity for true intimacy?
The Intimacy of Authentic Conflict
Perhaps nowhere is your Ambassador's alignment more crucial than during conflict. When disagreements arise—and they will—your response reveals the health of your internal system.
If you’re unaligned during conflict you might:
Attack your partner's character rather than addressing specific behaviors
Shut down emotionally to punish or control
Escalate drama to avoid dealing with the real issue
Make threats or ultimatums to manipulate outcomes
Bring up past grievances to deflect from present concerns
When your inner world is aligned you approach conflict as an opportunity for deeper intimacy:
Addresses specific behaviors without attacking identity
Stays present even when emotions run high
Seeks to understand before being understood
Takes responsibility for your part without taking on what isn't yours
Views resolution as something to create together, not win individually
Inspiration
When you honor conflict as an opportunity for deeper intimacy rather than a threat to avoid, you transform relationship discord into authentic connection— discovering that moving beyond beliefs about disagreement as dangerous opens pathways to profound understanding that serves both individual growth and relational depth.
Consideration
Consider how trusting your capacity to stay present during conflict might reveal the depth of authentic intimacy that past patterns of avoiding or escalating disagreements have prevented you from experiencing.
InQuiry. Application. Implementation.
How might consistently honoring conflict as an opportunity for deeper connection transform your relationship with disagreement and authentic intimacy? In what ways could trusting your ability to stay present during difficult conversations help you move beyond unexamined beliefs about harmony through avoidance as superior to harmony through authentic engagement? What possibilities emerge when you recognize that the presence you maintain during conflict contributes directly to the intimate understanding you wish to see manifested in harmony with your deepest capacity for genuine connection?
Goddessensual Authenticity
In physical intimacy, authenticity is crucial. Sexual connection can either deepen authentic intimacy or reinforce performance and disconnection.
When you bring your authentic presence to sexuality:
Desire flows from genuine attraction rather than obligation or manipulation
Pleasure becomes mutual exploration rather than individual performance
Vulnerability enhances rather than threatens your sense of self
Communication about needs and boundaries feels natural rather than awkward
Physical connection deepens emotional and spiritual intimacy
Inspiration
When you honor your authentic presence in physical intimacy rather than performing expectations, you transform sexual connection into sacred communion
—discovering that moving beyond beliefs about sexuality as performance opens pathways to embodied love that serves both genuine pleasure and spiritual intimacy.
Consideration
Consider how trusting your authentic desires and boundaries might reveal the depth of sacred sexuality that past patterns of sexual performance have prevented you from experiencing.
InQuiry. Application. Implementation.
How might consistently honoring your authentic presence in physical intimacy transform your relationship with sexuality and embodied love? In what ways could trusting your genuine desires help you move beyond unexamined beliefs about sexual performance as superior to authentic sexual expression? What possibilities emerge when you recognize that the authentic presence you bring to
physical intimacy contributes directly to the sacred connection you wish to see manifested in harmony with your deepest capacity for embodied spiritual communion?
Individuals Growing Together
The ultimate test of your Ambassador in an intimate relationship is whether you can grow and change while maintaining your essential self, and simultaneously support their growth without trying to control its direction. This requires:
Commitment to your own growth: Not using the relationship as an excuse to avoid personal development
Curiosity about your partner's evolution: Approaching their changes with interest rather than fear or resistance
Flexibility within stability: Adapting to changes while maintaining core values and boundaries
Trust the relationship's capacity to evolve: Believing that authentic growth serves rather than threatens true partnership
When both partners love and accept who they are, their inner world intentionally aligned, they are able to co=operate, their relationship becoming greater than the sum of its parts. In this they are co=creating a sacred space in which mutual transformation enhances rather than diminishing their individual uniqueness.
Inspiration
When you honor both individual growth and partnership evolution rather than choosing one over the other, you transform relationship fear into mutual flourishing—discovering that moving beyond beliefs about growth as threatening opens pathways to sacred partnership that serves both personal authenticity and collective transformation.
Consideration
Consider how trusting your relationship's capacity to evolve might reveal the depth of mutual transformation that past patterns of resisting change have prevented you from experiencing.
InQuiry. Application. Implementation.
How might consistently honoring both individual and relational growth transform your relationship with partnership and personal evolution? In what ways could trusting your capacity to grow together help you move beyond unexamined beliefs about stability through stagnation as superior to stability through conscious evolution? What possibilities emerge when you recognize that the mutual transformation you co=create through conscious partnership contributes directly to the sacred love you wish to see manifested in harmony with your deepest capacity for both individual authenticity and collective flourishing?
Partnership As Whole-nership
Intimate relationships offer you the most precise and precious opportunity to see your reflection and make amendments when needed in your internal alignment. Like it or not, your partner is going to inevitably trigger whatever internal work remains undone—not as judgment or punishment, but as an invitation for continued growth.
When you haven't finished processing old grief, intimacy will surface it. When your brain wants to operate, running the show with rigid thinking, a loving partner is likely to challenge what’s going on. When your boundaries are unclear, know full well that the dynamics of an intimate relationship are going to pull the sheets on this quickly.
Don't try to hide your triggers! What you've been learning is how to recognize them, realizing they're offering you information about your inner realities! This is how you heal them. Remember, relationships are the laboratories where authenticity is refined, where growth and evolution takes place. It's where you will quickly understand when you're operating coherently and when you're operating from wounds waiting for your healing attention and touch.
Inspiration
When you honor your triggers as information rather than problems to hide, you transform relationship challenges into healing opportunities—discovering that moving beyond beliefs about triggers as threats opens pathways to profound growth that serves both individual healing and relational depth.
Consideration
Consider how trusting your partner's ability to mirror your inner work might reveal the depth of healing that past patterns of hiding triggers have prevented you from experiencing.
InQuiry. Application. Implementation.
How might consistently honoring your triggers as healing information transform your relationship with intimate partnership and personal growth? In what ways could trusting the reflection your partner provides help you move beyond
unexamined beliefs about hiding wounds as superior to healing them through relationship? What possibilities emerge when you recognize that the authentic work you do through partnership triggers contributes directly to the wholeness you wish to see manifested in harmony with your deepest capacity for love and healing?
The Invitation Inherent in Intimate Love
Ultimately, intimate relationships invite you to embody love not as a feeling or strategy, but as a way of being. This love doesn't require perfection from yourself or your partner; it requires presence. It doesn't demand certainty; it asks for courage to stay open in uncertainty.
When you can receive and express love from this place of authentic alignment, intimate relationship becomes one of life's greatest teachers and one of its most profound joys. You discover that being fully known and fully loved aren't contradictory—they're complementary expressions of what becomes possible when you dare to be authentically yourself with another human being.
Know you deserve allows you to serve, your presence available and felt by others. Your role in your community and people and place you touch reflects a unique contribution to the human family. This isn't about being famous or important; it's about belonging and being genuinely helpful.
When operating from authentic alignment:
Your service flows from your actual gifts rather than guilt or obligation
You contribute without depleting yourself
You lead when appropriate and follow when that serves better
Your presence creates space for others' authenticity
Inspiration
When you honor love as a way of being rather than a feeling to chase, you transform relationship anxiety into sacred presence—discovering that moving beyond beliefs about love as something to achieve opens pathways to embodied love that serves both intimate connection and authentic service to the world.
Consideration
Consider how trusting love as your natural state might reveal the depth of sacred presence that past patterns of seeking love externally have prevented you from experiencing.
InQuiry. Application. Implementation.
How might consistently honoring love as a way of being transform your relationship with intimacy and authentic service? In what ways could trusting your capacity to embody love help you move beyond unexamined beliefs about love as achievement as superior to love as presence? What possibilities emerge when you recognize that the embodied love you offer through authentic presence contributes directly to the sacred intimacy and meaningful service you wish to see manifested in harmony with your deepest capacity for both receiving and giving love?
The Karma Connection
Here's where the Mereon Method reveals something profound about personal responsibility. All six of your inner intelligences carry karmic responsibility if they've agreed that a possibility is a good decision. If for any reason they acquiesced, afraid to say 'No', they place you, your Ambassador, in a painful but powerful position.
Your Ambassador is essentially innocent, faithfully expressing what your internal council of six has decided. But when those decisions cause harm, you bear the visible consequences while the real karmic debt belongs to whichever ArcTypes failed to say what they knew was true.
In this we find a feedback loop: when you're struggling in the world— relationships strained, opportunities lost, trust broken—it's often a signal that your inner decision-making process needs attention. Did your brain override your intuition? Did your heart acquiesce to avoid conflict? Did you rush the process?
Inspiration
When you honor the karmic responsibility of each inner intelligence rather than blaming external circumstances, you transform victim consciousness into authentic accountability—discovering that moving beyond beliefs about consequences as unfair opens pathways to conscious decision-making that serves both personal integrity and collective healing.
Consideration
Consider how trusting your inner council's collective responsibility might reveal the depth of authentic power that past patterns of avoiding internal accountability have prevented you from experiencing.
InQuiry. Application. Implementation.
How might consistently honoring each ArcType's karmic responsibility transform your relationship with consequences and authentic decision-making? In what ways could trusting your internal council's collective wisdom help you move beyond unexamined beliefs about external blame as easier than internal accountability? What possibilities emerge when you recognize that the conscious
decision-making you cultivate through honoring karmic responsibility contributes directly to the authentic integrity you wish to see manifested in harmony with your deepest capacity for both personal and collective healing?
Inspiration Consideration
InQuiry. Application. Implementation.
The Karmic Laundry
There is an art to repairing authenticity. The moment you're aware that what you've said or done has made an error, you have the ability, right, responsibility and authority to clean up, doing your Karmic Laundry. Before approaching anyone else, you must honestly acknowledge to yourself what went wrong. This isn't self-flagellation; it's seeing clearly, understanding what part of you didn't speak up and say what they knew was true for you? Then you have to figure out what pressure or fear caused the breakdown in your internal process?
Then most important thing to do is get out the soap of self-forgiveness. You cannot ask of others what you are not willing to give yourself. Self-forgiveness doesn't mean excusing your behavior; it means recognizing your humanity while intentionally committing to doing better. This step transforms shame (which perpetuates harm) into responsibility (which enables growth).
Next is actually doing your karmic laundry, admitting to the one you've wronged or hurt that you've made an error, and sincerely asking for their forgiveness, literally asking "Will you forgive me?" Hearing those words, those hurt by your words or action, can feel the difference between your accepting genuine accountability and manipulation wrapped in an apology.
It's up to you to wait patiently, holding your silence until they accept your apology, forgiveness offered, and you graciously receive it. But forgiveness asked for isn't always returned immediately. Accept it as Karma complete in this lifetime if you find yourself dunked in a hot water wash, spun through an ice cold rinse cycle, and hung up to dry, spending time flapping in the wind, sanitized by the sunshine until they're ready to talk.
True acknowledgment includes:
Specific recognition of the impact (not just your intent)
Ownership without explanation or justification
Commitment to different future behavior
No expectation or demand for immediate forgiveness
Inspiration
When you honor the art of karmic repair rather than avoiding accountability, you transform shame into healing opportunity—discovering that moving beyond beliefs about mistakes as permanent damage opens pathways to authentic restoration that serves both personal integrity and relational healing.
Consideration
Consider how trusting your capacity for genuine repair might reveal the depth of authentic redemption that past patterns of avoiding accountability have prevented you from experiencing.
InQuiry. Application. Implementation.
How might consistently honoring the practice of karmic laundry transform your relationship with mistakes and authentic accountability? In what ways could trusting your ability to repair authenticity help you move beyond unexamined beliefs about perfection as superior to genuine repair? What possibilities emerge when you recognize that the authentic accountability you practice through karmic laundry contributes directly to the healed relationships you wish to see manifested in harmony with your deepest capacity for both responsibility and forgiveness?
Your Living Legacy
Every interaction your Ambassador has with the world becomes part of your living legacy. Not the legacy of what people say about you after you're gone, but the legacy of how your presence affects others while you're here.
When you show up in your world operating from genuine internal alignment:
Children feel safe around you
Colleagues trust your word
Friends know they can count on your honest perspective
Strangers sense your genuine presence
This isn't about perfection; it's about living what’s true to you to the best of your ability. People can sense, hear and see when you’re operating from integration rather than fragmentation, and they respond accordingly.
You are a source and a force of love in the world simply by being authentic. In a world where cultures and traditions are too often built on compliance, conformity, performance, and manipulation, daring to show up, the power of your presence in the present is revolutionary.
Inspiration
When you honor your authentic presence as your living legacy rather than waiting for future recognition, you transform daily interactions into sacred offerings— discovering that moving beyond beliefs about legacy as posthumous reputation opens pathways to immediate impact that serves both present connection and lasting influence.
Consideration
Consider how trusting your authentic presence as revolutionary might reveal the depth of positive impact that past patterns of conformity and performance have prevented you from experiencing.
InQuiry. Application. Implementation.
How might consistently honoring your authentic presence as your living legacy transform your relationship with daily interactions and meaningful impact? In what ways could trusting your revolutionary presence help you move beyond unexamined beliefs about conformity as safer than authenticity? What possibilities emerge when you recognize that the authentic presence you offer in each moment contributes directly to the healing world you wish to see manifested in harmony with your deepest capacity for both immediate love and lasting transformation?
Elegant Simplicity Resolving Complexity
The Ambassador is the simplest ArcType because it doesn't create—it expresses. It doesn't decide—it manifests. It doesn't strategize—it embodies.
Yet this simplicity requires the most sophisticated preparation. For your Ambassador to operate with authentic power, all six inner intelligences must do their work thoroughly. The Guardian must provide clear guidance. The internal system must function with coherence.
When this happens, being authentic becomes effortless. Your Ambassador knows exactly how to show up because there's no internal conflict about what's true.
Words flow naturally. Actions align with values. Presence becomes magnetic not because it's trying to attract but because it's genuinely present.
Inspiration
When you honor the elegant simplicity of authentic expression rather than complicating communication, you transform effortful performance into natural presence—discovering that moving beyond beliefs about complexity as sophistication opens pathways to genuine power that serves both authentic expression and effortless connection.
Consideration
Consider how trusting the simplicity of authentic expression might reveal the depth of natural power that past patterns of overcomplicating communication have prevented you from experiencing.
InQuiry. Application. Implementation.
How might consistently honoring the elegant simplicity of your Ambassador transform your relationship with authentic expression and natural presence? In what ways could trusting your capacity for effortless authenticity help you move beyond unexamined beliefs about complexity as superior to genuine simplicity? What possibilities emerge when you recognize that the natural presence you embody through internal alignment contributes directly to the magnetic authenticity you wish to see manifested in harmony with your deepest capacity for both effortless expression and powerful impact?
The Ultimate Laboratory
The deepest realization about yourself as an Ambassador is that you’re always representing something. The question is: what?
Are you representing your fears, your unhealed wounds, your cultural conditioning? Or are you representing your authentic wisdom, your integrated intelligence, your unique contribution to the human story?
Every moment, your Ambassador is in action. Every word, every gesture, every choice is a form of ambassadorship. But nowhere is this more tested—or more revealing—than in your relationships.
Relationships are where every human finds out if what they think is true for them is factually real. You can believe you're patient until you live with someone who has different rhythms. You can think you're generous until someone needs something that costs you. You can imagine you're emotionally mature until someone triggers your deepest wounds. You can feel spiritually evolved until your partner challenges your cherished beliefs.
People lie but relationships don't. They strip away the comfortable illusions you can maintain in solitude or superficial interactions. Your Ambassador gets tested in real-time, under pressure, with people who see you when you're tired, scared, triggered, or off-guard.
This is why relationships become the ultimate laboratory for authenticity. All the internal work with your ArcTypes, all your Guardian's wisdom, all your authentic decision-making gets put to the crucial test: can you actually live it when someone you love is watching, needing, challenging, or disappointing you?
But relationships also reveal what's genuinely healed and integrated within you. When you can stay present during conflict, say what is true for you with love, maintain boundaries without walls, and love without losing yourself—that's when you know your internal work is bearing real fruit.
Inspiration
When you honor relationships as laboratories for authenticity rather than tests to pass, you transform relational pressure into evolutionary opportunity—
discovering that moving beyond beliefs about relationships as performance venues opens pathways to genuine growth that serves both authentic self- expression and conscious partnership.
Consideration
When we allow ourselves to be truly known in trusting relationships, these connections become testing grounds for our self-understanding. They reveal how much authentic integration we've actually achieved—and how much our habit of presenting polished versions of ourselves has prevented us from discovering who we really are.
InQuiry. Application. Implementation.
How might consistently honoring relationships as laboratories for authentic growth transform your relationship with intimate partnership and personal evolution? In what ways could trusting the revealing power of relationships help you move beyond unexamined beliefs about maintaining facades as safer than authentic vulnerability? What possibilities emerge when you recognize that the authentic presence you practice through relational testing contributes directly to the integrated wisdom you wish to see manifested in harmony with your deepest capacity for both genuine love and conscious evolution?
The Crux of the Matter
Relationships serve as both the crucible and the reward of authentic living. They demand everything you've learned about being genuine and offer everything you hope for in human connection.
When you operate from authentic alignment in relationship, something miraculous happens: you discover that being fully known and being fully loved aren't contradictory—they're complementary. The very vulnerability that feels most frightening becomes the gateway to the intimacy you most desire.
This doesn't mean relationships become easy when you're authentic. It means they become real. Real love, real challenge, real growth, real connection. Your Ambassador learns to navigate the complex dance of remaining true to yourself while remaining open to another.
Inspiration
When you honor authenticity as both crucible and reward rather than choosing safety over growth, you transform relationship fear into miraculous discovery— discovering that moving beyond beliefs about being known as dangerous opens pathways to intimate love that serves both vulnerable sharing and profound connection.
Consideration
Consider how trusting the complementary nature of being known and being loved might reveal the depth of intimate connection that past patterns of protective hiding have prevented you from experiencing.
InQuiry. Application. Implementation.
How might consistently honoring authenticity as both challenge and reward transform your relationship with vulnerability and intimate love? In what ways could trusting the miraculous possibility of being fully known and fully loved help you move beyond unexamined beliefs about safety through hiding as superior to safety through authentic vulnerability? What possibilities emerge when you recognize that the authentic vulnerability you offer through genuine openness
contributes directly to the real love you wish to see manifested in harmony with your deepest capacity for both courageous sharing and profound intimacy?
Authentic Presence
The Mereon Method ensures that what you're representing is actually you—not some fragmented version trying to meet expectations or avoid discomfort. When this happens, your authentic presence creates ripples that extend far beyond your immediate relationships.
Children feel safe around you because you aren't performing—you're simply present. Colleagues trust your word because your internal alignment eliminates the contradictions that breed suspicion. Friends know they can count on you to share your honest perspective when asked.
Even strangers sense something different about your presence. In a world often built on performance and manipulation, authenticity is revolutionary. You actually become a source for healing and this happens in the presence of authenticity.
Inspiration
When you honor authenticity as both crucible and reward rather than choosing safety over growth, you transform relationship fear into miraculous discovery— discovering that moving beyond beliefs about being known as dangerous opens pathways to intimate love that serves both vulnerable sharing and profound connection.
Consideration
Consider how trusting the complementary nature of being known and being loved might reveal the depth of intimate connection that past patterns of protective hiding have prevented you from experiencing.
InQuiry. Application. Implementation.
How might consistently honoring authenticity as both challenge and reward transform your relationship with vulnerability and intimate love? In what ways could trusting the miraculous possibility of being fully known and fully loved help you move beyond unexamined beliefs about safety through hiding as superior to safety through authentic vulnerability? What possibilities might emerge if you recognized that the authentic vulnerability you offer through genuine openness
contributes directly to the real love you wish to experience? How would this harmony deepen your willingness to share what’s true for you with courage?
A Gift To The World
You are the gift to the world when you live what is true for you. When you see the lights come on in another you realize the world has been waiting for you and is ready to receive exactly what you have to offer. What's present is more than a false, perfect version of yourself, a performance based on who you think you should be. What's shared is the genuine article—your authentic self, present in the moment and free to appropriately and compassionately express what is true for you without judging anyone else.
Presence. This is the ultimate gift of the Mereon Method—not just better decisions, but your authentic presence. Clearer being not just clearer thinking. More authenticity, not just more success. A transformed capacity for connection and improving the quality of every relationship.
Your presence in the world becomes living proof that authenticity works. That integrity pays dividends. That being yourself isn't selfish—it's essential. Essential for your own wellbeing, essential for healthy relationships, essential for a world hungry for genuine human connection.
This is how individual transformation becomes collective healing. This is how personal authenticity contributes to cultural evolution. This is how being yourself becomes your greatest service to the world.
Every time you show up as yourself—in boardrooms and bedrooms, in casual conversations and crucial confrontations—you're demonstrating what becomes possible when human beings dare to be real and live what is true for them. You're contributing to a culture where authenticity is valued over performance, where genuine connection matters more than surface harmony, where being yourself is not just accepted but celebrated.
Your ultimate task after healing your deepest wounds is to be a representative of what humanity can become when we choose authenticity over artifice, living what's true over comfort, and loving rather than existing in fear.
In this way, your personal journey with the Mereon Method becomes a gift to everyone whose life you touch. Your Ambassador carries not just your individual
wisdom, but the promise of what we're all capable of when we learn to live from our authentic center.
The world needs you and what you have to offer. Your Ambassador is how you offer it.
Inspiration
When you honor your authentic presence as a gift to the world rather than something to hide, you transform individual healing into collective transformation
—discovering that moving beyond beliefs about authenticity as selfish opens pathways to essential service that serves both personal fulfillment and cultural evolution.
Consideration
Consider how trusting your authentic presence as essential to the world might reveal the depth of meaningful contribution that past patterns of hiding your true self have prevented you from experiencing.
InQuiry. Application. Implementation.
How might consistently honoring your authentic presence as a gift to the world transform your relationship with self-expression and meaningful service? In what ways could trusting your essential contribution help you move beyond unexamined beliefs about authenticity as selfish as superior to authenticity as service? What possibilities might emerge if you recognized that the genuine presence you offer through living what’s true for you facilitates healing?
Your Presence in The World
"The darkest places in hell are reserved for those who maintain their neutrality in times of moral crisis." —Dante Alighieri
Don't like what's happening in the world? The only way to affect positive change
—change that's beneficial to you and others—is to continue to grow with the Flow, changing the one thing you have the right and responsibility to—yourself. This book has made it clear how you can change.
It begins when you identify your relationship with your ArcTypes, understanding which is your strongest, what is it’s companion, and which intelligence is your challenge.
When 1) your Bringer finds something sparkly it wants to take on! The Bringer shows up, presenting 2) Your Gate Keeper with a possibility. Its first task is to decide if it's good for your body. If you know it's not, you say "No, thank you", and get on with your life. If all evidence suggests that it is, you pass the answering stick to the next ArcType;
The Wave Tamer then determines if it's aligned with your core values, and decides if you can communicate without over emoting. If it's not, you say "No, thank you", and get on with your life. If all evidence suggests that it is, you pass the answering stick to the next ArcType;
Your Light Lifter is responsible to determine if you can afford it, that it doesn't overcrowd your youniverse, causing leaks, ensuring that you keep your sense of humor. If your bank account is running on fumes or faith, it's time to say "No thank you", and get on with your life. If all evidence suggests that it is, you pass the answering stick to the next ArcType;
Your Space Bender's task is to decide if you have space in your life to take on something new without compromising promises you've already committed to. It's also important to have room for you, for that silent space we all need for a time out to go in. If you know your capacity is packed to the rafters, say "No, thank you", and get on with your life. If all evidence suggests you have room to take it on, you pass the answering stick to the next ArcType;
Then 6) your Time Shifter goes to work to determine if you actually have time to do what's being asked, or if you can follow through on what you want to offer. If you know your schedule is tight and the time requested is booked, you can ask if they're open to negotiating the timing. If they aren't, say "No, thank you", and get on with your life. If they're willing, and a possible time is found that will work for everyone, the answering stick is passed to the next ArcType;
This is when your 7) Guardian takes over, and looking at what you want to bring in, decides if it's coherent with your core values and the vision that drives who you are and what you want to see in your life, your relationships and the world. If there's a conflict, speak up and say, "No, thank you", and get on with your life. If all evidence suggests it's coherent with your values and vision, you stand up and say, "Yes, please", implementing the decision, knowing that living from inside out makes you 7) the Ambassador from your Youniverse to the Universe!
One question remains, will you?
If you have the courage to say “Yes”, remember, your words and actions either facilitate transformation or extinction. Life is in the crosshairs, and your words and the weapons we've created have placed us in an intersection where we will determine if we evolve and endure.
Inspiration
When you honor your role as the Ambassador, the final ArcType, from your Youniverse to the Universe rather than remaining neutral in times of crisis, you transform personal authenticity into evolutionary force—discovering that moving beyond beliefs about individual insignificance opens pathways to transformational impact that serves both personal integrity and planetary healing.
Consideration
Consider how trusting your capacity to facilitate transformation through authentic choice might reveal the depth of evolutionary power that past patterns of neutrality and disengagement have prevented you from experiencing.
InQuiry. Application. Implementation.
How might consistently honoring your role as an Ambassador from your Youniverse to the Universe transform your choice, and impact the world? In what
ways could trusting your transformational power help you move beyond unexamined beliefs about individual insignificance as safer than taking responsibility for evolution? What possibilities emerge when you recognize that the authentic choices you make through your inner council contribute directly to the transformation you wish to see manifested in harmony with your deepest capacity for both personal authenticity and planetary healing? Will you?
May Day!
Stephen Hawking understood the dilemma we face, this memorialized in his words, "We are just an advanced breed of monkeys on a minor planet of a very average star. But we can understand the Universe. That makes us something very special."
How often does something come into your awareness and steamroll right over you? I remember such a day too clearly. It was May Day 2017, a day when workers and kids the world over were celebrating spring, singing and dancing around a May Pole. That day, my spirit—a voice that usually whispers in my dreams—started screaming "Mayday! Mayday! Mayday!" This piece of self was not celebrating, she was crying out for help!
Headlines knocked my spirit down as a tsunami of insanity was building. At that time I realized it was time to take this work to a new level, leading to the application of frequencies, Sonopeace for sleep, and Intentional as a meditation for intentional cooperation.
Today, multidirectional tidal waves of change are smashing onto the shore of our existence. The initial damage is obvious, but the extent of the devastation has yet to be revealed. All manner of shakeups are causing physical, emotional, and spiritual earthquakes. Endurance requires individuals and families to come together, and as one, turn around, leave the bleeding edge, and run for high ground. This is the only place and space we will find the perspective so desperately needed to determine a clear path forward.
At the time of this writing, The Doomsday Clock says it's 89 seconds to midnight. What does this mean? It's how long it takes for the fuse to burn, one person ending our lives on this glorious planet. For some it will be instantaneous, many will experience a prolonged and painful death. As she heals, Gaia will carry only a few survivors.
The need to control—also manifesting as the need to be right—leads to the demise of every vibrant system, both living and lifelike. Every day it becomes clearer how arrogance and greed are taking us closer to the cusp of catastrophic failure, one narcissistic act pushing us over the proverbial cliff.
One 'bang' catalyzed the potential for our starstuff to emerge, and another one will carry us into the eternally mysterious 'Next', our fate the ultimate inside job.
Inspiration
When you honor the urgency of our times as a call to authentic action rather than paralyzing despair, you transform global crisis into personal awakening— discovering that moving beyond beliefs about individual powerlessness opens pathways to meaningful response that serves both conscious evolution and planetary healing.
Consideration
Consider how trusting your capacity to contribute to high ground perspective might reveal the depth of transformational power that past patterns of overwhelm and disconnection have prevented you from experiencing.
InQuiry. Application. Implementation.
How might consistently honoring the crisis of our times as a call to authentic action transform your relationship with global responsibility and personal agency? In what ways could trusting your role in the ultimate inside job help you move beyond unexamined beliefs about individual powerlessness as protection from overwhelming responsibility? What possibilities emerge when you recognize that the authentic response you offer through conscious choice contributes directly to the high ground perspective you wish to see manifested in harmony with your deepest capacity for both personal awakening and collective survival?
The Reflection Response
Understanding how Newton's Third Law—for every action, there is an equal and opposite reaction—changes your life and every relationship. Notice the response from others, generated by the expression that comes back to you from others.
"Save Our Souls" is the common meaning of SOS, a distress signal, that for me is invoked whenever I am "Sick of Suffering." Both are profound cries for help, for intervention that transcends our personal capacities.
Today, alarms reverberate through our collective consciousness as fear shadows too many members of the human family and nature herself. It's time to wake from the slumber of unexamined beliefs that have led us here. This spectacular blue marble we call Home faces unprecedented challenges, requiring us to bring our heavenly aspirations down to earth for tangible good. This task demands every one of us, calling upon both our natural competencies and those we've cultivated through conscious examination of what truly matters.
S.O.S. is not merely a distress call—it's an invitation to gather in conscious community, harnessing the natural logic that reveals unexamined beliefs about our relationship with each other and our planet. This process opens pathways to understanding and wisdom necessary to transform your unexamined assumptions into intentional believings that align with your authentic values and vision. As you pave your path with conscious choices, you create the stability needed to forge healthy relationships that manifest positive change, making our world a place where genuine belonging flourishes.
Your journey of transforming unexamined beliefs into intentional believings isn't merely personal growth—it's your unique contribution to our collective healing. Each stone you consciously place as you pave your authentic path creates helps those who will follow. Every belief you examine and intentionally transform contributes to the awakening of our shared consciousness.
As you reclaim your power from unquestioned assumptions, you simultaneously contribute to humanity's collective reclamation of our capacity to address our most pressing challenges. The very process of examining what you've accepted without question becomes an act of service to the greater whole of which you are an integral part. The unexamined belief that some rescue crew—alien or divine—
is coming to rescue us from our collective challenges. This belief keeps too many waiting passively for intervention. This expectation itself requires transformation. Examine this assumption, and you realize no awaiting crew is coming. It's here and you are an essential member of the team.
When you have the courage to transform unexamined beliefs about external salvation into the intentional believing that you are part of the rescue team, you reclaim your power to create meaningful change—discovering that paving your authentic path serves not only your individual journey but contributes to our collective healing and transformation. Examining static beliefs about responsibility and agency is going to reveal dimensions of your ability to make a positive impact in the world, unquestioned assumptions lose their power.
Transforming your unexamined beliefs about who's responsible for creating positive change is likely to reshape your approach to addressing challenges in your immediate environment. Realizing that you are an essential member of the "rescue crew" helps you reclaim your power when situations seem overwhelming. Incredible possibilities will emerge when you realize that examining your beliefs is your contribution to our collective evolution, your healing more than personal, it's collective.
Inspiration
When you honor yourself as an essential member of the rescue team rather than waiting for external salvation, you transform helpless despair into empowered action—discovering that moving beyond beliefs about individual powerlessness opens pathways to collective healing that serves both personal transformation and planetary restoration.
Consideration
Consider how trusting your role as part of the solution might reveal the depth of transformational power that past patterns of waiting for rescue have prevented you from experiencing.
InQuiry. Application. Implementation.
How might consistently honoring your membership in the rescue team transform your relationship with global responsibility and collective healing? In what ways
could trusting your capacity to contribute to our collective evolution help you move beyond unexamined beliefs about external salvation as safer than taking personal responsibility? What possibilities emerge when you recognize that the conscious belief transformation you practice contributes directly to the awakened world you wish to see manifested in harmony with your deepest capacity for both individual healing and collective transformation?
From Individual To Collective Wisdom
The Ambassador serves as the bridge that carries your individual wisdom into the world for collective benefit. When you function as a true Ambassador of your authentic self, you contribute something unique and necessary to the larger systems you participate in—whether family, community, workplace, or global society.
This doesn't mean imposing your perspective on others. Rather, it means offering your unique viewpoint as one essential piece of a larger mosaic. The Ambassador understands that authentic expression serves not just personal fulfillment but collective evolution.
Inspiration
When you honor your unique contribution as essential to the collective mosaic rather than imposing your perspective, you transform individual wisdom into collective intelligence—discovering that moving beyond beliefs about personal views as superior opens pathways to collaborative wisdom that serves both authentic expression and collective evolution.
Consideration
Consider how trusting your role as a bridge between individual and collective wisdom might reveal the depth of meaningful contribution that past patterns of either withholding or imposing your perspective have prevented you from experiencing.
InQuiry. Application. Implementation.
How might consistently honoring your unique contribution to the collective mosaic transform your relationship with individual expression and collective wisdom? In what ways could trusting your authentic perspective as one essential piece help you move beyond unexamined beliefs about personal wisdom as either insignificant or superior? What possibilities emerge when you recognize that the authentic contribution you offer through your Ambassador serves directly the collective evolution you wish to see manifested in harmony with your deepest capacity for both individual authenticity and collaborative wisdom?
Authenticity’s Feedback Loop
As you carries your integrated self into the world, an important feedback loop develops. The reception you receive—how others respond to your authentic expression—provides valuable information back to your inner ArcTypes. This isn't about seeking approval but about understanding the impact of your expression and refining your integration accordingly.
When others experience you as coherent and welcome your wisdom, this reinforces your internal alignment. When misunderstandings or resistance arise, this offers an opportunity to examine where further integration and transformation is needed, completing the cycle of growth.
Inspiration
When you honor the feedback from your authentic expression as information for growth rather than judgment of your worth, you transform external responses into internal refinement—discovering that moving beyond beliefs about approval as validation opens pathways to conscious evolution that serves both authentic expression and continuous integration.
Consideration
Consider how trusting the feedback loop as guidance for deeper integration might reveal the depth of authentic refinement that past patterns of seeking approval or avoiding resistance have prevented you from experiencing.
InQuiry. Application. Implementation.
How might consistently honoring authentic feedback as information for growth transform your relationship with external responses and internal integration? In what ways could trusting the feedback loop as evolutionary guidance help you move beyond unexamined beliefs about approval as validation or resistance as rejection? What possibilities emerge when you recognize that the conscious refinement you practice through authentic feedback contributes directly to the integrated wholeness you wish to see manifested in harmony with your deepest capacity for both genuine expression and continuous evolution?
Living As Training
Embracing your role as Ambassador doesn't require special training or techniques, but rather the courage to allow your authentic self—with all its complexity and wisdom—to be visible. It means speaking from what you have integrated as true for you rather than adapting to meet someone's expectations or gain their approval.
The Ambassador embodies the Mereon Method's ultimate purpose: not just to make better decisions but to live as a coherent expression of your authentic self, contributing your unique note to the larger symphony of life.
You are an Ambassador of the Universe in your relationships and the world we share. When what you express as true for you is true, it is 'gold': sustainable yet transformable in the fires of passion, meaning and purpose measurable in every relationship.
As an Ambassador your lifetime has cosmic significance. Beyond representing your integrated self, you embody the Universal Pattern and carry wisdom into your unique sphere of influence. Remember what you learned about gold, healing and annealing, being how gold becomes useable and endures. It maintains its essential qualities even as it changes form.
So too, your authenticity, based on what is true for you, remains consistent while changing and flowing as you express difference through various relationships and circumstances. This alchemical quality—sustainable yet transformable—means that your authentic expression isn't rigid but rather responsive and alive! It maintains integrity while adapting to the "fires of passion" that each relationship brings.
As a Universal Ambassador, you don't just represent yourself, you carry the coherent pattern of existence into every interaction. When your expression genuinely reflects these deeper patterns, others recognize something fundamental and trustworthy in your presence, your wisdom felt as ‘essential'.
Inspiration
When you honor your role, place and responsibility in the Universe rather than merely representing yourself, you transform personal authenticity into cosmic
significance—discovering that moving beyond beliefs about individual limitation opens pathways to universal expression that serves both authentic self- representation and the larger symphony of existence.
Consideration
Consider how trusting your cosmic significance as Universal Ambassador might reveal the depth of essential wisdom that past patterns of diminishing your universal role have prevented you from experiencing.
InQuiry. Application. Implementation.
How might consistently honoring your role as Ambassador of the Universe transform your relationship with authentic expression and cosmic significance? In what ways could trusting your capacity to embody universal patterns help you move beyond unexamined beliefs about personal limitation as safer than cosmic responsibility? What possibilities emerge when you recognize that the authentic expression you offer as Universal Ambassador contributes directly to the coherent universe you wish to see manifested in harmony with your deepest capacity for both individual authenticity and universal wisdom?
A Conclusion. Not The End.
This approach to decision-making transforms how you live from authenticity and also lets you co=create relationships and communities where collective choices emerge from shared wisdom rather than fear or pressure. We can co=create a world where decisions, both personal and communal, are made with the same conscious intention that we bring to breathing—they sustain life, let us release what no longer serves us, and we begin trusting the natural rhythm of Authenticity.
You are the ultimate expression of the integrated self. With the cooperation of the pieces of self that operate within your inner landscape, you are an Ambassador in the intersection between your inner and outer worlds. You embody the authenticity needed to manifest in relationship with others and the world at large. As the Ambassador you are the expression of coherent wholeness.
Your task is to transcends mere communication, simply exchanging information. Your life is all about co=creating communion—making meaningful connections based on your authentic presence. This distinction is crucial. When you speak and act as your Ambassador, you're not simply conveying thoughts or opinions. You are revealing and manifesting your integrated self in relationship to all others.
This presence has a distinct quality that others can sense, even if they can't articulate it. They experience you as "coherent"—your words, actions, energy, and intention align in a harmonious whole rather than contradicting each other. This coherence creates a foundation of trust that allows your wisdom to be "welcomed and received" rather than merely heard.
Inspiration
When you honor this as a beginning rather than an end, you transform completion into continuous creation—discovering that moving beyond beliefs about conclusions as final opens pathways to ongoing evolution that serves both integrated wholeness and eternal becoming.
Consideration
Consider how trusting your role as coherent Ambassador might reveal the depth of communion that past patterns of fragmented communication have prevented you from experiencing.
InQuiry. Application. Implementation.
How might consistently honoring your life as ongoing creation rather than completed work transform your relationship with authenticity and meaningful connection? In what ways could trusting your capacity for communion help you move beyond unexamined beliefs about communication as sufficient when communion is possible? What possibilities emerge when you recognize that the coherent presence you embody as Ambassador contributes directly to the authentic world you wish to see manifested in harmony with your deepest capacity for both integrated wholeness and conscious co=creation?
This is not the end—it is your eternal beginning.
Epilogue
From Self-Integration to Co=Creation
If you’re reading this page, either you’re one of those who reads the last page first, or you’ve just made your first intentional journey through the landscape of your youniverse.
You’ve met and are now familiarizing yourself with your eight ArcTypes, maybe even having an idea which one is your You've just finished discovering how your Guardian protects your authenticity and when it's sure that it's safe to do so, it speaks, freeing your Ambassador to express your integrated wisdom in the world. Throughout these pages you've experienced the power of conscious repetition in learning to make decisions, breaking the habit of taking or abdicating decisions, both opening moves in the shame and blame game.
But this is just the beginning.
The Mereon Method you've learned represents the foundation—essential internal work that prepares you for something even more extraordinary: the conscious co=creation of authentic relationships.
What you've experienced in these pages emerges from nearly four decades of dedicated exploration, articulation, and validation. This isn't theory crafted in isolation; it's living knowledge that has emerged from thirty-eight years of understanding how consciousness actually works, how human beings make authentic decisions, and how the geometry underlying all existence expresses itself in the most practical aspects of daily life.
This work represents the culmination of a remarkable journey—one that began with personal discovery and evolved into rigorous academic and scientific inquiry. Six books have documented this exploration, each contributing essential pieces to our understanding of consciousness, relationship, and human potential. The first, published in 1997, opened the door to personal transformation. The subsequent academic and scientific works provided the rigorous foundation that validates what you've learned here.
Now, this knowledge returns to its most essential expression: practical wisdom that can transform how you live, choose, and relate.
When you can reliably access your own internal wisdom, your ArcTypes working in harmony, your Guardian protecting what matters most and your Ambassador shows up authentically—you become capable of something our world desperately needs: intentional co=operation. This transcends 'collaboration' in the traditional sense, this word carrying residue from darker historical moments when it meant working with forces that diminished rather than enhanced human dignity. What we're exploring and advocating is something entirely different—something that honors the profound recognition that human beings are designed for connection while remaining authentically individual.
Intentional Co=Operation represents the natural evolution of individual integration:
Honoring your competencies and those of others as essential contributions
Taking action only after genuine agreement is reached by all participants
Everyone knowing their role and responsibility with crystal clarity
No one having the power to micromanage others' authentic expression
Conscious choice replacing unconscious reaction in every interaction
Recognition that the whole can be greater than the sum of its parts without diminishing any individual part
This kind of co=operation requires that each person first knows themselves—their gifts, their boundaries, their authentic yes and their authentic no. Without this internal clarity, what looks like cooperation often becomes manipulation, people- pleasing, or power struggles disguised as partnership.
Most relationship guidance focuses on communication techniques, conflict resolution, or compatibility factors. While these approaches have value, they often miss the crucial foundation: two or more people who can reliably access their own authentic wisdom and express it clearly without requiring others to be different than they are.
When you operate from your integrated ArcTypes, you bring an entirely different quality of presence to every relationship. You're not unconsciously seeking someone to complete you, validate your worth, or fix what feels broken inside you. Instead, you're available for the conscious co=creation of something that serves both your individual authenticity and your shared vision for what you want to create together.
This transformation affects every dimension of human connection:
Romantic Partnerships involve two whole people, evolving beyond unconscious wound-matching into laboratories for mutual—and natural—growth. Instead of two incomplete people seeking completion, you have two whole individuals choosing to co=create something beautiful, love becoming the creative source and the force that carries them beyond a need-meeting system.
Friendships develop extraordinary depth and resilience because they're built on a foundation of genuine connection rather than performed expectations. Friends can challenge each other's growth, speak difficult truths with love, and maintain individual boundaries while deepening their friendship.
Professional Relationships achieve remarkable results because they honor each person's unique competencies without trying to make everyone the same. Teams function like healthy ecosystems where diversity creates strength rather than conflict.
Family Dynamics can begin to heal generational wounds, new pattern replacing dysfunctional models as all learn to live from their authentic presence rather than continue reactive behavior.
Children discover that they are lovable, loved for who they are not who they try to copy or think they should be. This embeds a healthy template that transforms their all future relationships.
Community connections create cultures filled with traditions of trust and innovative co=creation. Family and strangers feel safe to participate, contributing their authentic gifts because the community supports their doing.
Informing Conscious Relationships
Just as the Mereon knot reveals the geometric pattern underlying everything, with forms informing your ArcTypes, Mother Nature grows following a Pattern, making it clear how conscious beings can naturally come together without losing themselves. These patterns have been tested, measured and validated through decades of research and lived experience.
Your internal decision-making finds its expression in conscious relationship through shared values and a common vision. Those who know themselves are free to come together with a clear intention, and flowing with natural patterns they support one another individually and collectively.
Without imposing an artificial structure on organic connection. It's about recognizing the natural patterns that allow multiple autonomous beings to create something together without sacrificing what makes each of them unique.
The Art of Co=Creating 'Realationships
Real relationships—authentic connections between whole human beings are consciously co=created through a different way to apply the same principles you've learned for internal integration.
Just as your ArcTypes have unique roles in your decision-making process, you and another (or others) bring distinct gifts, perspectives, and responsibilities into what is a co=creative dance. The art resides in knowing how to make agreements that honor your differences while working toward shared outcomes that serve everyone involved.
This requires several sophisticated capabilities:
Clarity about your own authentic contribution - understanding not just what you think you should offer, but what your integrated self actually has to give. This comes from the deep self-knowledge you've developed through working with your ArcTypes.
Recognition of others' unique competencies - the ability to see and appreciate what others bring that you cannot, without feeling threatened by their different gifts or trying to minimize their contributions to manage your own insecurity.
Explicit agreement-making - the skill of creating clear understanding about roles, expectations, and boundaries without assuming others think the way you do or want what you want.
Respect for autonomy within structure - trusting others to fulfill their part of shared agreements without interference, while maintaining your own integrity and boundaries.
Commitment to ongoing authenticity - choosing truth over comfort when the relationship needs it, speaking what's real even when it might create temporary discomfort.
Capacity for creative conflict - viewing disagreement as information rather than threat, and using differences of perspective to create solutions that wouldn't be available to any individual alone.
A Glimpse of What May Be
When two or more people who've done their internal work come together with intention to co=create relationship, something extraordinary emerges. The relationship itself becomes a living entity—greater than the sum of its parts, yet enhanced by rather than threatening to individual authenticity.
These conscious relationships become demonstrations of human potential:
Generative rather than depleting - they create energy, possibility, and creativity rather than consuming the life force of those involved. People leave interactions feeling more alive, more inspired, more capable than when they arrived.
Resilient rather than fragile - they can handle conflict, change, and challenge because they're built on truth rather than illusion. When difficulties arise, the relationship has the internal resources to grow stronger rather than break apart.
Evolutionary rather than static - they grow and adapt while maintaining their essential character. Like living systems, they respond to changing conditions while preserving what makes them unique and valuable.
Contributory rather than isolated - they serve the larger community rather than existing in self-centered bubbles. The love and creativity generated within conscious relationships spills over to benefit everyone around them.
Healing rather than wounding - they become laboratories for healing not just individual wounds, but collective patterns of disconnection and unconsciousness that have plagued human civilization for millennia.
Scientific & Spiritual Integration
What makes this approach revolutionary is its foundation in both rigorous scientific understanding and profound spiritual wisdom. The patterns you've learned aren't just psychological theories or spiritual concepts—they're based on mathematical principles that govern how consciousness organizes itself at every level of existence.
This integration of science and spirituality, of practical application and profound wisdom, represents a new paradigm for human development. You're not just learning better relationship skills; you're participating in the evolution of human consciousness itself.
The geometric patterns underlying the Mereon Method reflect the same organizational principles found in nature, in quantum physics, in the structure of DNA, and in the movement of galaxies. When you learn to organize your internal experience according to these natural patterns, you're aligning yourself with the fundamental creative force of the universe.
Your Next Adventure
The journey you've completed with the Mereon Method has prepared you for this next level of human experience. You've learned to honor every aspect of yourself, to make decisions from authentic alignment, to live with integrity in a complex world. You've developed the internal foundation necessary for conscious co=creation.
Now comes the invitation to discover what becomes possible when you apply these same principles to the co=creation of conscious relationships. How do you navigate the delicate dance of remaining authentically yourself while building something beautiful with another? How do you honor different perspectives without compromising essential truths? How do you create agreements that serve everyone involved without sacrificing what matters most to you?
How do you recognize others who've done their own internal work and are ready for conscious co=creation? How do you distinguish between someone who's genuinely integrated and someone who's performing integration? How do you build relationships that can handle the full spectrum of human experience—joy and sorrow, agreement and conflict, closeness and space?
These questions and many more await exploration in our next journey together: "Co=Creating Realationship" - where the "Real" makes it clear that there is a transformation that transcends honesty, recognizing that authentic connection requires the mutual participation of real human beings who know themselves well enough to show up as themselves.
As you continue practicing the Mereon Method in your daily decisions, remember that every authentic choice you make contributes to something infinitely larger than your individual life. Your willingness to honor your internal wisdom, to live from integration rather than fragmentation, to show up authentically in the world creates permission for others to do the same.
The relationships you co=create from this foundation become demonstrations of what's possible when human beings choose authenticity over performance, truth over comfort, and love over fear. They become laboratories for cultural healing, examples of how we might relate to one another in ways that honor both individual authenticity and collective wellbeing.
Your personal journey with the Mereon Method becomes a gift not just to yourself, but to everyone whose life you touch. Every authentic decision, every integrated choice, every moment of conscious presence contributes to the evolution of human consciousness itself.
This is the true legacy of a life lived authentically: not just personal fulfillment, but the contribution to humanity's awakening to its highest potential. When you live from your authentic center, when you create conscious relationships, when you demonstrate that integration is possible, you become part of the solution to humanity's deepest challenges.
The implications of this work extend far beyond individual improvement or developing healthy relationships. What you're learning represents a new paradigm for human civilization—one based on intentional conscious choice rather than unconscious reaction, authentic expression rather than performed roles, and creative co=operation rather than competitive dominance.
I want to live in a world where everyone has the right to pave their life path, one that leads them to their internal wisdom. Despite the chaos I hold the believing on an open hand that we can celebrate relationships and live in communities where decisions that affect everyone are made through conscious co=operation rather than continuous power struggles. Imagine cultures that honor individual authenticity while creating collective solutions to shared challenges.
This isn't utopian fantasy; it's the natural result when enough individuals do their internal healing and learn to come together to intentionally co=create conscious relationships. With this knowledge, cultural transformation can happen, but it happens one person, one relationship, one community at a time.
Your commitment to applying what you've learned through this book, your willingness to live authentically and co=create consciously, makes this larger transformation possible. The question is this—do you have the courage to help co=create a growing movement of humans who choose love over fear, evolution over resisting change, consciousness over unconsciousness.
An Open Invitation
The world needs what you've learned through these pages. The world needs the you you're growing into. And the world needs the kinds of relationships you're capable of co=creating.
Every time you consult your ArcTypes before making a decision, you're demonstrating that there's a better way to live. Every time you honor your Guardian's wisdom about what serves your authentic path, you're showing others that integrity is possible. Every time your Ambassador shows up authentically in the world, you're creating permission for others to do the same.
And every time you engage in intentional co=operation with another conscious being, you're proving that we don't have to choose between individual authenticity and collective harmony. You're demonstrating that the highest individual expression actually serves the collective good, healthy communities supporting rather than threatening individual uniqueness.
This is what awaits you in the next phase of your journey. You've learned to integrate yourself. Next comes the adventure of discovering what you can co=create with others who've done the same work.
So, as you turn the last page, let me be the first to welcome to the next chapter of your life. Join us at "ReMembership" and help us co=create a more conscious world. The adventure is never-ending, and it has the potential to grow faster and more beautiful than any of us might dare to imagine.
The legacy you're creating—through living authentically, co=creating conscious relationships, and daring to express yourself creatively—will ripple through generations. This is how the world changes: one authentic human being at a time, one conscious relationship at a time, one creative expression at a time.
You are part of something that has the potential to be magnificent. And this is just the beginning.
Next!
Next is my favorite word for a reason. It means I've completed something, and I can get on the the 'Next'!
The work you've engaged with here represents one expression of a larger creative vision I've been playing with for decades. It's the artistic expression of a dilettante, me, and echoes of the practical wisdom that grows in conscious living daring to live what's true for me
Art has long been humanity's way of expressing what cannot be captured in words alone, and the visual expressions I've attempted to capture is a reflection of the First Principles, "eloving" thoughts that continue to emerge when daring to live from authenticity. Each is a creative manifestation of an integrated consciousness, part of the legacy I want to share.
I'm in the process of curating paintings I've done over the years, putting together a book I'm calling "HeArt. Love. Legacy." My intention is to put together a project that shows how something magical happens when practical wisdom and artistic expression that's created with loving intention comes together. Time and again, I've witnessed friends (Hello, dearest Inke ) who do more than understand these principles intellectually, they actually feel them, experiencing them and are moved to a level their brain struggles to reach.
This trilogy of offerings— practical wisdom as applied to self discovery, how to build conscious relationships, and daring to share myself art—represents as complete an approach to authentic living as I can manage at this stage in my life. Together, they form my intention to provide what is needed to help you sense, hear, feel, see, and know what you need to transform your life, and in doing so be a catalyst for the transformation of our shared world.
The Last Page
If you've finished this journey—you're no longer the same person who opened to page one. You've discovered something most people live entire lifetimes without knowing: how to recognize when someone else is making your decisions for you. More importantly, you now possess what's been missing: the ability to make coherent decisions that align with who you truly are.
Still browsing, reading the first and last page—like me, brilliant. You just proved this book's central point: you make choices others wouldn't. Question is: how many of your other choices are actually yours? And when they are yours, are they consistently coherent?
Right now, invisible forces are quietly shaping your next decision, a fact people 'in charge' don't want you to know. Why? Because they want to be in control. No doubt there's a voice whispering inside your head "…You don't need another book"; "What's the point of change at your age?"; "You're not old enough to understand"; or "This is just how you are." All are bogus beliefs someone else said
—things they thought were true about them—that they pass to you to pack around.
What would your life be if you discovered most of what you thought was false? What if there was a natural—and simple—method to make decisions, choosing what's best for you? How would your life transform if you were able to make decisions that actually work—decisions that consider all the dimensions of your realities, that honor both your practical needs and what's actually true for you?
Few ever learn the difference between reacting and responding—between impulse and making a coherent decision. This book offers you both: how to spot external manipulation, understanding why you abdicate a choice, thinking someone else knows better—when they don't. AND how to connect your unique why and what, making decisions that integrate your whole self—8 new ArcTypes that define who runs your inner and external realities!
Time flows fast. You picked up this book. You turned to this page. This book might change your life… Make your next decision a coherent one that serves you and generates benefits for those you love and those you’ll never know.